Tammy Franklin
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Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Uh-huh, I'm here. He said, ask Timmy.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Other things you got, I think.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I think that when you're in it, you don't necessarily recognize it like that. Yeah. Him wanting to, and I would say this, if anybody has... fallen madly and deeply in love with his story.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
To the point of wanting to protect him. I think that as a wife, you kind of, you know, and so I think for me, you know, listening to that clip and really kind of, you know, thinking about it, I remember when it when I watched it when it first came out, but I hadn't seen it in a while. And so I think initially I cheered him on.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I applauded the fact, you know, what woman doesn't want an involved father? But now on the opposite end of that, at empty nesting stage, you know, I do see where there was deficiency. And I believe that probably a lot of couples that you sit with, a wife would say, Yeah. I don't think nobody can beat a woman supporting.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I didn't do that, but I was in the studio when that was actually recorded. Are you kidding me? I am not kidding you. I love Next. I grew up to Next.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Can't nobody beat us supporting. Yeah. But to a fault.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You know, and it's like. Now at 29 years of marriage, do I see there were deficiencies with regards to support of me or pushing me? What would you like to do? And then too, we grew up in an era, because I'm not mad at him for it. We grew up in an era in which, especially if you grew up in church and ministry, the ministry is what is the most vital, the most important.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And in terms of your role as a wife, your role is home and supporting the ministry. So it's like supporting husband, but the ministry is added. It adds a whole other layer. So in my mind, this is what I'm called to do. This is my ministry.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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You know, so I'm, I'm not necessarily mad about it. You know what I mean? Like, um, my husband traveled a whole lot and his desire was that we'd not be apart any more than two, two, I say two years, two weeks. Oh, that's good. Yeah. Boundaries. Yeah. And, um, he didn't want any more than two weeks of being apart from me. And then, um, You know, my kids needed normalcy.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so it worked best for us that I be at home. And, you know, do I wish I would have done some things different? It's kind of like both ends. Yeah. I wouldn't change anything, but then I would change something. Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I'm glad to be here. We've been trying to do this. Yes. Been trying to do this for a while. So I'm excited to come sit on your couch and chat with you.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I think that just more emphasis and thought to what is it that I would like to do. As a woman, your dreams, your hopes, everything becomes like what your kids, you know, it's their hopes and their dreams. It is. Or my husband's.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I'm there to like be the cheerleader. And how are we going to make it happen?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Because like I said, can't nobody beat us.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Can't nobody beat a woman's support. But what it has informed me, Crystal, is I'm able now to tell my daughter-in-law.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I wanted her to have a special gift from me. And I bought her a necklace and I was going to buy her an F, symbolizing Franklin. And I took a step back and I said, no, I'm going to get her an A for Alina. Because of what I have experienced, I now can share with my new daughter-in-law, other women. Hey, and my son, I raised him.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I raised him to understand that as a husband, she's not there just to serve you and your hopes and your dreams. Cultivate her. What does she want to do? Make sure you're asking her often.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And with Alina, the gift I gave her with that A, I wrote a little note to her and I said, I know right now you're trying to think about how can I be suitable, adaptable, all the things Keziah, all the things wife. And I said, I want you, when you see this A on your neck, I want you to think about yourself.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Had I not gone through it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Girl, no. She said, girl, no. Uh-uh. Because they sign. I sing. Okay. It's a difference. Yes, I was in a little group called Ashanti. Wow. Some people may remember this. I saw this on like a ... You know how there's these different IG pages? This page was like old R&B music. Yes, yes. And we had a really big single. We were signed to Scotty Brother Records. Wow.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And we had this single that was a reply to R. Kelly. And ours was, there is something wrong with a little bumper car.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Well, I was there, yeah, something wrong with a little bummer.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
It wasn't gospel, because we weren't singing gospel music.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You know, this was before girl groups were like trying to be overly lexian and things. And so for me, a lot of people don't know, part of my story has been a single mom. When Kirk and I married, I had Carrington and he had Carrion.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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So they were five and six. And Kirk did legally adopt her.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so, you know, for me, it was a way to take care of my daughter. I've always, you know, it's funny how God prepares you for what you're going to do.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Yes. And so even within the group, I was the one that did the choreography. I was the one that did like our outfits. There's a group called Next. Yeah. I used to choreograph for them.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I didn't do that, but I was in the studio when that was actually recorded.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I am not kidding you. I love Next. I grew up to Next.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
