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Chapter 1: How can you design the life you want?
Once again, 512-580-9305. Today, I'm gonna be going through a five-step process to design the life that you want. Have you ever just woken up and thought to yourself, like, how the hell did I get here? Like, you were actively participating in your life, But you didn't really build exactly what you wanted. I don't know if you've ever felt this way. I've definitely felt this way.
And I remember waking up and I was like, luckily still younger. I was about 28 years old. I remember being like, if I fast forward my life five years and I get, I do really well and I make more money and I get my manager's job. I'm not going to like the life that I have. Like, what the hell am I doing with myself? I need a full reset.
And I have many people that come to me and they're like, hey, I need to redesign my life. I need to start it over. I need to change something at least. How do I do it? The first thing that we need to talk about, and this is not one of the tips, but I just want to say before we dive into it, is this is the truth. No one's coming to save you.
Chapter 2: Why is it important to realize no one is coming to save you?
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you know, certain tribes, you'd go off into a cave for five days and eat, you know, five handfuls of mushrooms or something like that. And then you come out and you're like, now you're a man or now you're a woman. Now it's like, oh, you just go to college. And we still have this feeling kind of lingering in the back of like, is someone coming to help me? Like our parents were there.
Our parents were always telling us what to do. And now they're not telling us what to do. And so it's like, we never really get this full like cutoff of like, hey, you're an adult now. This is your decision. There's no one coming to save you. But I do want to tell you that before we dive in.
And if you want a life that excites you, that fulfills you, that gives you a sense of purpose, you have to be the one to create it. I'm going to go through this simple five-step process to design your life. Your life, not the life that someone else expects of you. Not the life that your parents told you that you needed to be or else you were a loser.
Not the life that just kind of happened to land on your lap. But the life that you want to actually create. And this is the way that I think of today's episode. Confucius had a quote that was very famous and says, we have two lives. And the second one begins when we realize we only have one. And so we kind of live this life unconsciously.
And then we wake up one day, we're like, oh my God, I've only got one life and I'm already 40 years into it. I need to do something about it. So hopefully this is the start of your second one is when you realize that you only have one. And from this moment until the day you die, you're going to do what you want to do. So let's go through the five step process.
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Chapter 3: What is the first step to designing your ideal life?
Number one, you've heard me say this before if you listen to podcasts for a while, but you have to get crystal clear on what you actually want in your life. If you don't know what you want, you will always feel lost. If you don't know what you want, you'll never quite feel like you got what you were looking for in this life.
Because you never got really clear and said, this is what I want, this is what I'm shooting for. This is something that I see so many people struggle with. I have people that come up to me after talks or in the streets or send me emails or I'm on Zoom calls in some of my coaching sessions in Mindset University. And they're like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
I want to create the life I want to create. And then I say, okay, well, what do you want? I've never gotten a really good answer. It's always this vague, nebulous idea that they explain to me. And I'm like, listen, it doesn't sound like you've gotten very clear on what you want. And if you're not clear, you're not going to get it.
Chapter 4: How do you identify your personal definition of success?
And I always say like one of my first mentors used to give this example on why you need to get so clear on what it is that you want. He used to say, if you were to take the number one archer in the world and you were to give him a bow and arrow, he's going to beat you every single time because he has way more practice.
But if you blindfold him and spin him around, who has a better chance of hitting that target?
you why just because of the fact that you can clearly see where it is and he has no idea where it is most people are blindfolded throughout this entire life and what i'm trying to do is make you say hey i'm going to get really clear on what it is that i want and so too many people chase success quote unquote success without ever stopping and asking themselves what is their definition of success
If I were to ask every person listening to this episode right now, what's your definition of success? All of you will have completely different answers. And if you don't know what success is, your version of success, you'll never really truly be fulfilled. And as Tony Robbins says, success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.
Maybe you've been conditioned to believe that success means money or success means titles or achievements or approval from certain people or becoming famous. But real success is living a life that feels deeply fulfilling to you. Regardless of the money in your bank account, regardless of all of the achievements, or what other people might define as success. So what makes you the happiest?
