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Chapter 1: What does it mean to have real friends?
that's not a real friend they don't have your best interests at heart a wise man once said they not like us they not like us they not like us and i remember thinking about this quote being like how genius is that because there have been so many moments in my life where i thought they not like us they're not like me when in reality You are them. Okay, what am I waffling about?
Chapter 2: How do your friends influence who you are?
This is, what does this mean? It means you are your friends. You are the people you hang around with consistently. You are the person that you surround yourself with. When you're young, you have the time to do things. You can afford the time to mess around with your friends, to work a job that you don't really give a sigma about, doesn't really matter.
Chapter 3: What are the dangers of hanging out with the wrong crowd?
You have the time to get experiences and do things, right? It's great. But if you're surrounded by people who are going to pull you into experiences that aren't good for you, that's gonna mess you up bad. Think about it. Are the people in your life that you're surrounded by really good for you? Because you are them. You are them. No, no, I'm my own thing. No, you're not.
Chapter 4: How to identify friends who don't have your best interests at heart?
Not when you're in a group. You are them. You are the people you associate yourself with. No, I'm completely my own thing. Not if you spend like every day with them. And I'm not saying that you gotta cut people out. But you have to really examine if the person that you think is your friend is your friend,
Or are they kind of pulling you into some weird situations and you're kind of like, that's odd. I don't like this. I kind of need to distance myself. Because I've been in groups where, quite frankly, the people there didn't have the best interests for me. It was transactional. I had the loot that they wanted. I had the gold scar. And they had the slurp juice. And there's a difference.
There's a difference. There's a difference. but you are them at the end of the day. You are them. So many people, so many good people in this life get caught up in the wrong crowd. And I've had friends who I've tried to pull out of things. I've tried to be like, what are you doing? You are so much more than this. You are so much more than your hometown friend group.
Chapter 5: What should you do if your friends are holding you back?
You could be out here doing big things. But they get this, but they don't do anything about it. So what if you realize that your friends that you're around, they're not the people you want to be around? It's a great realization to have, but it's also a hard-hitting one. Because think about it. You spend so much time with people. You get to know them.
Chapter 6: How can you love friends from a distance?
Part of you is kind of like, I don't want to just cut people out. It's rough. It's rough. Don't get me wrong. But what I've learned in my life is some people you have to love from a distance. You got to keep them at a distance because you have to put your priorities first. If they're with genuine intention, because if someone is your friend, they want the best for you, period.
Chapter 7: Who do you want to be and how does that affect your circle?
There's no if and or buts. They want the best for you. And if they get upset at you because you're trying to improve, you're trying to change, you're trying to be a better person and you want to spend more time around people who you want to aspire to be like, that's not a real friend. They don't have your best interests at heart. Now there's a difference because it's tricky.
I was just talking about my friend who I was trying to pull out of a bad circle. What I might perceive as a bad circle, maybe somebody perceives as a good one. And that's really out of your control. What's in your control is asking yourself the question, who do I wanna be? Because when you figure that out, then you know what your circle's gonna look like. Who? Because you are them. You are them.
You are the five people you spend the most time with. People say that, but when you really look at it, you are that. You adopt the same characteristics. You adopt the same thought patterns. If you're around someone who's always nagging and negative and they're like, I don't want to be here. You're not going to want to be there. You're not.
And chances are, you're going to adopt that same mindset. This is so mid. Oh, you're right. This is so mid. It's how we are.
As humans, it takes a lot of strength to be like, actually, this is not mid. I am enjoying myself at this function. That's not an easy thing to do. You are them, bro. You are them. Your friends can be so monumental to structuring how you grow as a person. And sometimes they might be stunting your growth. I've had so many people in my life that have been like, I know you. This is who you are, bro.
And respectfully on some David Goggins, you don't know me, son. You do not know me, son. Like, you don't. And part of that is my fault too, because maybe I was trying to befriend them and I wasn't being genuine with who I was. And so they created this idea of who I was because I wasn't being hashtag real. My bad. Sorry about that. It happens, right?
Like we can't be perfect, but what we can do is we can be honest. Are these friends really good for you, bro? I don't know if they're good for me. I don't know if you should hang out with them. Yeah, but they're from my hometown and we have so many memories. It's great. But you know what also is awesome?
You going abroad, you going to a new city, you going to college and meeting people that you can't even imagine and having a relationship with them that you can't even fathom because of how good it is and how much they push you and how much they actually care for you. That's the difference. And it doesn't mean you have to cut off those relationships. That's not what that means.
In fact, maybe some of the people that you met early on in your life, those are the real ones. but maybe some of them you gotta move on from and you gotta love them from a distance.
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