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Chapter 1: What advice would I give my 24-year-old self?
Recording this right now, I'm 44 years old. But if I had to go back and give my 24-year-old self some advice on becoming successful even faster, here's what I would say. Welcome to the Martell Method. I went from rehab at 17 to building a $100 million empire and being a Wall Street Journal bestselling author.
In this podcast, I'll show you exactly how to build a life and business you don't grow to hate. My best-selling book, Buy Back Your Time, is out now. Grab a copy at buybackyourtime.com or at any of your preferred online retailers. Number one, true humility isn't about diminishing yourself, it's about elevating others.
I meet people sometimes and I give them a compliment and they go, oh yeah, but I actually suck at this. And I'm like. Hmm, interesting. See, what they don't realize is diminishing themselves is not humility. Say, thanks, I've been working on this because I got some great help from this person here.
That's actually more impressive and the right way to work through life because if you're always talking down to yourself, then why would anybody want to work up with you? If you instead take that energy and shine it on other people, That's humility. Saying that you're not that good, giving somebody an open to criticize you is actually the opposite. It's actually false humility and not a good look.
Number two, a smooth sea never made a strong sailor. Jim Rohn used to talk about it all the time. You can't control the wind, but you can control how you set the sail. A strong sailor understands how to set the sail. Everything gets better when it goes through some level of adversity. If you wanna be better, don't wish the sea was smoother, wish you were a better sailor.
Number three, discipline can fix 80% of your problems. One of the most unique things in this world right now is consistency. Watching somebody be consistent, go to the gym for 30, 40, 60, 90 days in a row, most people don't realize if you can just build that discipline muscle and show up every day, it'll fix most of your problems. Number four, when people show you who they are, believe them.
I've learned over the years when somebody shows up and they're disheveled, they're untrustworthy, they're confusing to talk to, don't pretend like that's gonna magically go away. Instead, understand it won't. Number five, red flags never go down. Anytime I've gotten into business with somebody and my gut told me, I shouldn't.
I've now realized if there's a red flag, if I feel it in my soul, I'm gonna move on. No proof needed. Number six, the person who needs nothing can't be controlled. Your attachment to outcomes, your attachments to goals, your attachments to how other people need to behave for you allows that person to control you.
Your need of anything from anybody else is their ability to control your emotions, your happiness, your life. If you can get to a place which I encourage you to consider of showing up, being involved, but being unattached, then you can't be controlled and you get to create from a place of freedom. Number seven, everything you're insecure about is what makes you you. Think about this.
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Chapter 2: How does humility affect success?
Sometimes people want to take a bite out of something that's too big because it forces them to show up. The problem is that the bite's too big, which then creates a scenario where they're going to fail because they don't trust themselves.
They take massive action and take risk around things that doesn't make sense, where if you just showed up and created the discipline, the foundation, then that massive action's got some footing to sit on. It might feel slow at first, but trust me, be impatient with action and patient with your destination and build a foundation where you can set up and load up and shoot a massive cannon.
Number 12, you can't use someone else's map to find yourself. I believe that every person is here on earth to go on the journey to discover themselves. In many ways, goals are only as useful as they guide you to discover who you are. Other people trying to tell you the path, the journey, giving you their blueprint, it might give you clues. But the only place you should be looking is inside.
Before we get back to the episode, if you wanna jumpstart your week with my top stories and tactics, be sure to subscribe to the Martell Method newsletter. It's where you'll elevate your mindset, fitness, and business in less than five minutes a week. Find it at martellmethod.com. Number 13, if you're not constantly contradicting yourself, you're not growing fast enough.
If you think of the idea of growth being change, learning new things, you're getting new perspective, then by the fact that you're learning and growing, things you used to believe, decisions you would have made in the past are no longer true, which means you're gonna have to contradict yourself. There's a direct correlation.
The faster you grow, the more you realize that the way you used to do things can't work anymore. I always say to people, Often wrong, never in doubt. I know what I'm doing isn't gonna get me to where I'm going. I have strong opinions about what that might look like today, but I'm on a growth game, which means I'm going to contradict myself.
Six months from now, I'm gonna say something and it's not gonna align with what I shared today, but that's okay because that's the whole point. If you are on a constant growth game, it will feel contradicting. Number 14, true abundance comes from appreciating what you already have. You don't need anything to be happy.
When I work with clients one-on-one, I always ask them to make a list 25 years from now, dream a little bit. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to create with your life? And they make this magical list of things that they envision. And I love that for them. I love that they took the space to download, create from their creator, design this life.
But then shortly after, we're going to sit down and I'm going to remind them that all those goals, those dreams, those outcomes you want to achieve are just criteria you've made up to give yourself permission to actually be happy. to be content, to feel fulfilled. And the truth is none of those need to be there for you in this moment to feel that way. You can literally go to gratitude.
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Chapter 3: Why is discipline key to solving problems?
