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Chapter 1: What is the rebellion discussed in this episode?
Ready? One, two, three. All right, listen up. This is the rebellion. And what we say here is patriots, gay-triots, they-triots. That's right.
Chapter 2: What personal experiences do Pumps and Jennifer share about social media?
Pumps, what have you had it with? Okay, what I've had it with is when internet stalking goes so wrong. And this happened to me very recently. I have a few accounts that just for my own personal amusement that I stalk. Yeah. Because I'm just like, I cannot believe this is on the internet. Like they put it on there. Not like hidden camera. Yeah.
And the other day, I was going through one of my stalker accounts, and I liked it. I liked it. And now they know that I stalked them, and it's so embarrassing. You liked their post? Yes. I was trying to enlarge it, and I liked it.
See, this is my worst nightmare with you. It's horrible. I'll be like, oh, my God, look at what such and such post. And you're like, oh, my God, let me see. Let me see. And you're grabbing your glasses. And I just immediately start like cringing, throw in a kegel for good measure. And I'm like, do not double tap at pumps. Pumps do not. I won't. I won't.
Sure enough. Yeah. And see, I've done that to Emily's phone, my daughter's phone, like two or three times. And she gets so mad. Child abuse. And I'm just like, oh, whatever. Who cares? That is child abuse. But when I did it to myself, I was just like, okay, I owe her an apology because it's really bad. Because it's like the minute you see the heart, you're like... Oh, it's humiliating.
Oh, my God. Did I ever tell you about the time one of my dearest girlfriends forever? It was when email first came out and she was emailing at work and an email from a guy that she dated came in. And at the same time, an email from her friend saying how was the date came in.
So she accidentally responded to what she thought was her friend and started describing how she didn't think she could go out with him again because he had this weird odor that he had this smell on his breath that was like vomit. And he was cute enough and entertaining, but it was just this reek smell, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And if you knew her, you would know that she would go on and on in describing exactly the smell. Yeah. Then she hits send and she realizes it was to him. And she runs into like the computer room. It's like, you have to get it back. You're like, you can't get it back. And he just responded. I guess we won't be seeing each other again.
I mean, that's bad. There is nothing more terrifying than sending a text to the wrong person. Oftentimes during the day, I have my texts pulled up on my desktop or on my laptop because then I can use full 10 digits to fire off texts from my keyboard. So I'm looking at an email, looking at a website, texts are right there.
Oftentimes you see one come in and you just respond, but you're not in the right thread. Yeah. So I haven't had anything that bad, but there have been some that I've sent and then I just like, I'm like, oops, sorry about that. That was intended for another thread.
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Chapter 3: What lessons can we learn about narcissism from Mel Robbins?
And normally they're fine. You just, hey, sorry, that was the wrong text thread. I have talked about somebody, like we were in a group text and And then I went off with another person in the group text and started talking about one of the people on the group text and accidentally sent it to the group text. So she knew what I was saying about her. Yeah.
Yeah. You know, it happens. That might have been a hashtag blessed blessing because now this person that you didn't like knows for sure. We don't like each other. Yeah. And you don't have to feign kindness. Right. It's just like she trashed me in the group text. I hate her. She hates me. We're done. Right. There's something tidy, clean and respectable about that.
Yeah, I wasn't near as upset about it as the other people I was texting with that were just like, I did it. And then I hopped in the shower and I get out and my phone is blown up. Oh my God, you sent that in the wrong text and my phone's ringing. And I'm like, well, all right. How bad was it? What'd you say? I think I said she was cheap and obnoxious, which to be fair, she was.
Well, of course.
Yeah.
I mean, if you say it, especially being the world-class attorney that you are, you're not going to slander yourself in some tech stream unless, in fact, she was cheap and obnoxious. Yeah. All right. Let me tell you what I've had it with. I have had it with my cat. And, listener, I just have to go through this with you all again because – Pumps is aware of some of it.
Y'all aren't aware of all of it. But I have the cat. She's female. Her name is Kitsky. And we adopted the cat. We had hashtag adopt, didn't shop. I adopted the cat for my children because I had another cat that hated the children and loved me. And so I got this cute little black and white cat named Kitsky. She's had a lot of problems. We've had asthma. Asthma is in remission. We had diabetes.
Diabetes was in remission. Diabetes comes back. Diabetes goes back into remission again. Well, just the other day, last week, as a matter of fact, Pumps and I are at lunch and the mobile veterinarian swung by my house to do her checkup. quote, senior blood work because she is like 16 or 17 years old. And they called me while Pumps and I were dining to give me the update on her blood work.
And it just goes like this. I'm like, hello. And they're like, great news. Kiske's diabetes is still in remission. And I hear Pumps hears them say this and she goes, oh, for fuck's sake. Because everybody knows Pumps wants to kill my cat. And so they go on and on that there's possibly a kidney marker, possibly not. She has arthritis, all of these things, right?
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Chapter 4: How can we cope with narcissistic behavior in our lives?
I've got this podcast I've got to record. I just need for you all to do the bath. Fine. No problem.
