what would your life be like if you stopped caring so much?
Chapter 1: What would life be like if I stopped caring?
What would my life be like if I didn't give a frig a freak F-U-C-K. Such a beautiful word. But sadly, we give it out like we're a charity every single day. You walk down the street, you see a guy that is looks maxing, famously looks maxing. You look at him and you're like, man, this guy is mogging me right now. He's the jawline that could cut through 20 apples at Whole Foods.
Chapter 2: What is the role of self-love in personal improvement?
And me, I'm just not good looking enough because I haven't been on my diet. I haven't been eating right. Bro, it's not true. Self-love is such a weird thing, such a weird thing to understand as a man. What is self-love? Because I hate everything about me. Rewind that. I feel like I need to hate everything about me because how will I improve if I don't? Oh, that's the problem. That's the problem.
Everything we've been taught to make progress, I feel like, is rooted in hating yourself. It's rooted in this feeling of like, I'm not good. I'm not worthy enough. Think of your whys about for a lot of your life. Why did you get into going to the gym? It's because you thought you were ugly.
Chapter 3: Is self-hate necessary for motivation?
It's because the girl that you wanted to impress looked at you and thought you were a twig or said you were too fat. The reason I started working out was because my girlfriend in my freshman year of high school that broke up with me, that was the popular cheerleader, she told everyone I was fat and ugly and that she would never get back with me. And you know what I did?
I went right into the gym and I burned every gallery off my body. And guess where it got me? Back to this. Daddy bod. So you're fucked, bod. You're fucked. But okay, let's actually unpack that because I think it's important. A lot of our self-improvement is rooted in the deep nature of hating what you see and trying to make something good. I don't think that's a bad thing.
Chapter 4: How do negative experiences fuel self-improvement?
You need to burn, you got to burn some kind of fuel. And hey, if your fuel is that your Tinder date stood you up or your Grindr date stood you up or your Hinge date stood you up or whatever, frig it, bro. Like, use that fuel. I'm not telling you not to. You know, hey, if you got the fuel, use it.
But then when you use the fuel and you get to a certain point in your life, you're looking back at it and you're just like, damn. What do I do? Where's the good fuel? I've burned the 87, you know, the 87 fuel. Like, I want some premium. I want some good fuel. And you don't really know what that is. And I'm at the point now where it's like. I had to start looking for good fuel. And that's hard.
Chapter 5: What does it mean to find positive motivation?
It's not as easy because when you have a negative motive, it is so easy to shut off your feelings and be like, this woman made me feel this way or this person made me feel this way. I'm going to make sure I never feel like that again. And literally like two years later, you're going to feel like that again. So spoiler alert. That's what happens.
A lot of our improvement of who we are is rooted in negativity. And that's okay. You should burn off that fuel. But I'm just telling you, you also got to find a way to love yourself for it. Maybe a way of doing that is when you've reached a certain position, you acknowledge it. You don't say, oh, I could be better. In my personal life, I just released a great video with a brand. And
I should be so proud of myself. Regardless of what it does, I should be, and I am. This is the problem. It actually takes intention to get emotions out of you and be like, well, I actually do feel proud about this. But on the surface, I'm like, well, it doesn't have X amount of views, so I'm a failure. I failed. And I suck. And no one will love me.
No one will respect me because I'm a failure, which isn't true. It's not true. It's all here. This is your best friend and worst enemy right here telling you, you know, you suck.
You suck, dude. You didn't do it. You suck.
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Chapter 6: How can talking to strangers benefit you?
So, frankly, you know, what does it mean to have self-love? What does it mean to love somebody else? I don't know. Let's not even get into that because I ain't good with love yet. I'm working on it. But you know what is good? I'll tell you guys something. I'm a big fan, famously, of talking to strangers. I love talking to strangers. Anybody and everybody. I'll put you on game.
If you're between the ages of 0 to 99... You should talk to everybody if you want to. Because strangers are goaded. They are goaded. Here's the new meta. This hasn't been patched. Fresh new meta dropped. Hasn't been patched. Talking to strangers is good for your soul. It's very good for your soul. Especially if you find a good stranger. Because guess what? A good stranger turns into a good friend.
Chapter 7: What lessons can be learned from conversations with strangers?
Famously Famously Man, I love talking to strangers. I love shooting the shit. I love finding things to be curious about. It's a choice. Because you learn so much. If you treat... You know, I treat my conversations with people and with strangers as just like collecting XP in a video game and collecting knowledge.
You know in Fallout where you can kind of build out your character, you have different traits? I look at that with strangers and the knowledge that I can collect from different strangers. Because, let's be real, the truth of the matter is...
I'm not really going to go out of my way to collect a lot of information other than the things that I'm really passionate about or I need to collect information about. So when I meet somebody who has lived a different experience and they can pull from their life experience and give me some little nugget here or there, I'm going to take that nugget and use it in another conversation.
And then I'll be able to build a bunch of nuggets of information. And then I'm going to die. And then I will be dead.
We can do everything that comes. Das Handwerk.
But anyways, it makes you actually really appreciate people.
Cause people are sick, dude. You know, who's also like actually goaded. All right. Tap into old people. Cause old people are like yapaholics. All of them. They just, they don't stop talking and they've lived. Ask them, literally ask an old person about any historical event. And they'd be like, Oh yeah. Like, man, I remember. Yeah. It was, Kennedy getting shot was crazy. I was like 15.
I was in front of the, the, you know, television and it was black and white and it was crazy. Or, you know, ask any like unc, unc status, unc adjacent person, like where they were on nine 11. Wow. You can get hashtag deep with someone about that kind of topic for us. That's going to be COVID. Like you're going to ask your kids are going to be like, daddy, where were you during COVID-19?
Then be like, son, What do you know about COVID? I'll tell you something about COVID. So utilize that because old people are the goats, man. They really are. And I know people are going to be like, well, they messed it up.
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