Ashley
Appearances
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Go about my life, go back to school. Everything's perfect. Seven months down the road, my parents decided they're going to clear out that side yard. My mom was rescuing turtles or something at the time. And so she wanted this space for these tortoises. I pull out these bushes. Lo and behold, this thing has petrified. So it's just lying there. Oh.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
So I hear my mom come inside and she's like, I don't know who would poop in our side yard.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
And my dad is going, I don't know. It must've been a contractor. He's of course thinking that this had to come out of a man. I'm like, what did I do? So I go out and I'm like, what happened? What are you guys doing?
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Why didn't it get washed away? It's the desert. They don't get enough rain. It snowed and just like froze it and then it was there. It turned into an icicle. I agreed. I was like, it must have been one of these workers, one of the roofers maybe.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
To this day, I am now 38 years old, about to be 39. I've never spoken a word of this, but to one person. We feel so lucky.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Literal dirty work.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
I think that's the female take. I can promise you my husband would have been like, cover it in epoxy. Let's save it. Let's just put it in a case. That's record.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
One, it kind of made me never want to take it again. But even later on with future injuries, I realized it makes me so sick. I can't take opiates at all.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Not since having my kids.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
I think you're making the right decision. There are moments, especially after losing my husband, where that adrenaline rush and that ability to just turn off everything around you seems so tempting. But when you're in that level of grief, the last thing you need is the temptation to just do 180 just because it feels good. Right.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Thanks to you guys. I know everyone does this. I have not been an armchair from day one.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Yeah, we do. When Steve got sick, we were going through chemo and that takes forever. Our first chemo deal was eight hours of a day. We didn't know what to do. We were bored and I was looking for a podcast and I came across you guys. And so we were sharing our little AirPods and It's what we did during his two or three chemo appointments that he had before he passed. It was nice.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
It got us through and got us some laughs.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
I'm from Dallas. Oh, you are. Maybe that's why. It's the hair. Were you a Cowboys cheerleader? No, my roommate from college was, though.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Not the most recent one. Do you remember the one that was on the Country Channel years and years ago? That was her season. Making the team.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
My husband did as well. Just kind of kept it in the family.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
We worked for just about every dealer you can think of. We've bought and sold several dealerships over the years, anywhere from a Hyundai to Ford to BMW, Subaru, Mazda, all of them. When we moved to Colorado, we're buying into this BMW and a Mini store. And my husband was very good at fixing dealerships. taking them from being very low profit to being super high profit very quickly.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
And so when he got sick and passed away, they kind of shoved me into his role because I knew how his brain worked and what his plans were.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Always. That's your repeat customer.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
So this takes place in Albuquerque. Actually, I think y'all were filming Employee of the Month when this took place.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
I was in high school. And mind you, I lost sleep last night. I have not told but one person this story in 23 years since it happened.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
I'm about 16. I had wrecked a motorcycle. Had to have surgery. Along with surgery comes pain medication. Happened to wake up the day after the surgery. I'd also come down with mono.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Street bike. I raced all through high school and partway through college.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Not drinking enough water. My throat hurts. I'm trying to get food down, taking Tylenol on top of it for a fever. It's just this whole perfect storm of things. About nine, 10 days in, I haven't pooped.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
I'm like super duper impacted. My doctor's like, you need to put her on some stool softeners. That should help. And if that doesn't work, try a laxative. So we do that over the course of a couple of days. Finally, I'm like, I got to go. Of course, it's the day that my parents have 15 people over for Bible study. My bathroom is the guest bathroom. I managed to go in there, give birth.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
It's essentially labor because it's hard. Two weeks worth. Oh, my God. My best friend was like, you should make a Play-Doh model so they can see. So I get this thing out. I look in the toilet and I'm like, this isn't going anywhere. Sure, sure. Try to flush it. It's not budget.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Now I'm like, okay, I can't go out there and ask for a plunger. I can't leave it here. People are going to want to use this bathroom. I'm looking through the cabinets going, maybe I can break it up and get it down. I find this solo cup. It's under the cabinet that I had left under there from one of my secret parties. Decide I'm going to fish this thing out.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
It's bad enough if my parents have to see it, but if all my friends' parents from church have to see it. So I fished this thing out and I'm like, all right, well, I'm going to open the window and toss it, I guess.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Haven’t Confessed to Parents
Can you believe that was in your body? I don't know how I didn't have some kind of rectal prolapse. Giving birth was not even as bad. We'll say that. So I take the screen off the window, toss it out. On our side yard were all these juniper bushes. And so no one ever went over there, tossed it in there and thought, it'll rain, it'll snow, it'll go away. The problem is gone.
