In this episode of The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex, I sit down with special guest Brittany Charm to have a real, unfiltered discussion on modern women vs. traditional women and what it really takes to land your ideal man in today’s dating world.✅ What men truly want in a long-term partner✅ Feminine energy vs. masculine energy – How to create relationship balance✅ The biggest dating mistakes women make✅ How to position yourself to attract a high-value man✅ Are traditional values still relevant in 2025?💬 Do you think modern dating standards are helping or hurting relationships? Drop your thoughts in the comments!📌 Subscribe for more insights on relationships, business, and personal growth!👍 Like, comment, and share if you found this conversation valuable!CHECK OUT BRITTANY CHARM! : https://www.instagram.com/charmbeautyconnection/?hl=en“Your Network is your NETWORTH!”Make sure to add me on all SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS:Instagram: https://jo.my/paulalex2024Facebook: https://jo.my/fbpaulalex2024Youtube: https://jo.my/ytpaulalex2024Linkedin: https://jo.my/inpaulalex2024Looking for a secondary source of income or want to become an entrepreneur?Check out one of my companies below to see if we can help you:www.ATMTogether.comwww.CashSwipe.comFREE Copy of my book “Blue to Digital Gold - The New American Dream”www.officialPaulAlex.com
Chapter 1: Who is Brittany Charm and what is her background?
Well, aside from working for the government, I was an HR analyst for over 10 years. So I have a really, really good, vast knowledge on how to carry yourself, how to conduct yourself in meetings, how to always be professional, and just how to be a lady because I was forced to at an early age. I started with the state at only 20 years old.
But while doing that simultaneously, I also worked and did makeup. I was a makeup artist, so I've done makeup for over 15 years. And along with that, I was a personal stylist, so fashion expert. So with those three things, You know, I've always kind of had a hold on everything as far as being successful in corporate, being successful in beauty, being successful in fashion.
They all go hand in hand, especially when it comes to putting your best foot forward, presenting yourself in dating, because the example that you set in person should always mirror the example that you set on social media. And that's something that I've just always had down.
Okay, so let's go ahead and do a little Q&A. I'm going to do a little bit different style of interviewing style since I do have my wife on here. Guys, usually I go in, I ask those hard questions. I'm still going to ask some hard questions. You know, that's just the nature of the game. This is called the level up, right? So we about to level up on this episode, right babe?
Yes, we are.
No, that's right. Okay, so Brittany, question numero uno.
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Chapter 2: Are modern dating standards too high?
Okay.
Are modern women too entitled when it comes to dating or are men just not stepping it up?
Both. Both. So what's happening is men and women are actually not dating at their level. So they're either dating up too high or they're dating down too low. So what's happening is people have a false sense of reality because of social media. It's kind of given people, you know, it's made average people think there's something wrong with being average.
So let's talk about that real quick. When you say it makes the average person feel average, what do you mean by that?
Well, for example, we were both nine-to-fivers. What's wrong with marrying another nine-to-fiver? What's happened is on social media, everybody sees like these yachts and this extravagant lifestyle. They feel like that's always attainable and that's the only way for happiness. That's not true. You could be happy married to a cop. You could be happy married to a lawyer.
You could be happy married to a firefighter, a truck driver. It all depends on whether you guys are a match. That's essentially it.
So what you're saying is... People, whether it's men and women, they have too high of an expectation nowadays.
Yes.
Okay. And, you know, I guess, like, we always have this conversation. So I guess the thought process of, you know, back in the day, you know, when we were in our local towns, all right? And this is not to talk shit about townies, but it is what it is. And you move to a large metropolitan city like Miami or possibly San Diego, right? Now you're exposed to...