So we all lived in Minnesota at the time. So our manager was the same manager at the time as Mint Condition.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so... You got a story to tell. I've been around Prince. I mean, it was kind of 21, not a care in the world, living in Minnesota. But let me say, God, even in that week, rather than going to New York or L.A., Minnesota was the most family-friendliest. They closed at midnight. And we were in church. We were in choir. We would have on our little fishnet.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And I feel the same about you. I mean, first of all, I'm a sister's fan. So when you were added to the cast, I mean, all of you ladies are beautiful. There's just something about you. I was like, oh, she's so, I just love her. Plus, you know, the whole character is just dope. So I'm like, then when I met you in person, I was like, first of all, you are gorgeous.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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pantyhose and hot paint, you know, under our dress for Wednesday night service. And then we're going to like, we're going to Princess Club with Glam Slam. Wow. We're going to Glam Slam.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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The girl was ready. Ready. The church would come and see us perform. I love that. It was a time. Wow. It was a time.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You know, took me back to Bimmer Lane.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Have you thought about that? Um, it has been, um, suggested to me often.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so, yeah, I think a book is forthcoming. I would love to read your journey. Yeah, I did, I also actually did a foreword for a book and the agent said, hey, have you thought about
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And you remind me so much of my daughter. But I'm sorry, ask the question.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I hear it's trash. You're so bad. And I'm so sorry for y'all.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I need these mamas to not raise trash sons. Come on, that was my plan. You will be integral. And I think that's one of the first things. Is he godly? But is he integral? Because there's some men that are godly, but they're not integral.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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They're not. And they are using repentance as an excuse. What? to just acting a fool. Because God don't forgive me. You know, and it's like, so first and foremost, godly but integral. What's his character?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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You know, and the smallest and littlest of things. You know, we think it needs to watch how, you know, the bigger things.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Yeah, yeah. Watch the really, really small things. I love the fact, Crystal, that you wanted something but recognized that you weren't ready for it. I love, and I think to me that meant that you have done a lot of soul searching, and you've done inner work, that helps ward off foolishness. Because you're probably going to have some foolishness along the way.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And so now, at 42, even though that wasn't your plan, you have healed eyes, and you have a healed heart, and you will attract healed.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
We're all going to come with some trauma. Yeah. I've been in therapy on my own for a year now, and I'm learning.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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So there will be. You're going to come with trauma. He's going to come with some trauma. But you will attract more of a healed person because you've done the work.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You too, love. Oh my goodness. Like, I mean, beautiful on pictures, but in person does not do your pictures any justice. But to meet you in person, just... I was like, oh, yeah, she's grounded. You can tell she I mean, the stardom is nice. Yeah. But I could just sense your intentionality with wanting to stay who you are.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I thought that was so powerful. Oh my gosh. Especially coming from a man.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
But David is a, he's a girl's dad.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so I think that it, that informs his lens of how to think like that. Cause I mean, typically that I think that's a woman way of thinking.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I thought it was so, it was so powerful, but it was especially powerful coming from him.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Be the list for yourself.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Yeah. As opposed to expecting someone else to fulfill all of that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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You deserve the healed side of you. Yeah. Yes. And a mate.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I'm going to need people to understand it is therapy in Jesus. Can you say that again? It is therapy in Jesus. Thank you. It is both and.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
A lot of times people like, you know, oh, I went to a couple of sessions. Oh, you didn't do... That was cute.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
That was consultation.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You got to get in there. Mm-hmm. And we've always utilized therapy for our marriage. Mm-hmm. And I've always been open to counsel, whether it be, even on my own before I was married, whether it be getting with my youth pastor, getting with someone, an older woman that I trusted. So seeking help wasn't foreign to me. And then you get married at 25, so now you're utilizing therapy for marriage.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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It was, I'm like, Lord Jesus, why would you allow me to get in my 50s and have all of a sudden all these triggers? And I'm trying to figure out where are they coming from?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I kind of was looking at him a little sideways. Like, God, what are we doing? And he was like, you can handle it now. You can handle the answers.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You can handle the answers. Oh, my gosh. Younger Tammy wasn't ready.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And let me tell you, messaging that you receive, especially as women, the messaging that we receive, messaging that you receive unknowingly, they didn't mean any harm. They love us. They're my parents. My messaging was, you're strong. You're strong. And so oftentimes it has informed how I lived throughout the world. And often I would take on everybody's affirmities. I'm strong.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And that also means you're taking on abuse. Yeah. At times you're taking on being, um, being something you were never intended to be.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And when I tell you this here therapy session, There are days, what I love about my therapist, she was like, I don't want you to process at all for the next couple of days. Rest.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Rest. There are times I don't, you're walking through the day, you don't realize you're holding your breath because you're like, there's so much tension and trauma in your body. That is like, so there are times I even tell myself, breathe.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I'm like, Ooh, I was like, it's so simple, but it's so real.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And I love when I meet women, especially a beautiful woman who is so self-aware. Yeah. That that's I just sense that it was really. Yeah, it was very important.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
