Loretta Ross
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Really. I beg people to not bring themselves to my attention when they get on my nerves.
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It takes too much energy to hate people. I've always found that exhausting.
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Shaming has never worked to correct a behavior once the shame has been made public. Because the person who is being shamed will always feel or assume that every time somebody says their name, they're going to remember their shame. That they will not have an identity, a presence without this shame hanging over their head like a storm cloud.
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So as a corrective, it tends to drive people away rather than engaging them, bringing them in to correct the sources of that shame. And I also had to do a lot of reconciling with my own shame, my own sources of shame. One of the things that made writing my book so difficult was how much self-disclosure I had to make of my own mistakes. And my mistakes were large and visible.
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Und viele Jahre habe ich sie versteckt. Und dann, als ich mich zurückgezogen habe und sie weggezogen habe, hat mein Therapeut viel Geld verdient. Aber ich wollte die Perspektive eröffnen, dass man von der Scham lernen kann. Man kann von seinen Fehler lernen. Und man kann immer noch kontrollieren, ob man von der Scham und den Fehler definiert ist.
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Und es war für mich erheblich, die Geheimnisse zu beurteilen, die ich so viel emotionalen Energie verwendet habe, um zu verstecken. Ich weiß nicht, ob es für alle so funktioniert, aber ich denke, dass es für genug von uns funktioniert und sicherlich für einige von uns. Aber dann... I don't think I ever had the luxury of having my worst secrets remain secret.
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I mean, rape at 11, incest at 14, obvious baby from that incest at 15. It's kind of hard to hide that you have a baby when you're supposed to give them up for adoption and disappear.
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Es ist eine kalkulierte Organisierungs-Taktik. Wenn man die Menschen im Menschenrechts-Movement organisieren will, wird deine Vulnerabilität dein größtes Asset. Denn dann können die Menschen mit dir riskieren, ihre Geschichten zu teilen und die Dinge, die ihnen geschehen sind, in einer Art und Weise, die sie vielleicht noch nie gefunden haben, Raum für.
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Glaubt, dass sie überleben können, die Geschichte zu erzählen. I used to tell my story to small groups of women at the Rape Crisis Center. And at a march I told it to 600,000 people on the National Mall. Each telling made me braver. So I could get to the National Mall with the television cameras and all of that kind of stuff. But it all started in those small little consciousness raising groups.
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I didn't even tell my mother about the rape. It's a process to own all of your story. Und es ist sicherlich erheblich, die Sonne in die dunklen Körner deines Herzens zu lassen. Es ist unglaublich, was ein kleines Ausdruck dieser Geheimnisse tun kann, um dich besser zu fühlen und zu heilen.
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Ich glaube, der Hauptgrund, warum ich die Cancel-Kultur kritisiere, ist, dass ich nicht mag, dass es andere Menschen schmerzt, auch wenn sie, ich sage mal, verdient werden, Cancel zu werden. Es ist ein anderer Mensch, mit dem du handelst. Und ich kann ihre Menschheit nicht vergessen. Das ist der eine Grund. Der zweite Grund, warum ich es nicht mag, ist, weil es nicht funktioniert.
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Because if you got sufficient fame, power and celebrity, you just laugh all the way to the bank. It only seems to harm the people who have the fewest resources to protect themselves, to survive in their communities and stuff. And so if you're aiming at harming the most vulnerable people, at least own that. Because that's what you're doing. And it doesn't make anybody
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Es ist illogisch für einen Menschenrechtsmovement. Sie nutzen die Taktiken des Gefängnisindustriekomplexes. Das ist das, was die Gefängnisse tun. Sie silenzen die Menschen, sie exilieren sie und sie besitzen sie wie ein verwendetes Tissue. Wie du nicht mehr in der Menschheit gehört wirst. Well, Audre Lorde said, that's a master's tools thing.
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The master's tools shall never disassemble the master's house. So we're using the prison industrial complex within the human rights movement and call ourselves holding people accountable. But if you dehumanize people, what does that do to the human rights framework you're trying to protect?
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Kann ich nur unterbrechen? Weil was mir passiert ist, als ich diese Dinge in der letzten Dekade studiert habe, ist, dass es nicht darum geht, andere Menschen zu verändern, ihre Verhältnisse zu verändern. Es geht darum, dich zu verändern, deine Verhältnisse zu anderen Menschen.
