Daniel Pink

A better technique than self-laceration is what's called self-compassion, which is work pioneered by Kristen Neff at the University of Texas about 20 years ago. And the principle is pretty simple. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Don't treat yourself better than anybody else. There's no evidence, oh, I should treat myself special. I should, you know, that's not true.

or even when we don't have to even tell anybody else, when you write about them privately, we take this abstraction and make it concrete. We turn it from this blobby thing into concrete words, which are less menacing. It helps us begin the sense-making process. So we reframe inward, we express outward, but we also have to move forward.

or even when we don't have to even tell anybody else, when you write about them privately, we take this abstraction and make it concrete. We turn it from this blobby thing into concrete words, which are less menacing. It helps us begin the sense-making process. So we reframe inward, we express outward, but we also have to move forward.

or even when we don't have to even tell anybody else, when you write about them privately, we take this abstraction and make it concrete. We turn it from this blobby thing into concrete words, which are less menacing. It helps us begin the sense-making process. So we reframe inward, we express outward, but we also have to move forward.

or even when we don't have to even tell anybody else, when you write about them privately, we take this abstraction and make it concrete. We turn it from this blobby thing into concrete words, which are less menacing. It helps us begin the sense-making process. So we reframe inward, we express outward, but we also have to move forward.

or even when we don't have to even tell anybody else, when you write about them privately, we take this abstraction and make it concrete. We turn it from this blobby thing into concrete words, which are less menacing. It helps us begin the sense-making process. So we reframe inward, we express outward, but we also have to move forward.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing that I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing that I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing that I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing that I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

But don't treat yourself worse than anybody else. Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt. Recognize that regrets are part of the human condition. Any YAP listener out there who has a regret, I'll find almost the identical regret in my database and 90 seconds. It's part of the human condition. And the other thing that I think is really important is that a regret is a moment in your life.

And the way we do that is we have to extract a lesson from that regret. And we tend to be pretty bad at solving our own problems. We're good at solving other people's problems, terrible at solving our own problems. So a really good technique is essentially to, it's what's called self-distancing. It's basically get some distance from yourself. So you can do things like talk to yourself in the,

And the way we do that is we have to extract a lesson from that regret. And we tend to be pretty bad at solving our own problems. We're good at solving other people's problems, terrible at solving our own problems. So a really good technique is essentially to, it's what's called self-distancing. It's basically get some distance from yourself. So you can do things like talk to yourself in the,

And the way we do that is we have to extract a lesson from that regret. And we tend to be pretty bad at solving our own problems. We're good at solving other people's problems, terrible at solving our own problems. So a really good technique is essentially to, it's what's called self-distancing. It's basically get some distance from yourself. So you can do things like talk to yourself in the,

And the way we do that is we have to extract a lesson from that regret. And we tend to be pretty bad at solving our own problems. We're good at solving other people's problems, terrible at solving our own problems. So a really good technique is essentially to, it's what's called self-distancing. It's basically get some distance from yourself. So you can do things like talk to yourself in the,

And the way we do that is we have to extract a lesson from that regret. And we tend to be pretty bad at solving our own problems. We're good at solving other people's problems, terrible at solving our own problems. So a really good technique is essentially to, it's what's called self-distancing. It's basically get some distance from yourself. So you can do things like talk to yourself in the,

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.

It's not the full measure of your life. We sometimes will make these broad assessments of our entirety based on a single thing in a single moment, and that's unhealthy. So that's inward. So you reframe inward. Second thing is outward. There's a strong argument to be made for disclosure. Disclosure is a form of unburdening.