Call Her Daddy
Alix Earle: Secrets, Sex & Scandals (FBF)
Hi, I'm Ashley, and I'm Alex's stepmom. Alex is so great with all the kids, and having a free babysitter is always nice.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
It's embarrassing.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Honestly.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Yeah.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I want a new segment called, What's Up With That? Where you just deliver a piece of news. This segment, What's Up With That? Telepathy. What's up with that? I don't know. Next thing.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Yeah, yeah.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
And then you say. What's up with that? Hey, what's up with this? Hey, but what's up with this? Do you hear they invented a new battery?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Spaghetti definitely made the story a lot more...
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Oh, no, you can't eat 200 years worth of spaghetti in one sitting. They'll kill you. I hope Russia doesn't drop a spaghetti bomb on top of us.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Hello, Mr. Ouchie. Look at that. Do you remember? He's like, I'm so sorry.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I don't know.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Right here. No, I know, but where? Ouchie?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Poke his toe and stuff. Ouchie.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Me too.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I know. I wish I would have gotten a video of this. Just dressed as this. It was so scary. You guys pulled up when it was happening. We pulled up. Yeah.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
That would be so cool, dude. That would be so rad.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I mean, not a goopsie daisy. You say goopsie daisy? It's oopsie daisy. It's goopsie daisy.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
No, it's not. No one calls it goopsy. Every everybody calls it a goopsy daisy.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
You all female prisoners got it easy. More like a hotel. I mean, Martha Stewart made a nativity scene in prison.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
You keep saying it with different inflections. Is it a prison or was it a prison?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Right now.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Too bad.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I'm not afraid of you anymore.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
You left like no space in between. Gotta bet that dog. How'd they find them dogs? How'd they find them dogs?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
They were looking around his shed and his two feet just still sticking out.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I bet you that's him.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I know you. I know the story. The ghost. The ghost. The haunted. Yeah.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
I think you said that.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
Did you feel that? Check your pants. Who pooped in here?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
It was a dead body under the snow. It was a dead body. Oh, no, no. It was a dead body. Did we tell someone?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
He may be dead, but he's our new friend Greg.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
He was alive the whole time. Alive the whole time. It was a Christmas miracle. Alive the whole time. It was alive the whole time. Merry Christmas. That was really good. That was incredible.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
121 - The Drones Have Been Here Before, Telepathy, and New Nuclear Tech
It's going to be way better.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
It's going good. I'm a huge fan. I found your show a couple months ago and it's helped me through some things that I didn't even know I needed help through.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
So my question is... Basically, how do I set some boundaries with my in-laws and have them respect the grandparent role? Or is this a me problem? And if so, how do I work through it?
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
He is... On my side. He's a coward.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
I think he tends to be a complete and total coward. And I don't feel this way either. I don't think that any of their behavior is malicious. And I think that he looks at it in a different light than maybe I do. And I don't know if it's just because
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Um, maybe his parents just feel like they are able to be way, way, way more involved than whereas my parents are involved, but they kind of take a step back and let us do our own thing and only give advice or recommendations.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Undermining my parental decisions.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
For instance, around Christmas time, we were trying to lay our one-year-old down for a nap. He was very overstimulated with, you know, just the holidays, the people, the gifts, everything. And just trying to give him a little bit of quiet time away because it was... You know, it was about nap time. It was time.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
For sure. And, you know, went to go get him quiet, walked out of the room to go make him a bottle, turned around to go back in. And one of my in-laws, you know, went in and picked him up and said, I didn't want to hear him crying. It's Christmas. And, you know, I'll take care of him. And brought him right back out and just kind of, you know,
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
undermined us in front of the entire family of, no, we're going to take control and we're going to handle this.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
I did make an announcement. I said, okay, I think it's time for someone to have a little bit of quiet time.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
I mean, there've been, there've been countless other situations and, you know, trying to, you know, take control of, well, you know, when he's, when it's time for school, you know, and his time for him to go to school, he's two now. So we've got a couple of years, um, but requesting that they are the ones to homeschool him.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Um, where in my head, no, he needs to go to school and he needs to be around, you know, other kids. And if I do decide to homeschool him, that will be me doing that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
I, in a way, did, but I probably didn't do it as effectively. I probably left the door a little bit like, oh, yeah, we'll see.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Yeah. And see, and I think like, For instance, there have been several times that I've shut my parents down and said, this is a boundary, do not cross it.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
I have no problem doing that, but I feel different doing it to his parents.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
I think it's the childhood dynamic, honestly. I think that's what it is.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Yeah, and see, so my husband is a first responder. Okay.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Yeah, no, but he – so he works a lot. Typically, he works at two different departments, so he works – Um, 48 hours on 24 hours off. Um, we're blessed enough that, you know, they live close. Um, and they take care of watching him, um, on the days that, you know, I'm, I'm working and he's not home.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Um, so I, and that's been, it's been that way since, you know, basically since he was born, I returned back to work. So they do have a lot of access to him.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
