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The REAL Reason 95% Can't Break Bad Habits (Psychology Expert) | Kaylor Betts DSH #999
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The REAL reason 95% of people can't break bad habits lies in our subconscious programming. 🧠 In this powerful episode, psychology expert Kaylor Betts reveals how our automatic behaviors are shaped by early experiences and why most people stay trapped in cycles of self-sabotage. Discover why willpower alone isn't enough and learn the proven strategies for reprogramming your mind for lasting change. From overcoming addiction to transforming anxiety into strength, Kaylor shares his personal journey of breaking free from destructive patterns and helping others do the same. You'll learn how to identify your "anti-you," understand the role of survival instincts in bad habits, and develop practical tools for lasting transformation. This eye-opening conversation explores: • Why traditional approaches to breaking habits often fail • How to recognize and overcome self-sabotaging patterns • The science behind lasting behavioral change • Practical steps to reprogram your subconscious mind Perfect for anyone struggling with bad habits, anxiety, or self-sabotage who's ready to make real, lasting change. Watch now to unlock the secrets of true transformation and learn why most people stay stuck - and how you can be different. 🚀 #mentalhealthadvocate #wellnessstrategies #habitcues #mentalhealthawareness #mindfulness #selfimprovement #mentalhealthadvocate #motivationalspeech #mentalhealthawareness #healthawareness CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Intro 00:27 - Kaylor Betts 01:34 - Escaping Reality 02:49 - Panic Attacks 04:13 - Systemic Failures 06:38 - Medical System Failures 07:55 - Food Industry Issues 09:26 - Genetic Factors in Depression 14:47 - Government Food Intervention 18:24 - Canada vs US Food Systems 21:20 - Micro vs Macro Harm Prevention 23:37 - Sunscreen Effectiveness 25:25 - Trusting Science and Research 31:00 - Subconscious Mind Insights 34:59 - The Anti-You Concept 36:00 - Interrupting Negative Patterns 38:30 - Real-Time Pattern Interruption 42:30 - You Are Not Your Thoughts 46:16 - Where to Find Kaylor 46:48 - Outro APPLY TO BE ON THE PODCAST: https://www.digitalsocialhour.com/application BUSINESS INQUIRIES/SPONSORS: [email protected] GUEST: Kaylor Betts https://www.instagram.com/thekaylorbetts/ https://www.youtube.com/@awakeandwinning LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/digital-social-hour/id1676846015 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Jn7LXarRlI8Hc0GtTn759 Sean Kelly Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seanmikekelly/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is the REAL reason 95% of people can't break bad habits?
a micro happiness right a little hit light up lighting up of the pleasure centers your brain but then eventually you get into so much death happiness wise that it ends up catching up to you and that's when a panic attack will happen and this is really your body screaming at you being like yo like we need to make a change we need to interrupt the pattern that you're living in and some people get out of it and some people just stay in that perpetual cycle for their entire lives and it's really sad wow
All right, guys, another fellow podcast host here today from Canada. We got Kaler Betts. Thanks for coming on, man. Yeah, thanks, man. Honored to be here. Yeah, you've been on a spree. I see you got some big names coming on your show lately, so congrats.
Yeah, thanks, man. It's pretty exciting. As someone who didn't graduate from high school and struggled to get out of bed for most of his life, it's pretty fucking cool. Wow. I would say so. So struggling to get out, was that mental reasons?
Yeah, mental. And then that, of course, manifested into physical struggles. But yeah, I like to say, like, really how it felt was I struggled to get out of bed. And it's because I would rather when I did wake up, I would rather just go back to sleep and live in my dreams than face the reality that was my life.
you know yeah and um you know why i pushed through is a kind of a whole other story but um i'm lucky i did and i went on a relentless journey of being obsessed with how to level up and expand and heal and grow and win and uh i've gotten to a place that you know i don't have it all figured out but uh you know i got new levels to unlock but um
Yeah, I feel really grateful and I'm in a place I never would have imagined. I mean, I'm on the fucking digital social hour podcast, man. I appreciate that. Flying into Vegas for a day. So yeah, no.
I relate to that though. I've gone through periods where I've spent months in my bedroom. Really? Yeah, locked up and just didn't want to leave. Yeah. So I think that's something people deal with for sure.
