How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
What’s YOUR Dating Superpower? Discover the 7 Attractors that Make Women Want to Date You
Fri, 07 Feb 2025
You want a bright, beautiful girlfriend, right? But you’re not sure how to connect with women. And maybe the girls you’re attracted to keep picking other guys over you. Not anymore! Because you’re about to learn the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 7 most powerful attractors that make women say, “I want him!” From confident flirting to texts she can’t resist, you’re about to go from Peter Parker to Spider-Man… no radioactive arachnid required! Plus, you don’t need all 7 superpowers—just unlocking one or two can change everything.Here are the 7 Dating Superpowers You’re About to Learn:9:43: Fearless Approaching so You Can Start Conversations with Women Anywhere15:07: Effortless Flirting so You Can Be Charming and Attractive21:15: Magnetic Charisma so Women Feel Drawn to Your Authentic Self34:14: Unshakable Confidence so “Rejection” Can’t Hurt You40:03: Top-Tier Texting so You’ll Go from “Unread” to Setting Up Dates51:33: Vibe Mastery so Your Dates Feel Flirty and Sexy59:48: Decisive Leadership so Women Trust You and See You as Boyfriend MaterialEvery dating superpower is here and learnable. What’s yours? Which one will you master? Listen now.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:[email protected]
Chapter 1: What is the main topic of this episode?
She left me for a handsome guy on a Harley. Something you don't want to hear on your honeymoon is, oh, hey, I think I saw your wife on the back of this guy's Harley. Welcome to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I'm a dating coach for men.
I help successful, established guys flirt with confidence, get dates, get a great girlfriend, and do it all by being authentic. No sketchy pickup artist moves needed. Here's my question for you. What is your dating superpower? You might not know what they are. You might not have even thought you have dating superpowers.
If you're like a lot of successful, established guys, you're actually struggling with women and dating. You're not sure how to talk to women, or how to connect, or how to meet them. Or maybe you're just not confident when it comes to talking to that gorgeous, classy woman, especially if you're shy or introverted.
There's a really good chance that this is the one area of your life that's not working. And today's episode is about how to identify the seven dating superpowers And if you just activate any one of these, you're going to start having some really fantastic changes and improvements in your love life. Okay, anybody on our side hiding any shocking and fantastic abilities they'd like to disclose?
I'm open to suggestions. And if you get two or three or more going for you, all the better. You do not need to know all seven or be good at all seven, but you need at least one of these dating superpowers. Ideally, maybe two. One or two is plenty. So who am I? If you're new to the podcast, I'm the real life Hitch, if Hitch was a skinny, shy ginger who used to suck at dating.
I coach men who struggle with dating. I help them get confidence. I help them get matches, find love, get great girlfriends, help them approach women. And if you struggle with dating, dude, I've been there. My heart breaks when I see a guy struggling with self-doubt, with loneliness, with feeling like this is just that one part of life, that one puzzle piece of life that's not working for you.
So I know what that's like. I know what that's like. So before I get into these seven dating superpowers and how to them in short-term ways, let me share a little bit about me because I bet my story resonates with you. I'll bet we are on the same page here in a lot of ways. I know exactly what it feels like to feel lonely. Once upon a time, I was lonely and dateless well into my 30s.
I could not approach women. I struggled on the apps. I once went six years without a date. I was frustrated. I felt isolated. I just felt like I wasn't that guy who women went for.
And when you believe you're not good enough, when you're this skinny, nerdy ginger who I've just felt like wasn't that cool, muscular, handsome guy who women want, I thought I was too shy, too introverted, just too nice. That just made me feel like I was less of a man. So my low point was I actually married the one woman The one quality woman who wanted to be with me, I married her.
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Chapter 2: How can you discover your dating superpower?
It's just a matter of who she is and when you meet her, especially if you apply these superpowers. With great power comes great responsibility. So here we go. I'm going to break down the seven dating superpowers. Another way to describe these might be seven attractors.
These are things that make women very attracted to men that kind of spark a natural inherent attraction that women see in men, straight women see in straight men. And the great thing about these is most of these you already have inside of you. They just might not be developed yet. So let's get your potential unlocked. And before I dive in, there's one superpower that is not on the list.
So the overarching superpower or attractor, the biggest one of all, is authenticity. Your most attractive self is your most radically authentic self, something I talk about in my book, Dating Sucks But You Don't. And it's something I talk about on the podcast all the time. So I'm not going to mention authenticity as one of these seven, because in a way, authenticity is like the force in Star Wars.
It's the force that you're filtering through all of these different things. lenses, and essentially your authentic self is coming through in all of these different superpowers, okay? So don't forget, what makes these seven dating superpowers work is that you are conveying it as your best, most authentic self. Okay, here we go. Dating superpower number one, fearless approaching.
Fearless approaching. And what I'm going to do for each of these is I'm going to give you an instant tip, something you can do right away, something you can apply immediately today, tomorrow, this weekend. I'm also going to give you a longer term tip because some of these superpowers need to be developed over time. So here we go. Dating superpower number one, fearless approaching.
You confidently walking up to a woman and starting a conversation without hesitation and with little to no fear. Butterflies maybe, but no real fear. This was the biggest dating problem that I needed to fix back in the day. I used to be so petrified of approaching a woman. The idea of walking up to a beautiful woman and approaching her, it felt horrifying to me.
In fact, the very first night I ever went out to approach girls, this is actually in the first chapter of my book, I went into the men's room stall before I approached a single girl and I had a panic attack. I was shaking. I got dry heaves all because of fear of rejection and how that might feel. So I had to learn how to do this. So I'm not coming from a place of I'm the shit.
I can approach women because I'm naturally good at it. No. I had to... learn how to overcome my fear. So here's an instant tip to help you do that. I want you to use an old school move called the three second rule. The three second rule is you simply make an adult decision to walk up to that woman in three seconds or less from the moment you see her. You have to take immediate action.
When you see a woman you want to approach, approach her within three seconds before that fear kicks in. Because if you wait longer than that, you're going to overthink it. You're going to find reasons not to talk to her. Your brain is going to get in the way. You're going to get in your head. And if you get in your head, as the saying goes, you're dead.
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Chapter 3: What personal story does Connell Barrett share about his dating struggles?
Seize the date. Till next time.