if you wait for the applause, it'll never come.we often wait for others to celebrate us so much that we forget why we do things in our own lives. don't get me wrong, being celebrated is a great feeling. I love being told that I'm doing a good job. however, that only feels genuine when I'm working on doing something that matters to me. if I focus too much on how I will be perceived and what it will do for others, I lose track of the essence of who I am.be yourself, be genuine, and most importantly, celebrate yourself.sending you lots of love and peaaaaaaaaaaace!https://stan.store/thezurkieshow
Chapter 1: Why is celebrating yourself important?
One of the reasons I think people burn out is they don't know when to admit they've done a good job. When to recognize, you know what, I'm chillin'. That was a good job on my end and I deserve to take a break and I deserve to get myself that $9 latte that I cannot justify the price of. Why? Because I need to celebrate myself. You need to celebrate yourself in your life. Do you know why?
Chapter 2: How can waiting for others to celebrate you lead to burnout?
Because nobody, I promise you, nobody is going to do it for you. I have learned that with my birthday. I have made the conscious decision for the past two years to not celebrate my birthday. Just no. Why? Because it's like, well, that's what I tell myself, but it's actually because I think people will celebrate it for me and I will have a nice surprise party and that would be awesome.
But guess what? Celebrating yourself is more important than that surprise party. It is more important than, you know, waiting. You have probably worked very hard recently. I don't know what it's been that you've done, but maybe you were studying for an exam and you did a great job.
And instead of acknowledging that you did a great job on that exam or that you had a great date, you went on a date, you were anxious, the date went well, you had a great day where you were productive, instead of celebrating yourself, you punish yourself for it. You tell yourself, no, no, no, no, no. That should be the standard.
Chapter 3: What are some ways to acknowledge your achievements?
That's how every day should be because you're comparing yourself to people that do that. That's their daily routine with the Saratoga water and rubbing a banana peel all over their face. And you think that's, that's what I should be doing.
And you're confused as to why you don't make progress and why you're not able to continue the momentum of changing your life, your routines, your habits, your day to day. I don't know. Maybe it's the fact that you are not giving any kind of positive reaffirmation or positive feedback to you doing something good for yourself. Instead, you are actually giving yourself more work.
And I get it, you know, the reward for hard work is more hard work. And there's a lot to be said about that, right? If you do not take just a minute to acknowledge, yo, that was sick that I did that. That was great that I got this opportunity and I aced it. Why would you work to get that opportunity again? Why? You wouldn't. And you won't. Celebrate yourself.
Chapter 4: How can you reward yourself after hard work?
You've wanted to go on a trip to visit your friend that moved across the country. Okay, make that something that you're going to work towards. Make that something that will be the celebration to a very hard thing in your life. Maybe that's getting your taxes done and go. And go.
You told yourself that you were going to buy some Air Maxes that your mom could never afford to buy you in middle school once you get that promotion at your job or once you graduate college. Buy them. Why do we suppress it? Why do we tell ourselves, you know what, no, no, no, I don't deserve this. It's like whatever, it's life. You worked so hard for that, you should be able to celebrate yourself.
And it works in the other way too, because if we do those things too often, then it does not hit. And if we do not let ourselves struggle a little bit in our own lives to obtain, to get to a certain position where we can enjoy these things, they lose all meaning. If you eat ice cream every single day, it won't hit the same as if you eat ice cream once a month. Once a week, even.
Because you know, once, you know, you get that scoop in the waffle cone... And it's drizzled in chocolate sauce. It's got some sprinkles on it. Mmm. You know, once you get it in your hands, that you're celebrating yourself. Yeah, boy. Oh, yeah. But I think it's a really dangerous thing, man. I think that a lot of people... Do not recognize when they do a good job and when they have done well.
It's the same thing as when people compliment you. I sometimes am like, really? You think I'm doing good? Like, I'm just doing me. I don't know. And if it's good, that's great. But it's kind of an odd thing. But I think it's important that you recognize it and also, geez, that you celebrate other people around you and you tell them.
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Chapter 5: Why is it essential to give positive affirmations to others?
You tell them that they're doing a good job when they're doing a good job. Because we don't do that. We don't do that enough. And we just let people think like they're just, yeah, that's the standard. Like the next time someone makes a good burger for you or gives you a good matcha, say that it was good. Tell them. Tell him what's up. You know, tell him what's up.