Yeah, man. And I would just, me too. And I hit it so well, you know, I'd show up with a smile on my face and just please all the people around me. And I thought, man, maybe if I please the people around me and if I fit into the box of what I think is convenient for them and what they want, then maybe I'll get validated. Then maybe I'll feel worthy. Then maybe I'll feel...
Like I'm winning and man, that's just a perpetual cycle of, you know, causing you to lose in life. And I'm the same way, man. I would, although I did things in the external world like businesses and whatnot and projects that didn't allow me to spend months in my bedroom, but yeah.
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Chapter 2: How can we escape the cycle of self-sabotage?
Yeah, I spoke at an event recently and one of the top neurosurgeons was there watching. He came up to me afterwards. He said doctors at large corporations have quotas to hit for prescriptions. So it's similar to police officers. How messed up is that? Yeah, that's not aligned with our health.
It shouldn't be allowed. And there's only two countries in the world that are able to advertise pharmaceutical drugs. like they're some sort of lucrative business because they are.
Chapter 3: What role does the subconscious mind play in our habits?
Yeah, it's a third of commercials, right? Yeah, I've never heard of that. But it's the US and New Zealand, actually, surprisingly. I wonder why New Zealand's doing that. I don't know, actually. But yeah, in Canada, we see them, but it's only during an American production. Interesting. So on YouTube, you don't see them in Canada? No, you guys see them on YouTube?
Yeah, we get YouTube ads for them, dude. I did not even know that. Yeah, it's everywhere. I mean, no one watches TV anymore, so they're just going to go to YouTube, go to social media. I get Facebook ads. I get Instagram ads for it. I didn't know that. Yeah. That's crazy, man. I mean, I see, what's that peptide everyone's on that's making them lose weight?
Oh, yeah, GLP-1. Yeah, I see that everywhere. GLP-1's like, you know, Ozempic. Ozempic, yeah. I get ads for that all the time. Yeah, and it's tough, man, because I'm a capitalist, you know, like I believe in a free market, but I do believe there has to be some guardrails there.
And it's like, I think, you know, it's so evident that it is affecting society at large in a very toxic way in terms of like our food. And I mean, man, this goes so deep, but like the highly processed food and the seed oils and the inflammatory diets that most people are on. Yeah.
And then the lifestyles that they have. We're so disconnected from what makes us human. We're so disconnected from the primal lifestyle, what's ancestrally consistent and how we've lived for most of human history. We're so disconnected with that. And people wonder why they're depressed. Have you ever seen those memes that are like the I'm depressed and I don't know why starter pack? Yeah.
Yeah, it's like Pornhub, Doritos, your cherry fucking vape, all of those things. And it's like, you know, look, are there deeper, complex, nuanced reasons for depression and anxiety? Absolutely. But honestly, man, if most people just got off all of that shit, put their feet on the ground, got sun in their eyes and on their skin.
stopped you know eating highly toxic processed foods moved their body every single day got a mission that actually like lights their soul on fire you know and the list goes on but if they just did the basic fundamental principles regulate their circadian rhythm if they just got those basic fundamental principles down slowly but surely i really don't think that people would be really depressed you know i i really think they would start to feel themselves again
I agree. What do you think of people that say their depression and anxiety is genetic from their parents? Well, I'm forgetting his name. Actually, Francis Collins, he was the head of the Human Genome Project. He said a really smart quote, I believe. And I don't think I'm paraphrasing. I think this is the exact quote. He says, genes hold the gun, environment pulls the trigger. Hmm.
so therefore what i interpret that to mean is that yeah your genetics play a role so they hold the gun meaning if you have the genetics and you're pre predisposed to anxiety depression and stuff like this i do believe that that is a real thing because i think these things are passed down and i think some people are just more likely to struggle with their mental health yeah and physical health just like some people are more likely to get cancer because of their physiology
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Chapter 4: Why do panic attacks occur and how can we manage them?
Chapter 5: What are the systemic failures in the medical and food industries?
Yeah, I feel really grateful and I'm in a place I never would have imagined. I mean, I'm on the fucking digital social hour podcast, man. I appreciate that. Flying into Vegas for a day. So yeah, no.
I relate to that though. I've gone through periods where I've spent months in my bedroom. Really? Yeah, locked up and just didn't want to leave. Yeah. So I think that's something people deal with for sure.
