How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
This Simple Move Makes You 500% Better at Approaching—Science Proves It! (Featuring ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)
06 May 2025
Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one surprising study that led to 5X better approaching results for its participants.Highlights of this Episode Include:05:11: The Primacy Effect: Why the First 5 Minutes of a Date are Make or Break09:45: How to Make Sure You Get Date No. 221:07: How to Get 500 Percent (!) Better Approach Results with the “Small Favor” Strategy26:13: 100,000 Swipes, Zero Dates—Why Some Men Fail on the Apps44:16: Why Paid Dating Apps (Not the Free Ones) Give You a Better Shot at Love47:12: How to Instantly Triple Your Number of Hinge Dates54:07: Why Tim’s IRL Approaches Got Him 10 Times More Second Dates than the Apps DidListen now so you can get 500 percent better at approaching!LEARN ABOUT TIM MOLNAR AND GET A COPY OF HIS NEW DATING BOOK, ‘DATE SMARTER’:http://www.TimothyMolnar.comGET ‘DATE SMARTER’ ON AMAZON:https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smarter-Strategic-Navigating-Romance-ebook/dp/B0DP3GJPZ5DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.com
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And if I see someone online and they went to maybe a great college and they have an impressive job and they have attractive photos and interesting hobbies, that very well could be someone that I would be a good match with, that you might be a good match with, or one of your listeners could be a good match with.
But the things that we know from research actually lead to happiness, none of those are captured by any of those indicators.
Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach Connell Barrett, here to help you gain confidence, flirt with authenticity, and find yourself an amazing girlfriend. No pickup artist moves needed. And today I have a brand new guest, and he's got a brand new book out. Today my guest is Tim Molnar. Tim is the author of Date Smarter.
A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance. Tim's a really interesting author and guest because he's a former Fulbright teaching fellow and a university lecturer. My old job. Just kidding. Tim helps single people figure out dating, date smarter, and make real, genuine connections. He can help you with things like motivation and relationships. having better results on dates and momentum.
And also, he has a lot of data about dating, and I'm really excited to talk to him. He's got a research-backed approach that's going to be really fascinating to get into. And you can order Date Smarter at Timothy's website, timothymolnar.com, and you can also find it on Amazon. Tim Molnar, thank you for being here on How to Get a Girlfriend.
Connell, thanks so much for having me on. Really enjoyed the podcast and just a pleasure to be here talking with you today.
Awesome. It's author meets author. Let's see if we can make this good, good podcast content. Tell us about Date Smarter. How can people date smarter and how can your book help people date smarter?
So I may just begin with a little bit of a backstory here and talk you through the genesis of how this project came to be. I think like many of your listeners, I was at a point with dating where I felt frustrated. I felt like I didn't have the confidence to go up and approach people in a way that was going to bring about results.
The results being I wanted to find a life partner, someone who's going to be a great fit, someone who is going to make me feel seen, someone who is going to be kind and loyal. And at the time, I was in graduate school and was working with first a behavioral economist and then a sociologist, so studying a lot of human behavior.
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