Habits and Hustle
Episode 437: Annie Särnblad: How to Spot Lies and Detect True Emotions in Seconds
Tue, 01 Apr 2025
Ever wonder when someone is lying to you? In this episode on the Habits and Hustle podcast, I talk with Annie Särnblad, known as the "Human Lie Detector," as she reveals how micro-expressions expose our true emotions. We dive into the science of facial expressions and how they're biologically hardwired. We also discuss tips for navigating dating and business negotiations and why your intuition about someone's true intentions is often based on fleeting facial movements. Annie Särnblad is a world-renowned expert in reading facial expressions and a strategic advisor who has taught her skills to over 5,000 CEOs and business leaders globally. Certified in the Facial Action Coding System (FACS), she can identify and interpret the 10,000 different muscle combinations that create human facial expressions. She is the author of three books, including "Diary of a Human Lie Detector: Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies." What We Discuss: 06:01 The Power of Boldness 11:58 Understanding Facial Expressions 17:56 Micro vs. Macro Expressions 24:01 Identifying Fake Smiles and Phoniness 24:40 The Importance of Nonverbal Cues 28:00 Attraction vs. Emotional Attachment 35:28 Teaching Children to Recognize Emotions 45:05 Identifying Predatory Behavior in Kids 51:13 Understanding Attraction Through Body Language 54:22 Identifying Narcissism: Signs and Signals 59:34 The Complexity of Narcissistic Relationships 01:01:46 Detecting Lies: Key Indicators 01:08:39 Practical Applications of Micro Expressions …and more! Thank you to our sponsors: AquaTru: Get 20% off any purifier at aquatru.com with code HUSTLE Therasage: Head over to therasage.com and use code Be Bold for 15% off TruNiagen: Head over to truniagen.com and use code HUSTLE20 to get $20 off any purchase over $100. Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code Jen at checkout. BiOptimizers: Want to try Magnesium Breakthrough? Go to https://bioptimizers.com/jennifercohen and use promo code JC10 at checkout to save 10% off your purchase. Timeline Nutrition: Get 10% off your first order at timeline.com/cohen Air Doctor: Go to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code HUSTLE for up to $300 off and a 3-year warranty on air purifiers. Bio.me: Link to daily prebiotic fiber here, code Jennifer20 for 20% off. Momentous: Shop this link and use code Jen for 20% off Find more from Jen: Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://www.jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://www.jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagement Find more from Annie Särnblad: Website: https://anniesarnblad.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annie.sarnblad/
Chapter 1: What can micro-expressions reveal about emotions and lies?
That's what you're known as, right? Yeah. Oh, God. I'm scared, by the way. So I want to just give a little brief. So her book is called Diary of a Human Lie Detector, Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies.
And you basically know thousands of facial expressions, and you can read thousands of different facial expressions to tell if somebody is lying to you, if they like you, if they're a narcissist, if they're a psychopath. I mean, I'm actually kind of nervous interviewing you because you're going to be watching my face and I'm now going to be like, oh, I shouldn't do this. I shouldn't sit like that.
Does that ever happen? Do people get scared to talk to you?
Oh, all the time. And so just to clarify, like I can numerically code or anybody who is trained in facial action coding systems can take the 10,000 different muscle combinations. And it's not thousands of facial expressions, but it is a lot of muscle combinations and it's a lot of facial expressions.
And yes, people get really nervous, but almost nobody gets as nervous as men who have some kind of shame in their lives. They get really, really wound up.
Really? Women don't get nervous if they have shame?
flustered, but I think women innately, and not all of us, because we do, thank goodness, have different wiring in our brains. Every individual is slightly different. But I think we women are used to some other people around us being able to read us really well.
I mean, a lot of us have good friends and family members that have kind of been able to read us or even hear that kind of hitch in our voice or tightness in our vocal cords. And they'll kind of turn around quickly and say, well, what's wrong? When we, you know, what do you mean what's wrong? I didn't say anything. No, I can hear it or I can feel it or I can sense it. I can see it on you.
So I think we're just used to reading others or focusing on those skills, and we're used to being read more often or sometimes more hyper-aware of it.
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Chapter 2: How does cultural background affect body language interpretation?
or you're just a little uncomfortable thinking about something else. The facial expressions, the piece that I love and the reason that I've gotten so into teaching facial expressions is that they are biological responses. They are the same. The micro expressions are the same regardless of culture.
ethnicity, age, gender, socialization, no matter who raised us, even people who are born blind make the same facial expressions, the same basic facial expressions. There are some cultural expressions, but I don't teach those. I don't focus on those. So the facial expression says exactly what someone is feeling in the exact moment they're feeling it. The micro expression doesn't.
does because the microexpression precedes the thought process and is involuntary. So unless I change my thoughts, I can't stop myself, even me, from making the microexpression. So I have three grown children. Wow.
And our dinner table is a mess. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I can imagine. Wait, so this is very interesting. You said a few things that I want to talk about. Number one, so body language could be also not just dependent on person to person, but also culturally. Like what you do in one culture could be very distinctly different how your body language is in another culture.
