Michael Chernow

Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits & Hustle. Crush it.

Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits & Hustle. Crush it.

Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits & Hustle. Crush it.

Not hot air. Can I curse on this thing?

Not hot air. Can I curse on this thing?

Not hot air. Can I curse on this thing?

Speaking of, I actually have really been interested in this.

Speaking of, I actually have really been interested in this.

Speaking of, I actually have really been interested in this.

I've been really interested in this stuff, and I don't do caffeine anymore, anyway. And so I've got a buddy who was telling me about this that you actually introduced me to. Who was your buddy?

I've been really interested in this stuff, and I don't do caffeine anymore, anyway. And so I've got a buddy who was telling me about this that you actually introduced me to. Who was your buddy?

I've been really interested in this stuff, and I don't do caffeine anymore, anyway. And so I've got a buddy who was telling me about this that you actually introduced me to. Who was your buddy?

Gosh, his name is Greg. Greg Link. Greg Link. oh my god right and so he told me about he's been like telling me about magic mind and now i see it here so let's see i mean i am typically good at this shit podcast stuff hey shake it do you shake it it's delicious should i shake it just shake it this is actually my favorite shot it's great for your brain focus and being alert so here we go hmm

Gosh, his name is Greg. Greg Link. Greg Link. oh my god right and so he told me about he's been like telling me about magic mind and now i see it here so let's see i mean i am typically good at this shit podcast stuff hey shake it do you shake it it's delicious should i shake it just shake it this is actually my favorite shot it's great for your brain focus and being alert so here we go hmm

Gosh, his name is Greg. Greg Link. Greg Link. oh my god right and so he told me about he's been like telling me about magic mind and now i see it here so let's see i mean i am typically good at this shit podcast stuff hey shake it do you shake it it's delicious should i shake it just shake it this is actually my favorite shot it's great for your brain focus and being alert so here we go hmm

Oh, that is good.

Oh, that is good.

Oh, that is good.

I like it.

I like it.

I like it.

I actually do that every time. I do every single time I shoot podcasts, I line up like four to five. And I feel like for me, for whatever reason, like I feel like, I get better and better as it goes by. Even though I'm tired, I just feel like my flow is kind of there. And I just dig.

I actually do that every time. I do every single time I shoot podcasts, I line up like four to five. And I feel like for me, for whatever reason, like I feel like, I get better and better as it goes by. Even though I'm tired, I just feel like my flow is kind of there. And I just dig.

I actually do that every time. I do every single time I shoot podcasts, I line up like four to five. And I feel like for me, for whatever reason, like I feel like, I get better and better as it goes by. Even though I'm tired, I just feel like my flow is kind of there. And I just dig.

You look so fit right now.

You look so fit right now.

You look so fit right now.

Yeah, you just look fit. You look like strong. You look good.

Yeah, you just look fit. You look like strong. You look good.

Yeah, you just look fit. You look like strong. You look good.

Right now. I noticed that as soon as I saw you, I was like, wow, Jen looks good. Fit, strong.

Right now. I noticed that as soon as I saw you, I was like, wow, Jen looks good. Fit, strong.

Right now. I noticed that as soon as I saw you, I was like, wow, Jen looks good. Fit, strong.

No, when I walked into the house, I noticed it. And not that you aren't normally, but I was like something, I feel something. I feel like maybe she's doing something a little different. She looks strong and fit. You just look good.

No, when I walked into the house, I noticed it. And not that you aren't normally, but I was like something, I feel something. I feel like maybe she's doing something a little different. She looks strong and fit. You just look good.

No, when I walked into the house, I noticed it. And not that you aren't normally, but I was like something, I feel something. I feel like maybe she's doing something a little different. She looks strong and fit. You just look good.

I compliment her and then she starts playing footsie with me.

I compliment her and then she starts playing footsie with me.

I compliment her and then she starts playing footsie with me.

No.

No.

No.

I just did a post about how important routine is in a marriage.

I just did a post about how important routine is in a marriage.

I just did a post about how important routine is in a marriage.

Oh, yeah. I just did. I think it's so- No, no.

Oh, yeah. I just did. I think it's so- No, no.

Oh, yeah. I just did. I think it's so- No, no.

Literally a second ago.

Literally a second ago.

Literally a second ago.

Because I've been trying to share a little bit more, like when I'm thinking about like how I can be a value to other people, I'm thinking through like things that have like uniquely kind of, made me a better person. And routine, everybody hears the word routine and they're like, oh yeah, morning routine. What's my sleep routine? Routine is typically like a solo mission, right?

Because I've been trying to share a little bit more, like when I'm thinking about like how I can be a value to other people, I'm thinking through like things that have like uniquely kind of, made me a better person. And routine, everybody hears the word routine and they're like, oh yeah, morning routine. What's my sleep routine? Routine is typically like a solo mission, right?

Because I've been trying to share a little bit more, like when I'm thinking about like how I can be a value to other people, I'm thinking through like things that have like uniquely kind of, made me a better person. And routine, everybody hears the word routine and they're like, oh yeah, morning routine. What's my sleep routine? Routine is typically like a solo mission, right?

Like this is my routine. Speaking of, there's my wife. However, routine also can apply to relationships, specifically marriage, right? And there's, you know, we have friends that we've talked to and look, I don't want anybody to feel bad about this. I don't know if this is what you do.

Like this is my routine. Speaking of, there's my wife. However, routine also can apply to relationships, specifically marriage, right? And there's, you know, we have friends that we've talked to and look, I don't want anybody to feel bad about this. I don't know if this is what you do.

Like this is my routine. Speaking of, there's my wife. However, routine also can apply to relationships, specifically marriage, right? And there's, you know, we have friends that we've talked to and look, I don't want anybody to feel bad about this. I don't know if this is what you do.

So anybody listening don't like kick yourself in the ass for this, but there are friends of ours that like just totally split up at night. So, you know, one of them will stay on the couch and watch their show. You know, the other one will go into the bedroom and like read and watch or watch their show. And like someone will fall asleep on the couch. The other one falls asleep in the bed.

So anybody listening don't like kick yourself in the ass for this, but there are friends of ours that like just totally split up at night. So, you know, one of them will stay on the couch and watch their show. You know, the other one will go into the bedroom and like read and watch or watch their show. And like someone will fall asleep on the couch. The other one falls asleep in the bed.

So anybody listening don't like kick yourself in the ass for this, but there are friends of ours that like just totally split up at night. So, you know, one of them will stay on the couch and watch their show. You know, the other one will go into the bedroom and like read and watch or watch their show. And like someone will fall asleep on the couch. The other one falls asleep in the bed.

And in my mind, I'm just like, that is a routine, but it's not a healthy one. Right. And so for us, and I think this is probably just because routine has been such a huge part of the foundation of my success and everything that with my marriage, like we have like a, like from six o'clock till lights out, it's a routine and it's not like robotic, but it's,

And in my mind, I'm just like, that is a routine, but it's not a healthy one. Right. And so for us, and I think this is probably just because routine has been such a huge part of the foundation of my success and everything that with my marriage, like we have like a, like from six o'clock till lights out, it's a routine and it's not like robotic, but it's,

And in my mind, I'm just like, that is a routine, but it's not a healthy one. Right. And so for us, and I think this is probably just because routine has been such a huge part of the foundation of my success and everything that with my marriage, like we have like a, like from six o'clock till lights out, it's a routine and it's not like robotic, but it's,

We do the same thing pretty much every single day when I'm not traveling. And I fucking love it.

We do the same thing pretty much every single day when I'm not traveling. And I fucking love it.

We do the same thing pretty much every single day when I'm not traveling. And I fucking love it.

Six o'clock, we have dinner every night, like clockwork.

Six o'clock, we have dinner every night, like clockwork.

Six o'clock, we have dinner every night, like clockwork.

The whole family sits around the table and has dinner every night. I get home, I pull into my driveway at like 5.55. I do like a little, I know this sounds kind of corny or whatever, people roll their eyes, but I do a little breath work real quick just to like buffer my insane entrepreneurial, like savage thinking head into, oh wait, no, I'm actually a dad and a husband first.