One day I was at a red light and didn't realize I was like white knuckling the steering wheel. And I was like this.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I was like, breathe. And I just and I feel it. And then I have to ask myself, I'm learning through therapy. What is it that you need? What is it that you want? What is it that you have not processed? Because all that tension is coming from somewhere.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
It's coming from somewhere. So people, come on. Therapy in Jesus. Quit making people feel shameful that they're not... that they don't have faith, if they need therapy. And then let me say this, and some of the saints won't get mad at me, okay? They'll be all right. Go to a licensed therapist. There are a lot of people within ministry that are gifted. They are.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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They're gifted, but they may not be equipped equipped to go take that deep dive that you really, really need. We got a whole bunch of people walking around still broken and they're like, why don't I talk to sister so-and-so? I went to my pastor or my mentor. That's great.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And that little shirt that you buy, that little shoes that you buy, you can put it through therapy.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
How about no coffee, no, you know, for a little bit.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Just a little bit. Yes. And just try it. I mean, I always say, you know, I've never met a person unless they just really, really didn't want to be there. They didn't try it and feel like it was beneficial and helpful.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
So his became what we need to do. And now I'm taking care of Tammy.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Taking care of little Tammy Renee. We got the same middle name.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
So we all lived in Minnesota at the time. So our manager was the same manager at the time as Nick Condition.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
There's flawed people in the Bible.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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All people. Why do we require perfectionism? That is man-made, it's not God. And that's why I really try to encourage people that walk away from God. I'm like, people hurt you. People hurt you.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I hear the Southern. You know, I'm a Texas girl.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I leave the clap back to Kennedy.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Kennedy ready for the smoke, but she is so her daddy. She ready for the smoke, warm for smoke. Yeah. 4'10". I call her my little chihuahua. She ready. I am more contemplative.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I am. But when they come to my kids.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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But I'm still, that's just my personality. I'm always going to take a step back. I'm going to take a beat back. There are times in which I really, really want to go in and say, oh, you're so misinformed. And then I'm like, I'm trying to explain myself or I want to explain myself to strangers.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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This is not my circle.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And right now, there is such a weirdness going on. Like you mentioned about the more you're vocal with your faith. There is a legalistic, offensive, judgmental spirit. And I call it a spirit.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Because it's like you are giving me man-made requirements. God is not requiring this of me. One time, something as simple as I was, this girl did like incredible nails. They were Thanksgiving nails, like long, but she had a turkey. Oh, yeah, I love when they do that. I posted it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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It is evil and not of God. So I had the time that day.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
That particular day. I had time. I said, you need to tell me that God that made all these animals to the point there are some we have never seen before. All the beautiful skylines and trees. Our creative God is mad about creativity. And I said, stop adding to salvation.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And I decided, you gonna put this on, and I'm, I guess I was raised so etiquette, and sometimes it gets on my dirty old nerves. I'm one, I'll DM a person just because I'm like, I'm gonna read you, but I was like, no, we gonna put it in the thread. You put it on, you went to my page.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I mean, and I know that was simple. That wasn't about, you know, my family.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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But that is a depiction of the weirdness I'm talking about. Yeah. How do you call?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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So what are you? That little tiny thing. So what are you? How are you treating people in the earth? Like we're supposed to be hands and feet.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And we are not reflective at all. And we're losing people. We're losing.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Not try to be authentically you.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
