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Chapter 1: Why do we feel the need to be rich?
We're told all the time, sacrifice your 20s so you can enjoy your 30s. Sacrifice your 30s so you can enjoy your 40s. Sacrifice your 40s so you can enjoy your 50s. And then what? And then what? You probably want to be rich. you probably want to have a lot of money.
That's probably something that you deep down know would solve a lot of your problems because we have always been taught that money is success and money is something good and money is status. Growing up, maybe there was a group of kids that were from the affluent part of town. Maybe they grew up in Inverness and you grew up in Palatine and
And you realize that, dang, I would love to have 40 pairs of Jordans that came out every single week. I would love that. I would love to get a hoverboard during Christmas. That would be great. And so as you went through the rest of high school and, you know, you would ask your parents, hey, could I get, you know, some Lululemon pants, some leggings, some ABC pants?
And they would say, what, do we look like we have a mommy? Are you crazy? You instilled it in your brain that you needed to make a lot of money. That was an expectation that was put on you because that made you feel inadequate growing up. Why am I speaking as if this was me? Because it was me! It was me. I always knew when somebody I grew up with had money and I was envious.
Until I started to work for things myself and I started to put time and effort into things myself. And I started to meet people who were very successful, who had a lot of money. Different kinds of successful too. Sometimes they worked their boonda off to get it. Other times they had a family member who got a lot of money and then they, you know, passed it down a few generations. It's interesting.
All of them still have problems. All of them still have stress. All of them are still worried about a lot of the same human things that we worry about. Not having enough money. That's a very privileged place to be in, right? Like, let's be completely real. There's a good chance you have a desire of wanting to be rich. It's the American dream. You want to make a lot of money.
You want to be successful. Whether that is because you didn't have it growing up. Whether that is because you're a first gen kid. And your parents sacrificed everything. And you feel indebted to them. And you want to retire them. Or it's because everyone around you is doing good. So you feel like that's the standard. And maybe right now you are grinding like an animal in a cage.
Because you want to get to a position where you will have a lot of money and you will be using that money to patch up the holes and the insecurities of your childhood, of your adolescence, where you didn't feel as worthy because you didn't have it. And that's good. I'm glad that you have this motivation.
I'm glad that when you wake up in the morning, all you can smell is green, green, dollar, dollar bills, y'all. I love that. Good for you. But what about now? What about right now? Because what I said earlier, right? Let's rewind. A lot of those people who have wealth still stress and have the same problems that some of us have right now.
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Chapter 2: How does childhood influence our desire for wealth?
But so many of us spiral into this deep dissatisfaction with ourselves and the way that we are because we are wishing that we were somebody else, because we were wishing that we had money and that we had somebody that loved us when we don't even love ourselves. We don't even have the respect for ourselves. We have just deprived ourselves from anything because we're thinking in future Zerky terms.
You're thinking in future you terms, right? But what about now? Let's say you have started to sail pretty smoothly. You feel like you are doing well in college. You have a good social circle. You're feeling like, who knows, maybe you graduated college and you're in your professional life. You're in your professional girly era. And I love that for you. I'm rooting for you. That's dope. Shout out.
But there are things in the back of your mind that are making you feel as if there is more for you to do. And there are things that are weighing on you because you see it in your friends' lives. They have a partner. They're getting married. They have a kid. That's crazy. They are achieving some kind of position at a job that makes four times what you're making.
In college terms, maybe you have friends that are joining high-level clubs. They're becoming presidents of organizations. And you are realizing, dang, I feel inadequate with the type of things I've done in the past. And right now, I also feel like I'm not doing enough. It's good to be honest that you feel that way. It's good to be real about the fact that that's how you feel. Even with the money.
You feel like you want to make money and you want to build some kind of wealth for yourself. We judge it because it sounds corny, but we think about it. Everyone thinks about it. Be honest with yourself then. That's all I'm asking is be honest with yourself. Don't deprive yourself of it because your friend group is going to think you're cringe for it. Who cares? It doesn't matter what they think.
It's your life. Your friends are not deciding your life for you. But what about now? We've got that out of the way. What about now? Because you can keep wishing for it and you can keep thinking, oh man, well, you know, Jack is doing all these things and yeah, it would be really cool to be more involved on my campus. Oh, it would be, yeah, Jeffrey is having this incredible raise at work.
Oh, it would be incredible if I could be in those shoes. You've got to do something about it. You have to. Because the urgency is going to pass and you will get comfortable. And I think it is harder to bounce back from that kind of feeling of just being comfortable. Because it's chill. Because it's awesome. Like being comfortable is like a top ten, probably top five human feeling.
Honestly, it's probably one. Like when you're comfortable, bro, I feel like it's like the best thing ever. Like, you know, you're chilling on the couch, you're watching, I don't know, Severance, which I haven't even watched yet, but I'm imagining it's good because that's all I see on this app is Severance edits. Shout out Severance one time.
And, you know, you're eating some mac and cheese that you made with protein pasta because I used to do that. Dude, honestly, if you're going to make mac and cheese, just make the mac and cheese. You know, I don't know. I used to make protein mac and cheese. And I'll probably tap in once again. You know, like the cottage cheese. You know what I'm talking about?
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