The whole family sits around the table and has dinner every night. I get home, I pull into my driveway at like 5.55. I do like a little, I know this sounds kind of corny or whatever, people roll their eyes, but I do a little breath work real quick just to like buffer my insane entrepreneurial, like savage thinking head into, oh wait, no, I'm actually a dad and a husband first.

The whole family sits around the table and has dinner every night. I get home, I pull into my driveway at like 5.55. I do like a little, I know this sounds kind of corny or whatever, people roll their eyes, but I do a little breath work real quick just to like buffer my insane entrepreneurial, like savage thinking head into, oh wait, no, I'm actually a dad and a husband first.

And so I need that sort of little three minutes of like recalibrating. And then I pop into the house at like 5.58 and at six o'clock dinner's ready. And Donna's like an amazing cook. And so we sit down around the table. We all have dinner together every single night. And then after dinner, it's typically like some games with the kids or we just hang out until like 7.30, 7.45.

And so I need that sort of little three minutes of like recalibrating. And then I pop into the house at like 5.58 and at six o'clock dinner's ready. And Donna's like an amazing cook. And so we sit down around the table. We all have dinner together every single night. And then after dinner, it's typically like some games with the kids or we just hang out until like 7.30, 7.45.

And so I need that sort of little three minutes of like recalibrating. And then I pop into the house at like 5.58 and at six o'clock dinner's ready. And Donna's like an amazing cook. And so we sit down around the table. We all have dinner together every single night. And then after dinner, it's typically like some games with the kids or we just hang out until like 7.30, 7.45.

And then either Donna will put the kids down or I put the kids down. We go back and forth. And then right when we're done with that at like 8.15, the two of us cuddle and watch a show. And we do that until 9.30 and then we go to bed. And like

And then either Donna will put the kids down or I put the kids down. We go back and forth. And then right when we're done with that at like 8.15, the two of us cuddle and watch a show. And we do that until 9.30 and then we go to bed. And like

And then either Donna will put the kids down or I put the kids down. We go back and forth. And then right when we're done with that at like 8.15, the two of us cuddle and watch a show. And we do that until 9.30 and then we go to bed. And like

it's also the other really important piece of that that i think is so small however incredibly significant is touch your partner as often as you can like i make it my i i it is something that i'm cognizant of and i do it purposefully because it me it's important to me but like when i'm sitting next to my wife no matter where I am, I've got my hand on her leg. I've got my hand on her arm.

it's also the other really important piece of that that i think is so small however incredibly significant is touch your partner as often as you can like i make it my i i it is something that i'm cognizant of and i do it purposefully because it me it's important to me but like when i'm sitting next to my wife no matter where I am, I've got my hand on her leg. I've got my hand on her arm.

it's also the other really important piece of that that i think is so small however incredibly significant is touch your partner as often as you can like i make it my i i it is something that i'm cognizant of and i do it purposefully because it me it's important to me but like when i'm sitting next to my wife no matter where I am, I've got my hand on her leg. I've got my hand on her arm.

I've got my hand around my arm around her. I'm holding her hand. I'm touching her. And it doesn't mean that it's like, it's not like some like, you know, freaky deaky shit. It's like those little things. We're together almost 20 years. We're married 17 years. So like that long relationship, that long, like you can easily forget that shit. Like that, like,

I've got my hand around my arm around her. I'm holding her hand. I'm touching her. And it doesn't mean that it's like, it's not like some like, you know, freaky deaky shit. It's like those little things. We're together almost 20 years. We're married 17 years. So like that long relationship, that long, like you can easily forget that shit. Like that, like,

I've got my hand around my arm around her. I'm holding her hand. I'm touching her. And it doesn't mean that it's like, it's not like some like, you know, freaky deaky shit. It's like those little things. We're together almost 20 years. We're married 17 years. So like that long relationship, that long, like you can easily forget that shit. Like that, like,

oh yeah you're just you have been next to me for the last 17 years like touching you doesn't really like register for me i want my to la i want my marriage to last forever i do and so for me i'm like i'm sitting next to her she's not my friend even though she's my best friend she's my she's my lover she's my wife i'm gonna touch this woman and like connect that way and i think that's so important to say

oh yeah you're just you have been next to me for the last 17 years like touching you doesn't really like register for me i want my to la i want my marriage to last forever i do and so for me i'm like i'm sitting next to her she's not my friend even though she's my best friend she's my she's my lover she's my wife i'm gonna touch this woman and like connect that way and i think that's so important to say

oh yeah you're just you have been next to me for the last 17 years like touching you doesn't really like register for me i want my to la i want my marriage to last forever i do and so for me i'm like i'm sitting next to her she's not my friend even though she's my best friend she's my she's my lover she's my wife i'm gonna touch this woman and like connect that way and i think that's so important to say

Little tiny thing. You're sitting next to your partner. Boom, just hand on. That's it. It connects. There's a connection. That connects you two together in like an intimate way. And so we do that. We don't just like watch TV together. Like we touch each other and then we go to bed. And it's like, that's the routine. And it's awesome, you know? And I just shared about that because I think...

Little tiny thing. You're sitting next to your partner. Boom, just hand on. That's it. It connects. There's a connection. That connects you two together in like an intimate way. And so we do that. We don't just like watch TV together. Like we touch each other and then we go to bed. And it's like, that's the routine. And it's awesome, you know? And I just shared about that because I think...

Little tiny thing. You're sitting next to your partner. Boom, just hand on. That's it. It connects. There's a connection. That connects you two together in like an intimate way. And so we do that. We don't just like watch TV together. Like we touch each other and then we go to bed. And it's like, that's the routine. And it's awesome, you know? And I just shared about that because I think...

I was listening to a podcast. I was listening to the Jordan Harbinger podcast. He had this divorce lawyer on from New York.

I was listening to a podcast. I was listening to the Jordan Harbinger podcast. He had this divorce lawyer on from New York.

I was listening to a podcast. I was listening to the Jordan Harbinger podcast. He had this divorce lawyer on from New York.

That guy?

That guy?

That guy?

Oh, really? I love that guy's podcast. I listen to his podcast.

Oh, really? I love that guy's podcast. I listen to his podcast.

Oh, really? I love that guy's podcast. I listen to his podcast.

Awesome. I mean, it was wonderful to hear that guy because, you know, the way he sort of describes this business relationship, marriage, it would be like if somebody looked at you and said, hey, invest in this business, 60% chance it's going to fail. It could make you feel awesome, but you could lose everything if it doesn't work. But give me all your money. You'd be like, no.

Awesome. I mean, it was wonderful to hear that guy because, you know, the way he sort of describes this business relationship, marriage, it would be like if somebody looked at you and said, hey, invest in this business, 60% chance it's going to fail. It could make you feel awesome, but you could lose everything if it doesn't work. But give me all your money. You'd be like, no.

Awesome. I mean, it was wonderful to hear that guy because, you know, the way he sort of describes this business relationship, marriage, it would be like if somebody looked at you and said, hey, invest in this business, 60% chance it's going to fail. It could make you feel awesome, but you could lose everything if it doesn't work. But give me all your money. You'd be like, no.

Like, I'm not going to do that. You know, like, it doesn't make sense. And that's like how he describes what marriage is, right? It's like, that is the deal. You literally give up all your money, everything you own, and you have faith that this person and you are going to be able to live out the rest of your life without fucking hating each other. And knock on wood, like...

Like, I'm not going to do that. You know, like, it doesn't make sense. And that's like how he describes what marriage is, right? It's like, that is the deal. You literally give up all your money, everything you own, and you have faith that this person and you are going to be able to live out the rest of your life without fucking hating each other. And knock on wood, like...

Like, I'm not going to do that. You know, like, it doesn't make sense. And that's like how he describes what marriage is, right? It's like, that is the deal. You literally give up all your money, everything you own, and you have faith that this person and you are going to be able to live out the rest of your life without fucking hating each other. And knock on wood, like...

So far, this is the longest and most successful relationship I've ever had in my life with my wife. And like I have zero interest in it going anywhere. But like listening to that podcast was just like it was like it was real. You know, I think the majority of marriages really, really are tough. And I think there's so many different things that go into what make it successful.