And I know we've been looking into possibly doing like a preschool program a couple of days a week, you know, morning time from like eight to 12 or eight to one or something like that. And I know I mentioned it and there was kind of like this, like, no, like we love having him.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
And, you know, but I think it's beneficial for especially he hasn't been around other kids like in a daycare type setting. like, I think it's important for his own, you know, emotional development to be around other kids. Then, you know, I think that that kind of got overlooked in the, in the fact of, but wait, no, we want him like, yeah.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Yeah. And I think he feels a lot of, you know, I think it goes back to his childhood, not really being able to properly voice how he feels. That's fair. Him and I have worked through that within our relationship, and we've gotten to a good place with it. But I know there's still that wall up when it comes to how to talk to his own parents.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
And with difficult conversations, typically. I get that. Yeah.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Oh, they, they a hundred percent are.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Having An Affair With My Friend’s Wife
Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah. I, I, like I said, I know that they're, you know, anything that they do, it's not malicious at all. We're so grateful and I'm so grateful for everything with them. You know, but I'm just trying to figure out that healthy, healthy boundary. And I think, I think you got, got it spot on.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Okay, so first off, I just want to say I'm really nervous, but I love your show, and I've actually just finished your book, Building a Non-Anxious Life, and I just want to say thank you. That really put some things into perspective for me.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
No, I'm not really a sports kind of gal, to be honest.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Okay. So I'm going to try to say this as clearly and concisely as possible because I know there's a lot to get into. So my question is, is how do I move forward after discovering my husband's porn addiction and debt that he was hiding? from me related to that. So at the end of January this year, it's about five weeks ago, my husband confessed to me out of the blue.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
I had no idea that anything was going on. I had no suspicions. I had no concerns. I will say we are people of faith. And in the last year, we've been getting more involved in our church, volunteering and just kind of going on a deeper level with that than just kind of the shallow base of just going to Sunday and then doing whatever we want to the rest of the week.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
And so I thought we had come to a really good place. And then he confessed this, that he... felt like he wasn't going to be able to rid himself of this until he came to me with it. And he confessed that he had been struggling with porn his whole life and that he actually has about $5,000 of credit card debt that he racked up on OnlyFans. And so we got into all of that and...
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
How do I move forward after discovering my husband's porn addiction and debt that he was hiding from me related to that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
I know you're always saying behavior is a language. And 24 hours, like the very next day, immediately, his entire behavior had changed. And I didn't realize how we had gotten so far from where we began as far as how we interact with each other, what our daily life looks like. And then I didn't realize until he changed it that...
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
he had been pulling away for a long time that he wasn't as affectionate as he used to be. Um, and you know, I thought that was partly just, you know, being, you know, we've been together for five years. Um, we're a blended family. We have, uh, one baby together. We have children from other marriages, but, um, our, our, our baby is about a year and a half old.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
And so I just kind of thought it was, you know, just what happens after postpartum, you know, just kind of, you grow apart, you don't, you don't talk as much, you're stressed out, whatever. But, Um, so anyway, he, he has changed his behavior like 180 degrees. Like he's, he's more immediately the next day, he's more affectionate with me. He's talking to me. He's more open with me.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
He's like trying to reassure me. He's more involved with the kids rather than just like putting his earbuds in and doing chores or whatever he's doing. He's like more involved with them as well. He's, you know, not getting irritated anymore. with like the baby throwing fits like he was before and just really, really night and day.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
And then two weeks after his initial confession, which mind you, I had asked him, do you have any, like, did you have an affair? No. Um, is there anything else I need to know? No. Two weeks afterwards, I've just kind of like had this like nagging feeling and I kept getting, you know, like the lightning bolt things in my mind and I continue to get those. And
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
And I've had two other serious adult relationships before him. And both of those cheated on me. Both of those had porn addictions as well. And so I just kind of have been through this before, I guess you'd say. And so I decided to go through his phone history. And there was a couple numbers that he would text. every once in a while, like a few times a month.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
And I could see, I don't know, I couldn't read the text, but I know that they were exchanging pictures. And so I confronted him about that. And he admitted that those were people that he does know, girls that he does know, that he would basically solicit for pictures. And, you know, they would talk, whatever. He says he never met up with them.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
He says he never engaged in anything physical, that it was just, to him, it was just another mode of getting more content or something. I don't really know. So that kind of, I think that part hurt more because, like, I tried to explain to him, like, do you understand how dangerous that is? Like, it's one thing having a porn addiction to me. Like, it is bad, and I know that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
But, like, I know he's not going to be with those people. But for him to text people that are actually local to us, that's a problem because it could go, it could venture into the, Hey, let's meet up. Hey, you know, like let's do this, you know, whatever. And I will say that the texts and stuff that I did find, everything was from before the first confession. Like there hasn't been anything since.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Does that make you feel better? It does make me feel better that I feel like, he's doing everything he can to show me that he's different. Like he, he says that he feels like he has killed this sin from himself. Like that he has, you know, he laid it down to die.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
I mean, I'm for sure sick of it. I thought that was one of the things I was just like, again, because like he knew my history. Yeah. And he knew, like he knew everything. Like we've been more open with each other than.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Yeah. And he was hiding that all along. And so we have been talking on a deeper level.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Well, it's been more than that over the years. That's what is in collections now because he could no longer keep up with the minimum payments.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Without me, you know, asking like, why are you paying so much on this card?