But what you said was interesting, that micro facial expressions, it doesn't matter what culture, who, what age, ethnicity, doesn't matter. It's always the same.
Because it's biologically hardwired into us. So I'll give you an example that when human beings are afraid, we do this. We pull our upper eyelids back, and that's so that we can widen our field of vision so we can gauge, like, how do I get out of this situation? Where can I escape? I mean, it's a physiological response. Right. So you see the tendons of my neck jump? Yeah, yeah.
And that's because fear opens our mouths. If you look at pictures of people in haunted houses, you know how sometimes you go through those haunted houses and you're doing, like, a Disney World, or they snap the picture at the moment where your mouth, like,
And if you look at those pictures, everybody across ethnicities, ages, genders, like everybody makes the same exact facial expression when they're absolutely terrified. And we open our mouths. That's the only expression that really rectangularizes the entire mouth. And that's so we can scream bloody murder so we can get help.
So there's a physical, physiological reason that there's a change in blood flow and muscle movement for each facial expression. And so the micro expression of fear is just, see how that does the neck tendon? And it's just this pull of like, it's just like that little itching to come out. And it can also be this pull back.
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Chapter 3: Are there universal facial expressions across different cultures?
So if I'm asking you if you want to eat...
Italian food tonight I might dip my gaze and just see if you if I get a little no what so this is okay so by the way guys you got to watch the video on YouTube because you have to see exactly what Annie is doing but she was just like kind of pulsing like that what do you call that thing the nasal I
I call it the nostril shadow because it's the shadow. It's like where people tend to get some fillers in there because they think it makes them look a little old. But it's this wrinkle that is just right next to the nostrils. Usually when I make them micro myself, unless I'm really upset by something, then both sides jump.
But usually it's just my left side and everybody's got a side that they favor. And it's almost like, you know, when you get that tick on your eye sometimes when you're really tired or struts and your eye, like right underneath your eye just jumps. That's what it feels like. And people often don't notice it when it's next to the nose, but it's just that little jump.
And I sometimes call it like the bad bunny rabbit twitch.
That's a good name for it too. So basically macro expressions are more the obvious ones, right? Like you're disgusted, you're happy, whatever. But the micro are like this, the very subtleties that you can actually really tell how someone is truly thinking or feeling. In the exact moment. Yeah. Okay, so let's go over some stuff here.
So what are signs of like, how do you, what are signs of someone, of a fake smile? Like what are signs of a fake smile? Because everyone is so like, hi, how nice to meet you, la, la, la, la, la. And, you know, like, I personally feel like I can spot it, like, dead on. But I want to know if there are very specific things that you can, like, point to that my audience can get. Yes.
Okay, so the easiest thing is that the smile has nothing to do with the mouth. Nothing at all, really. Nothing to do with what the lips are doing. When we experience joy, our cheeks pop up. They lose gravity. These are called our infraorbital triangles. And you can see it. It actually makes you happy because it's contagious, right?
So when I actually look at you and smile because I'm happy to see you, my cheeks actually make more of a ball and they rise. And depending on your baseline, the formation of your, you know, the angle of your face, but you're still going to see those cheeks pop up. And what happens is you get these beautiful smile bags. So this skin right under my lower eyelid gets fat and puffs out. See that?
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Chapter 4: What are the differences between macro and micro facial expressions?
And it's the same exact area that we sometimes talk about. We get increased pigmentation depending on the natural pigment of our skin. It might be brown or it might be purple. But it's a darker shade when we're not getting enough sleep. And that's exactly that area that we're looking for that to bulge.
So I would think that faking a smile is pretty much pretty simple only because people know when they should be trying to look like they're happy or look like they're, you know, smiling because they know people are watching them and they can kind of figure it out.
Would I really...
I was going to say, what I find interesting is when someone like, let's say you get good news, you know, this whole thing about like schadenfreude, right? When people actually find like misery in someone's, and when someone feels happiness in someone's misery or like, that's really what it is.
But there's a lot of times when like you like you do something really great and then people like, oh, my God, I'm so happy for you. Right. Like that, like fakeness, like the phoniness. How can you spot when someone's being phony and actually doesn't want the best for you or when they're envious of you or jealous of you?
Yeah. So in Swedish, we call it skadeglädje, which means injured cheerful or injured joy. Okay.
I like that too.
Basically, somebody is getting hurt and you're happy about it. And so that's a really good question. So the things that I will look for is whether or not the facial expression is particularly the microexpressions, knowing that the microexpressions leak people's true intentions. and they can't hide them. And most people can't make the microexpressions on demand.
My kids can do a little bit of them, but like, you know, 20 years of practicing. Right. And so, first of all, if I'm saying something joyful, I should be, you know, maybe nodding, or I should be lifting my informal triangles and showing that. That said, I can hear something and think that like, that's great. I just, I've had such a hard day or I have a migraine and I can't quite muster the joy.
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Chapter 5: How can you spot a fake smile?
Yes. Not just looking at their eyes. Don't hold your gaze on their mouth for more than three seconds at a time. Do you know why? Why?
Why?
Because they're going to lean in to kiss you.
Really?
Yeah.
