REAL AF with Andy Frisella
845. Q&AF: Handling Distractions, How To Let Go & Reinvesting As A Business Owner
Mon, 24 Feb 2025
On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on what is the best way to handle distractions when working on your goals, how to let go of relationships that no longer serve you, and how to learn the best techniques to reinvest in your business as the owner and operator to make it big long term.
Chapter 1: Who is Andy Frisella and what is the focus of this podcast?
What is up, guys? It's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome.
It's a motherfucking reality. Guys, today, as always, we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. Now, you could submit your questions a few different ways.
Chapter 2: How can you submit questions for the Q&AF segment?
The first way is, guys, email these questions in to askandy at andyfrasella.com.
or you go on YouTube on the Q and AF episodes, drop your question in the comments, and we will choose some from there as well. Now, this is your first time listening. We have shows within the show, all right? Today, we're gonna have Q and AF. That's so we could start the week out Get better. Get some good momentum. But tomorrow we're going to have CTI. That stands for Cruise the Internet.
Chapter 3: What are the different segments of the podcast?
That's where we put topics of the day up on the screen. We speculate on what's true and what's not true. And then we talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Sometimes we're going to have real talk. Real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. Some might call it a rant. But it's all about making you better.
And then we have 75 hard verses. If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it is the most famous mental toughness transformation program in history. You can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only. 208 audio feed only anywhere you can get a podcast.
Chapter 4: What is the 75 Hard program and where can you learn more about it?
Now, if you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it's the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is also available in its entirety at episode 208 on the audio feed. There's also a book. The book is called The Book on Mental Toughness. You can get it at andyfercella.com. It's not required. Like I said, the entire program is free.
You get an episode 208 on the audio feed, but the book is very, very strong. It includes the entire Live Hard program, up and down, left and right, all the nuts and bolts. If you're somebody who really likes to know the in-depth details of things like I am, I'd highly recommend the book.
It also has a ton of extra content on mental toughness, what it is, how to develop it, and why it's important to your life. Again, that's at andyfrasella.com. It's called The Book on Mental Toughness. We do things a little different here. We don't run ads on the show, okay?
And I ask very simply because we are the biggest show in the world that does not run ads, that you help us grow the show, all right? If the show makes you think, if it makes you laugh, if it gives you a new perspective, if it teaches you something, Please help us grow the show. Don't be a hoe. Share the show. All right. What's up, dude? How's it going? Good. How are you? Yeah, man. I'm all right.
Hurting a little bit. But yeah, you've been training again. Been training back on the wagon. Yeah, what's up with that? Oh, you know, I mean, real talk.
Yeah.
Real talk. I mean. Tired of getting made fun of? That's one. Yeah. Yeah, Madat's not very nice. And the internet? Internet's fine. Yeah. Because I just talk shit back to them. There's not much I can do with Madat.
I know when you go home at night, it hurts your feelings. You cuddle up in the bottom of the shower. You know what I'm saying?
Well, no, man. Honestly, like really what it was, I just know that like this year, bro, we got a lot of shit going on this year. A lot of shit to really like, you know, build and grow and develop. And so it's like I got to be at my best.
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Chapter 5: How does Andy Frisella suggest handling distractions?
Another thing that we're going to be doing is having some of my most successful friends come in and talk about how they do things. So this isn't like typical internet fucking coach shit. This is real people who have done real things outside of just creating a coaching business.
that are going to teach you how to win and it's never been more important that you guys go out and win than it is right now we have a big problem in our culture where winning has been villainized winning has been attacked it has been looked down upon and the fact of the matter is that's all about societal control and we have to understand that if we want to be truly free and we want to live in the greatest society that we can
We have a duty to be the best that we can in all areas. And that includes being successful. It's not just about driving a Bugatti or driving a Ferrari and living in a nice house. I'll be the first one to admit that's badass shit. I love it. But. It's actually about us as individuals understanding that we have to be the example. We have to extract every single ounce of potential out of our lives.
and not just for us and our families but for everybody else around us in the community so i am very excited uh we've been recording shows for quite some time and i'm very excited to get that launch bro like it's gonna be i since we've been recording the shows
I've started to realize how much I enjoy talking about success, business, entrepreneurship, personal development, and really helping people get the ball rolling in that direction. You know what I'm saying?
I know there's a lot of people hungry for it.