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Chapter 3: What are the challenges of dating in a social media age?
it can affect men and it can affect women or it can't because guess what even if you aren't at the level that you want to be you can always get yourself there that means you need to step up your looks get in the gym eat better maybe use better you know face products get a dermatologist get an esthetician it may mean that you need more etiquette as far as you know experiencing new things taking yourself out to dinner i always tell women
date yourself first. You can't tell a guy that you wanna go to Nobu or you wanna go to Javier's and you've only ever been to Sizzler. So, you know what I mean? You can give yourself those experiences and expand your own horizons so that you can be in the marketplace to be with someone who's of the who's who, but you have to put yourself in that position.
Just like you always tell men all the time, you know, step it up, be a family man, be traditional values. If you want to have a higher caliber woman, then you need to elevate your finances, quit living paycheck to paycheck, get a second source of income, right?
Yeah. Yeah. No, that, that, that makes a lot of sense. And you know, it comes with the whole red pill, blue pill movement. And I always tell people this, it's like, You know, I actually know quite a few of those podcasters that do like the whole red pill, blue pill thing. And they're great guys. They're great guys. Nothing against them.
But I think what, you know, they need to clarify is, you know, the people that are watching these influencers and content creators, they're not at that stage of the game where they can just go blatantly, just go ahead and down anyone because they haven't made it to that point in life. where they've achieved greatness, right? So, no, I totally agree.
So, my follow-up question would be, I know you teach women, okay, how to find high-value men, okay? And some men, they might go ahead and be like, what? Like, what do you mean? Because I feel like there's a lot of women in the online space, essentially, that try to attract high-value men, but they're like OnlyFans creators. So is that what you're doing?
You're teaching any type of woman how to find a high-value man? Who's your avatar?
My avatar is highly successful women who are sophisticated. So no offense to the OnlyFans girls or girls that are sex workers, but that's not what my aim is for because I'm kind of against the whole gold-digging, sugar babying, sugar daddy thing because, you know, I hate to put religion in there, but I'm a Christian.
And that kind of goes against my core values because I feel with any bad thing like that that you're doing, it's temporary gratification. It may feel good for right now, but guess what? Whether you're a man and you're sugar daddying, you could go broke. Or you could croak. A woman, you keep going out there doing that, your beauty only lasts for so long.
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Chapter 4: How can women position themselves to attract high-value men?
but she would do well with a firefighter or someone who still wants to be in the more provider role, but they have more of a common ground. That's what I'm saying. It has to be someone who can be in those social circles. But you never know.
That girl who is the Walmart worker or the retail worker, she may know how to level herself up and be a great client with enough potential to be able to move in and out of those circles. But when you're in the higher circles, you have to be able to communicate at the dinners, at the brunches, at the, you know,
corporate meetings or the events that uh these types of men have and if you're there you can't talk about you know the clients that you have at walmart it's not a common ground so what if what have you got like a supermodel working at walmart like you don't you don't think a pretty girl got an advantage over somebody who's more highly successful but let's say they're not a looker
Yes and no. Let me explain why. Because after a certain age, men want more than just looks, I'm finding. So these higher caliber men, they love beautiful girls for bedroom dates.
What is a bedroom date?
A bedroom date is pretty much a classy way of saying you're a booty call.
Okay. So that's like basically the new term now is what the kids are saying?
That's what I coined. It's called bedroom date.
Bedroom date. Okay.
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Chapter 5: What is the concept of a 'bedroom date'?
Why would I give them the time of day in my 30s when I'm like, I'm ripped, I'm wealthy, I'm looking good, I'm in my top peak. I would rather want somebody that looks good. Look, somebody that's like fire, like in their 18 to 21. I mean, this is, it is what it is. Okay. I'm keeping it real, right? Yes. Fortunately for me. My wife, she's very beautiful.
You know, you guys, I'm not even going to go into her age. There's no need to. But I mean, you look better than most 20 year olds anyways. So answer that for me.
