[video available on spotify] this past weekend i found myself with a dilemma. i had a lot of work to get done. and then, two of my loved ones asked me to hang out. do i choose to be selfish and get stuff done? or do i neglect my work and spend quality time with my loved ones? this really brought to my attention how challenging it is to choose between selflishness and selflessness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
What dilemma does the host face regarding work and loved ones?
This past weekend, I found myself in a little bit of a dilemma. Okay, let me paint the picture for you. So the week leading up to last weekend was really busy. I had a lot of work to get done. And I'll be honest, I only got about 50% of it done. So that left me on Friday evening, incredibly stressed, incredibly stressed, knowing that I'd have to work over the weekend.
And that's something I try not to do because... I try to maintain a level of work-life balance. And in theory, I'm my own boss and I can take time off whenever I want, which is an absolute luxury. But I do hold myself to a certain standard. And so there are times when I have to work on the weekends, whether it's because there's deadlines or because I didn't meet my own expectations.
You know, it happens. And so Friday evening, I knew, OK, this weekend I'm going to have to work. And that's totally fine. But it's a little bit of a bummer, but it's only fine. But it'll make me feel good to do that. Right. Ultimately, the decision to work on the weekend was for me to make me feel good, because when I'm ahead.
and I'm not constantly being chased by deadlines, I feel good, I feel happy. And so me working last weekend wasn't necessarily mandatory because it wasn't like, oh, if I don't work this weekend, I'm not gonna meet certain deadlines. It was more like, I wanna work this weekend so I can have a comfortable buffer between my deadlines. So that's how I was feeling on Friday evening. And then...
I get a text from two separate loved ones, okay? I'm not saying like a group chat was made and they both texted me and asked me to hang out. No. Two of my loved ones separately asked me to hang out. And I deeply adore these people, okay? But I was faced with this sort of dilemma. Do I choose to be selfish and work and get stuff done and make myself feel good? But potentially...
neglect these loved ones and not spend quality time with them? Or do I neglect my work and what will ultimately make me feel probably best? Because being ahead in my work life makes me feel really good. Like when I'm ahead... I'm just peaceful. And on top of that, I'm more fun to be around because I'm not stressed. So do I neglect my work, potentially be in a bad mood, at least internally?
I try not to show that on the outside, but at least internally. but get to spend quality time with my loved ones and make them feel loved and seen and appreciated by me hanging out with them. This sort of dilemma really brought to my attention how truly challenging it is at times to choose between selfishness and selflessness. And there's absolutely no perfect piece of advice
for this sort of dilemma. There's no answer. You know, I feel like there's a lot of conflicting advice out there about whether to be selfish or selfless. And there's not a lot of advice on how to figure out when to do which. Like, I feel like I see advice all the time online about how you have to be selfish, prioritize yourself, you know, help yourself before you help others.
That's how you reach your ultimate potential. That's how you're able to help others. You know, if you're selfish... for the most part, then you'll naturally want to be selfless in a way. Being selfish is important and we should all be selfish. But then I also hear advice that's like, we should lead a selfless life for ultimate fulfillment and purpose, doing things for ourselves all the time.
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