the winter arc came and went. and we didn't reach any of our "goals." here's why that's ok.
Chapter 1: Why didn't we achieve our winter goals?
It's not realistic. It's all forced. Sun is down. Freezing cold. That's how you already know. Winter's here. Speaking of winter, a lot of us went on a winter arc. And we failed. I'm not even going to be like, oh, and we read 10 pages every morning and we locked in. No, we totally didn't do any of that. You know why? Because I didn't do any of that. And I was like... Winter arc, yeah, I like that.
Chapter 2: What does it mean to force goals?
Yeah, that sounds great. I'm going to go on the winter arc and I'm going to... Oh my gosh, I'm going to... Don't force it. A lot of the things that we think we want, that we think are our goals, aren't even what we really want. They are... a melody of the influences we've heard online. Now, it's different to get inspired by something.
Chapter 3: How do external influences shape our aspirations?
You watch a video and it's of someone running a triathlon and you say, hey, I want to do that. That looks great. Sick, dude. That's freaking awesome. But there's a difference between getting inspired and then hearing someone say something and be like, Huh, well, he said that I should want that, so I guess I do. Now, this is kind of ironic, because that's literally what I do.
And to that I say, you should one million percent be listening to a bunch of different perspectives. I am just one. I am just Unk. That is all I am. But there are hundreds of thousands of people with different perspectives, different backgrounds, different lives to take from, to understand, to learn from. But...
A lot of us, including me, are very susceptible to someone telling us to wake up at 5.30 a.m., to go run for two miles, then go to the gym, then eat 20 egg whites, because that's what we should be doing in our 20s.
We can do everything that comes. Das Handwerk.
Chapter 4: Should we follow conventional advice in our 20s?
Or that we should be hunched over.
at a computer locked in because that is what we should be doing in our 20s or that if we're living at home we are a loser because we should be out in a big city because that's what we should be doing in our 20s are they right maybe maybe they are right maybe that is what we should be doing But maybe we should ask ourselves, is that what we want to be doing? Because, I'll be honest, no.
Chapter 5: How can we identify what we truly enjoy?
No, I don't want to be doing that. No, I like to wake up early every morning. It's great. I love seeing the sunrise. It's awesome. But running two miles every day? No, I don't want to do that. I would love to run playing soccer. I love soccer. It's my favorite sport. Give me a 1v1 any day over sprinting. Of course, I'll do it. Give me playing center defensive mid any day over a long run.
I will do it in a heartbeat. That's because I want to do that. That's what I like. And I don't force it. Now, in order to know if you're forcing something, you have to know what you like. And for a lot of us, we don't know what that is. We've kind of gone through life listening to what other people have told us we should like and should do.
And maybe we've come to a crossroads where we're like, dude, I don't even know what is. I don't know. I don't know what I like. And so you should try. You should try a bunch of different things. That's for certain. But for those of us who know. And we're just hearing people tell us, like, bro, like, you should, nah. Don't, why are you spending time animating? Stop it.
You should, like, lock in on crypto. Okay. Don't force it. Don't force it. I have this problem where I equate being the best version of myself to being a machine. Wake up. Drink egg whites. Work on video for 10 hours straight. It's not realistic. It's not. It's all forced. And you need discipline and consistency. Don't get me wrong. You need that if you want to succeed at something.
But if you're forcing it and it feels just like you're throwing yourself at it and it's not hitting, stop. It's time to go back to the drawing board. The best things that you're able to stay consistent with and stay locked in on are the things that you find some kind of joy in. And maybe it's changing something in order for everything else to flourish.
Maybe you're not meant to wake up at 5.30 in the morning. Maybe that's not you. Maybe the best time for you to wake up is 8 a.m. And you're going to be 20 times more productive. Maybe the best thing for you isn't actually starting a business. It's working for somebody and learning about business before you decide to do your own thing.
Maybe the best thing for you is to put the phone down and go for a walk. Maybe the best thing for you is to pick up the phone and start calling some numbers and making some cold calls. I don't know what it is. But if it feels like you're forcing yourself every time to do it, no, no, no. Don't force it. It ain't for you. It just ain't for you.
I'm going to end this video on a little caveat from my own personal life. All of my life, I thought that I wanted to play soccer at a professional level, football. I wanted to play with Christian Pulisic on the men's national team. I wanted to be the defensive center mid. I would feed him balls. He would go and dribble half the team and score. It would be awesome. I played a little bit.
I was consistently playing, playing pretty good. I was pretty all right. But when I went to the next level and I met kids who literally eat, breathe, and poop, soccer, it was game over. It was game over because everything I tried to do was me forcing myself. I didn't find the joy in it the way that they did. They were willing to stay after practice and just play for hours, for hours.
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