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Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
Welcome to Lost Boys. In this podcast, my friend Professor Scott Galloway and I dig into the unique challenges young men are facing today and what we can do about it. In this episode, Scott and I talk with Dan Harris, the journalist and author of the bestselling book, 10% Happier. Dan is a smart guy who has put a lot of thought into how we can all manage the stress and anxiety in our lives.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
So thank you for joining us, Dan. The topics, as I know Barbara has briefed you on, is our situation with America's men, sort of the 18 to 35-year-old who's gone wayward. Scott's got wonderful statistics on this. But before I bring you in, I just want to go to Scott for a second about the challenges that young men are facing.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
Dan, you write beautifully about this. Give us a few examples of how you've done this in your own life.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
uh everyone is talking about it scott i i give you a lot of credit for this because you've been chipping away at this and now i'm starting to see a mushroom cloud of activity come out from you dropping the first bombs i guess before we go to dan are we at an inflection point sir in terms of this issue well that's a generous thing to say but yeah and the
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
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Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
Polos, t-shirts, shorts, pants that work at a work lunch, or watching my two young boys play football after school.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
and the best part everything with quince is priced 50 to 80 percent less than what you would find at similar brands i picked up a t-shirt a long sleeve and a linen shirt from quince and now they're basically all i wear the t-shirt's solid the long sleeves perfect for travel or for meetings and i just wore the linen shirt in bermuda and all the young folks were asking me where it was from my wife's happy too she doesn't have to pack 10 different shirts for me anymore i bought the high-end brands before
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
But Quince holds its own easy. Same quality, way less money. My closet's cleaner, my fits are better, and I don't have to overthink what I'm packing anymore. Elevate your closet with Quince. Go to quince.com slash lostboys for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. That's Q-U-I-N-C-E dot com slash lostboys to get free shipping and 365-day returns. quince.com slash lostboys.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
I don't really want to add to it. Me adding anything would detract, actually, because I think what you're saying is so direct. I guess one final question for you, Dan, because I watched at Scott's suggestion. Obviously, we all follow Scott on social media. The whole world does. And I watched the whole show. I asked my wife and my mother-in-law to watch it. My mother-in-law turned it off.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
she said that she was getting anxiety to quote her. I'm 79 years old. I'm getting too much anxiety and I shut it off. And so I get it. So, so that's my final question for you, sir. How do we get people to breathe through what they see going on in this generation of young men?
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
It's such a great lesson. I mean, if this whole Lost Boys series, if people get out of it that one sentence, the whole thing is worth it to me. It's such a great lesson, and I'm going to start saying that over and over again, Dan. Thank you. And thank you, by the way, for joining us. We promise in and out in 30 minutes, and very, very grateful to you.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
Thanks for joining us for this episode of Lost Boys. If you'd like more information, please go to our website, www.lostboys.men. In our next episode, Scott and I talk about the financial and economic challenges young men are facing today and how they are very different than when Scott and I were growing up. So be sure to like, follow and subscribe to Lost Boys wherever you get your podcast.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
And please share it with someone who cares about this or should care about this. And let's spread the word. Lost Boys is a production of Salt Media and the Casablanca Strategy Group. Barbara Fedita and Keith Suma are executive producers. Tanya Salati is our researcher. Holly Duncan Quinn and Stanley Goldberg are editors. Special thanks to Christina Cassese, Mary Jan Rebus, and Drew Burrows.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
Something that's very important for young men today. We talk about the hit Netflix series everyone is talking about, Adolescence. And we get some great advice from Dan on how young men and all of us can be more socially engaged. Here's my conversation with Scott Galloway and Dan Harris. So joining us now on Lost Boys is Dan Harris. He's a former co-anchor of ABC's Nightline.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
He's also on the weekend edition of Good Morning America on ABC News. He spent over two decades reporting on major national and international events. A pivotal moment in his career was an on-air panic attack in 2004 that prompted him to embark on a journey of self-discovery, leading him to become a vocal advocate for meditation and mindfulness, particularly for skeptics of those things.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
I want to talk about the toxic side of this, if you don't mind, Dan, when you're a social observer. It's the void. I mean, this is the theory I've tested on a few of our other guests. I want to get your reaction to it. It's the void getting filled by toxic masculinity. It's the void getting filled by hyper-masculinity.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
I'm just going to let you know, Dan Strauss is a very close personal friend of mine for 25 years.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
Let me stop you for a second, Dan. So Scott, do you know Strauss? If you don't know Strauss, he's Take-Two Entertainment. I do. Okay, good. And he wrote a great book on this, by the way, on longevity, which I'd like to say that- It's called Ageless Fitness. Exactly. I'd like to say that I adopted some of it, but I'm still eating junk food and fast food. But go ahead, Dan.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
He's the author of the bestselling book, 10% Happier. How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduce Stress Without Losing My Edge. I must say to Dan and Scott, I have sent that book out to probably 50 people, Dan. I'm a huge fan of that book. Thank you. And found self-help that really works, a true story. And he's also got an application out there, 10% Happier Meditation app and podcast.
