Magdalena Hoeller
👤 PersonAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
Now, with anger, it's very often a totally different experience in English.
It's very often the impact that matters more instead of the words.
It's the classic, honey, it's not what you said, it's how you said it.
Sound familiar?
Yeah.
Let me give you an example.
Early on in my relationship, during an argument, I dropped a certain C word.
I'm not going to say what it is, you all know.
Now, at that time in my relationship, I had no grasp how offensive that word is in English.
To me, it was just four letters stringed together, just something I heard around the street here in Australia.
I had no emotional connection to it.
But my husband, he was shocked, and rightly so.
I've never used it since in any context.
But that's the thing.
When intercultural partners fight, we have to think of many things here.
Is the word choice right?
Mine clearly wasn't.
How does that word land on the other person?
So what's the impact?
Mine was clearly horrible and misdirected.