OK, I agree with you, actually. So but let me but let me tell you what ends up happening. So initially, those guys use those girls and they have fun because they're fun. Yeah. When they first get their money, they're going to do that. But what ends up happening is those 18 to 21 year olds have a rotation as well.
so what's going to end up happening is they get that instant gratification they get the sex they get all that enjoyment from those girls but initially what's going to happen or eventually what's going to happen is they're going to look over in the bed and see that it's empty because that girl's on that rotation and they're lonely so they're going to realize dang sex is good but i really want a warm body and someone genuine beside me to care for me to care for me to give me that
So, yeah, they're going to do that a few years. And then when it gets old, they're going to actually marry someone who is within their level. And if you notice what I noticed, they normally marry like a nice girl from like a small town or something like that.
A humble girl.
A humble girl. Absolutely.
But I feel like now with social media, that's that's getting harder and harder to do because like you got to think about it like this. And this is my perspective from from a man. Right.
is is the fact that you know back in 2008 uh it was like no 2006 now i'm getting old 2006 when i graduated from high school guys right you know i was in a small town and and and i was in the east bay uh you know which is the san francisco bay area in california and everybody knew everybody
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Chapter 6: Why do successful men prefer younger women?
And then my mom started seeing the changes in me and she poured into me and she was like, let me put my daughter in pageants. My mom put me in pageants so that I can have the etiquette, the poise. I could stand up straight. I could feel confident speaking. I could feel just confident in life. Because guess what? Even in dating, you have to be confident on a date.
You have to be able to articulate yourself. You can't just sit there like a mute.
Yeah, you're right. I mean, you got to look good. I think you perform good and then you talk good and you have that level of confidence and then people, you know, they're just more intrigued. Absolutely. So, okay, with that being said, you gave yourself a makeover, you said around 12? Yeah.
Something like that? Yeah, 12.
Okay, so around the age of 12, you gave yourself a makeover. Yeah. I mean, obviously you worked for MAC for like 15 years. You were one of the best out in Cali because, you know, it was crazy. You know, just short story, guys. Last year, we went to a Friendsgiving. It was a Friendsgiving, right? Friendsgiving, yeah. Yeah, Doral Beach.
And then one of the guys that was there, he's also a MAC artist that runs his own makeup agency. And he knew about Britney. And we were like, what the hell? Like small world, right? So with that being said, what would you say is the biggest beauty mistake that women in 2025 are making that's keeping them single right now?
they're still doing their makeup like they did in their 20s. Or if they're in their 20s, they're still doing their makeup like they did in their teens. So let me tell you, the biggest way you can tell a woman's age is by how she does her makeup. When you're really young, you wear hot pink, you wear green, you wear blue, glitter, all that stuff. I did it. But guess what?
As I started getting older, when I transitioned from my 20s to my 30s, you actually wear less makeup. And in MAC, we used to call it a whole lot of nothing. You wear a whole lot of nothing to look like you're not wearing a lot.
Yeah.
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Chapter 7: How important is self-improvement in dating?
Your past.
Your past and that you have problems. It's been 10 years since I've been on a date. Like even if it has like.
Nobody wants to hear that.
Yeah, and on top of that, that's not something that's going to make or break a relationship. I don't need to know that. And so what it does, though, is make it appear or make it quite evident that you have issues. And nobody wants anyone with issues. Not saying we all don't have something a little bit. Nobody's perfect, but you don't share like that on a first date. It's really gross.
So it's not just happening on the first date and the interaction. It's actually happening on social media. So you'll see the men and the women on their stories. They'll record themselves crying. That's a form of trauma dumping. They'll go on there and say, you know, there are no more good men out here. There are no more good women out here.
And it's like, so if I'm a woman and I see a guy doing that, I'm like, oh, he there's something wrong with him. He keeps picking bad women and vice versa. If you're a woman and you keep saying there's no good men out here, then it's you. Then the men are thinking, well, it's because you're not picking the right men. Why do you keep, you know, going in a circle? So that kind of thing.
The other thing I say they do, it's a form of trauma dumping. It's crashing out. that's when someone completely spazzes out on social media.
So give us an example of that.
One of those would be, like, you know, posting screenshots of someone, talking about your breakup, and then tagging the person, showing yourself destroying property, just acting up and screaming. And sadly, this is done constantly.
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