How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Special Series! Stop Trying to ‘Approach’—Do THIS to Meet & Attract Women IRL the Right Way (Part 1 of 4)
12 Feb 2025
You’re tired of the apps, and you’d love to confidently talk to women at bars, cafes, stores or your gym. But hesitation and overthinking stop you. With Valentine’s Day here, it’s time to break free and start meeting women in real life. Dating coach Connell Barrett presents a special 4-part series to teach you how to meet women IRL the right way—not with weird “approach tactics” but with authentic confidence. In Part 1, Connell reveals the 5 mental blocks keeping you stuck and shares the 5 breakthroughs that will help you meet and flirt with wonderful women—anywhere, anytime.Episode Highlights:4:25: Why ‘Approaching’ Feels So Hard and Scary13:37: Mental Block #1: ‘I’m Not Enough’ and Why This is Total B.S.16:34: Mental Block #2: ‘She Doesn’t Want Me to Bother Her’ and What Women Really Think17:18: Mental Block #3: ‘I Might Creep Her Out’ and How This Kills Your Confidence19:45: Mental Block #4: ‘I Don’t Know What to Say’ and the Simple Move to Fix This21:16: Mental Block #5: ‘What If I Get Rejected?’ and the Win-Lose Mindset That Hurts You25:33: Breakthrough #1: ‘I Am Enough’ and the Truth About Attraction31:45: Breakthrough #2: ‘She Wants Me to Talk to Her’—What Women Truly Want38:37: Breakthrough #3: ‘Talking to Women Is Attractive’ and the ‘Aha!’ Shift You Need50:12: Breakthrough #4: ‘I Don’t Need the Perfect Line’—How to Know What to Say1:02:02: Breakthrough #5: ‘I Cannot Lose’—the Win-Win Mindset that Makes You ConfidentListen now and start confidently meeting women in real life!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:[email protected]
Full Episode
Good looks are like jacuzzis. They're nice to have, but they're way overrated. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you flirt with confidence, get more dates, and get a great girlfriend in your life, and do it by being authentic, genuine, real. No sketchy, manipulative, pickup artist nonsense needed.
This is about being what I call radically authentic. And in this episode, I'm going to reveal for you the five biggest mental blocks that are stopping you from meeting incredible women out in the real world. You know, when you see that intriguing, stylish woman at the bar or that gorgeous girl in your yoga class
or you're shopping and you see that incredible woman walk by you in Whole Foods, I'm going to give you the five mental blocks that are stopping you from meeting these women or some of them.
And also in this episode, I'm going to give you five game-changing breakthroughs that will make it so much easier for you to start conversations, to flirt authentically and organically with women and attract the kinds of dates and women you want and get a great girlfriend. Because let's be honest,
You would love to meet some wonderful women in real life if you could, but something always stops you. You probably freeze up. You want to go talk to women, but you freeze up or you overthink it. Or maybe you wait for that perfect moment, but by the time you decide to act, she's gone, the moment's passed, and the opportunity is gone as well. And the thing about this is the problem isn't you.
The real problem is how you're thinking about it. meeting women and quote-unquote approaching them. It's a mindset issue. Right now, you're trying to quote-unquote approach and attract women, probably. You're thinking of it that way. You're thinking, I'm going to approach, and she will either accept it or reject it. And that creates pressure, and it kills confidence, and it gets you in your head.
The truth is women don't want to feel approached by a guy who's like running game or saying something he read on the internet. or parroting lines he heard from some so-called dating expert. Women want to feel like a fun, flirty, natural conversation just happened, like in the movies.
And today's episode is about me helping you stop, quote unquote, trying to approach women, which is very stressful and hard to do, and just break the ice in authentic, natural, organic ways, just like in the movies, so that you can have these real-life, romantic, natural moments and meet women that way. And let's be real. If you're like most guys, you're tired of the apps.
You're pretty much burnt out on apps, or at least you'd love to take a break from them. The endless swiping, the dead-end conversations, the ghosting. There is a better way. There really is. Or I should say an alternative way. And that's why this week I am kicking off a special four-part series here for Valentine's Week. Valentine's Day is this Friday.
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