REAL AF with Andy Frisella
821. Q&AF: Battling With Success, Recognition Vs Work Load & Balancing Work With Social Life
Mon, 09 Dec 2024
On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to deal with peers who think they are too good to fail at anything, how to effectively manage the good recognition that you are getting with the work load in your business, and what are some ways to properly manage time when balancing work with your social life.
Chapter 1: What is the purpose of today's Q&A episode?
What is up, guys? It's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q&AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. Now, you could submit your questions a few different ways.
The first way is, guys, email these questions into askandy at andyfrisella.com. Or you go on YouTube in the comments section on the Q&A episodes. Drop your question in the comments. We'll pick some from there as well. Other times throughout the week, if you're a new listener, we have shows within the show. We're going to have CTI. That stands for Cruise the Internet.
That's where we put topics of the day up here on the screen. We speculate on what's going on, what's true, what's not true. And then we talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Other times, we might have real talk. Real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk, some shit that I think you need to hear. And then we have 75 hard verses.
75 hard verses. And by the way, we have a great episode coming up for that. 75 hard verses where people who come in the show... They talk about how they use 75 Hard to reclaim their life, how their life was before, how their life is now, and how you can use the program to do the same as them.
If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it is the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program in history. It's free. You can get it at episode 208 on the audio feed. Again, that's 208 audio feed only.
There's also a book at andyfersella.com called The Book on Mental Toughness, which outlines the entire Live Hard program, plus a whole bunch of other stuff, a bunch of chapters on mental toughness, why it's important, how to cultivate it.
how to use it to build your best life, a whole bunch of case studies on some very famous people who have used mental toughness to become the very famous people that you recognize. Now, again, you can get that at andyfrasella.com, the book on mental toughness. Now, we do things a little different here. You're going to notice that we don't run ads on the show.
I think we're the biggest show in the world that doesn't run ads. I'm pretty confident in that. The reason we don't run ads is because we talk about the things that people don't want us talking about. And I want to talk about those things. And I don't want to listen to somebody tell me what I can and can't say. So we finance the show ourselves.
I don't fill your ears full of 20 minutes of bullshit ads. We just get right down to it. And I ask very simply that you do something for us. Please share the show. Help us grow the show. If you don't share the show, the show doesn't grow. It's that simple, all right?
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Chapter 2: How can entrepreneurs effectively manage recognition and workload?
They lack the courage to go do something because they're afraid of what might happen if they go. And the thing that they don't realize is, is that no matter how good you plan, no matter how much you analyze, no matter how perfect the roadmap may be to where you're trying to go, there's going to be obstacles and there's going to be things that come up.
And so the magic is in the commitment and then the commitment to solve these problems as they come. And I think most people just don't get that. They want the perfect route. They want the perfect plan. They want it to be guaranteed. And there is no guarantee on this. There's no guarantee on business. There's no guarantee on life. There's no guarantee on friendships.
There's no guarantee on relationships. the only guarantee that you can make to yourself is that if you don't commit to working through the problems as they come you're going to not have anything whatever the problem yeah right and that's going to be the guarantee that you're left with you know you're guaranteed to have nothing yeah and uh nothing of value and so you know i never had that
hesitation um when i make up my mind that i'm gonna do something i do it and and i've always been that way yeah so i don't yeah i don't try to look too far down the road dude because we end up talking ourselves out of the best things you know like what if i had sat there back in 1999 i said yeah man nobody's going to take us serious somebody might break into the store uh we might get sued what if what if what if yeah guess what all those things happened
every single one of them you're what if our employees screw us over what if uh what if somebody steals from us what if this happens what if that happens what if this happens and all the shit happens anyway so like What are you going to do? Not go and have all the shit happen anyway? Or are you just going to go and deal with it as it comes?
And so, you know, success requires courage in any area of life. And in the last few years when nobody would speak up because they were afraid, it really gave me some insight as to where people are lacking in terms of creating their own, you know, best version of their life. It's the courage to go. Yeah, for sure.
How do you balance though with having a bigger vision? So you say you don't want to overthink yourself into being paralyzed, but let's say somebody has a big vision and they don't want to overthink. So how do they balance with what you're saying?
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Chapter 3: What challenges do entrepreneurs face with success?
Just breaking it down to daily tasks, dude. You know what I'm saying? When I think of what we're trying to do with our companies, I don't have to know every detail of how we're going to get there. I know that when I show up today, I'm going to take the step today. And I know when I show up tomorrow, I'm going to take another step.
And I know that if I show up enough days in a row and take enough steps, even though I might not know the exact way to get there, we'll figure it out amongst the nuance of the path. You see what I'm saying? Be like me and you in the jungle and we're fucking cutting down trees and we're like, Well, I think it's this way, you know, and we go down that way and we're like, it ain't this way.
