Stephan Speaks

The number one health and wellness podcast. Jay Shetty.

The number one health and wellness podcast. Jay Shetty.

Letting go doesn't always mean it can't work out later. It's just that it cannot work out under these circumstances, all right. Because some people say well, I feel like they're the one. Okay, maybe they are. but maybe the time is not right.

Letting go doesn't always mean it can't work out later. It's just that it cannot work out under these circumstances, all right. Because some people say well, I feel like they're the one. Okay, maybe they are. but maybe the time is not right.

And it's letting go that will allow you both to do what needs to be done in your own personal lives that will allow you to come back together and have something way more amazing. So, that's number one thing to consider. But outside of that it's when One, if that person is unwilling to put in the work necessary it's time to go.

And it's letting go that will allow you both to do what needs to be done in your own personal lives that will allow you to come back together and have something way more amazing. So, that's number one thing to consider. But outside of that it's when One, if that person is unwilling to put in the work necessary it's time to go.

There's like so many times I'll have a video go up about communication and someone will comment saying I've tried talking to him and he doesn't want to talk to me. And in my head I'm like, but why are you still with them? If he refuses to talk to you, you've already tried. There's nothing else to do.

There's like so many times I'll have a video go up about communication and someone will comment saying I've tried talking to him and he doesn't want to talk to me. And in my head I'm like, but why are you still with them? If he refuses to talk to you, you've already tried. There's nothing else to do.

But people will let it linger on and continue while they consistently complain or unhappy about this specific issue. It's not going to magically get better. They're not going to just change it just because all of a sudden they see oh, it needs to change. No, if they're fighting it now they have no reason to change it.

But people will let it linger on and continue while they consistently complain or unhappy about this specific issue. It's not going to magically get better. They're not going to just change it just because all of a sudden they see oh, it needs to change. No, if they're fighting it now they have no reason to change it.

And what people have to understand you know, especially with this whole trying to fix people up. Healing and facing your traumas is one of the hardest things for people to do. So, if they already have you in their life they're essentially getting the incentive or the benefit of relationship without having to do the deeper work.

And what people have to understand you know, especially with this whole trying to fix people up. Healing and facing your traumas is one of the hardest things for people to do. So, if they already have you in their life they're essentially getting the incentive or the benefit of relationship without having to do the deeper work.

It's almost like if I'm at a job and the job says you need to have a master's degree to work here but we're going to hire you anyway and give you time to get that master's degree. If getting that degree is super hard to you you're going to drag that out as long as possible. You may never get the degree until they fire you.

It's almost like if I'm at a job and the job says you need to have a master's degree to work here but we're going to hire you anyway and give you time to get that master's degree. If getting that degree is super hard to you you're going to drag that out as long as possible. You may never get the degree until they fire you.

When they fire you and you realize oh my gosh, if I don't do this I'll never get this person back, I'll never get this opportunity back. Now, they might go and get it because it's very tough to walk down the path of the healing process.

When they fire you and you realize oh my gosh, if I don't do this I'll never get this person back, I'll never get this opportunity back. Now, they might go and get it because it's very tough to walk down the path of the healing process.

So, if they're not willing to work on it you guys have already discussed it and I think that's a big thing because there's a lot of relationships that end and the couples don't even know what the real issue was. So, the communication they'll say what we talked about no, you guys argued, you guys lashed out.

So, if they're not willing to work on it you guys have already discussed it and I think that's a big thing because there's a lot of relationships that end and the couples don't even know what the real issue was. So, the communication they'll say what we talked about no, you guys argued, you guys lashed out.

There wasn't a clear communication as to what the problem was, what is expected, how do we go about this. If you've done that and I believe one of the most effective ways to do that is through a letter. Because I feel like verbal communication of deep issues and concerns, they typically don't go well.

There wasn't a clear communication as to what the problem was, what is expected, how do we go about this. If you've done that and I believe one of the most effective ways to do that is through a letter. Because I feel like verbal communication of deep issues and concerns, they typically don't go well.