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Chapter 1: What happens when life doesn't go according to plan?
what happens if your life doesn't work out none of it none of the plans none of the ideas that you have in your brain of how you want to live life you wanted to do some kind of investing in some crypto and get yourself a yacht and then the crypto tanks and you are in debt and you have to mortgage everything you own and then you have nothing i have nothing what then
Chapter 2: How do we cope with unexpected changes?
Okay, well, I'm no financial advisor. I don't think you should be really investing in things unless you do your own research. I'm not going to sit here and pretend like I know any of that. But one thing I do know is that life has one constant thing. And that is change. And that change, sometimes it doesn't favor us.
You know, Lil Yachty, whenever he raps, he says in the beginning, he says, it's us. But life does not think that way. No, no, no, no, no. Life, it has its own course. And there is this phrase I remember my English teachers having on the walls of their classroom in like circa 2010s. And it said these words, and I live by these words because they have kept my sanity. Keep calm and carry on.
Chapter 3: What does it mean to keep calm and carry on?
Carry on. Now, I'm not talking about carry on like a plane, you know. You take a carry on on a plane, which now they be taxing that. You can't even bring a carry on without paying an extra $700. What is going on? Why can't I just take my backpack and put it in the overhead bin compartment? All right, anyways.
Carrying on and keeping calm are two things that you will have to learn one way or another in life if you want to literally keep your mental sanity. Because if you do not, you will not have them. Sorry, you won't have it. See? I could have freaked out at the fact that I misspoke. But I kept calm. I was nonchalant about it. I was like, hey, I messed up. It's cool. It's cooler. It's smoother.
I just kept calm and carried on. And this is so important because you will witness everything in your life crumble within hours at one point or another in your life. Whether that is, I don't know, you said something behind someone's back and you were really trying to be kind about it, but you said it in a way that was kind of rude. And then it's just like they find out.
And then on top of that, you get a flat tire on your way to Chili's to meet your hinge date for $60. And that will happen. And then your mom will call you and tell you that the dog is sick and that you need to come home and take care of it because she's going for a nail tech appointment. It's like, what is going on?
And I think a common mistake that we make when everything hits the fan is we take everything personally. Like it is an attack on the universe against you. And this is... It's valid. It's valid. I mean, like...
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Chapter 4: Why do we take things personally during tough times?
bro like when everything goes wrong how can you just like sit there and be oh i'm chilling how do you keep calm you can't you can't keep calm unless you understand that your calmness will come from the way in which you react Because every time I've reacted with emotion, with genuine rage, like a rage monster from Dude Perfect reference, I dig myself into a deeper hole.
Chapter 5: How can we improve our reactions to life's challenges?
It's like a crab on the beach that keeps putting sand on him. And it's like, why do I do that? Because really when you look at it, it's not gonna fix anything. It's not like that's going to fix the problem. And so I started looking at all of these moments in my life as more of a test. Which is, I know it's copium. Okay, I know. It's like, well, Zerky, what if my dog got hit by a car?
Chapter 6: What are the common mistakes we make when things go wrong?
Yeah, that sucks. That's actually terrible. I wouldn't want any... I wouldn't want my worst enemy to experience that. Dude, like, not even, like, you know, the owner of Chili's. Like, respect, bro. I got your triple dipper. I thought it was good. I just thought the prices were kind of high for what I got. That's all. That's my only beef.
But it's like... We really be crashing out over the smallest things. Let's keep it so for real. It's not that we're crashing out over the heavy hitting things that come into our life because those like when it has gravity, you feel it. And it low key paralyzes you. So it's like I've never in my life crashed out over something like a very big change.
Funny enough, all of my crash outs have been on small things that were controllable. They were things that I wanted to avoid, and it was my fault. Almost like 90% of it has been my fault. 10%, all right, you know, it might have been somebody else's fault, and I was just like, bro, why did you leave the dishes in the sink for a week, bro? I had a roommate.
In college, I would leave the dishes a lot. And I'm not a saint. I've left the dishes before. Hundo P, you know, I'm not going to sit here and say I'm perfect when I'm not. But, bro, how do you leave the dishes for a week? Let's get back to this, though. Keeping calm and carrying on. I loved... this little moment in internet history, the keep calm memes, you know, keep calm and watch the office.
Keep calm and eat avocados, you know. Keep calm and eat bacon. You guys remember when everyone was obsessed with bacon and avocados? Jeez. Y'all had to be there. You had to be there. But keeping calm is...
so important in practice because it allows you to have a very level-headed perspective on the things that are going on because usually we stress about things that are not in our control and we crash out over things that completely are. For example... A big thing that has been a common theme in my life that I've crashed out over is just not being prepared for when I want to go out and work.
I used to be super good at getting ready in the morning. I would actually prepare the night before so that I had all my stuff ready for the morning and I was just ready to go. I had my outfit picked out. I was like a little kid. I knew what soccer jersey I was going to wear to school. Usually it was between my Barcelona jersey or my Didier Drogba Chelsea jersey.
