Daniel Pink

And it's going to care if I don't reach out and build relationships of love and connection and affinity and belonging. And again, it's not super complicated, but I think the cool thing is that this emotion that we often try to avoid is giving us this very, very clear window into what makes life worth living.

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea. And it doesn't work over the long term. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path.

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea. And it doesn't work over the long term. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path.

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea. And it doesn't work over the long term. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path.

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea. And it doesn't work over the long term. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path.

Okay, it's a great question. So I think that the wrong way is pretty obvious. The wrong way is to simply ignore it. That's a totally bad idea. And it doesn't work over the long term. Another bad idea is to wallow in it, is to stew over it. So the right way to do it is to try to avoid, especially that second path.

And the way I look at this process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. The first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

And the way I look at this process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. The first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

And the way I look at this process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. The first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

And the way I look at this process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. The first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

And the way I look at this process is inward, outward, forward, inward, outward, forward. The first step is to look inward. So let's say you have a regret or even more broadly, you make a mistake. In the face of regrets, in the face of mistakes and screw ups, the way we talk to ourselves is incredibly harsh. If you listen to like people self-talk, it's brutal.

Listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

Listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

Listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

Listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

Listen to my self-talk, you'd think I was a lunatic. The way I talk to myself is just cruel. I would never talk to anybody else that way. And what the science tells us is don't do that. There's very little evidence that that's effective in enhancing your performance.

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.