We Can Do Hard Things
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met? (Best Of)
Sun, 16 Mar 2025
1. How to create lives that we don’t need to escape from. 2. Why our resentment toward others is our Secret Self-Care Signal. 3. Why refusing to be selfless is the best way to care for others and the world. 4. How to stop passing down the brutal legacy of martyrdom to our children. 5. Glennon’s life-changing spiritual practice: Habitual Quitting. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is the concept of deep self-care?
Hi everybody, it's Glennon. Welcome to We Can Do Hard Things. Thank you so much for coming back. Today we're talking about self-care. but we're going to talk about deep self-care, inner self-care. So much of the self-care we see sold to us everywhere is just about the care of our outer shell, right? It's self-care as manicures and skin cream and massage and all of that.
And I happen to love all that stuff, but that's not the self-care we're talking about today because that kind of self-care is It's like if the only way we ever cared for our car was to like shine the hood, right? There's a whole nother self we have that is on the inside that we ignore so often. And often the kind of self-care we're sold, which is just about the outer shell, is really more about...
other people's experience of us instead of our own experience in our own body, right? A lot of that kind of outer shell self-care feels more like meeting the world's needs for us than meeting our own needs. Okay. So today we're not talking about grooming or appearance maintenance.
We're talking about getting beneath the hood because there is an inside of us that needs care for many of us that desperately needs care. Today, we're going to talk about how to return to and care for that true, tender inner self that we've likely been abandoning forever. Let's wake up that inner self.
Let's invite them back to life with the promise that from here on out, we're going to take good care of them. Let's get started. Okay, sister, we are talking about self-care today and everybody has a different definition of what self-care is. So tell me what self-care means to you.
For me, self-care is meeting your needs. And the problem is that many of us don't really know what our needs are, much less how to meet them. So we're just throwing darts at the wall based on what the marketplace offers us as self-care. and performing triage when things get really bad. And there is plenty on offer since the self-care industry is currently like a $450 billion industry.
And so we do this instead of taking the time to know ourselves enough to know our needs and making the incremental life adjustments that actually meet them. Or maybe that's just me.
No, it's not just you. So if we're constantly looking outside of ourselves for what self-care is, first of all, that's so ironic, right? World, tell me what I need. But if we ask the world what we need, the world will always offer us commodified things. versions of that kind of help, right?
Right. And when you think about it in, in any need that you have, if you look to the, ideally you should be able to look to the proposed solution and be able to draw a direct line back to the need. But I don't think that Many of us are doing that. I think we're just kind of looking at what the world offers as self-care, thinking if we add enough of that, we should feel taken care of.
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Chapter 2: Why is identifying real needs crucial for self-care?
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