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Hey Dan, I have a question for you regarding entanglement and specifically what's a good rule of thumb in terms of How long to wait in a new relationship before meeting your new poly partner's kid or kiddos?

Hey Dan, I have a question for you regarding entanglement and specifically what's a good rule of thumb in terms of How long to wait in a new relationship before meeting your new poly partner's kid or kiddos?

And then alternatively, when you are forced to dump that motherfucker of a dad already, is it ever appropriate to maintain some distant yet respectful version of a relationship with this kiddo that you grew really close to during that relationship? The dad in question, I started dating about eight months ago. I knew he was new to the poly realm, him and his wife. I was open to it.

And then alternatively, when you are forced to dump that motherfucker of a dad already, is it ever appropriate to maintain some distant yet respectful version of a relationship with this kiddo that you grew really close to during that relationship? The dad in question, I started dating about eight months ago. I knew he was new to the poly realm, him and his wife. I was open to it.

He seemed so self-aware and just like really emotionally intelligent. So I was ready to take the plunge and I did. And I fell in love with him and his six-year-old daughter. She is awesome. I love this kid. We really hit it off. We had so much fun like building pillow forts and like I'd pick her from school. We'd go on art dates.

He seemed so self-aware and just like really emotionally intelligent. So I was ready to take the plunge and I did. And I fell in love with him and his six-year-old daughter. She is awesome. I love this kid. We really hit it off. We had so much fun like building pillow forts and like I'd pick her from school. We'd go on art dates.

She'd tell me that she loved me when I'd tuck her in at night, like that kind of stuff. We got close really fast. We met about two months into my relationship with her dad. And then we started getting really close, like three to four months on. Right around that same time, he starts really pushing for a third partner.

She'd tell me that she loved me when I'd tuck her in at night, like that kind of stuff. We got close really fast. We met about two months into my relationship with her dad. And then we started getting really close, like three to four months on. Right around that same time, he starts really pushing for a third partner.

It's almost as if the moment we got comfortable, the NRE still hasn't even worn off. Like he's ready for the next one. I begged him not to do this. Because I had some trauma to work through. I knew what to do. But I knew it takes time. You can't make yourself feel a different way.

It's almost as if the moment we got comfortable, the NRE still hasn't even worn off. Like he's ready for the next one. I begged him not to do this. Because I had some trauma to work through. I knew what to do. But I knew it takes time. You can't make yourself feel a different way.

I also didn't trust that he had the capacity and he proved that he didn't with time and a lot of really subtle manipulation and the pushing of boundaries. But I don't want to punish this kid for her dad's shitty decisions while he's balls deep on NRE. So in the meantime, things are getting a little hectic with that. I'm really stressed out working on the jealousy stuff.

I also didn't trust that he had the capacity and he proved that he didn't with time and a lot of really subtle manipulation and the pushing of boundaries. But I don't want to punish this kid for her dad's shitty decisions while he's balls deep on NRE. So in the meantime, things are getting a little hectic with that. I'm really stressed out working on the jealousy stuff.

His wife decides that she's divorcing him. So everyone is dumping this motherfucker already, except for the person who's now dating him, which if I were her, I'd be running for the hills, quite frankly. But I get it. The neurochemicals are strong. So this was incredibly rewarding experience for me in terms of co-parenting. I didn't anticipate this. So it's not all a loss.

His wife decides that she's divorcing him. So everyone is dumping this motherfucker already, except for the person who's now dating him, which if I were her, I'd be running for the hills, quite frankly. But I get it. The neurochemicals are strong. So this was incredibly rewarding experience for me in terms of co-parenting. I didn't anticipate this. So it's not all a loss.

But I'm grieving two people now. And God, holy shit, it's hard. I'm so sad. And her mom and I still text. We're kind of distant friends. We share a unique experience now, dating the same person. And she thinks it would be more jarring if I were to just disappear. So I don't know, Dan, what do you think? Is it appropriate? Should I try to hang? Have a play date?

But I'm grieving two people now. And God, holy shit, it's hard. I'm so sad. And her mom and I still text. We're kind of distant friends. We share a unique experience now, dating the same person. And she thinks it would be more jarring if I were to just disappear. So I don't know, Dan, what do you think? Is it appropriate? Should I try to hang? Have a play date?

And also, what should I look for in the future? I mean, I get it. Sometimes people just completely change their personality months into a relationship. But what are some good things to be on the lookout for? For future co-parenting opportunities?

And also, what should I look for in the future? I mean, I get it. Sometimes people just completely change their personality months into a relationship. But what are some good things to be on the lookout for? For future co-parenting opportunities?

Hey Dan, I am a 30 year old straight female living in the UK and I've been dating my partner for two and a half years. He's always exhibited traits and quirks that I wasn't 100% fond of, but I was chalking these up to me being his first real relationship, coupled with ongoing family traumas that he's been experiencing since he was a child.

Hey Dan, I am a 30 year old straight female living in the UK and I've been dating my partner for two and a half years. He's always exhibited traits and quirks that I wasn't 100% fond of, but I was chalking these up to me being his first real relationship, coupled with ongoing family traumas that he's been experiencing since he was a child.