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Yes. You don't have the magic power to make other people change, but you have the power to offer the love and support to give them the space to grow. Whether they avail themselves of that space is beyond your control. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them think, I haven't found Die Menschen sind nicht in einer Kulte.
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Wir bauen keine Kulte für die Menschenrechte, sondern eine Bewegung für die Menschenrechte.
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Es gibt das, aber ich würde auch eine andere Interpretation bieten. Es ist richtig, dass Menschen für Schaden verantwortlich gehalten werden sollen, damit sie nicht jemanden anderen verursachen können. Ich meine, es ist eine Sache, wenn es unverantwortlich ist. Aber wenn es um den Zweck geht, was ist unser Verhandlungsprozess für das? Die Art, wie ich es, wenn ich meine Klassen in Smith lege, ist,
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ist, dass wir die Kunst haben, den Menschen radikale Politik zu erlernen, und wir haben ihnen die radikale Liebe verfehlt, diese Politik verantwortlich zu behandeln. Sobald wir ihnen Heteropatriarchie erlernen, gehen sie herum und sagen, dass alle anderen diese Worte schon kennen, und sie sind nicht wach genug, wenn sie das nicht tun. Ja. Ja.
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Part of it is ego, but part of it is actually compassion for the downtrodden, the underdog. They really do earnestly think they're doing the right thing. They're just going about it the wrong way.
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Die Emotionen sind wahr. Die Frage ist, wirst du traumabhängig oder traumabhängig sein?
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Because I always try to tell people Die Lektionen durch das, was ich durchgekommen bin und was ich gelernt habe. Und so müssen wir verstehen, dass Sprachenkonventionen schnell verändern und niemand kann sie behalten. And so we have to give each other grace while also understanding that we also do need to do better too. So I shouldn't get a permanent pass on getting the gender pronoun wrong.
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But I should also be appreciated for the fact that I am going to correct myself as often as I can and remember to because I want to honor who you are. I tell the story in the book of how in one of my classes we had gone around and the students had all introduced themselves. I had 50 students in my class and they had given us their correct gender pronoun.
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And of course, the first time I called a student, I misgendered them. And I expected to be put on full blast because we had made such an effort, right? And this 18-year-old looked at me and said, oh, that's all right, Professor. I misgender myself sometimes. And I was like an 18-year-old offering amazing grace and recognizing the lack of ill intent
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Not choosing not to be offended by the fact that we're all struggling with this stuff. We're in a society where knowledge is a commodity. And so why are we surprised that people who call themselves human rights activists use the knowledge of wokeness as a commodity and as a weapon against each other? Because this is what they've learned, this is what they've absorbed.
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And it actually can get rewarded. You can get rewarded for it. So teaching people that not only is there a better way, but there's a better representation of who they actually are is really fun. I have fun doing it. Because if being an asshole isn't who you want to be, why are you acting like one? I mean, if you want to be an asshole, own it. Don't just fake it.
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Aber wenn das nicht, wer du sein willst, dann probiere doch eine andere Art, jemanden zu korrigieren, wenn sie etwas falsch machen, Liebe anbieten, wenn du dich verletzt hast. Es gibt viele andere Dinge, die du tun kannst. Ich arbeite mit einem Lehrer, ein Lehrer, der Bücher für K-12 arbeitet. And she tried to use the calling in methodology around a student using the N-word.
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Oh, thanks for having me.
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And she had one boy tell another boy, we don't say that word, you know, blah, blah, blah. You are a jerk for trying to say that word, that kind of thing. And I had her rewrite that passage, because if you're going to use the calling in technique, it wouldn't have been, Das ist eine tolle Erklärung, wie man jemanden anrufen kann.
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Well, there's some preparation you have to do before you call somebody in. First you have to pause and take a deep breath. Because in that pause you're going to call yourself in first. And I find, as I said earlier, if I swallow that first trauma reaction and then give time for my integrity and intelligence to take over, that second thing I say is going to be the one that better represents me.
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I refer to myself as a reformed call-out queen because I get pissed off a dozen times a day. I have a quick temper. And I mean, I don't have permanent angers or anything like that because that's just too exhausting. But I always want to vent when somebody cuts me off in traffic or somebody is rude unnecessarily. I can't stop that visceral, immediate reaction.