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
I mean, probably not. Because you've also been through the aftermath before.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Well, that's something I've asked over and over and over again.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
So, what do I do moving forward? Because, like, I mean, it happens. I don't... I'm not just going to throw away the marriage. You know, like, he is... I don't know. To me, he seems genuinely... repentant for what he's done.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Shocked by My Husband’s Confession
Well, I don't want to be so naive as to say he's just cured.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
Hey, Dave. Oh, my gosh. I'm so excited to talk to you guys.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
So my husband and I are looking into maybe starting a new business. We are totally debt-free with a paid-for house. We have one year of emergency funds saved up. Wow. Nice. Yeah, we've been following you and doing you for seven years since we got married, and so we just got debt-free not too long ago and paid our house off about a month ago. Oh, wow.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
Thank you. So I love food. I love making food. People... really seem to, like, respond well when I post things on Facebook, sharing things, and they have actually come to us wanting us to maybe start a food truck or, like, a cafe of some kind. We talked to our CPA, and he was leaning more towards a food truck. He said that, like, the overhead was less. They were less likely to...
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
like not go under because of all the overhead. But my concern with the food truck we have been looking into then is, of course, you know, it would still be considered a depreciating asset, correct? Like even if we paid cash and saved up for it, it's still depreciating versus like a brick and mortar. I guess if we're owning it. If we don't own it, we're still paying rent.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
So I just didn't know if you were winged one way or the other.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
I've always wanted to be more of a chef. Like the food and part of it is more like my dream and passion. My husband is, was in the food industry for a while and he actually was the business side of it. So as far as that, I think the brick and mortar having like a small cafe, I'm thinking something kind of small scale of like the Cracker Barrel.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
I'd love to have like a little store inside and be able to combine healthy, like whole food, plant-based foods with more like regular foods, like a blend of the two. So people that, my husband eats burgers and fries and steak.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Money Conflicts Tear Your Relationships Apart
It does, yeah. Now that you've talked me through that, it does, yeah.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
Oh, my question for you is, should I sell my rental property to pay off my student loan debt?
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
How much student loan debt you got? A lot, $338,000.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
So excluding like the rental property, it's around $95,000 to $100,000. How long have you been in law school? Since 2019. Okay.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
The rental property is worth the same amount as my debt, $338,000. That's the current value.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
Okay. So you get $100,000, $150,000 out of it, right? Correct.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
So I currently have a storage unit with some stuff in it that I've been trying to sell all of that stuff out.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
Oh, for sure. Especially if I sold the property, I've been torn between selling it and moving into it. And so I just, what, where do you live in here? Um, currently I live with my parents, but, um, I was about to start renting.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
Yep. So I probably said I wanted to be a lawyer as a kid.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
Yes, and it definitely did not. And it didn't. It was the opposite.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
I would say it's the specific niche. It's real estate law.
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
I had a question. I currently am on step one of your, I'm reading your book, and I wanted to know, I have two jobs together that total about $76,000, I would say, a year. Good for you. I have a 403B, a 401A, and a Roth IRA, all with my employers. My question is, should I stop contributing to them because I do have $169,000 in student loan debt,
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
I have about $300 in credit card debt, and then I owe my mom and my father together about $1,800. So I wanted to know if I need to take care of that first and then start back contributing after.
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
I have $1,400. And then I have saved, because I don't have a car, so I put $1,500 aside for a vehicle.
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
I haven't decided because I try to be smarter than I was. I let them take my vehicle because it was a mess. So now I'm going into it, but I don't want to go into it stupidly, so I'm trying to be smarter.
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
Other than the emergency fund of $1,400, that's it. Okay, so you have $1,400 and $1,500 for a car.
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
Yes, I do have four children, so I do kind of budget them into my... That's budgeting.
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
So I have an undergrad in community health and a master's in human resources, which I should never have done, but I know that now.
The Ramsey Show
Discipline Is the Key to Building Wealth
Yeah, I'm currently in HR. Both of my employers are in HR.