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
But also autographed by Barbara, see? Oh, wow. Yeah, so I have a free pass for my wife. This will probably get cut out of the thing, but just so you know, I have a free pass for my wife. I have dinner with her. I have dinner with Barbara once a year in June at the Beverly Hills Hotel in the Polo Lounge. Unfortunately, she brings her 92-year-old chaperone who happens to be her husband, but...
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
any event. I thought you would enjoy that, Scott. I love that. Seriously?
Lost Boys
How to be happier with Dan Harris.
That is a flex. Galloway, for somebody your vintage, this is a huge flex. Let me just really name drop here. See this? I'm sure that's getting cut out, Harris, but I had to flex that on Galloway. He's got me by about six inches in height and God only knows what else. I had to flex that on him.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
I'm reflecting on what you're saying, and I'm wondering if there's something actionable, something more formidable. Scott, one of the problems I've always seen with the educational process, and I've listened to some of your podcasts, we've got great educators, but we're asking local people to do the education process in their local neighborhoods.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
We don't have George Lucas coming in to do the education. stage photography or the direction of the local movie, if you will. But you could take leaders like Richard Reeves or Scott Galloway and get their wisdom imparted into the local communities. We do have the technology. We do have the skill set to do that. And I guess the question is, is that something that you think could catch on?
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Is that something that you think people would be interested in?
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Any last words? We're going to let you go in a sec, Richard, but any last words?
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
You have no idea how much I need it. Does that feel good? I'm surrounded by people that are bringing me down, Richard. No, men need to be here for each other. There we go. Thank you. We're friends now. The feeling is mutual, my friend.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Hopefully you'll come back. Okay, we'll continue this discussion. Thank you for joining us for this episode of Lost Boys. If you'd like more information, please go to our website, www.lostboys.men.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
In our next episode, Scott and I talk with Dan Harris, the bestselling author of 10% Happier, who has a lot of good advice about how young men and really all of us can manage the stress and anxiety in our lives. You don't want to miss it. So be sure to like, follow, and subscribe to Lost Boys wherever you get your podcasts.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
And please share it with someone who cares about this or should care about this. And let's spread the word. Lost Boys is a production of Salt Media and Casablanca Strategy Group. Barbara Fedita and Keith Summa are executive producers. Tanya Salati is our researcher. And Holly Duncan Quinn and Stanley Goldberg are editors. Special thanks to Christina Cassese and Mary Jean Rebus and Drew Burrows.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Last time we talked about how, by nearly every measure, young men are failing to thrive and They're doing worse in school. They're doing worse in relationships. They're doing worse in the workplace than ever before. Today, we're going to talk about why the challenges young men face is an issue that's been ignored.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
That's the pushback. And I think you've done a good job of rebutting the pushback. But let's talk about the mumps. Moms are very concerned. I'm not trying to inject politics into this thing, but people thought that Vice President Harris was going to do better with women. It turned out that 54% of the white women voted for Donald Trump.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
And when they did the exit polling, 47% of all women voted for Donald Trump. 54% of the white women, they did the exit polling. They said, well, we voted for our sons. We sort of feel like the playing field has gotten unbalanced. The rhetoric in the community, the... language usage, the threat to white men. We voted for them. So let's talk to the moms for a second.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
So, Richard, what would your message be to a concerned mom? Let's use the three children, three sons ages 10 to 14. She sees the anxiety in them. She sees this cultural shift. What do you say to her and how do you get her to feel better and how do you get her to do actionable things that help them?
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
And we'll ask the question, for men to do better, doesn't that mean women will have to do worse? The answer, of course, is no. Here's part two of my conversation with Scott Galloway and Richard Reeves. I'm going to play the progressive here.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Welcome to Lost Boys, a podcast dedicated to shining a light on the unique challenges young men face today and an exploration about what we can do about it. In our last episode, Scott Galloway and I spoke with author and researcher Richard Reeves. He wrote the seminal book about the challenges young men face today called Of Boys and Men.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
I'm going to say, guys, I hear you, but there was five, six, seven hundred years of white male privilege throughout European society, eventually spilled over into American society. And frankly, the women were not even allowed to vote 125 years ago. They got the vote 105 or so years ago. And a result of which everything that's going on today is a counterbalance.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
I don't know what you think, Richard, but I completely agree with every word of that. And by the way, like or dislike Donald Trump, he's got good political instincts. He's still hammering that. We've had a plane crash, and he's talking about DEI policies facilitating it. Whether that is true or not, it hammers the bludgeoning, if you will, of the issue.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
I got myself in trouble because I said about the democratic convention to one of the senior leaders, as I watched it on TV, if I was an alien coming in from Mars, I would have thought that the only people on planet earth were blacks and women because the only people they were showing on the television. And they got really mad at me for saying that.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Let me put you on to something that seriously upgraded my closet. Quince. You know when you get a shirt that just clicks, feels good, looks good, and you end up wearing it way more than you thought you would? That's exactly what happened to me when I picked up a few pieces from Quince. They've got everything you actually want to wear.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Polos, t-shirts, shorts, pants that work at a work lunch, or watching my two young boys play football after school.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
and the best part everything with quince is priced 50 to 80 percent less than what you would find at similar brands i picked up a t-shirt a long sleeve and a linen shirt from quince and now they're basically all i wear the t-shirt's solid the long sleeves perfect for travel or for meetings and i just wore the linen shirt in bermuda and all the young folks were asking me where it was from my wife's happy too she doesn't have to pack 10 different shirts for me anymore i bought the high-end brands before
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
to what's happened over hundreds and hundreds of years. And again, I don't believe all that. I'm playing the devil's advocate because I want you to respond to it because that's some of the policy pushback.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
But Quince holds its own easy. Same quality, way less money. My closet's cleaner. My fits are better. And I don't have to overthink what I'm packing anymore. Elevate your closet with Quince. Go to quince.com slash lostboys for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. That's Q-U-I-N-C-E dot com slash lostboys to get free shipping and 365 day returns. Quince.com slash lostboys.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
Let me key off of the coach for America. And I agree with what you just said, because that's where I think we need to go. I think that there needs to be a system, you know, and I've said to Scott, I call it belay. That's the term when you're rock climbing and you're trying to help somebody up the rock mountain, you're belaying with each other.