Can I just interject? She had the bath because she has mats and dandruff. Right. She needed a bath. Okay. But dandruff.
She has dandruff. She has cat dandruff. Okay. So vet calls me, hey, I'm going in your house to get the cat. I'll have her back by the time you get home from work. Great. Thanks so much. I say to her, I get home from work and I have a hairless cat. My cat's completely bald. She is, I have a bald cat. I literally have a cat that is in asthma remission, twice diabetes remission.
Used to be a fluffy cat, not like a Persian, but a lot of hair, you know, an American short hair. Now I've got a hairless cat. I've got a hairless fucking cat on my hands here. She's got hair on her face and she has a little ball of hair on her tail. But other than that, she's bald. She's bald.
The medical bath was a shave job. There was no bath. It was a haircut. It was a haircut. And I just thought it was so funny because it was startling. It was like, oh my gosh. Well, you can imagine my surprise.
Yeah. When I came home from work and I hear her going... So I go over to see her and I'm just like, wow, I happened. Medical bath did not in my brain equate to shaving. Right. It must have been bad. I think the vet was just like, fuck it. And then of course it snows for like two days there. So she's freezing and I'm not completely heartless.
I'm going to cover her up, you know, make sure she's all warm. But I just want to take a little stroll down memory lane and, that this cat we adopted in like 2008 and it is a she and her name is kitsky around i would say 2016 17 possibly 18. so we've had the cat well over a decade at this point The mobile vet wasn't able to do everything she needed to do in the house.
So I told Josh, I'm slammed today. I need for you to drop that cat off at the vet. And here's the address. And you'll have to fill out the paperwork for her. So again, I just want to remind everybody, Kitsky and a she. And at this point, we've had the cat for over 10 years. The vet calls us and leaves this voicemail. Kylie, play it.
Hi, this is Allison calling from Glen Eagles Pet Hospital. And we were just calling to let you know that Katsky is a she. So we have a female cat.
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Chapter 5: What humorous stories do they share about their pets?
I take exception to the term everybody because we have one person in your house that didn't. I know. Tell them what he said to the vet when they came to do our senior blood work.
Okay. So I had to leave the day that they came that led up to the bath. I had to leave super early in the morning. So I left around 7. Josh probably left around like 8.30 that morning. And the mobile vets coming into the house and they're like, hey, we're here to check on Kitski. Any improvements? What's going on? How's her, you know, how's the diabetes? How's the asthma?
And Josh goes, I'm just going to stop everybody right there. I don't know anything that's going on with that cat. I don't know if she's better. I don't know if she's worse. I don't know if she's okay. I don't know if she's not okay. I just live here with her. And the vets were kind of like, okay. Okay. So yeah. And then I came home that night. We all came home to a hairless cat.
I mean, it's pretty funny. The hairless cat.
Chapter 6: How does Mel Robbins suggest handling narcissistic individuals?
I have a hairless cat. You do. And here's the thing. Like, I keep thinking one of these senior blood work checks is going to come back. We've got stage five cancer. I don't even know if there is a stage five. I think it only goes to four. Right. But I'm thinking that's what we're about to get.
Nope. She's great. In fact, when I heard the vet talking, I was hoping she said we checked for kidney markers. And I thought, there we go. Yeah. Kidney failure. Kidney. We got some kidney issues with the old cat. Nope. Came out smelling like a rose. Strong kidney.
I will note to you the exact year ago, senior checkup, blood work checkup, we did have a kidney issue. And I believe now that's in remission.
I didn't even know diabetes could go in remission, to be real honest. This cat is amazing.
Chapter 7: What insights does Mel provide on emotional neglect and its effects?
I'm curious if now she's going to get hypothermia because she's hairless. Welcome to I've Had It. I'm Jennifer. I'm Angie. She wants to kill my cat. See, I feel like that's strong.
Do you think I should put the cat down? Yes. But that doesn't mean I want you to kill the cat. That's exactly what that means. Well, it means to go to the vet. It's exactly what it means. You just don't like how direct it is. I just don't like to kill. What is euthanasia? What is it? I mean, it's death. I get that, but it's not.
Chapter 8: How do we navigate the complexities of narcissism in leadership?
Let me say it for go strangle the cat. Let me tell you what the kids on the internet say. What? Pumps wants me to unalive my cat.
Not you personally, but I think you should just hurry the vet along. This reminds me.
Do you remember the movie A Few Good Men? Did you order the code red? I would say I did order. Did you order the code red? Yeah. Pumps ordered the code red.
Yeah.
Pumps has ordered a Code Red on Kitsky, who's now fucking hairless.
Hairless Kitsky.
Kylie, what do you think? I'm really picking on the little. Do you think I should kill the cat? I don't know about killing it, but I do really hate cats. So I have a hard time empathizing.
I really feel bad for her. I think she's kind of embarrassed now that she doesn't have hair. She's naked. And knowing that Pumps ordered the Code Red.
It's also so much worse that she has hair on her face. That's like when someone's naked but with socks on. Yeah. It's like way more naked somehow.
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