What makes you say, that would be a successful life for me? That's what you need to figure out. You might be a doctor right now and be worth a million dollars a year because that's what your parents told you to go do.
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Chapter 5: Why should you journal your vision for your ideal life?
But you might just be the happiest living in a country, in a small house with your children and your spouse, working on a family farm, making enough money doing side jobs just to pay the bills and save a little, even though you went to school for years. You'd be better just spending the majority of your time raising your children into good humans. And that's what you want to do. Good. Go do that.
Let's say you're not a doctor. Let's say you're struggling to pay the rent. Okay, well, what do you need to do in order to, if that exact same life is what you want, in order to get a small family farm, whether it's something to rent or to save up enough money to buy it to eventually get there? What does success mean to you?
For some people, success would mean something completely different than living on a small family farm and raising little tiny humans. But without clarity, you just keep drifting and reacting to life instead of actually sitting down and designing it.
So you need to intentionally design every aspect of your life with clarity, not with vagueness, so that you know what you're shooting for and what you're working towards every single day. This is really the biggest first step and probably the most important. So you've got to ask yourself the right questions. What does my ideal day look like from start to finish?
How do I want to feel every morning when I wake up? What kind of work excites me? How do I want to spend my time? Who do I want to spend my time with? What kind of lifestyle would make me feel the most alive? What are things that matter most to me in my life? Whether it's freedom or creativity or family or impact or adventure, whatever it is for you. And so write it all down.
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Chapter 6: How can building a life around your strengths lead to fulfillment?
Don't just think about it. Document it. Write it down. The act of writing helps you turn these vague desires into a clear vision. Then when you see it in front of you, it becomes more real. And I always say when it's on paper, it can be planned. really hard to plan things in your head. And so I challenge you to spend 10 minutes every single morning journaling about the life that you want.
Not the life that you have, the life that you want, and getting more and more clear and just bringing a little bit more clarity to that vision. And then you'll start to see patterns emerge and you'll go, you know what, I do actually love doing that. It'll give you more clarity over time. So that's the first step. The second step is
is to then start to take action towards that by building a life around your strengths and your passions too many people try to force themselves into careers or lifestyles that aren't really a good fit as i'm you know getting older i'm seeing this i'm seeing so many people that are in jobs that i'm like why do you have that job that doesn't make sense with your personality it doesn't make sense with the way that your brain works and those jobs just drain them because they have to use so much energy to do those jobs
So they pick jobs because they're safe or they pick jobs because they decided when they were 18 years old to go for a major and now they're 50 years old and it's completely different than what they thought. At 18 years old, I didn't know who I was. I didn't know how my brain worked. I didn't know what my personality type was like.
And that's why so many people wake up and they feel unfulfilled is they don't build a life around their strengths and their passions. And we will be right back. And now, back to the show. So you need to build a life that plays into your natural strengths. When you operate from your strengths, the work feels pretty effortless. It's really interesting.
You get into a flow state where everything can kind of disappear and you feel fully engaged. You know, what would look like work to other people but feel like fun to you? Like for me, I've told you this before on the podcast, I love researching human neurology and psychology and early childhood development. Those things are so interesting.
And I love learning them and putting them all together and then teaching them into lessons. That's fun for me. For a lot of people, they'd be like, screw that. I would never want to do that. I get that. I have things that I hate doing as well. Do you know what I hate? I hate building and fixing stuff around my house. I don't, I just hate doing it. My friend Alan loves to do it.
Remodel his entire house by himself. When I need something hung up, I'm like, hey, can you come hang something up with me? And then we'll hang up a TV together because I don't want my TV to fall on my kid. So I'm just like, please, Alan, come over so I don't screw this thing up. So he loves doing that type of building. He also loves cooking. I hate cooking.
So like him, his natural inclination is to go towards building something as far as like a meal or building and fixing something inside of a house. If I was in construction, I just wouldn't fit. But that could have been a job I picked up when I was 20 years old. I'm like, well, I've been doing it for so long, I might as well keep doing it. We're different people. We all have different brains.
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