Lost Boys
Why the problems of young men are ignored, with Richard Reeves.
The system of coaching, what would the components be, Richard, if you were going to devise a system of coaching?
The Basement Yard
#491 - Joe's Birthday Episode
Wait, that's an expression? Like you sold me a lemon? Yeah.
The Basement Yard
#491 - Joe's Birthday Episode
Sometimes I send them to the merch store. Okay. Sometimes.
The Basement Yard
#491 - Joe's Birthday Episode
Oh, the veins. I see the veins. So what they did was they put food sources on the specific cities that they want the trains to go to, and then they used the fungus to map the best way to those food sources, a.k.a. cities, and they used that. That is unbelievable.
The Basement Yard
#491 - Joe's Birthday Episode
What'd you get that for me for Christmas or something? It was a cranberry wine.
The Basement Yard
#491 - Joe's Birthday Episode
A horse horn? No, bad one? No, it sounds like your horses are coming towards you with a horse horn.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Dems Ignore Garcia Reality, Karmelo Anthony Family Speaks Out, Bernie Flies Private: AM Update 4/18
In wake of this tragic incident, our family has been under attack. Whatever you think what happened between Carmelo and the Metcalf boys, my three younger children, my husband, and I didn't do anything to deserve to be threatened, harassed, and lied about.
The Ramsey Show
Be the Tortoise Not the Hare
Great. So I graduated undergraduate about four years ago, and I've been working in consulting ever since. And I've just been treating Bitcoin as like a savings account, just kind of dollar cost averaging into it for a decent amount of time now. And I'm contemplating if I should, you know, pull out and reconsider long-term savings strategy or continue down this road.
The Ramsey Show
Be the Tortoise Not the Hare
No, I don't have a savings account, but I have like a 401k, but this is like the majority of my savings.
The Ramsey Show
Be the Tortoise Not the Hare
I have about $70,000 in student loans, federal and state combined. How much do you have in Bitcoin? Probably over $200,000.
The Ramsey Show
Be the Tortoise Not the Hare
I don't know. I think It's kind of like if it's not broke, don't fix it. I understand. It's definitely volatile, and I've experienced a lot of psychological, what's the word, ups and downs.
The Ramsey Show
Be the Tortoise Not the Hare
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, psychosis. But the last four years, all I've done is dollar cost average and effectively outperformed every hedge fund on planet Earth. So it's like, I see what you're saying, I guess having all your eggs in one basket sort of argument.
The Ramsey Show
If You're Intentional With Money, You Can Win With Money
Mr. Dave, hey, thank you for having me on. Sure, what's up? Well, I have a question. I am currently on a plan right now to pay off my house in the next 20 months. Every penny that we've saved, we've dumped into this house, we've made extra payments, and we are currently looking at kind of the end of our mortgage, which is so satisfying. Wonderful. It is.
The Ramsey Show
If You're Intentional With Money, You Can Win With Money
My question, though, is my company offers a 403B and a 457B. And I'd like to start maxing those out instead of my house payment. But someone told me that, you know, when I'm ready to retire 15 or 20 years from now, I'm going to get hit with so many, this big balloon, we've hired minimum distribution payment that it's not worth investing in just those accounts. I should look at something different.
The Ramsey Show
If You're Intentional With Money, You Can Win With Money
I'm just wondering what your advice would be on that. How old are you? I'm 49. Oh, good. What do you make? I make about 120. My wife makes about 250. Okay.
The Ramsey Show
If You're Intentional With Money, You Can Win With Money
My wife does. Yeah, we have two Roths. We each have our own. We've got probably 70,000 on our Roth. I currently have about 80,000 in my 403B. Does your 403B have a Roth option?
The Ramsey Show
If You're Intentional With Money, You Can Win With Money
Now that I know it, we haven't double-checked that.
The Ramsey Show
If You're Intentional With Money, You Can Win With Money
Okay, and I'm nervous about getting hit with this if we stay with a 457, a 403B, and a 401A. Well, here's the thing.
The Ramsey Show
If You're Intentional With Money, You Can Win With Money
And do I do that after I retire?