The Ramsey Show
Slow and Steady Wins the Race Every Time
Okay, my husband and I are trying to decide if we should go on an African safari hunt or to keep saving for a house.
The Ramsey Show
Slow and Steady Wins the Race Every Time
So here's a little situation and background. So we got married this past year and decided for our 10-year anniversary that we are going to go on an African safari and hunt all the jazz. And then a month ago, we entered a raffle and found out that we won a nine-day all-inclusive hunt in South Africa. And it's a $20,000 value. It includes like the hunt, lodging, food, everything.
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Slow and Steady Wins the Race Every Time
and, Lord willing, like two animals per person. But after we did our research, it does not include airfare, transportation, gun rental, but the kicker is the taxidermy and the shipping of the taxidermy. In total, all of that comes out to $12,000 to $15,000 out of pocket, which doesn't include like extra excursions or spending money. It's a lot of money.
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Slow and Steady Wins the Race Every Time
Um, we're in baby step three B. So in our first year of marriage, we are debt free with our fully funded emergency fund. We are targeting to purchase a house April of 2026. So in one year, and we're on track for 87,000 for a down payment. And we have a sinking fund for our vacation this year of $2,600. So we see three potential options. If you could help us with our first marital financial hurdle.
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Slow and Steady Wins the Race Every Time
jazzed honestly okay but like so we we don't know so we're thinking we could either take the trip and either pull from our house fund or i guess your perspective is we wait to purchase the home or he's like well you know we could take the trip but don't you know don't taxidermy or ship anything and just take really nice pictures and i'm like well i would like to have a zebra rug you know like that'd be pretty cool
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ich habe nicht zwei Gedanken zu meinem letzten Bombensturm gegeben. Ich war fertig und bereit.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ähm. Grant's performance on social media for the last several weeks.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ich habe nur gesagt, dass du Entertainment sagst. Ich meine, du sprichst von dem Show, das ihr zusammen gemacht habt. Ja, das war immer so. Sie hat dir einen Traum erzielt. Ja.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
He left my apartment to go take a business meeting, which was not a business meeting, and then came home to me. The two of you clearly worked through that, though.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
We were very on and off, like I said. And the last time we broke up before the show, we go back and forth on who's begging for who and what the position is. Last time we broke up before the show, he was chasing me down, trying to prove like I can trust him X, Y, Z. And I'm very much like a signs from the universe person. So I was like manifesting like, should I be with this man?
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Like, what do I do? And one of my close friends was casting for the show. And I kept seeing him post it and he posted his like last call and I was like, fuck it, just like submit us. And then I got a call from California and I was sitting there with him and I was like, he was like, don't answer it, like we're not doing it. Und dann hat sie angerufen und hat ein Wortmeldung gelesen.
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Und ich habe immer gesagt, ich weiß nicht, wie ich mich über meine eigenen Kinder fühle, aber ich war so, als hätte ich ein Kind. Naomi war auf der Liste. Und das Wortmeldung kam von einer Frau namens Naomi. Und ich war so, wir rufen zurück.
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ich wollte vollständig Klarheit. Ich hatte keine Ahnung, was ich wollte. Ich wollte, dass er gut ist für mich und ich wollte, dass er sich prüft. Aber die Realität der Situation war, dass ich wirklich nicht denke. Untertitelung des ZDF, 2020 Untertitelung des ZDF, 2020
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
I mean, you pursued me for months and I wasn't letting you back in. I wasn't allowing it. Finally, I came back. You had flown out to my family. You've met up with all my friends while I was gone for a month and basically explained your side of the story, how much you regretted it, how much... You loved me and wanted to marry me. You went and bought a ring. XYZ.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
So I basically came home and you had already gotten everyone on your side. You had done what you could to try to get me to forgive you. And so you kind of broke me down in a way where I was like, shit, like, Ich muss diesem Mann eine Chance geben, er kämpft so hart für mich. Ich weiß nicht, ich fühlte nur, als wäre ich nicht bereit, darauf aufzugehen.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Und dann sind wir wieder voll zusammengekommen, für diese paar Monate während der Weihnachtszeit. Ich fühlte, als würde er einen Eindruck zeigen und er machte eine 180. Und ich habe gesagt, ich habe das in einem Artikel veröffentlicht, das war nicht, wir konnten nicht wirklich darüber sprechen am Anfang. But then I just snapped. I couldn't do it.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
I knew I was never going to let go and I knew I wasn't treating him fairly and it wasn't making me feel good about myself. Did I beat his spirit to a pulp? I don't know, but... I was not in a good place and so that's why we broke up.