So far, this is the longest and most successful relationship I've ever had in my life with my wife. And like I have zero interest in it going anywhere. But like listening to that podcast was just like it was like it was real. You know, I think the majority of marriages really, really are tough. And I think there's so many different things that go into what make it successful.

So far, this is the longest and most successful relationship I've ever had in my life with my wife. And like I have zero interest in it going anywhere. But like listening to that podcast was just like it was like it was real. You know, I think the majority of marriages really, really are tough. And I think there's so many different things that go into what make it successful.

And if you don't have little taps on the shoulder or reminders like the one I just did on social, like, hey, you're sitting next to your partner. Like you don't you could just sit there and not touch them. Or that little touch could be the difference of like how you feel about that person that day subconsciously or not.

And if you don't have little taps on the shoulder or reminders like the one I just did on social, like, hey, you're sitting next to your partner. Like you don't you could just sit there and not touch them. Or that little touch could be the difference of like how you feel about that person that day subconsciously or not.

And if you don't have little taps on the shoulder or reminders like the one I just did on social, like, hey, you're sitting next to your partner. Like you don't you could just sit there and not touch them. Or that little touch could be the difference of like how you feel about that person that day subconsciously or not.

You know, and I really do think that those little things make a big difference in marriage, you know.

You know, and I really do think that those little things make a big difference in marriage, you know.

You know, and I really do think that those little things make a big difference in marriage, you know.

I live further than, I'm like out of New York now.

I live further than, I'm like out of New York now.

I live further than, I'm like out of New York now.

Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

Right. Yeah, I think... I mean, the elephant in the room, right? Like, long-term relationships, it's no surprise that, like, the sex is not nearly as intense as it was for the first two to five years, right? Specifically the first two years.

Right. Yeah, I think... I mean, the elephant in the room, right? Like, long-term relationships, it's no surprise that, like, the sex is not nearly as intense as it was for the first two to five years, right? Specifically the first two years.

Right. Yeah, I think... I mean, the elephant in the room, right? Like, long-term relationships, it's no surprise that, like, the sex is not nearly as intense as it was for the first two to five years, right? Specifically the first two years.

You know, like, you're, like, you're just ferocious and wanted, like, wanted all the time.

You know, like, you're, like, you're just ferocious and wanted, like, wanted all the time.

You know, like, you're, like, you're just ferocious and wanted, like, wanted all the time.

If there is a sexual chemistry between the two of you, and there is between Donna and I, however, like anything, once you get used to something, it's hard to keep it exciting. It's hard to just be like, I can't wait. Totally. But... A few things. One, I will say, for us, communication is just even more important than routine. Communication is paramount.

If there is a sexual chemistry between the two of you, and there is between Donna and I, however, like anything, once you get used to something, it's hard to keep it exciting. It's hard to just be like, I can't wait. Totally. But... A few things. One, I will say, for us, communication is just even more important than routine. Communication is paramount.

If there is a sexual chemistry between the two of you, and there is between Donna and I, however, like anything, once you get used to something, it's hard to keep it exciting. It's hard to just be like, I can't wait. Totally. But... A few things. One, I will say, for us, communication is just even more important than routine. Communication is paramount.

And that doesn't mean like, yes, it means telling your partner you love them. I'm talking about the shit that is hard to talk about. I'm talking about, like, there are people that go months and months in a relationship long-term that are not having sex and just don't ever talk about it. Ever. It's just like, and they both know that, like, this isn't good. Like, we should be having sex.

And that doesn't mean like, yes, it means telling your partner you love them. I'm talking about the shit that is hard to talk about. I'm talking about, like, there are people that go months and months in a relationship long-term that are not having sex and just don't ever talk about it. Ever. It's just like, and they both know that, like, this isn't good. Like, we should be having sex.

And that doesn't mean like, yes, it means telling your partner you love them. I'm talking about the shit that is hard to talk about. I'm talking about, like, there are people that go months and months in a relationship long-term that are not having sex and just don't ever talk about it. Ever. It's just like, and they both know that, like, this isn't good. Like, we should be having sex.

But, like, once you, I think once you get out of it, because I've been there. There has been times where Donna and I have had to check each other and be like, hey, like, it's been, like, six weeks since we've had sex. We gotta go. Um, and that, yeah. And that also isn't like amazing, right? Where you're like, we got to do this just because we know it's the right thing to do.

But, like, once you, I think once you get out of it, because I've been there. There has been times where Donna and I have had to check each other and be like, hey, like, it's been, like, six weeks since we've had sex. We gotta go. Um, and that, yeah. And that also isn't like amazing, right? Where you're like, we got to do this just because we know it's the right thing to do.

But, like, once you, I think once you get out of it, because I've been there. There has been times where Donna and I have had to check each other and be like, hey, like, it's been, like, six weeks since we've had sex. We gotta go. Um, and that, yeah. And that also isn't like amazing, right? Where you're like, we got to do this just because we know it's the right thing to do.

But when you get into the routine of it, so now, you know, not so now, I mean, we've been pretty good about it, but a, like, You got to talk about it if it's not going down. And if you're waiting for your partner to say something because you feel uncomfortable, that's a cue to be like, okay, I got to talk about this. And so similarly for other situations that are just uncomfortable for you.

But when you get into the routine of it, so now, you know, not so now, I mean, we've been pretty good about it, but a, like, You got to talk about it if it's not going down. And if you're waiting for your partner to say something because you feel uncomfortable, that's a cue to be like, okay, I got to talk about this. And so similarly for other situations that are just uncomfortable for you.

But when you get into the routine of it, so now, you know, not so now, I mean, we've been pretty good about it, but a, like, You got to talk about it if it's not going down. And if you're waiting for your partner to say something because you feel uncomfortable, that's a cue to be like, okay, I got to talk about this. And so similarly for other situations that are just uncomfortable for you.

For instance, we were just on vacation for two and a half weeks. And when you're on vacation with someone, with kids, you're 24-7 together, and it can get tough. There are going to be moments where she gets ticked off at me, I get ticked off at her. We're together, there's no running, there's no escape, so you just got to go and battle.

For instance, we were just on vacation for two and a half weeks. And when you're on vacation with someone, with kids, you're 24-7 together, and it can get tough. There are going to be moments where she gets ticked off at me, I get ticked off at her. We're together, there's no running, there's no escape, so you just got to go and battle.

For instance, we were just on vacation for two and a half weeks. And when you're on vacation with someone, with kids, you're 24-7 together, and it can get tough. There are going to be moments where she gets ticked off at me, I get ticked off at her. We're together, there's no running, there's no escape, so you just got to go and battle.

And there was a couple of those, and I think that's also healthy, but I think when you feel something in your gut or your sternum or your chest that is making you just uncomfortable about your partner, whether it's something that they're doing that's annoying, whether they say something that you don't like, It's important for me, speak for me, to just voice it like right then and there.

And there was a couple of those, and I think that's also healthy, but I think when you feel something in your gut or your sternum or your chest that is making you just uncomfortable about your partner, whether it's something that they're doing that's annoying, whether they say something that you don't like, It's important for me, speak for me, to just voice it like right then and there.

And there was a couple of those, and I think that's also healthy, but I think when you feel something in your gut or your sternum or your chest that is making you just uncomfortable about your partner, whether it's something that they're doing that's annoying, whether they say something that you don't like, It's important for me, speak for me, to just voice it like right then and there.

And I know going into it, I'm like, hey dude, this is a 50-50 chance where like you are either gonna get into a fight that's not gonna be fun or you're gonna be able to somehow just like talk through this. But dude, if you hold this back, there's a good chance that it's going to explode in three days and no one's going to want to be around you, specifically the family.

And I know going into it, I'm like, hey dude, this is a 50-50 chance where like you are either gonna get into a fight that's not gonna be fun or you're gonna be able to somehow just like talk through this. But dude, if you hold this back, there's a good chance that it's going to explode in three days and no one's going to want to be around you, specifically the family.

