Meggan Roxanne

I stopped people pleasing when I realized the people that I was trying to please were not trying to reciprocate that energy to me. I also realized that I was putting myself second almost all the time for other people with very little reciprocation. I had to stop for my own sanity and for my own self-respect. When you compare your efforts to others,

I stopped people pleasing when I realized the people that I was trying to please were not trying to reciprocate that energy to me. I also realized that I was putting myself second almost all the time for other people with very little reciprocation. I had to stop for my own sanity and for my own self-respect. When you compare your efforts to others,

And you almost look and you can see they've got boundaries that I don't have. Because if I ask them to do what they're asking me, they would say no. Why would they say no? Is it because they're a horrible person? Is it because of this or they're selfish? No, it's because of their boundary.

And you almost look and you can see they've got boundaries that I don't have. Because if I ask them to do what they're asking me, they would say no. Why would they say no? Is it because they're a horrible person? Is it because of this or they're selfish? No, it's because of their boundary.

Thank you so much for having me, Jay. Thank you. It's great to be here.

Thank you so much for having me, Jay. Thank you. It's great to be here.

Oh, wow.

Oh, wow.

Yeah. Okay. So that was the first time I ever felt the impact of words physically. I didn't know that words can hurt you. I didn't even know there was a thing as internal pain. I was only four and I was used to getting a little slap behind the back of the leg if I did something naughty. But To be told, especially when my entire reality was based on love, I had a really great home growing up.

Yeah. Okay. So that was the first time I ever felt the impact of words physically. I didn't know that words can hurt you. I didn't even know there was a thing as internal pain. I was only four and I was used to getting a little slap behind the back of the leg if I did something naughty. But To be told, especially when my entire reality was based on love, I had a really great home growing up.

So to be told that was really difficult to comprehend, but the physical pain of my chest, my heart, it literally felt like somebody was trying to split it. And I will never forget that pain because it was the first time I've ever felt it. And when I explained to my mother what happened and I described the pain, It's almost like she knew, okay, my family's gotten to her now.

So to be told that was really difficult to comprehend, but the physical pain of my chest, my heart, it literally felt like somebody was trying to split it. And I will never forget that pain because it was the first time I've ever felt it. And when I explained to my mother what happened and I described the pain, It's almost like she knew, okay, my family's gotten to her now.

It was a good four years. But she didn't ever want me to experience that, and I did. And... If I'm being honest with you, it really took away a lot of my innocence as well. I was robbed of innocence during that time.

It was a good four years. But she didn't ever want me to experience that, and I did. And... If I'm being honest with you, it really took away a lot of my innocence as well. I was robbed of innocence during that time.

I don't think children should know what it's like to be hurt or spoken to badly or have to cry themselves at night time or sitting on the sofa waiting for their parents to come home and, you know, feeling sad. It's not an emotion that a child should have to feel. I felt it. And it's a lasting memory that I will always remember.

I don't think children should know what it's like to be hurt or spoken to badly or have to cry themselves at night time or sitting on the sofa waiting for their parents to come home and, you know, feeling sad. It's not an emotion that a child should have to feel. I felt it. And it's a lasting memory that I will always remember.

My grandfather was a interesting man. He actually passed away four days before my book came out.

My grandfather was a interesting man. He actually passed away four days before my book came out.

Yeah. And it's been intense because I was caring for him as well. A request that was given to me by my mother, which I mentioned in the book. My grandfather, he lived a very selfish life in a sense where...

Yeah. And it's been intense because I was caring for him as well. A request that was given to me by my mother, which I mentioned in the book. My grandfather, he lived a very selfish life in a sense where...