Yeah, bro. And I think, you know, with the emergence the last few years of the entire – community of fucktards uh that have come out of nowhere to sell programs when they haven't done anything ever uh somebody has to come out and teach people what it really looks like who's actually done yes so that's real man i'm excited about it uh it's going to be it's going to be awesome um
And that's going to be launched in the next couple of weeks. So if you are interested in a new MFCO project like a lot of you guys are, first off, we are going to continue Real AF the exact same way that we've been doing it. So that's not going away. And secondly, for you to know when the MSCO project drops, you have to go to my website and get on the Andy Graham email list, okay?
Just go in there, sign up for the Andy Graham. It's a daily post that we write. You come in, it's a little inspiration, a little personal development, a little life advice that we do every morning. It comes right to your computer. We don't spam you. We don't fucking send you 75 emails a day. I don't fucking pitch you on a bunch of shit. I hate that shit too. But if you want to be,
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Chapter 6: Why is it important to differentiate between distractions and life activities?
So how productive are you being? How focused are you? I have developed a tool that I have used for 20 plus years that solves this problem for us. It's called the PowerList. You can get it for free at episode 16 on the audio feed. What it does is it allows you and shows you how to break down critical tasks that move you forward
And it doesn't talk about how much time you're going to have to put in. The time is irrelevant. So if you can become effective, you have five critical tasks per day that you need to cross off. Okay. And then the rest of the time is yours to fill with distractions or fill with entertainment or go live a life.
This idea that is put through by all these fake ass motherfuckers that you have to work 50 hours in a 24 hour day is a lie. That's how you know they haven't done anything because no one can do that, all right? So it's not about how much time you have, it's about how productive you are and what result you produce. And a lot of people have problems
differentiating those two concepts because they grew up in a regular job and they come from regular you know i work for someone they pay me to do and they have trouble converting because they're so used to thinking about this i'm getting paid for my time i'm getting paid for my time poor people get paid for their time successful people get paid for their skill okay so
How do you use your skill to be as effective as possible, as fast as possible, so that you can get paid the most money and have the most free time? Well, you create a systematic framework that outlines the critical tasks that you need to do. You do them every day.
You realize that there's only so many things that you need to do in a day to get forward, and then you have the rest of the time to do whatever you want. That's how I've lived my life. If I get done with my critical task by 10 a.m., I can do whatever I want the rest of the day. If it takes me until 10 p.m., I'm working on that. It just depends on what the task is. So there's that.
But ultimately, dude, look, the truth of the matter is I had a really good time growing my business. I worked very hard, but I also enjoyed things. And some of those things would be called distractions. But Those same things that are called distractions are now great memories that I have of my younger years. So I wouldn't trade those things. You see what I'm saying?
So we have to understand, dude, this grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind mentality. Yeah, it's true. But the more effective you are and the higher skilled you are, the less time you have to put in, the more life you get to live. Okay? So I would encourage you to reframe how you think from time to effectiveness. And now you're an attorney. You bill for your time. Yeah.
But we all know what the fuck you guys do. You go in your computer, you pull out your little sheet that you send to everybody, and then you say, that sheet would have taken 10 hours to make, and then you bill them 10 hours. Yeah, right.
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Chapter 7: How do relationships impact your focus and goals?
It doesn't matter because you got your five things done and five critical tasks done per day will get you where you want to go. Most people don't get any done.
Yeah, that's real shit. I want to dive a little bit more deeper into this concept you brought up about just differentiating what is an actual distraction and what's life and what's just something that will benefit you.
For example, like the relationship thing.
Yeah.
Okay. We've all been in relationships that were a distraction. You know, women, for us guys, I'm just going to speak, I'm going to speak as a man. Sure. I've been in relationships before where when I was broke, I was yelled at for not having any money. Okay. In the same relationship, when I got busy to try to make money, I was yelled at for not having any fucking time.
So as a man, there really is no win with a female like that. So you have to find friends and partners and people that are going to help push you forward and understand what you're trying to do, not try to be selfish with your time and take away. They have to have the long-term vision.
We have to understand that the same thing that could be a distraction for you could be a benefit for me if I had the right partner. That's just using partners. You see what I'm saying? So many things are like that. Like many things. A friend group. Yeah, for sure.
A friend group.
A friend group. I guess my question was, it's like, you know, Cause I feel like there's a fine line here. You got to be careful with of like, okay, like I got my five things done, but I could also be doing stuff in the off time that will wipe out all of that progress of those five things.
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