And I know going into it, I'm like, hey dude, this is a 50-50 chance where like you are either gonna get into a fight that's not gonna be fun or you're gonna be able to somehow just like talk through this. But dude, if you hold this back, there's a good chance that it's going to explode in three days and no one's going to want to be around you, specifically the family.

So I'm very cognizant about being, I call it like upfront in your face communication because it's just like, it's not fun. It's like extreme closeup shit. You just got to do it. You have to do it. And I think it's so important. But going back to the sex piece, you know, I think sex,

So I'm very cognizant about being, I call it like upfront in your face communication because it's just like, it's not fun. It's like extreme closeup shit. You just got to do it. You have to do it. And I think it's so important. But going back to the sex piece, you know, I think sex,

So I'm very cognizant about being, I call it like upfront in your face communication because it's just like, it's not fun. It's like extreme closeup shit. You just got to do it. You have to do it. And I think it's so important. But going back to the sex piece, you know, I think sex,

having sex is so important and it's not about like, like if your relationship is built around your sex life, long-term you're fucked in my opinion, right? Like it can't be that, like it's gotta be way more than that. But understanding what time of day, especially when there's kids involved, young kids, like you have to be, you have to just like, Get it when you can.

having sex is so important and it's not about like, like if your relationship is built around your sex life, long-term you're fucked in my opinion, right? Like it can't be that, like it's gotta be way more than that. But understanding what time of day, especially when there's kids involved, young kids, like you have to be, you have to just like, Get it when you can.

having sex is so important and it's not about like, like if your relationship is built around your sex life, long-term you're fucked in my opinion, right? Like it can't be that, like it's gotta be way more than that. But understanding what time of day, especially when there's kids involved, young kids, like you have to be, you have to just like, Get it when you can.

But I also think that like, if you guys can figure out, and again, this requires conversation and communication, figure out what time of day works best to have sex. And then boom, you got to commit to once a week at minimum, right?

But I also think that like, if you guys can figure out, and again, this requires conversation and communication, figure out what time of day works best to have sex. And then boom, you got to commit to once a week at minimum, right?

But I also think that like, if you guys can figure out, and again, this requires conversation and communication, figure out what time of day works best to have sex. And then boom, you got to commit to once a week at minimum, right?

No, we don't we don't schedule it or anything like that. But like, I wake up mega early. I just do. And it and it's and it's kind of great because the kids also wake up mega early. But I choose one day every like one day a week when I wake up early and I'm just like, boop, boop, boop. You know, and nine out of 10 times I get the green light and that, and that's it. And it's, and it's awesome.

No, we don't we don't schedule it or anything like that. But like, I wake up mega early. I just do. And it and it's and it's kind of great because the kids also wake up mega early. But I choose one day every like one day a week when I wake up early and I'm just like, boop, boop, boop. You know, and nine out of 10 times I get the green light and that, and that's it. And it's, and it's awesome.

No, we don't we don't schedule it or anything like that. But like, I wake up mega early. I just do. And it and it's and it's kind of great because the kids also wake up mega early. But I choose one day every like one day a week when I wake up early and I'm just like, boop, boop, boop. You know, and nine out of 10 times I get the green light and that, and that's it. And it's, and it's awesome.

And it's, we laugh about it, you know, because like that's, but I think.

And it's, we laugh about it, you know, because like that's, but I think.

And it's, we laugh about it, you know, because like that's, but I think.

Like 5.15. It's kind of like when I'm at, when I always wake up 5.15.

Like 5.15. It's kind of like when I'm at, when I always wake up 5.15.

Like 5.15. It's kind of like when I'm at, when I always wake up 5.15.

Our kids wake up now at like 6.30. So, but I still, again, like back to the routine piece, like my morning routine is super important to me. And it's not like, I don't hold myself to like this crazy thing anymore necessarily. Like I used to have this really... long drawn out thing specifically in COVID to like keep me from going absolutely crazy. Like I built this like crazy structured thing.

Our kids wake up now at like 6.30. So, but I still, again, like back to the routine piece, like my morning routine is super important to me. And it's not like, I don't hold myself to like this crazy thing anymore necessarily. Like I used to have this really... long drawn out thing specifically in COVID to like keep me from going absolutely crazy. Like I built this like crazy structured thing.

Our kids wake up now at like 6.30. So, but I still, again, like back to the routine piece, like my morning routine is super important to me. And it's not like, I don't hold myself to like this crazy thing anymore necessarily. Like I used to have this really... long drawn out thing specifically in COVID to like keep me from going absolutely crazy. Like I built this like crazy structured thing.

And I still, when I, when I want to do it, I do it. And when I don't, I don't. Sometimes I'll work out now. Sometimes I'll do the sauna, cold plunge, red light thing. Sometimes I'll just do prayers and pushups, you know, but like morning having a, some sort of a plan in the morning for me that gets me going, that like fires up my engine is super important.

And I still, when I, when I want to do it, I do it. And when I don't, I don't. Sometimes I'll work out now. Sometimes I'll do the sauna, cold plunge, red light thing. Sometimes I'll just do prayers and pushups, you know, but like morning having a, some sort of a plan in the morning for me that gets me going, that like fires up my engine is super important.

And I still, when I, when I want to do it, I do it. And when I don't, I don't. Sometimes I'll work out now. Sometimes I'll do the sauna, cold plunge, red light thing. Sometimes I'll just do prayers and pushups, you know, but like morning having a, some sort of a plan in the morning for me that gets me going, that like fires up my engine is super important.

Yeah, yeah. I think the takeaway is basically being in a relationship with a person that you would consider your life partner, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever you call it, being in a relationship like that and not having sex is... after a certain period of time, which is very common, adds another layer of guilt, shame, and discomfort, right? Even if you don't, like, it just does.

Yeah, yeah. I think the takeaway is basically being in a relationship with a person that you would consider your life partner, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever you call it, being in a relationship like that and not having sex is... after a certain period of time, which is very common, adds another layer of guilt, shame, and discomfort, right? Even if you don't, like, it just does.

Yeah, yeah. I think the takeaway is basically being in a relationship with a person that you would consider your life partner, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever you call it, being in a relationship like that and not having sex is... after a certain period of time, which is very common, adds another layer of guilt, shame, and discomfort, right? Even if you don't, like, it just does.

You know, if someone, like... Because you know something's wrong. You know something's wrong.

You know, if someone, like... Because you know something's wrong. You know something's wrong.

You know, if someone, like... Because you know something's wrong. You know something's wrong.

You know something's wrong.

You know something's wrong.

You know something's wrong.

Right. And also, like... And by the way, like it's very common, right? Like when you have a conversation with a friend, you're sitting with a girlfriend, I'm sitting with some of the guys or whatever it is. And you're talking about, the conversation has gone from totally superficial to like a little bit more substantial. And you're talking about it.

Right. And also, like... And by the way, like it's very common, right? Like when you have a conversation with a friend, you're sitting with a girlfriend, I'm sitting with some of the guys or whatever it is. And you're talking about, the conversation has gone from totally superficial to like a little bit more substantial. And you're talking about it.

Right. And also, like... And by the way, like it's very common, right? Like when you have a conversation with a friend, you're sitting with a girlfriend, I'm sitting with some of the guys or whatever it is. And you're talking about, the conversation has gone from totally superficial to like a little bit more substantial. And you're talking about it.

And if one of those guys or one of those friends of yours is like, yeah, like we're just not having sex much. Like no one's like, yeah, we're not having sex much. It's awesome. They're like, man, we're just, it's just not happening. Like, I don't know, you know? You can change that. It takes commitment.

And if one of those guys or one of those friends of yours is like, yeah, like we're just not having sex much. Like no one's like, yeah, we're not having sex much. It's awesome. They're like, man, we're just, it's just not happening. Like, I don't know, you know? You can change that. It takes commitment.

And if one of those guys or one of those friends of yours is like, yeah, like we're just not having sex much. Like no one's like, yeah, we're not having sex much. It's awesome. They're like, man, we're just, it's just not happening. Like, I don't know, you know? You can change that. It takes commitment.

But I can honestly say that when that is happening, there's just a different feeling amongst the two. And I've found that to be incredibly true for me. And it's just like, you're like, no, we are doing that. We're in a long-term relationship and we are still having sex regularly.