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Was genau denkst du, was ich tue? Du tust so aus, als ob ich dich hier sitze und dich bescheide. Ich mache lustige TikToks, die die Hälfte nicht mit dir zu tun haben.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Und du hattest die Audazität, ein ganzes, ich weiß nicht, was für ein 10-Minuten-Video zu veröffentlichen, über das, wie viel du Natalie liebst und wie perfekt sie war, nachdem du die letzten sechs Monate versucht hast, mich zu verabschieden, dich zu verheiraten.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ja, es war alles nur für Spaß. Ich habe nie... Ich fühle mich so, als ob du... Und ich will es nicht mal so sagen. Du solltest glücklich sein, wie sehr ich deine Tochter liebe und Respekt und Empathie für die Mutter deiner Tochter habe, dass ich die Dinge nicht loslasse, die du mir gemacht und gesagt hast. Ich will es nicht schmutzig machen. Ich will nichts für dich schlechter machen.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
What I've been posting is like funny, just like joking, very lighthearted. It was never meant to attack you. And then it became a point where you decided to try and blackmail me into making a statement that you're a good father or you were going to release texts. And then you did. So I don't know how...
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
I would have loved to have gotten to a point where we broke up and I could sit here and justify why I would have taken you back to begin with. And been like, he's changed, he's a good man. And we just couldn't make it work, like whatever. But then you started doing all this shit on social media and spiraling and saying dumb stuff. Was für dumme Sachen sagst du, die ich dir gesagt habe?
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Du hast mich live auf TikTok geschreit. Du hast live gesprochen, wie ich so schrecklich bin. Und die ganze Sache mit Natalie. Was willst du, wenn du seit Monaten hier sitzt, um mich zu überzeugen, dass du dich so schlecht verletzt hast. Natalie bedeutet nichts. Du bist mit mir verliebt. Du willst mich heiraten.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
und dann umdrehen und sagen, wie viel du sie liebst und wie perfekt sie ist und dass sie der größte Regret von der Show ist.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Das ist lustig, aber das ist eine Lüge. Wir sind zerbrochen. Du schläfst voll mit anderen Leuten. Also was ist das für eine Rolle?
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Und auf meinem Live mit Natalie habe ich literal gesagt, er hat alles getan, was er konnte. Ich konnte nicht weitergehen. Period. Du tust so aus, als ob ich hier sitze und dich attackiere. Und nicht einmal habe ich hier gesessen und dich attackiert.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
So you saw me bawling my eyes out to Alexa and you saw I was checked out.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Nein, ich sage nicht, dass Grant überhaupt richtig ist.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ja, ich würde sagen, das ist ziemlich akkurat. Ich denke, es war wirklich erstaunlich, als ich den Show gesehen habe, weil ich offensichtlich nicht sah, was er an seinem ersten Bonfire sah. Also bin ich von ihm und den anderen Jungs erzählt, dass sie die Erinnerung an den ersten Bonfire haben.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Also sitze ich hier für die letzten neun Monate, als ob ich mich nur über ihn verletzt habe, nur über ihn verrückt zu sprechen. He originally told me that my first clip was me talking to one of the guys. So I this whole time thought like, damn, like I'm going to look so bad. I was just like shitting on him to one of the guys.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
And then I watched the show back and what you said, Natalie said, and see that it really was like nothing to me. The first one was just like me being emotional, venting to Alexa. And that's what really like set it off was very disappointing.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Bist du stolz darauf, wie du die letzten Wochen gespielt hast?
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
That's why we eventually, ultimately broke up. He very, very... Und das ist, was ich sage. Ich wollte, wenn das alles rauskam und wir alle darüber sprechen konnten, ich wollte, dass ich es beurteilen konnte, warum ich ihn zurückgenommen hätte.
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Es war literally dein Geburtstag. Und ich habe dich getreut. Ashley, warum? Ich hoffe, dieses Jahr bringt dir große Dinge. Ich liebe dich.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
That's what I'm saying. I would have loved to have justified taking you back and being like, yeah, this man changed. And I felt that in the relationship, but I felt as though I still couldn't let it go. Should have been left at that period.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Right. And we do that. That's what we do. And then you did it probably the next week. But we're in the clear now. We're done.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Yeah. But what you've done since we broke up till now proves to me that you've still not changed.
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
You're calling me, bitching me out while other girls are in your bed. You're like losing your shit on me. I just can't.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Erzähl mir eine von den gedrehten TikToks von dir. Ich habe das TikTok gesehen, wo du angerufen hast und sie war schreiend. Ich habe es gehört.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Do you want to know why I hung up the call? It was because she was texting me.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
She was watching the live. I hung up the phone on you because I watched her text messages come through.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
I reached out. I said, hey, keep an eye on Grant. I'm really worried about him and your mental health. Because you do come to me and say things and I'm worried about your mental health.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
I don't want you to do something and that's on me. So I reached out, I texted her and she called me. And we talked for 45 minutes that we're worried about you, that we need you to get off social media for your daughter's sake.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ich bin nicht rausgekommen und nichts gesagt habe. Really bad about you. I said, you tried. And I couldn't forgive you.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Was wolltest du mir tun? Was wolltest du mir auf Social Media tun?