That's my favorite Chelsea player of all time. Unk knows ball, all right? And yeah, I would crash out when I started to lack preparation. When I started to just be like, I'll do it in the morning. And then the morning would come and I'd be like, oh, don't talk to me until I've had my coffee. And it's like, and then I'd be getting pissed at myself because nothing is prepared.
And I'm like, I needed to leave the house 30 minutes ago. And it's like, brother, you did. But like the 15 minutes that could have been spent preparing yourself, you know, the day before for the day today, you spent it. Yeah. You spent it watching things. That's really what it was.
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Chapter 7: How does preparation influence our daily challenges?
You'll have the Eurorail Pass on lock, Paris to London. And it'll still get derailed. And then what? Same thing. You got to keep calm and carry on. Because the alternative is very simple. You just keep crashing out and you keep getting upset and your threshold for what you can withstand in life is going to become so low, so low, no Frank Ocean, that you will crumble.
You will crumble in the face of any kind of adversity. Listen that it's your life. It's your life. You can do and deal with emotions. However, you want to to do it But man it's gonna get harder It's gonna get harder it will Because soon in your life you won't have many things to blame other than yourself for a lot of your mistakes and Now, of course, there's other things we can blame, you know.
Eggs being $5 million is not awesome. It's not cool. And, you know, me dreaming about a house that one day I could own. It's a dream. What was I doing in 2008, bro? I was seven years old. I should have locked in. I should have locked in. No, no, but... Calma. Let's calm it down. Calma. At some point, it's just going to be you.
You won't be able to blame the mistakes on your parents, on your friends, on your environment as much as you think you will. I know I have a friend who, funny enough... Their dream was to move to a place with a beach. And I remember them telling me, Zerky, like, I'm so unhappy here. I hate this place. I hate Illinois. If only I had the beach, I would be so happy. I can meet my dream.
Girl, like, everything will be good. And I was like, yeah, hey, fam, like, that's cool. That's a great dream to have, but, like... I don't know, dude. Yes, I want to leave this place too. But I don't think that just leaving will solve every problem. I don't know. I think it'll be a good challenge, but I don't think it's going to solve every single problem you have. And you have a lot of problems.
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Chapter 8: What lessons can we learn from our mistakes?
And I remember him being so convinced. No, no, no. Your cap. Your cap. That is the only thing holding me back right now. It's that I don't have the beach. I don't have a beautiful boat I can sail on. And fast forward, he ended up moving. He did, he moved all the way down south to a beautiful place with a bay, with sandy beaches.
And I visited him only to find out after I asked him, after he put on a little front and did his little dance that everything's good, you know, how are you actually? I remember he kind of didn't want to admit it at first.
But in the small comments and the small remarks, in the way in which he would get pissed off that the light didn't immediately turn green while we were at a stoplight, he was the same. He still hated everything. He was still crashing out over everything in his life. And he had everything. Everything he wanted, at least what he thought he wanted, right?
And I was like, dude, I don't think that this really has... Done what you thought it was going to do for you. And he's like, I mean, yeah. But you know, like... That's life. And maybe my life is just bad. I don't even really know what to say. I was like, dude... Maybe instead of the crash outs, you got to keep calm and carry on, man. Because everything is a problem all the time.
And that is such a big pet peeve of mine. Like someone who has a problem with everything all the time. It's okay to complain. You should complain. Sometimes there are moments where complaining is actually very important. Very important. And you have to make your emotions known. Because if you bottle it up, oh man, then you're going to crack that bottle and it'll be, it'll be pandemonium on earth.
Versus if you just say, yo, can you stop doing that please? For like five seconds. That person will be like, oh, my bad. Yo, my bad, bro. All right, cool. We're chilling. But I think this idea that the world is out to get you is dangerous. It's very, very dangerous. Because everyone faces adversity. Everybody. Everybody. Now, do we face different levels of it? Yes.
Am I facing a different adversity going to Chili's than this crypto bajillionaire on the yacht? Yes. Yes. Is it fair? No. It's not fair. No, it's not. But you have to take it how it is. Because your other option is things stay the same. And if that's what you want, hey, I'm for it. Sure. But just know you might be missing out on a better reality.
One, that when things hit the fan, it actually doesn't mean that everything is going to go down the drain immediately. No, no, no, no, no. It actually means that You're being given a little test on how bad you want something or how bad you want to change as a person. We often encounter this when we try to change too. Like we'll try to adopt a new habit, a new mindset. We'll be like, this is it.
I'm going to get my beach bob this year. And then day three hits of being on the workout routine. You wake up at 11 a.m. instead of 9 a.m. And then it's like, well, what are you going to do? Because I know what my internal dialogue is. Don't talk to me until I've had my coffee.
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