But I can honestly say that when that is happening, there's just a different feeling amongst the two. And I've found that to be incredibly true for me. And it's just like, you're like, no, we are doing that. We're in a long-term relationship and we are still having sex regularly.

But I can honestly say that when that is happening, there's just a different feeling amongst the two. And I've found that to be incredibly true for me. And it's just like, you're like, no, we are doing that. We're in a long-term relationship and we are still having sex regularly.

I will also say that like, I think the topic of talking about long-term relationships and sex is like a real thing because it is pretty controversial, right? Like people struggle with it because a lot of people fall into the category of like being in a long-term relationship and like not having sex.

I will also say that like, I think the topic of talking about long-term relationships and sex is like a real thing because it is pretty controversial, right? Like people struggle with it because a lot of people fall into the category of like being in a long-term relationship and like not having sex.

I will also say that like, I think the topic of talking about long-term relationships and sex is like a real thing because it is pretty controversial, right? Like people struggle with it because a lot of people fall into the category of like being in a long-term relationship and like not having sex.

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Yeah. And also, I'm also like no marriage counselor.

Yeah. And also, I'm also like no marriage counselor.

Yeah. And also, I'm also like no marriage counselor.

That's another thing you can add to my list.

That's another thing you can add to my list.

That's another thing you can add to my list.

Well, I think that I just feel like because I'm sober, right? I see everything through a clear lens all the time. And I've also learned through the work I've done on myself that like the stuff that hurts...

Well, I think that I just feel like because I'm sober, right? I see everything through a clear lens all the time. And I've also learned through the work I've done on myself that like the stuff that hurts...

Well, I think that I just feel like because I'm sober, right? I see everything through a clear lens all the time. And I've also learned through the work I've done on myself that like the stuff that hurts...

the most or that is the most uncomfortable tends to be the things that provide also the the most gratitude and the most reward so like going through the things that are super difficult and challenging tend to ultimately deliver

the most or that is the most uncomfortable tends to be the things that provide also the the most gratitude and the most reward so like going through the things that are super difficult and challenging tend to ultimately deliver

the most or that is the most uncomfortable tends to be the things that provide also the the most gratitude and the most reward so like going through the things that are super difficult and challenging tend to ultimately deliver

the greatest gifts you know and like that's that has been depicted over and over and over again in my life where it's like man like and that's and and i'm also a glutton for it you know like you sign i sign up for some ridiculous fitness challenge and what was it called again that one that you did that i was supposed to maybe do with the high rocks it was great i'm doing i'm doing one again in dallas i want to do it in november it's so great it's so great you should do it can i train for it now

the greatest gifts you know and like that's that has been depicted over and over and over again in my life where it's like man like and that's and and i'm also a glutton for it you know like you sign i sign up for some ridiculous fitness challenge and what was it called again that one that you did that i was supposed to maybe do with the high rocks it was great i'm doing i'm doing one again in dallas i want to do it in november it's so great it's so great you should do it can i train for it now

the greatest gifts you know and like that's that has been depicted over and over and over again in my life where it's like man like and that's and and i'm also a glutton for it you know like you sign i sign up for some ridiculous fitness challenge and what was it called again that one that you did that i was supposed to maybe do with the high rocks it was great i'm doing i'm doing one again in dallas i want to do it in november it's so great it's so great you should do it can i train for it now

Oh, of course. Yeah, of course. You're already in great shape. So for you to do it, the only thing that you would have to pick up is probably your running.

Oh, of course. Yeah, of course. You're already in great shape. So for you to do it, the only thing that you would have to pick up is probably your running.

Oh, of course. Yeah, of course. You're already in great shape. So for you to do it, the only thing that you would have to pick up is probably your running.

It's a lot of running.

It's a lot of running.

It's a lot of running.

It's 8K. So it's an 8K.

It's 8K. So it's an 8K.

It's 8K. So it's an 8K.

Yeah, but it's not about... It's different. It's like running 1,000-meter...

Yeah, but it's not about... It's different. It's like running 1,000-meter...

Yeah, but it's not about... It's different. It's like running 1,000-meter...

spurts so you basically run a thousand meters and then you do a thousand meter row you run a thousand meters and you do a thousand meter skier you run a thousand meters you do burpee burpee broad jumps you run a thousand meters you do farmers carries you run a thousand meters you push the sled you run it so it's a lot of and it's basically running a thousand meters after fully exerting your body on some other exercise

spurts so you basically run a thousand meters and then you do a thousand meter row you run a thousand meters and you do a thousand meter skier you run a thousand meters you do burpee burpee broad jumps you run a thousand meters you do farmers carries you run a thousand meters you push the sled you run it so it's a lot of and it's basically running a thousand meters after fully exerting your body on some other exercise

spurts so you basically run a thousand meters and then you do a thousand meter row you run a thousand meters and you do a thousand meter skier you run a thousand meters you do burpee burpee broad jumps you run a thousand meters you do farmers carries you run a thousand meters you push the sled you run it so it's a lot of and it's basically running a thousand meters after fully exerting your body on some other exercise

So it's awesome, though. I love it. But I guess going back to the point where, like, for me, what I've just learned is that, like, my greatest learnings in life have all come out of and on the other side of challenge and difficulty and adversity and fear, you know, everything.

So it's awesome, though. I love it. But I guess going back to the point where, like, for me, what I've just learned is that, like, my greatest learnings in life have all come out of and on the other side of challenge and difficulty and adversity and fear, you know, everything.

So it's awesome, though. I love it. But I guess going back to the point where, like, for me, what I've just learned is that, like, my greatest learnings in life have all come out of and on the other side of challenge and difficulty and adversity and fear, you know, everything.

And so I think, like, I know walking into a conversation that I feel like I need to have with my wife is never comfortable.

And so I think, like, I know walking into a conversation that I feel like I need to have with my wife is never comfortable.

And so I think, like, I know walking into a conversation that I feel like I need to have with my wife is never comfortable.

it's like if i feel like it's not if if it's something that she's doing that's frustrating for me you know or or if if i could tell that i'm doing something that's pissing her off and she doesn't immediately bring it up to me i will broach the conversation and most of the time i'm correct But like, I just know that, you know, the other side of fear is freedom, period. Like, that's just the truth.

it's like if i feel like it's not if if it's something that she's doing that's frustrating for me you know or or if if i could tell that i'm doing something that's pissing her off and she doesn't immediately bring it up to me i will broach the conversation and most of the time i'm correct But like, I just know that, you know, the other side of fear is freedom, period. Like, that's just the truth.

it's like if i feel like it's not if if it's something that she's doing that's frustrating for me you know or or if if i could tell that i'm doing something that's pissing her off and she doesn't immediately bring it up to me i will broach the conversation and most of the time i'm correct But like, I just know that, you know, the other side of fear is freedom, period. Like, that's just the truth.

It just is. It's just everything that you are afraid of, when you are able to face it, walk through it, experience what that feels like on the other side of it, you just feel a sense of like, you feel light.

It just is. It's just everything that you are afraid of, when you are able to face it, walk through it, experience what that feels like on the other side of it, you just feel a sense of like, you feel light.

It just is. It's just everything that you are afraid of, when you are able to face it, walk through it, experience what that feels like on the other side of it, you just feel a sense of like, you feel light.

I think what it boils down to is, and this is kind of what I've distilled it down to from my life, and I've failed so many times at this, but commitment over time develops confidence, and confidence over time develops courage. It's the three Cs. Anything great requires courage. And typically greatness comes out of overcoming fear, right?

I think what it boils down to is, and this is kind of what I've distilled it down to from my life, and I've failed so many times at this, but commitment over time develops confidence, and confidence over time develops courage. It's the three Cs. Anything great requires courage. And typically greatness comes out of overcoming fear, right?

I think what it boils down to is, and this is kind of what I've distilled it down to from my life, and I've failed so many times at this, but commitment over time develops confidence, and confidence over time develops courage. It's the three Cs. Anything great requires courage. And typically greatness comes out of overcoming fear, right?

Like people write about people that win wars, shit like that, right? And so I think where it starts is like the commitment component of life.

