Let’s get one thing straight: aging isn’t something to fear—it’s when the real magic begins. In this unapologetically honest episode, Hilary drops the five signs that you’re officially stepping into your Wise Woman Era—where your confidence is unshakable, your boundaries are bulletproof, and your “no” comes with zero explanation. After 25 years working inside the minds of ambitious, accomplished, but still unfulfilled women, Hilary’s here to tell you: the glow-up you’re craving doesn’t come from the outside. It comes when you stop shrinking, apologizing, and people-pleasing—and start trusting, honoring, and liking yourself. Wild concept, right? Episode Highlights: Why confidence that depends on applause is fake confidence The quiet power of making your time, peace, and energy non-negotiable How to stop apologizing for existing (seriously, stop it) What happens when you finally stop waging war with your reflection The surprising key to becoming unshakably magnetic Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Wise Woman Era [00:44] Sign 1: Shifting Confidence from External to Internal [02:10] Sign 2: No Longer Negotiating Your Time, Peace, or Power [05:09] Sign 3: Stopping Apologies for Taking Up Space [06:02] Sign 4: Embracing Your Appearance and Energy [08:00] Sign 5: Developing a Loving Relationship with Yourself [09:46] The Power of Being Self-Centered [10:28] What Will You Do Differently? This isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about returning to who you were before the world told you to be polite, quiet, small, and nice. So let’s burn the rulebook, reclaim your place at the center of your life, and make “wise” the new sexy. 👉 Ready to stop performing and start leading? Hit play. Your era has arrived.
Chapter 1: What is the Wise Woman Era and why is it important?
I've spent 25 years inside the minds of women. Women who climb the corporate ladder, raise families, and break big-time barriers. Yet they still feel unseen, unfulfilled, and disconnected from themselves. But then, something shifts. A moment or a realization, a new way of being in life that changes everything. It's when you step into something more astonishing and magnetic
and something undeniable. Society just calls it aging, but I call it stepping into your wise woman era when you finally stop looking outside yourself for validation and start becoming self-centered. Today, I'm sharing the five signs that you're stepping into yours. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the
Chapter 2: How do you shift confidence from external to internal?
For most of your life, you've been longing for confidence and chasing after it like it's something outside of yourself, something that you have to earn. And that has it feeling just out of reach. You've built a career, a life, and a reputation. So you have all the evidence to prove that you can just finally be confident in yourself.
But yet, deep down, there is still that nagging voice asking, am I doing this right? Did they approve? Did they clap? Did I do a good job? Am I good enough? That's because when confidence is contingent upon external outcomes like approval, or achievement or accomplishment and external validation, it's always a fleeting and fragile experience. But then slowly something starts to shift.
The inner voice quiets and you stop asking, do they like me? And you just start asking, do I even like them? And you walk into a room and instead of scanning for approval, You own the space. You radiate confidence not because someone else acknowledged you, but because you trust yourself completely. And that's when you know you've really begun to just step into your wise woman era.
This shift happens when your opinion of yourself holds more weight than anyone else's. Not your family's, not your friend's, or even your spouse or your partner. Only yours. You might think that's being self-absorbed and that it's a bad thing, but this is actually what I call being self-centered. And it's one of the best things that can ever happen to you because when you're self-centered,
Chapter 3: Why is it crucial to stop negotiating your time, peace, or power?
something else happens that you wouldn't expect, which is the second shift that you know that you're stepping into your wise woman era. And that is that you no longer negotiate your time, your peace, or your power. There's an unspoken rule that every woman learns early on. Don't be too opinionated. Don't be too ambitious.
Don't take up too much space because the moment that you step outside the lines, you become a problem. And maybe without realizing it, you actually listened. So you played along and you softened your voice and you held back in meetings. Maybe you bit your tongue when you had something to say or you downplayed your successes so you wouldn't make others uncomfortable.
You just made yourself a little bit smaller so that other people could feel bigger or more comfortable. It never made people actually like you more and it never made you belong. It actually only just made you disappear. But the moment that you become self-centered, you realize that shrinking yourself was never the answer and suddenly
Your time, your peace, and your power are no longer up for negotiation. This shift isn't about being difficult. It's about owning yourself completely. I've coached thousands of women on how to do this, and it's as simple as asking yourself the right questions. If you're ready to take this step, I created a free video training that will guide you exactly on how to do it.
Chapter 4: How can you stop apologizing for taking up space?
So just tap the link in the show notes or in the description to get access to it if you want to check it out. And this brings us to the third sign. You stop apologizing for taking up space. Little girls, we are trained to be nice. To be easy, to be flexible. You were told that being a good person means making sure that everyone else is comfortable, even if it costs you. So you did.
You said yes when you wanted to say no. You explained yourself when no explanation was needed. You smiled through things that made you want to scream. And you apologized when you didn't even do anything wrong. And you thought this made you a better person. But it didn't. It just made you exhausted. Maybe it made you feel resentful or taken advantage of. or even taken for granted.
And maybe it just made you feel angry so that one day you snap. Maybe it's something small, like a friend who always takes, or a boss who keeps piling on the work, or a family member who doesn't respect your time. And in that moment, it hits you. The reason that you're drained isn't because you're doing too much. It's because you're allowing too much. Allowing too much.
There's a big distinction there between doing too much and allowing too much. So you just decide to stop. You stop justifying your no's. You stop explaining why you can't help and why you're not coming and why you're unavailable. And you stop justifying your boundaries. The reality is no one else is thinking about your peace. You are the only one who will be doing that. So you must protect it.
It is on you. And this is the power of being self-centered. No, it is not selfish. It is completely necessary, and it means putting yourself at the center of your life. It means recognizing that your time, your energy, and your peace are yours, and you don't need permission to put yourself first. And it doesn't just change your life, it literally changes everything when you start doing this.
Now, let me ask you this. How many years have you spent at war alone? with your own reflection. Think back as far as you can to being a teenager or maybe even sooner. How many mornings have you picked apart your face, your skin, your hair, your body, wishing you looked different?
How many times have you looked back at photos of your younger self and thought, oh my God, I wish I appreciated or enjoyed what I had back then. But instead you spent all that time being critical and unhappy with yourself. Thank you so much.
It really only compounds itself because we're supposed to fight time, reverse aging, erase wrinkles, shrink your body, cover the gray, stay small, stay young. But that's not happening anymore to us because when you embrace being self-centered, you stop measuring yourself by those established standards.
You stop picking yourself apart and instead start accepting how you look and maybe even finally loving how you look. Oh my God, what a life-changing experience. And when you stop being at war with your own appearance, people start seeing you differently. And it's not because your face or your body changed, but because you did. Your energy did.
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