sometimes we need to treat ourselves as if we were a D.I.Y. project that your dad was obsessed with even though your mom begged him to "just buy it" at Menards or Home Depot. it takes time to change, but more importantly, it takes evidence.if you feel like the evidence is stacked against the person you want to be, you won't believe in your progress. just try to focus on the things you can do for your new self, even if it's a small thing each day.sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaace!!!https://stan.store/thezurkieshow
Why is it hard to believe in personal change?
Of course you're frustrated with yourself. Of course you're not happy with who you are. Of course. Why would you be happy if you lack evidence? Why would you believe in that if you don't have anything to back it? There's a simple reason you don't believe in the changes you're making in your life. Very simple. And it's the fact that you are building against a mountain. What? What?
Your life as a new person, as somebody who is just figuring out the changes that they want to make and how they want to implement them, you are stacking that up against the old version of yourself, the part of you that you are trying so hard to not be like. You, my friend, you lack evidence. Plain and simple. You just haven't built the evidence yet. And it is a hard journey.
So hard to build that evidence. But what we fail to recognize, especially in our life, I think, is that evidence is crucial to everything. You need examples of the person that you want to become. You need to do things that embody that. If you genuinely want to change, you need to implement these kind of things into your daily life, even the small things.
You want to have a better relationship with yourself, right? You want to take care of yourself a little bit more than you do right now. I get it, right? Maybe a big thing for you is that you feel like your life is being led by others the entire time. Totally fair Well, what would be a small thing you could do today that could at least make you feel like you have one thing that's in your control?
Maybe that's something as simple as making a cup of coffee in the morning for yourself. Or maybe it's a little bit more complicated. You want to build a certain kind of journaling routine that embodies, I don't know, your life. You record your life and you talk about the things that you're doing. I'm in Miami, Florida right now. Definitely would want to write about that. That's pretty cool, hey?
Look at this. GTA 6 confirmed. You can hop on a boat in GTA 6. Evidence. Evidence. You lack it. I think this is where your frustration is coming from. It was a big frustration for me. I remember for a while, I wanted to be the idealized person. I wanted to be the perfect person, and it's just... Man, it kept me going insane because in all honesty, I couldn't do it. I couldn't do it.
But I think that sometimes we conflate our want to be perfect and be a perfect person with just wanting to feel like we accept ourselves. And some people will tell you that, oh, if you want to accept yourself, you just got to do it and then you're embodying it. But I don't think it's that easy.
I do think that there is work to be done and it's about having some kind of concrete, consistent evidence that backs up the fact that, yo, I'm actually making a change. Even if it's a small thing every day, I'm actively making a change and I'm doing something for myself or I'm doing something towards wherever I want to go. I used to be really frustrated about my career
Because for me, my career, that was what defined me for a long time as to, like, my self-worth. Which, I'm not going to lie, it's a slippery slope, man. I mean, it's cool to do something cool, but if you tie all of your self-worth into it... Uh-oh! Who's calling my phone? It's rough. It's rough. But...
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