Because maybe that person needs that in order to be like, yo, I can celebrate myself and I can be like, I'm doing good. But instead, we just close ourselves off. And we create this really negative feedback loop. And it's like we never give ourselves a break. We tell ourselves that we cannot go on that vacation even though we can afford to go on it.
And it's like really like a couple hundred bucks but we think it's going to be like 20 grand. We don't work within the confines of what we have. Instead we stress because we don't have the best thing. It's like celebrate yourself with what you've got. And if that is like If that is eating something other than chicken and rice while you're on your gym bro diet, so be it. That's beautiful.
Chapter 6: How does self-celebration affect your motivation?
Make one of those incredible protein-heavy recipes that you see people make on here. Do it. You've got to celebrate yourself. You've been consistent at the gym for a month. That's a beautiful thing. Celebrate it. Remind yourself that hard work is worth it. Because if you don't, you will not work hard. What is there to work hard for? We work off of feedback.
We work off of knowing that something is doing well. And, you know, when we start out with something new, sometimes there's no feedback. Sometimes there's not even any information if we're doing something good or not. It's kind of like, oh, I guess. I don't know. Sure. Sure. So set some kind of benchmarks for yourself. Make it fun to exist as you. Make it fun.
Because if you don't, you have nothing to look forward to. Because it's like life is life, you know? You kind of have to, it's kind of a free roam. You gotta make your own objectives. It's kind of like, it's Minecraft, man. It's chicken jockey all over again. It's literally, you have to decide, what do I want to do? I want to go to the nether.
Alright, so you gotta work, and then when you go to the nether, you can eat a golden apple as your celebration. You know? Celebrate yourself. Because there's no... There's no moment where I think you will be like, Yay! No. No. If anything, you're going to get to a certain point. You're going to buy those Louboutins. You're going to be like, what?
But maybe those Louboutins mean a lot to you and you want them and they represent something to you. That's great. That's great. Celebrate yourself. Get them. But if it's just, well, when I do this, I'm going to get the Louboutins because my friend did that and it seems cool. Yeah, it's not going to hit. Obviously, it's not personalized. Like you have to personalize it to you. Life is individual.
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Chapter 7: What are the consequences of not celebrating small wins?
As much as we are in a tribe and we are together and we are working to not make Chili's a $60 experience and we want to get it closer to the 50-40s mark, we are all different. We are. We all have things that we like. We all have things that we dislike.
so you need to you need to understand what will keep you motivated and what will keep you going because times will be tough and times will get so tough very quickly and you just the only thing maybe that will keep you going is the idea that you can celebrate yourself and you can just take a break you're going to be swimming underwater breaststroke
And then all of a sudden you're going to gasp for air. And that moment is when you celebrate yourself and you're like, I'm doing a good job. And then you go right back into the water and keep trudging. But again, if you do not build that for yourself, it won't exist. Nobody is going to celebrate it for you.
You can be celebrated, but if you do not celebrate yourself, if you don't have a good relationship with that, then you're going to wait for it and that will not come because you will not be able to be happy with your own progress. You won't be able to celebrate yourself and tell yourself that you've done a good job when you have done a good job.
It has been a battle for me to be able to feel content, feel at peace. It's still a battle with me sometimes. But I feel now like I am able to celebrate myself more. I get a, every day feels like a celebration sometimes because I get to do what I love. And I celebrate that every day. I wouldn't take it for granted
And there's moments, there's been moments recently where I have noticed that I have. And I've been like, I can't be, you know, I can complain. Sometimes complaining is valid, but I cannot look the other way on this. Like, this is something very special. And the people in my life right now are very special. And you, the Zerky Show fam, you are very special. Don't you ever forget that.
So it makes me really, really happy and it makes me want to continue to celebrate myself. And for me, it's, it's simple. I like simple, simple things like having a nice meal, trying something new. There's an Afghan restaurant in Austin. I'm going back to Austin today. I cannot wait to try it, bro. I've marked it on my little Google Maps calendar, and I'm like, I'm going there.
That's my little celebration. I'm munching on some food. I love doing that. I love doing that. I love getting a nice cup of coffee. I love going for a nice walk. I love traveling somewhere new. It's always been that. It's always been that. You know, it's nice to experience the nicer things in life. It is. But the simple things, the simple things to me are a celebration.
And that's how I celebrate myself. When I've had a long day and I take myself out for a walk and I feel good and I look at the different leaves and trees and I'm like, all right, this is dope that this exists in the same universe as Chopped Chin, in the same universe as Friggin' Packet, in the same universe...
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