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And by the way, Wenn du jemals einen Teenager geboren hast, weißt du das instinktiv. Weil wenn du das erste Mal aus deinem Mund sagst, wenn dir dein Teenager etwas falsch kommt, wird er in der Therapie für das Leben sein. Ich weine. Die Kinder pressen dich in den schlimmsten Zeiten. Aber lasst uns das instinktiv ausdrücken, was wir tun. Der zweite Schritt ist, ein Selbstassessment zu machen.
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Because if you're not in a healed enough space for building a container for this conversation that you're going to have with somebody that you may disagree with, you may dislike, that you may be misunderstood by, all of the things that could go wrong in a conversation between two people who are trying to feel each other out and see how we can find out how we can communicate.
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We're not as good as hiding how we actually feel as we think we are. And then After you've done that self-assessment, step three is to choose what your reaction is going to be by calibrating the conflict. Do I need a call out? Or can I just call on them to do better? Or should I call it off because this is going to be an unproductive conversation?
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Or should I just get them cancelled because they had a chance to do better and now they're causing a whole lot of harm and they're refusing to be accountable? There's a buffet of options we have. One of the things that I say that's easily understood by people is that you can say what you mean and you can mean what you say, but you don't have to say it mean. That's always a choice.
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Never pretend that it isn't. You have a choice about tone and temperature and register. Always. And of course I believe Maya Angelou when she says, people may forget what you said, but they'll never forget how you made them feel. And when I call on somebody or call them out or call them in, I want them to feel like I sincerely respect them and I've heard them.
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I may disagree with them, but that doesn't mean that they don't deserve to be listened to. And by the way, one of the things I wish I'd put in the book, but I'm not sure if I covered it completely, is that we need to redefine what we mean by diversity. I want us to really focus on the diversity of human experiences and elevate that over these made-up identity markers that just serve capitalism.
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I don't think I can ever remember any bad advice. And the reason I can't remember any bad advice, because if I think it's bad advice, I didn't pay attention anyway. I never follow bad advice. I've never jumped out of an airplane. I've never done a whole lot of things, because it seems stupid to me.
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Leonard Zeskin, der mir alles über das Monitorieren von Hassgruppen und so weiter erzählt hat, sagte immer immer, Loretta, du musst dich leuchten, weil es Spaß macht, mit den Nazis zu kämpfen. Es ist, ein Nazi zu sein, das schmerzt. Und ich habe das zu mir interpretiert, dass wenn du nicht Spaß hast, für Hoffnung und Freude und Menschenrechte zu kämpfen, dann vielleicht machst du den Kampf falsch.
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Denn wir sind diejenigen, die Spaß, Freude und Einheit mit der Menschheit haben sollen. Lass die Menschen, die uns gegen einander verteilen, die müde Leben haben. Was ist die Frage, die du für mich hast? Wie behältst du dein Ego in Ordnung, wenn du so dumm bist? Weil du nicht als ein Typ bist, der denkt, er weiß es alles. Und ich denke, das muss wahrscheinlich ein Schwung für dich sein.
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Und so versuche ich, das zu beheben und mir zu erlernen, dass dein erster Gedanke dein Trauma wird. Es ist dein zweiter Gedanke, dass du eigentlich nicht mehr bekannt sein willst. Und so versuche ich, Disziplin zu entwickeln. Ich glaube, was Miriam Kaba sagt, dass Hoffnung eine Disziplin ist. Und ich sagte, naja, nicht so viel wie dein Zahn. Ich schwöre, ich muss es so viele Male am Tag tun.
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Also wie tust du das? Weil mein Ego kann verrückt werden. Und es ist ein Schwung für mich jeden Tag.
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Ich frage dich eine legitime Frage.
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Okay.
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Every genius I've ever met was an asshole in life. I'm like, wow. You know, when they handed this gift to you, they definitely gave you this leavening agent. I mean, you know, you gotta admire this and you're like, whoa, but this is what comes with it.
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Or maybe I got the wrong definition of genius. I wrote a long passage about how we have to deal with the art and the artist at the same time. Ich werde mich nicht mehr auf Michael Jackson hören oder auf Picasso, weil er ein Idiot war. Ich kann das Kunstwerk nicht von den Künstlern entfernen. Ich mag es, das Kunstwerk mit dem Wissen des Künstlers zu akzeptieren.