Like people write about people that win wars, shit like that, right? And so I think where it starts is like the commitment component of life.

Like people write about people that win wars, shit like that, right? And so I think where it starts is like the commitment component of life.

Commitment breeds confidence.

Commitment breeds confidence.

Commitment breeds confidence.

Yeah, but you can't be competent without experience.

Yeah, but you can't be competent without experience.

Yeah, but you can't be competent without experience.

Yeah, but that develops competence in that thing, right? So like as an example, when I was... coming out of the dark place in addiction, right? And I was, I had zero self-confidence, zero ability to do anything but run for the fucking hills. Because that's what I did. That was my life for 11 years. I just was like, dial it in. I'm done. Feel good. I want to feel better. Feel bad.

Yeah, but that develops competence in that thing, right? So like as an example, when I was... coming out of the dark place in addiction, right? And I was, I had zero self-confidence, zero ability to do anything but run for the fucking hills. Because that's what I did. That was my life for 11 years. I just was like, dial it in. I'm done. Feel good. I want to feel better. Feel bad.

Yeah, but that develops competence in that thing, right? So like as an example, when I was... coming out of the dark place in addiction, right? And I was, I had zero self-confidence, zero ability to do anything but run for the fucking hills. Because that's what I did. That was my life for 11 years. I just was like, dial it in. I'm done. Feel good. I want to feel better. Feel bad.

I want to feel better. Feel anything I don't want to feel.

I want to feel better. Feel anything I don't want to feel.

I want to feel better. Feel anything I don't want to feel.

And so I got really good at being a Houdini and just like, poof, like disappearing in plain sight, you know? And so when I was coming out of that, I got introduced to a couple of guys who like just showed up and just like winged me and told me about and introduced me to fitness for the first time in my life, really. And they said...

And so I got really good at being a Houdini and just like, poof, like disappearing in plain sight, you know? And so when I was coming out of that, I got introduced to a couple of guys who like just showed up and just like winged me and told me about and introduced me to fitness for the first time in my life, really. And they said...

And so I got really good at being a Houdini and just like, poof, like disappearing in plain sight, you know? And so when I was coming out of that, I got introduced to a couple of guys who like just showed up and just like winged me and told me about and introduced me to fitness for the first time in my life, really. And they said...

there's two things, there's three things you gotta do, and we can't force you to do it or make you do it, but if you can do these three things, the chances of your life growing in a really positive way are strong. And if you can't do these three things, we can't guarantee you anything, right?

there's two things, there's three things you gotta do, and we can't force you to do it or make you do it, but if you can do these three things, the chances of your life growing in a really positive way are strong. And if you can't do these three things, we can't guarantee you anything, right?

there's two things, there's three things you gotta do, and we can't force you to do it or make you do it, but if you can do these three things, the chances of your life growing in a really positive way are strong. And if you can't do these three things, we can't guarantee you anything, right?

But they basically said, if you can commit to moving your body fitness-wise, eating well, and connecting with the sober community, like nothing else should matter in your life. Those are the three things. You gotta commit to those three things. So like, we're gonna write this plan for you. It's gonna be, and I mean, I can tell you the plan, but the plan was basically, these guys were like,

But they basically said, if you can commit to moving your body fitness-wise, eating well, and connecting with the sober community, like nothing else should matter in your life. Those are the three things. You gotta commit to those three things. So like, we're gonna write this plan for you. It's gonna be, and I mean, I can tell you the plan, but the plan was basically, these guys were like,

But they basically said, if you can commit to moving your body fitness-wise, eating well, and connecting with the sober community, like nothing else should matter in your life. Those are the three things. You gotta commit to those three things. So like, we're gonna write this plan for you. It's gonna be, and I mean, I can tell you the plan, but the plan was basically, these guys were like,

We want you to wake up as early as you can in the morning. As soon as you wake up, you roll out of bed and right onto the floor and ask God for help, and get on your knees and ask God for help. Take a piss, wash your face, brush your teeth, put on a pair of sneakers, go outside and take a walk. That could be a five-minute walk. That could be a five-mile walk. That could be a run.

We want you to wake up as early as you can in the morning. As soon as you wake up, you roll out of bed and right onto the floor and ask God for help, and get on your knees and ask God for help. Take a piss, wash your face, brush your teeth, put on a pair of sneakers, go outside and take a walk. That could be a five-minute walk. That could be a five-mile walk. That could be a run.

We want you to wake up as early as you can in the morning. As soon as you wake up, you roll out of bed and right onto the floor and ask God for help, and get on your knees and ask God for help. Take a piss, wash your face, brush your teeth, put on a pair of sneakers, go outside and take a walk. That could be a five-minute walk. That could be a five-mile walk. That could be a run.

That could be a jog. Whatever you want to do, but move your body. When you're done with that, come back in and eat a bowl of oatmeal. That's kind of where my business now has come from. Start with something nutritious, satiating, healthy, easy, accessible. Oatmeal costs nothing. You can add whatever you want to it. When you're done with that, go to a sober community meeting.

That could be a jog. Whatever you want to do, but move your body. When you're done with that, come back in and eat a bowl of oatmeal. That's kind of where my business now has come from. Start with something nutritious, satiating, healthy, easy, accessible. Oatmeal costs nothing. You can add whatever you want to it. When you're done with that, go to a sober community meeting.

That could be a jog. Whatever you want to do, but move your body. When you're done with that, come back in and eat a bowl of oatmeal. That's kind of where my business now has come from. Start with something nutritious, satiating, healthy, easy, accessible. Oatmeal costs nothing. You can add whatever you want to it. When you're done with that, go to a sober community meeting.

Fucking tell them who you are and why you're there. Right when you're done with that, meet us down at the gym. And these guys told me this gym to go to. It was a Muay Thai gym. And they said, we're going to teach you how to be a man, really, is what they said. But they were just like, we're going to come and we're going to train with you here and we're going to kick your fucking ass.

Fucking tell them who you are and why you're there. Right when you're done with that, meet us down at the gym. And these guys told me this gym to go to. It was a Muay Thai gym. And they said, we're going to teach you how to be a man, really, is what they said. But they were just like, we're going to come and we're going to train with you here and we're going to kick your fucking ass.

Fucking tell them who you are and why you're there. Right when you're done with that, meet us down at the gym. And these guys told me this gym to go to. It was a Muay Thai gym. And they said, we're going to teach you how to be a man, really, is what they said. But they were just like, we're going to come and we're going to train with you here and we're going to kick your fucking ass.

And they taught me about so much there, you know, mentally, physically, spiritually. And then they said, right after you get out of here, you're going to go to the deli on the corner. You're going to get chicken and broccoli. You're going to go and take a nap. You're going to go to work. You're going to have chicken and broccoli again for dinner. And you're going to go to bed as early as you can.

And they taught me about so much there, you know, mentally, physically, spiritually. And then they said, right after you get out of here, you're going to go to the deli on the corner. You're going to get chicken and broccoli. You're going to go and take a nap. You're going to go to work. You're going to have chicken and broccoli again for dinner. And you're going to go to bed as early as you can.

And they taught me about so much there, you know, mentally, physically, spiritually. And then they said, right after you get out of here, you're going to go to the deli on the corner. You're going to get chicken and broccoli. You're going to go and take a nap. You're going to go to work. You're going to have chicken and broccoli again for dinner. And you're going to go to bed as early as you can.

And right before you go to bed, you're going to drop on your knees. You're going to say thank you and go to sleep and then rinse and repeat. That was it. That's what those guys taught me. So I learned there that if I can just commit to that, like the commitment to the fitness and developed confidence for me. And then once I started doing that consistently, like that is what changed my life.

And right before you go to bed, you're going to drop on your knees. You're going to say thank you and go to sleep and then rinse and repeat. That was it. That's what those guys taught me. So I learned there that if I can just commit to that, like the commitment to the fitness and developed confidence for me. And then once I started doing that consistently, like that is what changed my life.

And right before you go to bed, you're going to drop on your knees. You're going to say thank you and go to sleep and then rinse and repeat. That was it. That's what those guys taught me. So I learned there that if I can just commit to that, like the commitment to the fitness and developed confidence for me. And then once I started doing that consistently, like that is what changed my life.