That's crazy. The essence of what you're saying.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Yes. You know, like. But that's, we're all supposed to be that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And all those guests, honestly, can bring something. Because everybody has a story.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Everybody has a story. And you can't be one-dimensional in the people that you bring on.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I love that you reminded us of that because I remember the moment. Yeah. But to know that it was you. It was me because nobody knew who I was then. That was so dope. I love that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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How strong is it? Yes. That you're going to lose it from one conversation? Right. You're going to lose it?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Yeah. I'm so glad. I mean, I get it though. There are times I want to delete. All I'm on is Instagram. I can't do the Twitter twatter, the ticky-tocky. I can't do all of that. I sound so old. But there are times I want to delete the app.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I do that as well. I also have set boundaries for myself. If I decide to venture into the comments, I don't do it past. Because you can see how many hours old something is. So I don't do it past like three hours. Okay, that's good.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Yeah. It's like that's enough.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Because, I mean, I allow myself to read the comments at times because there are times in which the comments bless me.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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You know, to know that my reason for being on the platform initially was to spy on my kids. But I recognize what the platform affords me. And so I want to be inspiration. I want to be encouragement. I want to show that you can be saved, love God, love Jesus and dance, have fun and fail all the time. That's what I want to show.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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There's days where I'm like, we pray the worshiping today. Yes. As I squat.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Yeah, sometimes I need... It's like... Because if it ain't fun, I'm not coming. I don't want to be in the gym anyway. Right. And so, but it's like, and I'm so thankful to my parents that they raised me around all genres of music.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I'm mindful of what I let into my spirit, just depending on where I'm at.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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You know, also too. But it's like, you're going to judge me and you're going to judge if I'm saved or not.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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You heard that beat drop.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Baby, the beat gets me through.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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So now I'm like, it's hard. I'm not going to act like it's not, but I have been able to get to a place of if you're not in my circle.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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It really don't matter.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Because it does. Social media opens you up to everybody's a critic. Everybody has opinions. Yeah. And if you're going to have your comments on, people are going to comment.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Sometimes I go and I volunteer. Volunteering has helped to keep me grounded. We have amazing organizations within our city that I love. And support. And I get to go in there and just serve.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And not be served. I think it's important in life to intentionally, especially if you are in a place of always being served.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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You got you at the front now.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
It's so important to be in a place where you're being a service to someone else. That you can't get anything back. You may not get a thank you. You won't get paid for it. Yeah. They're not going to park your car. You know what I mean? That's important.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I'm also, now that I have more time on my hands and empty nested and going through my own therapy journey, I'm recognizing as a child, there were times, a lot of times, that I experienced great trauma and I should have had counseling.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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And, but back then it just wasn't.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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It wasn't a thing. And so I am, we shared on the episode I did on Oprah's Behind the Man. I love that my mother's story was able to be shared and my mother's story is one of domestic abuse. I was that kid who was in the room of a domestic abuse. And so the organizations that I am partnering with now I'm loving because it is helping the woman, but also the child.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Genesis Women's Shelter is an organization. There's an organization, Child Hormones, I can't remember. Dang it. But it is specifically for children. And I'm so excited to be a part of that. There are other organizations called Bochy's House when it comes to women with sex trafficking. I know it is not, it ain't my ministry to try to help reform them.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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Well, baby, my son is a whole husband. A whole husband.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I love helping people and mothers encouraging, you have got to let your daughters talk.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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That's when they get in trouble.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Because you didn't allow a safe space, especially, maybe the church is going to get mad at me, but I don't care. I mean, it can happen in any household, but for some reason in Christian households, there are subjects that are taboo.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
and she may be struggling and she cannot come and talk to you and now she's in trouble. It doesn't mean that every girl's gonna get trafficked because of that, but there is a reason and why in which there was not safety. And so that's the part of that organization that I like going to the moms and saying, hey, open up like frequent communication with honest dialogue.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
But yeah, those are the things that, and I like to, I love to dance.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I love to dance. Sometimes, and I learned that in therapy. She was like, do something that you enjoy that is simple, that does not require much.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