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Aber ich war auch so erstaunt, als ich meine Helden und She-Heroes kennengelernt habe und herausgefunden habe, was ihre Kleidung ist. Und so musste ich lernen, es als ein ganzes Package zu nehmen, anstatt sie einfach auf einem Pedestal zu stellen und die Klebe zu ignorieren. Ich habe gelernt, dass ich schlechte Geniuses mag, weil ich das geniusische Teil von ihnen liebe.
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Nun, ich bin es. Wer ist es nicht? Listen, it's so delightful to be complicated. I guess I don't have that Pollyanna instinct. Matter of fact, I don't even like most people. So I find it amazing that I'm a human rights activist. I am an introvert. I get mad when my phone rings because they're interrupting my reading. No one is more surprised than me that I have a public-facing life and job.
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Well, hopefully one day I will find the courage to do a podcast or something like that, because I'm told that's how you reach a lot of people nowadays.
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And by the way, by the way, Adam, I have to apologize, because I didn't know you were a big fucking deal when I met you at that talk.
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Oh, hell yes, you are.
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Oh no, because I can't bribe enough people who can attest that I inhaled. I'm sorry, that's a Clinton-era joke.
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Welche Art von Dingen hast du dir vorgestellt, um Leute auszulösen? Ich bin einer dieser Menschen, die eine unvergütete und unvergütete Frieden in dem, was ich mit meiner Intelligenz denke. Und wenn jemand glaubt, dass ich stupider bin, als ich tatsächlich bin, ist es mir schmerzhaft. Und ich will, dass Leute in ihrem Platz stehen.
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Weil ich mit fünf Brüdern aufgewachsen bin, die lernen, wie man mit der Mama von sich zu sprechen. Und wir alle hatten die gleiche Mama. Also, ich meine, das ist das, mit dem ich aufgewachsen bin. Das ist das, was ich gut bin. Und ich habe viele Leute gesagt, Loretta, du kannst sehr dumm sein. Und ich nenne es Wahrheit zu sagen, und sie nennen es Lack von Taxi.
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Als es auf mich geblieben ist. All you have to do is have your crap blow back in your face and you realize you were spinning in the wrong way in the wind. This was not happening.
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Yeah, I'm one of 12 black women who co-created the theory of reproductive justice in 1994. And a younger woman of color, reproductive justice activist, put out over email that she had created the framework. And I was so filled with indignation. Denn es fühlte sich wie eine grundlegende intellektuelle Verletzung an. Und nicht nur das. Warum würdest du etwas stehlen, das frei gegeben wurde?
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Ich meine, wir haben es den Intellektuellen Gemeinschaften gefordert. Wir haben es nicht patentiert. Und deshalb, weil sie das Anzeichen auf E-Mail gemacht hat, antwortete ich in Ordnung mit, weißt du, antworten alle, die ich dachte, sie hätten es gehört. Und dann erkannte ich ganz zu spät, dass eine Frau, die 40 Jahre jünger als ich war, besser über das Internet weinen könnte, als ich es könnte.
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So I became her bully. I was an elder in the movement, bullying this emerging activist who made her cry. And how dare you, Loretta, do that to her? And so the original precipitating incident that she claimed our intellectual work got totally lost. But then, even after I got called out for what I did, It still took me a while to figure out what I did wrong. Think about rethinking, right?
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I could have called her up and said, hey, what's going on with you? That you would tell such an obvious lie that's not to your credit because everybody you're telling it to knows better. I am deeply ashamed that I didn't stop, pause and reflect. Like you say, rethink. that I had options in that situation. Even if I end up incinerating the other person, it doesn't make me feel any better.
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Well, it was kind of like a backhanded calling in. Because you actually called them out very subtly. But you did it with respect. And you drew your boundary, which is always good. You made an ouchie as you did it. So, yeah. It's good practice. Let's do it better next time. Maybe another way. ist, zu sagen, du weißt, ich liebe das Vers, das du geschrieben hast.
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Und es klingt unglaublich ähnlich zu etwas, das ich geschrieben habe. Hast du eine Ahnung, wie das passiert ist?
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Es ist eine Gespräche da.
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Yeah.
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Right. Again, I'm not against people showing their vulnerabilities, but very selectively. And always be in control of when you show your vulnerability. Don't let it seep out. In that example you used, it was seeping out, that you were hurt and offended. But you said it in a kind way. But the message was still fairly clear.
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Und ich meine, ich habe keine Probleme mit jemandem, der verletzt und verletzt wird. Aber einfach es behalten. Sag es.