That is 100%. I am absolutely confident. I have complete confidence in the fact that fitness and nutrition changed the course, the trajectory of my life. Period. And if there's anybody out there who's thinking about like, oh, you know, I just need that thing. I need that relationship. I need that job. I need that fucking, that raise. I need this, like, I'm feeling lost. I'm feeling directionless.

That is 100%. I am absolutely confident. I have complete confidence in the fact that fitness and nutrition changed the course, the trajectory of my life. Period. And if there's anybody out there who's thinking about like, oh, you know, I just need that thing. I need that relationship. I need that job. I need that fucking, that raise. I need this, like, I'm feeling lost. I'm feeling directionless.

That is 100%. I am absolutely confident. I have complete confidence in the fact that fitness and nutrition changed the course, the trajectory of my life. Period. And if there's anybody out there who's thinking about like, oh, you know, I just need that thing. I need that relationship. I need that job. I need that fucking, that raise. I need this, like, I'm feeling lost. I'm feeling directionless.

Like, all I'll tell you is this. If you're not moving your body and you're not eating well in a healthy way, you should immediately start doing that because that is going to give you far more confidence, far more strength, far more ability to feel like you're in control of your life than the car, the bump and raise, the fucking relationship, the whatever.

Like, all I'll tell you is this. If you're not moving your body and you're not eating well in a healthy way, you should immediately start doing that because that is going to give you far more confidence, far more strength, far more ability to feel like you're in control of your life than the car, the bump and raise, the fucking relationship, the whatever.

Like, all I'll tell you is this. If you're not moving your body and you're not eating well in a healthy way, you should immediately start doing that because that is going to give you far more confidence, far more strength, far more ability to feel like you're in control of your life than the car, the bump and raise, the fucking relationship, the whatever.

All that shit will come once you're a confident, courageous person, but you gotta get right with the commitment, you know?

All that shit will come once you're a confident, courageous person, but you gotta get right with the commitment, you know?

All that shit will come once you're a confident, courageous person, but you gotta get right with the commitment, you know?

Yeah, and in my opinion, it just really does start with one thing.

Yeah, and in my opinion, it just really does start with one thing.

Yeah, and in my opinion, it just really does start with one thing.

Yeah, and by the way, it sucks for everyone in the beginning.

Yeah, and by the way, it sucks for everyone in the beginning.

Yeah, and by the way, it sucks for everyone in the beginning.

Every person that walks into that

Every person that walks into that

Every person that walks into that

Yeah, so my sort of answer to that is like if you thought about everything in your life as how long, you'd never do anything. So I kind of see it, and obviously this was taught to me along my sobriety journey, but I really do look at life as a day because that's all I got. Yesterday's long gone. It's long gone.

Yeah, so my sort of answer to that is like if you thought about everything in your life as how long, you'd never do anything. So I kind of see it, and obviously this was taught to me along my sobriety journey, but I really do look at life as a day because that's all I got. Yesterday's long gone. It's long gone.

Yeah, so my sort of answer to that is like if you thought about everything in your life as how long, you'd never do anything. So I kind of see it, and obviously this was taught to me along my sobriety journey, but I really do look at life as a day because that's all I got. Yesterday's long gone. It's long gone.

There's not a human in history that's ever been able to go back and change what happened yesterday. And tomorrow, I mean, I say this kind of like as a cliche, but it's true, right? Like tomorrow is not guaranteed. So the whole like I'll start Monday, I'll start tomorrow is just a cop-out and it's a fearful response to... like the, the situation at hand. So I kind of look at my life as a day.

There's not a human in history that's ever been able to go back and change what happened yesterday. And tomorrow, I mean, I say this kind of like as a cliche, but it's true, right? Like tomorrow is not guaranteed. So the whole like I'll start Monday, I'll start tomorrow is just a cop-out and it's a fearful response to... like the, the situation at hand. So I kind of look at my life as a day.

There's not a human in history that's ever been able to go back and change what happened yesterday. And tomorrow, I mean, I say this kind of like as a cliche, but it's true, right? Like tomorrow is not guaranteed. So the whole like I'll start Monday, I'll start tomorrow is just a cop-out and it's a fearful response to... like the, the situation at hand. So I kind of look at my life as a day.

Like I've got today to show up and man, like 85% of the time I win and winning doesn't mean winning the fucking competition. Winning the race means I just showed up and did what I had to. I gave what I had to give, to give. And 15% of the time I'm like, fuck it. I'm going to like totally just do whatever the fuck I want to do today. And I'm cool with that. And so I kind of live my life that way.

Like I've got today to show up and man, like 85% of the time I win and winning doesn't mean winning the fucking competition. Winning the race means I just showed up and did what I had to. I gave what I had to give, to give. And 15% of the time I'm like, fuck it. I'm going to like totally just do whatever the fuck I want to do today. And I'm cool with that. And so I kind of live my life that way.

Like I've got today to show up and man, like 85% of the time I win and winning doesn't mean winning the fucking competition. Winning the race means I just showed up and did what I had to. I gave what I had to give, to give. And 15% of the time I'm like, fuck it. I'm going to like totally just do whatever the fuck I want to do today. And I'm cool with that. And so I kind of live my life that way.

But I do believe that like if you think about everything is like, oh, how long? Like if I thought about business, right? I've been in business as an entrepreneur since I'm 28 and I'm 43. So whatever that is, you know, 15 years I've been opening businesses. And at 28,

But I do believe that like if you think about everything is like, oh, how long? Like if I thought about business, right? I've been in business as an entrepreneur since I'm 28 and I'm 43. So whatever that is, you know, 15 years I've been opening businesses. And at 28,

But I do believe that like if you think about everything is like, oh, how long? Like if I thought about business, right? I've been in business as an entrepreneur since I'm 28 and I'm 43. So whatever that is, you know, 15 years I've been opening businesses. And at 28,

If I was like, man, you know, even in 15 years later, I'm not going to be where I see myself being like, it's going to take 25 years. If I, you know, if that was like my plan at 28 to be like, yeah, you know, 25 years, you know, I'll be all right. Like no one's, no one's putting in, no one's, no one's investing in a 25 year long, like plan, like opportunity.

If I was like, man, you know, even in 15 years later, I'm not going to be where I see myself being like, it's going to take 25 years. If I, you know, if that was like my plan at 28 to be like, yeah, you know, 25 years, you know, I'll be all right. Like no one's, no one's putting in, no one's, no one's investing in a 25 year long, like plan, like opportunity.

If I was like, man, you know, even in 15 years later, I'm not going to be where I see myself being like, it's going to take 25 years. If I, you know, if that was like my plan at 28 to be like, yeah, you know, 25 years, you know, I'll be all right. Like no one's, no one's putting in, no one's, no one's investing in a 25 year long, like plan, like opportunity.

Everybody's like, no, I want, I want that shit now.

Everybody's like, no, I want, I want that shit now.

Everybody's like, no, I want, I want that shit now.

And then I knew one person who I respected who was sober.

And it was a woman named Karen who was like an older sister to me.

She worked in this nightclub that I was a bar back at when I was like 16.

And her and I just clicked.

And she would always just take me in whenever I was down and out.

Like if I was strung out and just like...

I needed to like be somewhere that was not in the street.

I called her because I knew she was sober.

And she was like, wherever you are, stay.

I'm going to send my boyfriend.

And she called her boyfriend, Marcus.

And Marcus showed up.

And Marcus changed my whole entire life.

He introduced me to, well, certainly sobriety, but he introduced me to the world of wellness through fitness and nutrition.

Program.

The night that I spent with Marcus that first day, he sat down with me and he just said, I just want to, he's like, just tell me your story.

Like, you know, and at that point, no one had really asked me that question, right?

Tell me your story.

Like, what is it?

And, of course, like I wanted him to think that I had had it like the worst life ever, right?

Like I was like probably lying, you know, trying to sound tough, all those things.

But he didn't say a word for like four hours.

And then when I was done, when I kind of had gotten to date like this and today, he was like, okay, I'm going to help you.