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
So the whole article that Netflix released, where I went back to probably three times now, where I say, he did everything he could, but I couldn't move past it, was not enough acknowledgement.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Es ist einfach traurig, das alles auszuprobieren. Das war nie das, was ich wollte. Und es ist einfach traurig, zu sehen, wie viel Geld er bekommt. Aber es ist auch traurig, zu sehen, wie er es selbst macht. Und ich bin einfach traurig.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Ich denke nicht, was ich mache, vergleicht mit dem, was du gemacht hast. Und ich denke nicht, was ich mache, ist wie ein direkter Ausdruck, um dich besser oder schlimmer zu machen. Ich bin, wer ich bin. Ich bin sehr sarkastisch. Ich lache damit. Ich versuche, mit der Geschichte zu laufen.
The Viall Files
E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Aber um hier zu sitzen und zu sagen, dass es im Verlust war, warum hast du ein Video gedreht, das sagt, wie viel du Natalie liebst und das war dein größter Regret, war es
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
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E908 Going Deeper – Temptation Island Reunion
Du willst also, dass ich versuche, dass du ein verändertes Mann bist. Ich kann das nicht tun.
The Viall Files
E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
And then when she was pregnant, it had come out that he had been cheating on her for the entirety of their relationship. Um, and so because he lives overseas, he's taken advantage of things that aren't legal in the United States that are legal where he lives.
The Viall Files
E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
So like, um, I guess like massage parlors and stuff like that. And I think he was also meeting other women on the internet. So he was going to the local big city going on dates. Meanwhile, my sister-in-law is at home pregnant and,
The Viall Files
E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
at home where so they live overseas okay so she lives with him yeah she will she doesn't anymore but she doesn't or she did that so when all of this came out she obviously moved back to the states had the baby my sister-in-law keeps a great relationship with my mom um so they can see my niece grow up but i have received and my husband has also received multiple dms from multiple women
The Viall Files
E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Telling us that I need to control my brother, that my husband needs to control his brother-in-law and stop him from spreading his STDs.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
I don't know. I haven't had that conversation with my brother. So because he lives overseas, it's difficult to communicate with him because he's sleeping when I'm awake. So I kind of just needed some advice when it comes to he's gone through waves of ghosting my parents. And my mom simply just wants to talk to him like, how is how is your day? How was work? How's life? That's the end of that.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
But he doesn't always respond. So I kind of just wanted some advice on how to kind of keep to maintain that relationship. And then also, I don't really have a relationship with him right now because I don't love, obviously, what he did. And then I also think that it's just difficult because of the time difference.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Yes. So they are not legally only for benefits. Once she gets a job, then she'll go through with all of that. But she hasn't been able to get a job because she's taking care of their daughter and then living with her parents.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Yeah. And this is like never, this all had just come out within the past like two years. Like if you would have said my brother would have done this, he was a little bit of a late bloomer in like the dating world. So I don't like, if you would have told me this 10, 15 years ago, I would have been like, yeah, no, he doesn't have, my husband was like, really?
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Like he has, we didn't, we weren't aware of this game that he had.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
My husband did. So my husband had said that he followed up with, he got a LinkedIn DM to have us to try and control my brother from spreading his STDs, which I don't know what they were. And I think he followed up and I think it was just like... STDs, plural?
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Maybe one, maybe two. I never had that conversation because that's not a conversation I'd love to have with my brother. But he followed up and I think it was just like a girl that was confused. She was just confused. She thought that my brother had loved her, that they were together.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
i have not my parents have um and my parents have kind of made it seem like he knows that he did wrong um but then he just goes home and keeps doing it okay because he did come to the states last summer and we had a big conversation and he did meet his daughter um but it was just like when you meet his daughter like he wasn't there for her birth no he was not okay
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
So he met his daughter, and I think he tried to get off, but he just couldn't. He couldn't.
