Daniel Pink

So I think this is a connection regret. It's a regret about not doing something to keep a relationship intact. The best remedy for this, I think, is something called self-compassion. Self-compassion is very simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. It's that simple. All right. And so if you think about your self-talk, what is your self-talk? My hunch, Kathy, is cruel.

So I think this is a connection regret. It's a regret about not doing something to keep a relationship intact. The best remedy for this, I think, is something called self-compassion. Self-compassion is very simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. It's that simple. All right. And so if you think about your self-talk, what is your self-talk? My hunch, Kathy, is cruel.

It's vicious. It's mean spirited. All right. Here's what the research on self-compassion says about that kind of self-talk. Don't do that. All right. And the reason to don't do that is because it's not effective. What's effective is self-compassion. And a way to think about that is to take it. If you had a friend who came to you with this situation, what would you tell her?

It's vicious. It's mean spirited. All right. Here's what the research on self-compassion says about that kind of self-talk. Don't do that. All right. And the reason to don't do that is because it's not effective. What's effective is self-compassion. And a way to think about that is to take it. If you had a friend who came to you with this situation, what would you tell her?

It's vicious. It's mean spirited. All right. Here's what the research on self-compassion says about that kind of self-talk. Don't do that. All right. And the reason to don't do that is because it's not effective. What's effective is self-compassion. And a way to think about that is to take it. If you had a friend who came to you with this situation, what would you tell her?

You can share with other people also. I think one of the lessons for regret, particularly when it comes to relationships, it's very simple to – articulate. So when in doubt, reach out. So if there's somebody you're thinking about and you're saying, should I give that person a call in any part of your life? If you reach that juncture, the answer is yes, do it.

You can share with other people also. I think one of the lessons for regret, particularly when it comes to relationships, it's very simple to – articulate. So when in doubt, reach out. So if there's somebody you're thinking about and you're saying, should I give that person a call in any part of your life? If you reach that juncture, the answer is yes, do it.

You can share with other people also. I think one of the lessons for regret, particularly when it comes to relationships, it's very simple to – articulate. So when in doubt, reach out. So if there's somebody you're thinking about and you're saying, should I give that person a call in any part of your life? If you reach that juncture, the answer is yes, do it.

There's also something to be said for saying it now. You have a regret about not saying something at the moment. So say it now. And the best way to help other people is to exemplify that behavior by reaching out and by saying it now. The don't disrespect the work you did building a career and building a family. I mean, that's actually really important.

There's also something to be said for saying it now. You have a regret about not saying something at the moment. So say it now. And the best way to help other people is to exemplify that behavior by reaching out and by saying it now. The don't disrespect the work you did building a career and building a family. I mean, that's actually really important.

There's also something to be said for saying it now. You have a regret about not saying something at the moment. So say it now. And the best way to help other people is to exemplify that behavior by reaching out and by saying it now. The don't disrespect the work you did building a career and building a family. I mean, that's actually really important.

And I don't want you to think of that as something that was somehow a betrayal of your husband or your family. It was something that actually fortified your husband and family.

And I don't want you to think of that as something that was somehow a betrayal of your husband or your family. It was something that actually fortified your husband and family.

And I don't want you to think of that as something that was somehow a betrayal of your husband or your family. It was something that actually fortified your husband and family.

And it's kind of a boldness regret. That is, making yourself small is in some ways the opposite of being bold. And we have a lot of regrets in this database, Kelly, that just reminds me of people using the phrase, speak up, speaking up, spoken up. And so what would it mean for you to not be small right now? Not an emotion, but an action. What would that mean? What step would you want to take?

And it's kind of a boldness regret. That is, making yourself small is in some ways the opposite of being bold. And we have a lot of regrets in this database, Kelly, that just reminds me of people using the phrase, speak up, speaking up, spoken up. And so what would it mean for you to not be small right now? Not an emotion, but an action. What would that mean? What step would you want to take?

And it's kind of a boldness regret. That is, making yourself small is in some ways the opposite of being bold. And we have a lot of regrets in this database, Kelly, that just reminds me of people using the phrase, speak up, speaking up, spoken up. And so what would it mean for you to not be small right now? Not an emotion, but an action. What would that mean? What step would you want to take?

All right. You're in here.

All right. You're in here.

All right. You're in here.