Other friends come into my life for a season, maybe a specific phase of my life, my relationship status or the journey I'm on and the kind of work I'm doing. That's a season, a city I live in. That's totally fine. And then there's those people. I don't know if you've ever felt this, but I know it's true for me where I meet them and I go, this is a lifetime person.
This is somebody who's got a big heart, incredibly talented, cheerleader, somebody I want in my life for the rest of my life. And those people you have to cherish. My mom used to say, if you could just find five people, fill up one hand, folks that you would consider best friends, that you lived an incredible life, that that was a life fulfilled. And I just think that's what I'm always looking for.
And I use the fact that some people need to be removed out of my life, the reason or season, so that I can make space for those that are a lifetime. Number 36, what you focus on expands. It's just true. Focus stands for follow one course until successful. If you wanna win, focus. Focus means the decision to go all in. Focus means that you say no to 99% of the stuff.
Focus means that you've given yourself no other option. When you hear burn the boats, the boats have been exploded. There is no other option. There's only one potential outcome and it's winning. And when you do that, when you focus on it, it will expand. See, most people want their bank accounts to expand, but they don't focus on them. They haven't looked at their bank account.
They don't measure it. They don't look at it. I look at all of my goals three, four times a day. Why? What I focus on expands. If I want these things to come true, I got to get eyes on them. I got to connect with them. Say, does any of my time in my calendar reflect these priorities?
So don't tell me that you want to expand your life if you don't focus on the activities that actually would do that. Number 37, the freest person in the room is the person with no secrets. If you think about it, the person that has no secrets, nothing they're ashamed about, nothing that nobody knows about, they are open about who they are. Then they walk around with this lightness. There's no ego.
They're not sarcastic. They're not jokey. I mean, I see these people and I know they're hiding stuff. Why would you say that? Why would you act that way? Why would you have to wear that? Why do you look this way? When somebody says something to me, I ask myself, why did they want me to know that? And oftentimes it's because they're trying to hide something.
The more you do the shadow work it's called, the more you go to the depths of the bottom of the sea and you investigate what's down there and you give yourself permission to bring it to the surface and get some sunlight on it, you will feel so free. And if you're feeling like a prisoner of your life, it's probably because you haven't done that work.
Number 38, don't make the mistake of becoming good at something you hate. I see people all the time. They're like, I'm not good with numbers. I'm going to go become great at numbers. No, you don't have to. You need to be able to do something with it, especially if it's part of your work, but you don't have to be good at it. I can be in business and not be good at something.
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Chapter 4: What should you do when people show their true colors?
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Chapter 6: What role does adversity play in personal growth?
You can feel absolutely full of grace and it takes nothing to feel that way. Number 30, your boundaries can make other people feel uncomfortable and that's their problem. Express your preferences. Express your boundaries. Let somebody know if they've crossed them. Hey, I just want to let you know that kind of language doesn't fly with me. Hey, I hear what you're saying.
We don't need to use other people's names. We can have this conversation without disclosing who is involved. Because honestly, I feel uncomfortable when you share that. I'm a big fan of saying this is who I am. This is what I'm about. And I have no problem sharing that with other people. The ones that resonate with that game on, we're going to be great friends.
The people that have a problem with that, that's their story and journey. And it's not my problem. I don't need to be friends with everybody. The longer you go trying to be liked by everybody, the longer you will stay in your prison. Number 31, not all pain is meant to be resolved. Some is meant to be felt. Had a friend recently had a massive realization and they shared that with me.
And I said, feel the feels. There was nothing for me to do. There was nothing for me to say. There was no thing to try to fix. All I shared with them is feel the feels. Oftentimes those feelings show up because it's allowing us to process. It's allowing us to clear. It's allowing us to make sense of the situation.
And I know we have this tendency to always want to either stop hurting or fix problems or find the meaning of the insights and why I'm going through this. Sometimes it's just to feel the feels. There's no place to get to. Just allow yourself to not push the feelings away.
Let them come to the surface because sunlight sanitizes when we take the things that we're scared or ashamed of and we allow ourselves to feel that. And if we have the courage to share it with other people, like my friend did with me, I'll tell you on the other side of that is a feeling of lightness. Number 32, conformity is the silent killer of creativity and innovation.
Doing things as you've been told, as they've always been, is where innovation goes to die. If you actually wanna do something that doesn't exist, you're gonna have to break the mold. You're gonna have to push the boundaries. You have to go test. There's this thing in science called the local maxima. And essentially it's the concept of the mountain that you're climbing, having a peak.
You could find out that there's a bigger mountain that you could go discover, but to get to that bigger mountain, you have to go down the valley of the current one to go through that valley to come up the other side. That's conformity.
That's doing things unlike everybody's done before, willing to potentially find something bigger and better, but being okay that if you don't, you just learned a lot. And I think too often people are like, this is how it's always been done. This is how I have to do it. If you wanna innovate, you wanna create, you have to be willing to be misunderstood.
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