Daniel Pink

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea and it doesn't work over the longterm. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path. And the way I look at this

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea and it doesn't work over the longterm. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path. And the way I look at this

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea and it doesn't work over the longterm. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path. And the way I look at this

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea and it doesn't work over the longterm. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path. And the way I look at this

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea and it doesn't work over the longterm. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path. And the way I look at this

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. Because the first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. Because the first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. Because the first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. Because the first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.