How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Too Anxious to Approach? Use these 5 Steps to Boldly Meet and Date Wonderful Women (Live Coaching with Ryan)
Tue, 08 Apr 2025
You see a gorgeous girl and want to approach her—but you freeze up! “What do I say? What if I’m creepy?” That inner voice kills your confidence, keeping you stuck and frustrated. Let’s fix it today! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches his client Ryan the 5 Master Steps to boldly approach women with charm and authenticity—no weird pickup moves needed.What You’ll Learn in this Live-Coaching Episode:10:15: What Stops Ryan from Approaching—and How He Fixed It with “Terminator Glasses”14:22: How to Turn Every Approach into a Fun, Confidence-Building Win24:45: How to Flirt with More Sexuality While Remaining a True Gentleman40:22: How to Tell If She Likes You… or Wants You to Walk Away45:40: How Connell Made Out with a Total Cutie—Just 1 Hour After She Rejected Him!52:00: The 5 Master Steps to Approaching Women with Authentic Confidence1:12:03: One Easy Move to Instantly Build Momentum in Any Bar or Venue1:22:23: Why Bold Risk-Takers are Irresistible to WomenWant to know exactly what to say in a way women find magnetic? Listen now!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:[email protected]
Chapter 1: What is the main topic of this episode?
next thing i know she and i are dancing and making out on the dance floor this is the same girl who rejected me quote unquote 60 or so minutes earlier wow so the lesson is not that if a woman says go away the lesson is don't take it as some kind of personal rejection she just might not be in the mood at that moment to talk to you Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast.
I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you flirt with confidence and get lots of dates and approach women successfully, confidently, and get a great girlfriend. And do it with authenticity. It's all about being authentic. Authenticity is to dating as the force is to Luke Skywalker. It is strong in you, young Padawan, but you have to access it and channel it.
This is a really fun, another behind-the-scenes coaching episode. You're going to listen to an actual dating coaching one-on-one call I did with my client, Ryan. Ryan came to me with a couple problems. he has mindset confidence issues. He just feels like he felt like he's just too short, not confident enough, not charismatic enough.
He's a bit introverted and he's also a little bit on the shorter side. He's like five, seven, five, eight. And so we worked on his confidence in a previous episode, about two episodes ago, you might've listened to what I call the authentic self awakening, where I, I,
guided ryan on a process where i i help him see that his limiting beliefs are and he's actually the he's incredible he's so attractive so intelligent so awesome so listen to the my last coaching session with ryan about three episodes ago if you'd like to hear that tonight though is him putting it into practice all about how to how to go approach women how to talk to women what to do it's all about a night out at the bars
meeting lots of women, which is what Ryan is now doing. So tonight I give him guidance on how to do that. And if you want to just listen to what I think is my favorite part of the episode, go to about minute 44. At minute 44, I share a funny story from a few years ago. Right before the pandemic hit, I was out with my client Steven in a bar in New York City.
And I had this really amazing moment where I approached a woman with Steven and She blew me off. She, quote, rejected me. And then an hour later, she comes back over to me while I'm on the dance floor, being a wingman for my client, Steve. And she starts dancing with me. And all of a sudden, we're making out. And that's what's possible.
By not taking rejection personally, don't think of an approach where a woman doesn't want to talk to you or isn't super into you. It doesn't mean you suck, you're worthless. It might just mean, hey, I'm not in the mood right now, but give me an hour. And this girl came back over to me. All of a sudden, we're kissing and making out, the same girl who rejected me. And that's a fun story.
I talk about that at the 44 minute mark. Anyway, so feel free to go to that part if you want to just listen to the best highlight moment. Otherwise, enjoy my coaching session with Ryan. And by the way, if you want one-on-one personalized coaching help, then what you can do is go to datingtransformation.com and you can book a free call with me where you can get on the phone with me.
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Chapter 2: How can authenticity improve dating success?
I'm a friend of Sarah Connor. I was told that she's here. Could I see her, please? No. Can't see her. She's making a statement. Where is she?
Look, it may take a while. If you want to wait, there's a bench over there. I'll be back. So I want you to put on a different Terminator set of Terminator glasses or have a different Terminator POV instead of noticing the, Oh, 19% chance of success. Cause she's not looking at me and talking to her friends. So that will probably fail. I want you to think of,
Think of the data that pops up in your Terminator screen as in every woman you approach is a 100% success ratio if you go talk to her. That's 100% success, at least in your mind. You need to look at this through the lens of every time I approach a woman,
and I give her the Ryan the Bold experience, I can and should feel great about that, and that's a win because either you're gonna get a good approach result or you're gonna get some kind of lesson or some kind of victory just for trying, even if she's not into you. We've gotta turn approaching into something that feels like a win-loss You know, heads, I win. She likes me.
Tails, she didn't like me, didn't want me to approach her. And that's a loss. And turn every approach into a guaranteed win. Either you win or you learn. Either you win or you feel good that you tried. Something that really helped me back in the day, and that's helped a lot of my clients, Ryan, is looking at this through the lens of win or grow.
Every time I approach a girl, every time one of my clients does, I say, either it's a win because a really cute girl is talking to me and I'm going to go on a date with her, or at least if I try and she's not that interested, at least I just put another brick in the wall of my character, of the cathedral of my character as a man. And that feels really good. So I guess I'd like you to re...
kind of try to rewire things a little bit and I'll, and I'll give you a very simple structure to do that. So you make it, I'll make this so much easier for you in about two minutes. But I want you to say every approach is a guaranteed win because either I get a cute girl into me and talking to me, which would be a huge win, or at least I'm manning up taking bold action.
And that ties into your very identity, this new and improved identity that you just created called Ryan, the bold. So you get to feel good for being bold and,
you get to feel good when an approach goes well and she's into you and that's that turns it into a guaranteed win because your your current terminator glasses are turning it into a percentage of success versus failure we got to remove the idea of failure there's no such thing yeah yeah um yeah i think that would be more sustainable for me uh going out because it
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