How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates
05 Jun 2025
Tired of getting stuck in the dreaded Friend Zone? It’s frustrating when your dates feel flat and women say, “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down exactly how to go from the Friend Zone to the Flirty Zone, with 12 game-changing moves that make romantic sparks fly. From charming texts to confidently going for that first kiss, your love life is about to change.Get Ready to Learn:10:05: Why Women Lose Interest after a First or Second Date—and How to Fix this for Good15:23: The Text to Send before a Date that Gets Her Excited about Meeting You24:42: Six Tested Moves to Use During the Date that Women Love43:17: How to Go for a First Kiss the Right Way51:27: What to Text Her the Next Day to Get Date Number 2Listen now to smash out of the Friend Zone once and for all!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:[email protected]
Full Episode
Do not, I repeat, do not make a gangbang joke on a first date. That's not the lesson here. The lesson here is to be expressive and let your personality come out. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett, helping you to flirt with confidence and
get more dates and get a great girlfriend and do it with authenticity doing it as the real core you because women like you for you as long as you know how to flirt and how to make just a few moves and speaking of flirting and making moves today's episode is about you if you struggle with getting second dates maybe you get first dates
Or there's women you like, but you can't even get a first date with her because she puts you in the friend zone. Or you do get first dates, but you really struggle to get second or third dates. Women just lose interest after two or three dates. Let's call this the friend zone, the dreaded friend zone. And today's episode is all about why we get in the friend zone and how to get out of it.
And I'm going to give you what I call the flirty dozen. I'm going to give you 12 great actionable practical tips that will help you smash out of the friend zone. 12 of them. Three of them are before the date. Six of them are on the date. And three more are after the date. So that we can smash you out of the friend zone and start getting you second and third dates. And a girlfriend.
And women kissing you and making out with you and loving being with you. And that's what I want for you. So how do I know so much about the friend zone? Well, I used to live there. I was the mayor. I was a friend zone oligarch. I was the mayor of friend zone town. I basically was in the friend zone with women until my mid thirties. I remember so many friend zonings. It's just so sad.
I can laugh about it now. I was once on a date and it was going so blandly that She ended the date before I finished my Modelo. I had one drink. I was halfway done. And she said, well, it was nice meeting you. And I wasn't even halfway done with my date. And she bolted. I was on another first date and it was going. So it wasn't going badly. It was just flatlining.
And she left me for another guy on the actual date. I'm not making this up. We were on a date. I forget her name. It's been so many years. Let's call her Sarah. Sarah and I were on a date, and it was just so flatlining and lame and boring. All my fault. And she saw three or four people who happened to be people she knew and was acquainted with, including a guy she clearly was into.
And she ended up saying, well, I'm going to go over to them now. Bye. And she left me for another guy on a first date. That was a first. And then there was a woman named Lauren. And Lauren... was a huge crush I had back in the mid double zeros. And this was a classic case of the friend zone because on paper she wanted to like me.
On paper I was her type, intelligent and funny, at least on my good days, but I just couldn't get out of my own way. I was very eager. I was inauthentic with her. And at one point, I was just making stories up to try to impress her. And she could feel me trying to impress her, trying to be somebody I wasn't. And she friend-zoned me at first.
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