We’ve been told that putting others first is the hallmark of a good person, but what if that’s a big, fat lie? In this episode, Hilary Silver tackles the myth of selflessness head-on, revealing how this deeply ingrained belief isn’t just harmful—it’s downright toxic. Drawing on her decades of experience as a psychotherapist and lifestyle mentor, Hilary introduces the third core concept of her self-centered model: "In your life, you come first and you go first." Hilary explains how the pressure to be selfless erodes self-worth, breeds resentment, and creates hollow, transactional relationships. She challenges the narrative that sacrificing yourself for others is noble, exposing how it leads to emotional burnout and a lifetime of feeling undervalued. Instead, Hilary offers a liberating alternative: prioritize yourself unapologetically. Because when you treat yourself with the respect and care you deserve, you teach others to do the same. Episode Highlights: Why “selflessness” is a toxic myth keeping you stuck and resentful. How putting yourself first is the most selfless thing you can do. The real reason self-sacrifice leaves you exhausted and undervalued. Healthy giving vs. soul-sucking selflessness—know the difference. Why modeling self-respect is the ultimate relationship game-changer. The mindset shift that puts you back in control of your life. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [00:53] Meet Hillary Silver [01:57] The Myth of Selflessness [02:28] The Big Lie [04:15] Consequences of Selflessness [05:57] The Void and Compulsion to Give [06:33] Resentment and Transactional Relationships [07:05] Self-Serving Giving [08:40] Healthy Giving vs. Selflessness [09:12] Core Concept #3: You Come First [12:54] Conclusion Stop putting yourself last—it’s time to take the lead. 💅 Grab Hilary’s free mini video training, "This Changes Everything" and start making yourself the priority you’ve always deserved to be: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/
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