Matthew Lesko
Appearances
The Action Catalyst
Cut For Time: What Is Love?
I feel our loved ones are our worst enemy because they don't want to see us fail. And so they'll tell you what's wrong with what you want to do because you're going to fail. And yes, they're true. That's right. But to do anything, you have to learn how to fail. You have to go out and fail. To learn how it really works for you. So I think the average person has no idea what love is.
The Action Catalyst
Cut For Time: What Is Love?
my heart opens up more. And I think to get through your life, we all have to get through. I mean, you're going to get beat up no matter who you are. I mean, there's no immunity from getting beat up in life. That's part of being human. But to get comfort doing all that, I think is trying to open your heart as much as possible. I'm sorry, what was the question again?
The Action Catalyst
Cut For Time: What Is Love?
I don't either. But I'm learning more as I get older and trying to work on that more. Like helping somebody do something they want to do. So I think love is helping people you love just do whatever you want. They want your opinion, fine. But no, you help them do what they want to do, what they think they want to do. They don't know. It's a guess.
The Action Catalyst
Cut For Time: What Is Love?
And they're struggling every day with that in their head. So if they decide to do something, man, I think your obligation is to help them. And also as they get older, I feel... That's one thing I could try to get better at 81. I'm not going to get stronger. I'm not going to get smarter. I'm not going to get faster at anything. All that stuff is going downhill. But I can love harder. Why not?
The Action Catalyst
Cut For Time: What Is Love?
That's one thing you could grow in your life forever is just keep learning how to love harder. Why not? But I really think we can all love harder. And that's a lot of it. It's a word I couldn't even say a few years ago, to tell you the truth. I mean, growing up as a male in this country, at least in my family, you couldn't say you love anybody unless you married them.
The Action Catalyst
Cut For Time: What Is Love?
And that was sort of like the deal. I never heard it in my house. There were all nice people. That wasn't an issue. It was just a word. We did it. And I just came to feel that that must be what's missing, and even community and stuff like that, to know people who your neighbors are and how to make everybody more human. And it's very selfish because I feel every time I even say the word,
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
These are all nonprofit organizations that get paid to help anybody, anybody. Start a business. Start a nonprofit. Work on your invention. Be a freelancer. Be a real estate inventor. Any way to make money. And they help you for free. Help you find money. Help you find legal help for free. Everything. Now, they're all not perfect. And that's why you call them.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
To me, you call two or three of them, four of them or whatever. But everyone will never charge you money. Here's a couple other ones. Another website is called Apex, A-P-E-X, and Accelerators with an S and then .us. So that's a place, again, in every city that if you're in business, small, big, whatever, the biggest market for anything is the government. They buy anything.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
Yeah, well, that's two points. I mean, it weren't as easy getting over that other thing. I've been wrestling that 24-7 for 50 years. But yes, I got a couple of places to start. But you have to believe it's there, you know, because you can't just say, oh, I'm going to try. I'm going to call one or two people and see what happens. And that's probably, well, it's like getting a job.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
And the problem is learn the bureaucracy. And they even have grants that help you figure out how to get those contracts. Now there's another good one for businesses. It's called careeronestop.org. Okay. Now what they do is train your employees for free. They pay for that because businesses don't like paying for training. So the government does.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
So if you hire people without the skills they need, they'll pay the salary up to 80, 90% of the salary while they learn, or they just give you I mean, you get hundreds of hundreds of thousands of dollars to train all your call center people or your marketing people. It's phenomenal. And that's training money. And as an individual, too.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
Now, in our country, you could, without a college degree, you could get paid $40,000 a year to train for a $100,000 a year job. Not going to college and paying them $40,000 a year. The government will pay you $40,000 a year. That's awesome.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
You're going to knock on one or two doors. And nothing's going to happen. And they're not hiring today. So you go home and, yeah, nobody's hiring. And you can't do that. Go to findhelp.org. Put in your zip code on the left-hand corner up on top. You have community organizations that help you with money, help housing. They're all important things, right? Labor, work, health care, everything.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
These are nonprofit organizations. Every one of them will never ask you for money. They just give you money. They give you services. They give you. Now, the next hurdle is now they're not all for you. So you have to start calling and asking for help. See, getting help is a people business. It's not an Internet business.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Getting Help Is A People Business
You have to find the people in your community that get paid to help people like you. They know what's out there. So you have to learn where these people are and use them. So starting a business, let's say you want to start a business, okay? Put in sba.gov and then slash local dash assistance, sba.gov slash local dash assistance. And there's a place to put in your zip code.