and I love music so I've been like literally implementing it and there was a one day I was dancing around I was it went from you know Beyonce to Cece and there was this one particular song that came on that brought out a worship in me and a cry in me.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I think as a mom, you desire, you pray for. I have prayed for my children's, the spouses that they have already. Didn't necessarily know I was praying for them specifically. But I think when you are a mom and you want your kids to find someone to do life with, who is suitable for them, And then, you know, you have the opportunity.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
That I think music is powerful like that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so I'm glad that she's encouraged me to tap back into something so very, very simple. Yes. You know, tears are cleansing. And oftentimes we shut them off.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Because we don't want to feel.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
There's a group called Next. I used to choreograph for them.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
We don't want to feel. We don't want to... And... Once the tear starts falling, we don't want to deal. We don't want to feel it. We don't want to deal. And girl, I think I must have rolled around on that floor. I was laughing because when I looked at myself in the mirror, I was like, you know that video of James Brown coming up with the hair all stuck on his face.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I said, ma'am, you needed that cry and you needed that worship. And that time alone, girl, I cried. I screamed. I let out a scream. And I'm like, then I go to therapy and she's like, let's talk about what you think it was. What are you releasing that made you need your body? One of the things I've learned about therapy is there may be things that you don't recall
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
there may be ways in which your body protected you. Your brain.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
It's so powerful. And I look at it as God's way of protecting as well. But what she told me is your body remembers.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so when you're put back into the same environment, You're like, what's happening? And that's what was, you know, like I said, started with me with therapy in the first place. You know, I was like getting triggered. Like I was like, like I'm glitching. What's going on? But yeah, music, music is one of those, I would say just private moments that I have.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Baby, that song? And she has another one with Chandler Moore?
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
On his new album. I can't think of it right now. It's about to drive me crazy.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
But it's something about Tasha. Let's just say that.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
She really, really is.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And those that think they have done it on their own, they're sadly mistaken.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And they may not even believe, but God's still making ways.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Oh, my goodness. I mean, a lot of what I'm working on is me. I love that. That's a good project. It's a good project, a worthy project. And I'm open to whatever that evolves. I've always been, I think one of the things in which I've been able to compliment my husband on, and this has been complimented of me, is that I don't have to be. The things I do don't have to be shown.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I'm okay with that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
What I'm getting the opportunity to do now is to see the things that I've poured into them because they're not perfect, but they're good. They're good adults. They're good spouses. And so my baby boy. But you know something? I always told my husband that he was going to marry early.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I mean, I'm okay with, and I think, you know, what it helps with me is that I could take it or leave it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Like, you know, you're comfortable with it. I've done a little television. I've done a little radio. Yeah. I'm not like craving for it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
It's kind of scary. There's this one project that hasn't been greenlit yet, but I love it because it infuses all. That's me.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And it's got some fitness in it. It's got some faith in it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I can see it. And I get to encourage people.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I'm excited about that possibility. I'll share that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I think I want to share more about that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I'll give them a little bit more.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Thank you. You're welcome. What I hear you saying is that I can step into... The evolution.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I'm open. The only thing is, it has to be authentically me.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Exactly. I don't want any part. I'm telling you, you'll get miserable if it's not. I do not want any part of it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Well, thank you. Thank you for having me. I'm so proud of you. I'm proud of you. I'm so proud of you. Thank you. I love you.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Oh, you knew he was going to.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Very mature. Very relational driven. He was the one, even when dating, that I would have to remind, hey, we're not at forever yet.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I think Keziah being a creative, he was able to kind of tap into that. Because typically, you're right, it's the girl. Because, baby, we have our weddings planned out. Well, we done met them in junior high. We got the names and all this. Right. But it was just something about him and then his faith compass. Mm-hmm. was very, very strong.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
The way he regarded, I would say girls, because he was young, and then later women. He was always intentional. Dating with a purpose. Love that. That was his mindset. And so I remember telling my husband, probably... I want to say as early as junior high. You knew it. I said, oh, he's going to marry early. I see him doing maybe, because he has my husband's gift times 10.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Yes, he's instrumentally inclined. I saw it, musically inclined. Amazing. But he's also a speaker. He's a writer. Wow. And so he's left and right brain. He was an athlete. That's incredible. Yeah.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And God showed me even how to pray for him. I mean, pray for all my kids and pray for them in specific ways. With him, I was like, oh, he's right and left brain. That means his mind's always going.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You know what I'm saying?