Yeah, man. And I would just, me too. And I hit it so well, you know, I'd show up with a smile on my face and just please all the people around me. And I thought, man, maybe if I please the people around me and if I fit into the box of what I think is convenient for them and what they want, then maybe I'll get validated. Then maybe I'll feel worthy. Then maybe I'll feel...
Like I'm winning and man, that's just a perpetual cycle of, you know, causing you to lose in life. And I'm the same way, man. I would, although I did things in the external world like businesses and whatnot and projects that didn't allow me to spend months in my bedroom, but yeah.
man when i could i would and um i would just smoke weed and drink and eat shitty food and watch porn and um smoke cigarettes and like do anything that i could to just you know escape the reality that was my life to numb everything same dude yeah i used to be a huge stoner yeah multiple times a day yeah yeah yeah drinking almost every day in college it was rough yeah
Yeah. That's not sustainable. I started having terrible panic attacks. Me too. I panic attacks for sure. I mean that, that's what will happen is your body will become so dysregulated. Your nervous system will become so dysregulated and it will be, you know, those panic attacks from everything I've observed is just your body screaming at you inside.
We'll maybe talk about the subconscious, but it's, it's this part of you that's just wanting you to feel safe and survive and and you're just damaging it. All those things like the porn and the weed and the nicotine and all that stuff, the drinking, it just delays the anxiety and depression, but then it amplifies it. You know, so look, all those things are like a credit card for happiness.
So you can use a credit card and you can swipe it and you'll get a little bit of micro happiness, right? A little hit light up, lighting up of the pleasure centers of your brain. But then eventually you get into so much death happiness wise that it ends up catching up to you. And that's when a panic attack will happen.
And it's just really your body screaming at you being like, yo, like we need to make a change. We need to interrupt the pattern that you're living in. And some people get out of it and some people just stay in that perpetual cycle for their entire lives. And it's really sad.
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Chapter 6: How do genetics and environment interact in mental health?
It's something like the European Union Food Association or something like that. But they're just more stringent on what can be in their food. Same with Canada. In Canada, it's the Canadian Food and Drug Administration, I think. Mm-hmm.
uh i could be saying that wrong i'm for some reason i'm drawing a blank on it and then obviously it's the fda and in in the united states the fda because they're in cahoots with the government it's just all about money it's just all about lobbying and money um and you know power and leverage and So they're not stringent. So the shit that gets in the food in America is crazy.
And it is more stringent in Canada. So it's at least a little better. But you see those food regulatory agencies, what they do well, reasonably well. is they prevent you from anything that will harm you in the micro. So we're not going to pick up a food from the grocery store or even a lotion or some sort of cosmetic. We're not going to put that on or consume it and we're going to die on the spot.
They're going to keep poison out of it. Okay, great. You do that well. That's pretty standard. And I would say relatively, you would assume they would do that. But what they're really bad at...
is in the macro so things that slowly poison you over time right they do not seem to be concerned with things that slowly poison you over time and that's the big problem and they're finding out heavy metals and supplements certain vegetables and now it's kind of too late because people have been eating these for years taking these supplements for years and the buildup is pretty massive Yeah.
And chemicals as well, too, like things in our sunscreen, like like benzene, you know, now they are recalling and pulling off the shelf some sunscreen that has amounts of like any sort of benzene in it because it's been shown to be associated with cancers.
so ironic right ironic right but like okay kind of too late like you know like I don't know like could we not have just under like assumed that it wasn't good to put chemicals on our skin because whatever we put on our skin essentially gets into our bloodstream just like if we put it through our mouths so it's like could we not have just assumed that it wasn't good to put chemicals on us and why not just go with like a mineral based sunscreen that like you can get and like I use a mineral based sunscreen it's
it's tallow based so it's like beef fat it's got some zinc in there and um it works just fine i see those beef tallow videos those are those are hot right now they really are man because it's really good for your skin yeah because it's all natural so i'm a fan of that yeah i remember using sunscreen growing up not even questioning if it was bad for me because the marketing on sunscreen was phenomenal you know what i mean like you can't deny that
It's insane, man. I just saw Carnivore Aurelius. I don't know if you follow him on Instagram, but yeah, he's got a great page and great content, but he was just talking about, he showed a video where it's like humans in sunscreen and it shows this mom on the beach just spraying her son down with this chemical sunscreen. which we see on the beaches all the time, obviously.
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