The Viall Files
E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Yeah. I don't know why he didn't really give me any explanation.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
I don't think he's very involved. My mom actually had spoken with him recently and she said that he was possibly trying to make an Easter basket for my niece, but I don't know to what extent.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
They're not. I think, I mean, my mom feels a lot of guilt. She feels like it's kind of her fault because, I mean, my parents, just because she raised him.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
no no and i don't think that he was coddled by my parents at all like he definitely recognized his mistake but um i've had conversations with my sister-in-law where she because i mean they're still married she has access to his joint their joint bank account and she can kind of see his spending and i mean she doesn't care obviously now who he's like with but she sees the charges on his bank statements so she can kind of track where he goes
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
brother but like you you have the advantage of not being the one who should be embarrassed by their behavior you know so i mean yeah if you're actually willing to do something you know i you could reach out my husband and i were thinking about going because he goes to like the nearest big city um often and my my husband and i were thinking about traveling and kind of like
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
I don't want to say interventioning him, but kind of. But then, you know, logistically, like, we don't know where he stays. We don't know what he's doing. Like, you know, so it would just be hard to track him down.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Yeah. I don't know if he would want my brother and I to... go over there. I mean, he probably wouldn't, you know, to see us, but you know, to confront him on this sort of thing at all.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
I mean, yeah. And it just goes back to, it's difficult because I mean, he's asleep right now and there's like a very small window in the morning where I'm awake and he's asleep.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
To give a little bit of backstory, obviously, my brother and I are five years apart.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Yeah. I also think that he's a very high functioning alcoholic. So that's definitely a problem that hasn't been addressed.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
He's older. He's older. Okay. Yes. We've gone through parts of our relationship where we're really close, parts of our relationship where we're not close. And he currently lives overseas. He's lived overseas for the past five-ish years.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Obviously, you know, through social media, like, you can tell that he's my brother. I post things with both of us, you know. But I pretty much said, like, hey, you need to stop this. Like, this is not... And usually his response is, like...
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
I feel like those the conversations that have been had, he's kind of like, I know, I know, I know, I'll be better.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
I don't think my parents are. Like I said, I haven't had any conversations and obviously that's probably something that I need to do. And if my husband and I talk to him, like we won't tiptoe around anything, but I don't believe my parents have. I believe my parents, when they confronted him, they were very direct and they were like, clearly, you know that this is wrong.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
To give a little bit of backstory, I found out I was pregnant in 2023. I have a 17-month-old.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Thank you. Congratulations on River. She's adorable. And so my sister-in-law actually found out she was pregnant the month after. So we have babies that are a month apart. It's great. I love it. Your sister-in-law being your- My brother's wife.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Well, and also like the conversations I do try to have with him and I try to ask him things that aren't necessarily like one word responses, but that's a lot of what I get. Like, you know, how's this going? How's that going? How's this going? And he's just like, great.
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E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Yes, that came out. So they were going through the IVF process and she actually got an STD. So they had to clear all that up because they were going through IVF. My sister-in-law had some fertility issues, obviously. So she thought this was kind of like her only chance to have a kid. So she went through the IVF process. Everything had come out that he was cheating on her.
The Viall Files
E935 Ask Nick - Help! My Brother Is A H*e!
Yeah, no, that definitely. I mean, that helps.
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Kristen the Piston Anderson. Get a bee in your bonnet with Lacey B. Rigging the funk, it's Leslie Plunkett. She gets an A from us, it's Lindsay D. Let's give a kisserino to Lisa Lino. Fresh as a daisy, it's Maisie McHenry. We love her on the rocks, it's Melissa Cox. Megan Berg. You can't have a burger without the Berg.
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#2676 RHOP S09E13: Panama Wack
We're taking the gold with Brenda Silva. Don't get salty with Christine Pepper. Can't have a meal without the Emily sides.
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The incredible, edible Matthew Sisters. She eases our woes, it's Melissa St. Rose. Give him hell, Miss Noel. Put on a kettle for Rebecca Weddle.
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
And Ashley's like, well, for the record, I mean, there's nothing wrong with it. You know, if you felt like you wanted to get on the show and, you know, you needed a storyline, like who hasn't paid for a storyline or two?
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
And Ashley, meanwhile, is like, do you think she uses Cash App or Zelle, Venmo? I mean, what is it?
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
Yeah, Ashley's like, well, she uses alcohol to cope with some of her difficulties.
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
And Ashley's like, well, of course, you know, I did think about that in my mind. But, you know, nothing's great. But one of the things I wanted to ask her here today, and, you know, maybe I should talk to her picture. Hi, picture! So one of the journalists told me that...
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I'm a man. I'm a man. And I'm sick of bullshit. Because I'm a man who's sick of bullshit.
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
Well, there's a law. It's called thinking a battery. And so they got me. I'm going to get him on thinking a battery. And he's going to go to prison. And you guys, I'm very sad about it. And so I did something. I got creative. And I wrote a song.
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
I'm a man and I'm under stress and I'm sick of bullshit. I'm sick of the bullshit.
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
And Masha's like, covering all the bases here.
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
So she's like, it turns out that was Karen. And this was before the unfortunate passing of her parents.
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#2746 RHOP S9E20 Reunion 3: Rent a Poor
So she's like, but she also stood on business, you know, no, no contrition, no apologies. And so, you know, now we're sitting here on the couch and everyone's had their opinion. All of a sudden it's a very different Mia, the way she tears up.