So let's go back over here. And it's trial and error. It's just a commitment to the progress, you know? So I don't, I don't think that overanalyzing is helpful. I think it's paralyzing for most people, you know, we're always going to find problems and we're always going to find what we're looking for. You know, if you look for problems, you're going to find problems.
If you look for solutions and you look for ways to make it work and you look for ways to make it successful, those things are going to pop out as well. So, you know,
I think a big vision is the same as a small vision it just takes more time you know I love it man I love it well guys we know you love it yeah I do man it's cool you love it and everybody loves that you love it yeah that's good that's good I'm glad you guys love it so that uh I got three good ones for you man uh guys any question number one hey Andy
What's your opinion on an entrepreneur who, after achieving some success in their first five years, believe that they have the Midas touch and assumes they can easily replicate that success in other ventures? Do you think this could risk undermining the original business that brought them success?
Like you, I view entrepreneurship as a constant uphill battle filled with its challenges and setbacks along the way that require unshakable determination to overcome.
It just frustrates me when entrepreneurs and their onlookers buy into a false image of what it truly takes to run a profitable, successful business, especially during the early stages when the reality is often far from what's portrayed on social media. Have you ever questioned the success of your peers, knowing the struggles that you've had to personally endure?
to build your own business and the longevity you needed in your marketplace to reach your goals. And should entrepreneurs revisit the myth of Icarus during periods of success to remind themselves of the importance of humility? Please advise.
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Chapter 4: How can one maintain humility in the face of success?
It was necessary. But I do want to ask you this question because- And by the way, we're not quitting CTI.
A lot of people are like, oh, don't stop CTI. No, it's two different things, guys. We got what's going on in the world, comedy, fuck around, have fun. And then we got how to win so that we can fix the culture here in this country. Yeah.
Now, I'm not an entrepreneur, right? Like I've always, I would fall in the category of everybody else, right? And I think, you know, outside looking in, there's always been this idea of, and you've heard, I know you've heard it, man. Like, oh, you got to diversify yourself, have these seven different, you know, things going on.
Income streams. Yeah, right. The average millionaire has seven different income streams. Right, right. Okay. 2022 was 2020. This is what we're going to see for the next month. 2022 was the rebuild. 2023 was the reconstruction. 2024 was the trial. And 2025 is game time. That's what we're going to see for the next fucking 30 days. And same motherfucker posting that shit every fucking year, too.
How many fucking practice years do you need, motherfucker? You need another one? Trial 3.3. Get the fuck out of here.
But I do want to ask you this, because we started off this show talking about 26 years in business.
It makes you feel old, bro. It's a good thing I don't look old.
Yeah, you don't. You look 26. Yeah.
That's right.
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Chapter 5: What is the Dunning-Kruger effect in entrepreneurship?
Yeah, it's just vertical integration of your business. Like, dude, that's very, you know, people will argue against it and they'll say, well, it doesn't make sense. Just use this drop shipper and this and do this and contract this out.
yeah i mean you could do it that way but i could tell you this your company makes a lot more money when you do it the right way the slow way and the vertical way yeah it's just way more profitable yeah i mean it makes sense to me man um i love it man guys andy question number two let's keep this cruise oh uh-oh let's keep this show moving well i almost said keep the cruise moving that's all right uh guys any question number two i have a question
I'm a business owner in the automotive performance world. I've been doing it for myself since 2015. I do a lot of resto mod GM vehicles, as well as late model performance stock to 2000 horsepower. I am the only employee. Though every once in a while I have put some part-time help in, it seems hard to find good help in South Florida.
Employees are good for a few months, then get lazy and forget things. And I feel I treat them good with bonuses, hourly pay, competitive, all that good stuff. I have only ever dreamt of working on these cars. Like 69 Camaro, Chevelle, Smokey and the Bandit, Trans Am. Even as far as celebrities like Marquise and Mike Pouncey, Rick Ross. I currently have one of his cars in my shop.
And very wealthy people. I am six months shy of 40 years old and feel as I get more recognition for my line of work, I get more stress. Customers wanting work to their cars. They want them quick. People showing up for quotes, et cetera, et cetera. The question is, how do I manage to handle all this recognition and the workload flooding in? I would appreciate any insight to this question.
I mean, real talk, bro, it sounds like you're kind of bitching about something that could be a lot worse. You know, why don't you remember all the times when nobody gave a fuck who you were and nobody knew who you were and nobody wanted to do the fucking work or have you do any work on it? Okay, you're in a good spot and you're kind of spitting in the gift horse mouth. You know what I'm saying?
Like, fuck, dude.
You wanted this, bro.
Huh? You wanted this. Yeah. So let's talk about instead of complaining and saying, oh, man, I don't know what to do. Let's talk about how great this is for you. OK, you've built a brand. You've built an in-demand personal brand. People are starting to know who you are. You're getting some celebrity clientele, which I know enough about the car business, which is super helpful.
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