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What does rejection mean for personal growth?
You were so excited to ask them. You almost thought it was a lock that they would say yes. That you could take them out on a boba date. And then you could go get lunch somewhere cute. And then you could go sit in a parking garage that overlooks the little area in your city. And it would be romantic. But before any of that happened, they said no. And now you feel stupid.
That's always how you feel when you get rejected. You feel stupid because you assumed that it was going to be an automatic yes. You assumed that you had it in the bag. All of your friends gassed you up and they said, girly, he's into you. I even did a manifestation for you. And guess what? It's a yes. But it was a no. How do you recover from something like that?
How do you actually willingly sit down and say, okay, it is what it is. It's not what it is. I wanted them to say yes. And them doesn't necessarily mean it's a person. It could be a place. It could be a thing. And oftentimes it could be an opportunity. I've had a lot of rejections in my life that were hard to take. I had a lot of them. I've had a lot that just like were soul crushing.
You apply to a job, you go through four rounds of interviews for them to say we've put the position on hold. No, that is the biggest cap I've ever heard. But it wasn't until I remember my mom telling me something after I had a failed date that I went on a date with a person I really, really liked in theory. And I was like, man, it would be an honor to be able to date them.
And they were like, you know what? I see you just as a friend. You're like a brother to me. I don't want to be your brother. I want to be your boyfriend. If I was your boyfriend, I'd never let you go. But they let me go on some passenger, let her go. So I was in this position where I was talking to my mom and I'm like, mom, I got rejected. What do I do?
And she was just like, Zerky, it's a great thing you got rejected. I'm like, no, it's not. It's not a great thing. I'm going to get laughed at at school. One. Two, it kind of hurt my masculinity. I thought this person liked me because I was macho. And it turns out, no, they don't like me.
And I remember my mom saying this to me, and it's something that has become deeply burned into my mental hard drive, especially when I go through any kind of adversity or hardship, which happens all the time, every single day. Get ready for it. Rejection is redirection. Rejection is redirection. Okay, mama, relax. What do you mean when I get rejected, it means I am being redirected?
My mom explained to me that in our lives, there are certain things that we might feel entitled to, certain opportunities, a dream person, a dream school, a dream city, a dream career. And oftentimes we will put a chokehold on that vision of what we want, of that thing that we desire. And when it comes down to it, sometimes that thing isn't good for us. And we think it's good for us, right?
Because we are so entrenched in our own thoughts and we think, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. This is something I need. But what if that thing is actually going to do you more harm? It's easy for you to say that, right? Because we don't really know for certain, right? Nothing is for certain. I thought it was for certain that you could go to Chili's and spend under $60. Try that for me.
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