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
We may need to check on the bloodline.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
But to see them married is just, you know, and Kennedy's seriously dating.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And I like him. Good. You know, and I was, I saw it in My parents, when I married, and I think Kirk being adopted, they took it even an extra step. They became his parents too.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so that was modeled for me. And I'm that type of mother-in-law. I want to be a mother in love and not... you know, horror. And so it's been really important to me that Alina, my son's wife.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Isn't she? They're together. I call them chocolate granola. They just, they real like Birkenstocks. They're all tree climbing and all the things. And so, but it was, it's just, it was really important to me. In fact, I did a post of my intentionality towards her. And her mother passed. And so I've been praying, like, God, what am I supposed to be to her? This is a very unique set of circumstances.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And so it was just important to me that I be intentional with fostering relationship with her. Never wanting her to feel like she ever needed to compete with me. Nor put my son in the position of feeling like he had to choose. And so it was just really important to me.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Yes, Karen and I. Yeah. We have a show on Sirius XM.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And it's In Real Life with Tammy and Karen.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Honestly, we would do like, because it's on my husband's station. It's on Kirk Franklin's station. And so we would do like one-off shows, like special shows. And the series came to us and was like, hey, you know, people are saying this would be a really cool show. weekly show. And so that's kind of how it branched off. We would do like a Mother's Day special, a Father's Day special.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
But we wanted it, of course, to be faith-based, but also we wanted to introduce our audience to maybe things in the culture, something like imposter syndrome.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Things like that were not necessarily spoken about in a faith-based way. And so that's why we named it In Real Life. So we wouldn't be pigeon-held to what we could talk about. We talk about from dating to mother-in-law drama to all the things. And it's fun because I get a chance to see my daughter blossom.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
That's your name? That's my name. Yes. Lovey. And my husband is boss.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You know... God has gifted me in a way. And I know there are times in your life in which you know the realness of God. And the way I was, I got married at 25. I was a baby.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You know, I think 27, 30, like... My earliest. But, I mean, there's so much. And I'm, you know, be 55 this year. Hold on, hold on, hold on.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
You know, if you see my mama.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
The gene pool. Thank you, Jesus. Right? Thank you, Jesus. Black cracks a little slower.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
It does crack a little slower. Congratulations. You know, I eat right. I exercise. I try to eliminate stress. So, you know, and I think it helps that we're tiny people. Yeah. Tiny people just tend to look younger. But the transition into adulthood. So I've always had this plan that that would, I took motherhood like that seriously. So I was like, it is my responsibility
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
to foster and usher them into adulthood. And so I always planned for it. But I know at 25, who thinks like that? Short of the Holy Spirit. I know for a fact God was downloading that into me. And so I'm still their mother. I'm more of a friend now.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Yeah, I used to say that. But now I'll be like, okay, we friends now. We friends now. And it's so funny because they're like, oh my gosh, now that we're in the friend zone of our mother-daughter or mother-son relationship, they're like, you telling us everything. You just... We didn't know this. This is new. Because it's like, well, welcome to adulthood. Now you know that that cousin was crazy.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
And now they're saying things. But I've always wanted my kids to feel so comfortable. And I want it to be approachable. Even when they would tell me things that I was clutching my pearls on the inside. But on the outside, they're going to see. I got you.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
Ain't nothing you can't tell me.
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Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I love that. They're my little homies. They're my friends.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
Taking A Breath & Learning To Rest w/Tammy Franklin
I love watching them. My girls are some of my best friends. I mean, I have other best friends, but my son is so close. There's something about a mother-son relationship in which he sees me. I was like, am I blushing like a little school girl? Because he just, he's always letting me know that he sees me.