That was it.

And he's like, this is what we're going to do.

And he had no judgment.

He didn't like I mean, he was he definitely like had had made some notes on the story, but he wrote me a plan and it all happened this day.

It was nuts.

But basically the plan that he kind of drew out for me.

was, he's like, this is what I want you to do.

I don't, I'm not going to chase you.

And I don't care whether you choose to do it or not, because there's enough people that I've worked with to see how this, how successful this kind of system is to know that like, you're only going to do it if you're ready.

And it sounds like you're ready, but I just know that I'm not going to chase you around to do this.

So he basically said, look, I want you to wake up as early in the morning as you can.

I don't know what that looks like for you, but if you're waking up at 4 o'clock in the afternoon now, which I'm sure you are, try to wake up earlier than that.

And the first thing you're going to do when you get up in the morning is you're going to stand up.

You're going to turn around and you're going to make your bed.

As soon as you make your bed, you're going to go into the bathroom and you're going to brush your teeth, wash your face, put on your contact lenses, take a piss, and get on your knees and ask God for help.

I don't care if you believe in God.

I don't care if you have a bad experience with God.

I don't care if you think somebody's listening or not.

But like you need help, dude, and you don't know how to ask for it.

Your version of asking for help has led you to this point.

So like we're going to kind of change direction.

And then right when you're done with that, do as many push-ups as you can.

When you're done with that, you're going to put on a pair of sneakers and you're going to get out of the house immediately.

take a walk, probably not jogging anytime soon, but like get out and walk around, walk for five blocks and then come home.

And when you're done with that, I want you to make a big bowl of oatmeal and you can add whatever the hell you want to it, but you need to start putting positivity into your body nutritionally in the beginning of the day.

So you create a nutritional win and I promise you it's going to make a difference.

Right after you do that, I want you to go to this 12-step meeting.

Get there.

It's going to be weird.

Introduce yourself.

Tell them who you are and why you're there.

And then right when you're done with that, I'm going to train you how to be a man.

And that's going to be in the rings of Muay Thai.

And I was like, what the fuck is Muay Thai?

I have no idea what you're talking about.

But he was just like, come meet me at this gym.

And I'm thinking like, as he's saying this, I'm kind of like, gym, pushups, walking.

I'm like, yeah, but I'm like, I haven't like exercised in 10 years.

I'm like bloated and swollen and just uncomfortable.

So then he says, you know, we're going to go, we're going to train.

We're going to train for two hours every day.

And after we train, you're going to have chicken and broccoli.

And then you're going to take a nap.

You're going to go to work.

You're going to have chicken and broccoli again.

And you're going to go to bed as early as you can.

And right before you go to bed, you're going to drop on your knees.

You're going to say thank you.

Rinse and repeat.

And that's the plan.

instruction like you need to have a plan and i basically gave myself a very similar plan i'm sure people listening to this podcast like they want to walk away with something right people are looking like is there a silver bullet is there a pill is there a switch you could flip like is there something and i'm here to say no there's not however if you don't try certain things that you hear

the chances of that being the thing for you don't exist, right?

And so that's why I talk about prayer a lot because it's not a religious thing for me.

It's an ask for help thing for me.

Because of how consistent I've been with prayer in every other aspect of my life,

I am so comfortable with asking for help.

Like I, I used to be ashamed, especially as an early, early entrepreneur.

Like I used to have like this weird feeling with like asking for help because I'm like, man, I'm the entrepreneur.

Like I should be know how to do this stuff.

And I just sort of shook that off pretty quickly.

Asking for help is like the key, you know.

And believe it or not, you know, specifically when you ask others for help, it empowers them.

You know what I mean?

Like when the boss or the owner or the whatever asks someone for help that's not in that position.

that totally fires them up, you know, like makes them feel like needed, you know?

And so I really, I feel like the prayer for me was like the first step into like giving myself grace and the ability to ask for help.

Obviously, I've chosen not to use drugs a day at a time.

Fitness saves and had saved my life in that moment when Marcus knew what he was doing.

I don't know how, but he just did.

And he brought me into this Muay Thai academy.

And he was like, this is where you're going to spend a lot of time.

Because you need to be able to redirect the energy that you spent destroying yourself into building yourself.

And the beauty of like getting into a fitness protocol of some sort, especially when you're struggling in life, is no matter how you slice it, if you commit to it,

Every single day you get progress.

So there's very few things that you can do on a daily basis or four to five days a week where every single time you're done with it, you're steps further than when you started in an hour and a half period of time, hour period of time, right?

There's very few people that will get done with a workout and be like,

You know, like people walk out of a workout of any kind.

It could be yoga.

It could be walking.

It could be running.

It could be lifting weights.

It could be Muay Thai.

It could be anything.

And you're done and you're like, yes, you know.

And so what I what I was taught there is we have the ability to create wins.

Nutritional wins.

Awesome.

You feel good after eating a healthy meal physically and and mentally.

You feel good after a training session, physically and mentally.

You have the ability to control that.

We can control maybe 5% of our lives, right?

Whenever there's another person or thing in our world, we've kind of lost control.

That person can hate us.

We can't control that.

That person can say something that's going to impact us.

We can't control that.

That person can take a swing at you.

Something can happen.

We have very little control over the things in our lives.

However, when it comes to what we put into our body and how we move our body, in most cases, we do have control.

And if you can make those things wins, now the ability to commit becomes easier.

There are these things that I think are important to say because it's been so real in my life and I call it the three C's.

Commitment is the first C and probably the hardest of all the Cs.

Commitment is the gateway to happiness, right?

Like you want something, the only way to get it is to do it, period.

Like there's one way to get from want to have and it's to do, right?

And that means commitment, just commit.

And then with enough commitment consistently, you will build confidence because commitment really does breed confidence.

You know, people will say to me, oh my God, you like eat the same thing all the time and you do the same things all the time.

And I'm like, yeah, but I get better and better every single time.

Like it just gets better and better and better.

I get stronger and stronger, stronger.

I feel better internally.

you know, like with the things that I do.

So commitment breeds confidence.

And there's a big difference, I think, between confidence and ego.

You know, like people think, oh, confidence, like that guy's got a lot of confidence.

That girl's got a lot of confidence.

Really, there's a difference between confidence and ego.

In my opinion, confidence gives you the ability to make better decisions, right?

Because if you don't have confidence, you're always on the fence, right?

Coming from self-love, right?

So like self-confidence is super duper important.

And the way you develop self-confidence is you make decisions that are ultimately going to impact self.

And that's where self-love, self-care comes in.

So commitment, confidence, and then with enough confidence, you know, courage is, is, is inevitable.

And, and so the, the, the commit confidence, courage sort of trifecta has really kind of like established this.

If, if I'm not like, I'll check myself and I'll be like, all right, dude, we'll have you like, are you committed?

Like, are you like, if you say you're going to do something, you're

You got to check yourself and see, are you actually doing it?

Because if you want this thing and it's not coming easily and let's like, let's backtrack and see where, what step we're missing.

You know, the fitness component of my life, like my body really changed quick, you know, within like the first three months of, of training with Marcus, I was like a different human.

It really gave me purpose.

Right.

And I think that is ultimately what fitness did and has done for me.

No matter what's going on in my life, I can rely on fitness as a way to win.

And I think humans in general, we're wired to want to win.

We just are.

We do want to win.

And it's not like be the best.

It's not like win the race.

It's just like a little win.

The wins that we control, the little ones are the ones that make the biggest impact because typically the big wins you can't do alone.

You require other people like bloom, right?

Like the big, huge win, right?

Massive win.

How many people do you think it was required to create it?

Yeah.

You know, the little wins are the ones that like actually get us in a position to have the confidence and courage to do bloom.

Totally.

Beginning of a new year, right?

People make all these commitments, all these resolutions.

And by the way, I'm not one of these guys that says, oh, screw New Year's resolutions.

I'm like, no, actually make them.

Make them.

Why not?

Put something in your path to work towards.

Nine out of 10 people, if they fail once, they just stop, you know?

And like,

I know for my life, like the only one thing, again, that I have to do perfectly is just get back on.

Just get back on.