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Chapter 1: Why Do Small Things Matter in Life?
Some of my friends were really struggling. I wish I would have noticed. I wish I just would have asked. You know, I've lost a few people to that. And it hurts. It hurts because the small things matter. They do. They matter. And there were certain times I wish I could be there for people and I wasn't.
Every time I've looked at any big thing that affects me in my life, any kind of problem, any kind of issue I've had with my mentality, with myself physically. it was always the result of smaller things. It was always a buildup over time. It's not like my emotions and my thoughts eroded in one day. No, it was over time. And that has led me to believe that the small things matter.
They actually matter a lot more than we think. The small decisions that we make every single day that we think are going to be inconsequential, that we think, well, whatever. No, they add up. And I wish it wasn't that way. And I wish that we could just wish it away. But there's a good chance that you have been doing small things to yourself every single day.
You don't even realize affect you now in the way that they do. And maybe some of them aren't even conscious. Maybe you have picked them up from a family member, a certain kind of role model. Or maybe you have just created them on your own, right, as a coping for something you didn't have or as trying to figure out and deal with an emotion that was rooted within you.
But it doesn't change the fact that these small things, they matter. And there's a good chance that they have added up. And now they're pressing on you. Heavy. What do we do? Oh my goodness. Okay. The first thing we do is we have to acknowledge that there is a problem with the small things in our lives. That we have an issue.
And maybe the issue is not actually the fact that we binge eat, that we are gaining weight from binge eating. In my case, that was a big thing. Or that we are choosing bad partners, which was also a thing I did a lot because we were trying to seek something out of them within ourselves. It's more about figuring out why you ended up there. What is the trigger of that?
Because the bullet is the action. But someone had to pull the trigger for the bullet to release out of the chamber. So what is it? What is the small thing?
sometimes you don't really know you kind of just do it and then after a good while you look back and you're like oh right sometimes we're getting you know hints by the author early on in the book and we got to read a couple chapters for it to click and be like wait a minute this was happening all along it's easier said than done
Because oftentimes when we catch ourselves in this kind of pattern, it is not comfortable because we realize that we messed up and we messed up big time. And then we look back at the domino effect of our past and we realize that, wow, everything in my past has led to this moment. And we have a decision. We have a huge decision because in the same way,
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Chapter 2: How Do Past Decisions Affect Our Present?
You just make a little burger, a little chicken bowl, a little Chipotle copycat recipe. I love that. That's low-key my favorite. And then over time, you start this kind of habit of just making food for yourself, and you start feeling really, really good about yourself. And those are the small things. Most people would be like, man, that's such a waste of time. Cooking is a waste of time.
But honestly, cooking is not all about the food as it is also about just the self-love because you have to take and sacrifice time out of your day, which I know is busy because we have memes to watch and we have Kendrick Lamar albums to stream. That's life. OK, you know, we have things to do that.
Taking time out of your day to, like, create something for yourself and feed yourself like, you know, it's a choice. It's a it's an active choice. And you can make the the ground turkey with rice for the 20th time in a row. Or you can switch it up and add some hot sauce or like add some seasoning. You know what I'm saying? I've been on the gym bro grind more times than I'd like to admit.
And it's... We can season our food, okay? Seasoning does not have that many calories. But low-key, sometimes you get afraid of it because you're like, I don't want to gain weight again. Oh my goodness. Jeez, that's a whole nother... Anyways, the small things matter. They do. The small acts of kindness throughout your day matter.
Believe it or not, if you act with kindness, chances are kindness will follow you around. When you hold the door open for somebody and you don't expect anything in return, you just do it because you want to be kind and that's a thing for you. In my experience, good things happen.
conversations are started, you know, when somebody drops all of their coins in the cashier line at JCPenney, and you help pick them up. That's some grandma, and she says, oh, you're really cute, you know, let me set you up with my granddaughter. And then you find out that... The granddaughter is actually the girl that low-key is kind of bad.
This did not happen to me, by the way, but it's fun to imagine. You know what I'm saying? The small things matter. The small things always have mattered. It's in the details. There's so much in the details. We fail to realize this time and time again because we get cooped up in the big picture, the big picture, the big picture. But the big picture is made up oftentimes...
in this case, of tiny pixels, of very, very tiny pixels that all work together. And that's kind of your life. Your life is a lot of tiny pixels. And maybe you feel like some of those pixels have, you know, not represented you the right way. And you feel like some of those pixels aren't even yours. I'm sorry. I'm sorry you feel that way.
But you can still make such a beautiful image of what you have left. If you're in your early 20s, you're not cooked. If you're 18 and you don't have a partner, you are not cooked. Oh my goodness. Like, you're going to be fine. You're going to be fine. You're probably going to have to go through more in order to be fine. You might have to go through less. Who knows?
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