Daniel Pink

process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. Because the first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

It's not accidental that 21,000 people around the world told a complete stranger their big regret because they wanted to talk about it. Just like what I was saying at the top of the show, Hala. It's like I mentioned my regrets very sheepishly and suddenly like this sort of uncorked this bottle where people want to talk about it.

It's not accidental that 21,000 people around the world told a complete stranger their big regret because they wanted to talk about it. Just like what I was saying at the top of the show, Hala. It's like I mentioned my regrets very sheepishly and suddenly like this sort of uncorked this bottle where people want to talk about it.

It's not accidental that 21,000 people around the world told a complete stranger their big regret because they wanted to talk about it. Just like what I was saying at the top of the show, Hala. It's like I mentioned my regrets very sheepishly and suddenly like this sort of uncorked this bottle where people want to talk about it.

It's not accidental that 21,000 people around the world told a complete stranger their big regret because they wanted to talk about it. Just like what I was saying at the top of the show, Hala. It's like I mentioned my regrets very sheepishly and suddenly like this sort of uncorked this bottle where people want to talk about it.

It's not accidental that 21,000 people around the world told a complete stranger their big regret because they wanted to talk about it. Just like what I was saying at the top of the show, Hala. It's like I mentioned my regrets very sheepishly and suddenly like this sort of uncorked this bottle where people want to talk about it.

If you listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

If you listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

If you listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

If you listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

If you listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

But the other thing I think is actually really important is that emotions by their very nature are abstract. They're vaporous, they're blobby. That's what makes positive emotions feel good, but it's what makes negative emotions feel bad. And so when we talk about our negative emotions,

But the other thing I think is actually really important is that emotions by their very nature are abstract. They're vaporous, they're blobby. That's what makes positive emotions feel good, but it's what makes negative emotions feel bad. And so when we talk about our negative emotions,

But the other thing I think is actually really important is that emotions by their very nature are abstract. They're vaporous, they're blobby. That's what makes positive emotions feel good, but it's what makes negative emotions feel bad. And so when we talk about our negative emotions,

But the other thing I think is actually really important is that emotions by their very nature are abstract. They're vaporous, they're blobby. That's what makes positive emotions feel good, but it's what makes negative emotions feel bad. And so when we talk about our negative emotions,

But the other thing I think is actually really important is that emotions by their very nature are abstract. They're vaporous, they're blobby. That's what makes positive emotions feel good, but it's what makes negative emotions feel bad. And so when we talk about our negative emotions,

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.