I mean, not everybody, but... I was going to say everybody, I mean, or like guy versus girl. Well, that's actually a good point.
It's the strangest, or if you do want somebody to kiss you, like look at their mouth. Well, how do you know? I literally had clients in Asia when I was working in Asia try to tilt their head, lean forward, and then catch themselves and be like... What am I doing? Because it's this sort of universal signal that I was signaling and they stopped themselves. They weren't going to do it.
And there wasn't chemistry between us. But it was just almost like, you know, when a baby lifts their face to kiss you. I mean, even if it's a strange baby, you almost like you catch yourself and you're like, I can't kiss this stranger's baby in the grocery store. Oh my God. That's so funny.
So you're saying you should not look at someone's mouth for longer than three seconds.
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Chapter 6: What are the signs of phony behavior or insincerity?
My eyelids are drooping and I'm just like checked out. This is often with like a little bit of a head tilt showing some vulnerability.
there and softness and then you're just like almost showing off like look how much eyelid I have and that's how you can tell if someone's attracted to you okay right and so that's a that's a big piece and by the way we're looking for that that lowering so we're looking again for the difference in the baseline whether or not you have single folded eyelids or double folded eyelids I have family members that that are Chinese it doesn't matter you're looking for the movement
Okay, so that's the eyelids. That's the bedroom eyes. You're looking for a dilation of the pupils. So not that pupils are big, but that they become bigger during the conversation or interaction. So you're looking for a change. So people can have bigger pupils depending on kind of their baseline or they can have bigger pupils one day because they're on certain medication.
Drugs can make pupils either bigger or smaller. And so we're looking for the swelling of the pupils in the moment. So not the initial size that day. And we know that pupils expand and contract if the room is darker or lighter.
If we're sitting outside and having a picnic and it's really sunny and there's some clouds, we know that when the sky becomes dark, our pupils are going to swell to allow in more light. And I talk about that as almost like throwing the door open and saying, like, come in, come in, come in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because you're opening that aperture and saying, like, come on in.
Welcome. But then what's the difference between someone who just wants to sleep with you versus someone who really cares about you, wants to have, like, a real relationship?
Right. So that difference. So I'll finish this one. So above the eyes, in the eyes, and under. And under is those smile bags from the joy. You know, we tend to get a little happier and more cheerful when we're around somebody that we're attracted to. So that's the attraction. And then under.
The achy, breaky heart, whether or not we empathize with somebody, whether or not we love them, whether or not we experience tenderness, that's right here on the chin. So if you tell me something hard or painful that you've experienced, I should be responding with a chin pucker if I care about you. Where I care about the thing.
And it's kind of that you can make yourself do it by just saying, aww, by looking like puppy videos or baby videos. Or if you look at pictures of your own children when they're really cute and chubby and little and you'll automatically pucker that chin. Mm-hmm.
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Chapter 7: How can you tell if someone is romantically interested in you?
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Thank you. Thank you. And it was the first time we'd had a real conversation in over 30 years. And I was talking to him and I had, well, that's so funny that you just put three fingers up. I had three fingers on my face and I looked at him and he had, that's just like telepathy. Seriously, this is crazy. That's true. I did the same thing.
You just did it before I reached for my face and you did it with three, too.
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Chapter 8: What facial cues indicate genuine empathy and emotional connection?
Right. So lie detection, the people that I love listening to about lie detection, the people that I... Joe Navarro, I love him. FBI agent. He just wrote a book about body... He's written a couple books, but he's... You want to get your information from people who have been in life or death scenarios if you're looking for lie detection.
I want somebody who's been in the military or somebody that's been... Where it's really been high stakes and not just somebody who says like, I'm an expert about...
on body language because I just you know everybody's always told me I'm good at it like I want somebody who's really been trained you know give me a hostage negotiator give me boss like give me give me somebody who's been through it I totally agree I like this guy I've had on the pod just not to interrupt you yeah no tell me Joe Navarro I just wrote him down I'm gonna I'm gonna reach out to him every I've never met him and everywhere I go to speak somebody's like we had Joe Navarro last year
I'm going to look into him. I love this guy. He wrote the book. Why am I blanking? He's like a hostage negotiator. He's very well known. Chris Voss. Yeah, I like him.
Yes. Yeah. I do a lot of places where he's, yeah. Yeah. And in fact, there was one guy that I don't think the podcast was ever published. And he said in the pre-interview, he was like, I don't like Chris. I didn't like him. I interviewed him and I didn't like him. And I was like, oh shit, you're not going to like me either. And he didn't.
Are you serious? That's hilarious. Yeah.
He did not like somebody getting insight into what was going on. And I was like, dude, I'm not analyzing you. We're just having a conversation. I know.
That's someone that's very interesting, actually. Yeah. That's a very interesting person. That's a sure sign. But... You know, right there.
Yes. So we'll talk about that sometime offline because it was, I'll tell you the whole story. It was really, really interesting. And I just like, I sat there in that chair and I was like, this is not going to ever go up. Oh, wow. Because you've got some stuff that you are hiding, sir. And it's none of my business. And like, can we please get back to talking about my book?
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