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Danke. Ja, die Emotionen sind wahr. Die Frage ist, wirst du traumabhängig oder traumabhängig sein? Ich preferiere informiert. Ich auch, Mann. Weil nach Jahren und Jahren Therapie, habe ich herausgefunden, dass diese Scheiße nicht irgendwo geht. Also muss ich in Bezug sein. Ja, es ist da.
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Nun, in chronologischer Ordnung ist William Fuller dann Floyd Cochran. Let's start with William Fuller. I was 25 years old and director of the DC Rape Crisis Center, which was the first one in the country. And I got this letter from Lorton, which was DC's prison. From a man named William Fuller.
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And basically he said, outside I rape women, inside I'm raping men, and I'd like not to be a rapist anymore. My first reaction was disgust and outrage. I'm like, how dare you? We're a rape crisis center providing services to victims and we don't have enough money, we don't have enough staff, and y'all are the perpetrators asking us for help. I mean, I was pissed off to the heights of passivity.
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But I didn't throw the letter away. I don't know why. I think curiosity and outrage made me go to Lorton to talk to William Fuller. I can't say I was prepared to cuss him out, but I was certainly prepared to gloat that he was in jail. But I did William's pain and the pain of those guys that they talked about what they had been through.
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And that's when I realized that our society never wants to listen to what prisoners have been through. We only want to know what they did. And I was like, wow, this is not what I expected when I walked into this prison. I hadn't dealt with any of my trauma from being a rape and incest survivor from childhood and all of that. And because I didn't know what the hell I was doing.
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I just started talking about my story. And they started telling their stories. And next thing I knew, some kind of weird kind of trust and bond was built through shared survivor stories. And so then Floyd Cochran came 20 years later.
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As part of my job at the Center for Democratic Renewal, formerly the National Anti-Klan Network, was to parachute into towns that had experienced hate crimes or a Klan march or whatever. Und er hat die Gemeinschaft damit unterstützt. Aber Rev. C.T.
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Vivian, der damals mein Vorsitzender war, und mein Boss, haben mir auch gesagt, dass Teil meines Jobs war, Menschen zu helfen, die von Hate-Movements ausgehen wollten, in eine normale Gesellschaft zu reinkommen. Und er hat sehr berühmt gesagt, dass wenn man Menschen hat, um Hate zu geben, dann musst du für sie da sein, wenn sie es tun. I didn't agree with that sentiment at all.
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I mean, I'd gotten shot at as a 10-year-old in Mississippi. There was nothing in me that made me want to... feel any empathy for someone who is a Klansman and proud of it. There are accidental racists, there are reluctant racists. These are the proud racists. But anyway, part of my job was talking to Floyd Cochran. And Floyd Cochran had become the national spokesman for the Aryan Nations.
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He'd become a Nazi when he was 14 years old and now he's 35, 21 years in the hate movement. And Floyd's epiphany change of heart, if you can call it that, happened when his second son was born with a cleft palate. And his Nazi buddies told him that his son was a genetic defect who needed to be put to death.
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And that was Floyd's wake-up call, like, oh wow, these are the people I'm hanging out with, they want to kill my child, it's okay if they kill all the Jews and the Blacks and the Queers, but my child kind of thing. And so, when I met Floyd, I was prepared to be disgusted by him. It felt kind of like,
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Du hast dein Bett gemacht, du liegst darin, also warum muss ich mich darum kümmern, dass du von dem Arian Nations-Komponenten ausgeworfen wurdest? Sag mir, warum muss ich mich darum kümmern? Aber Floyd war überraschend intelligent und lustig und selbstkritisch, nachdem er endlich wuchs. Und er hatte einen schönen Sinn für Ironie und war unglaublich heimisch.
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All the things that you would not have suspected if you saw his public performance as a national spokesman. Quoting the Bible along with Mein Kampf with Equal Ease. He was really fascinating. But sadly, he was also the consequence of dedicating his life to hate groups. Because Floyd didn't have any marketable skills. He couldn't get a job.
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Wenn du in einem Hate-Group bist, entwickelst du kein Resümee, von dem jemand dich hinstellen möchte, richtig? His only developed talent was as a demagogue and even how he joined the hate movement. Floyd was just a skinny white kid in upstate New York who was bullied at school and he really was suffering.
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And then he found that once he put on a swastika, instead of him being afraid, everybody was afraid of him. It was just that simple. And I see that in a lot of alienated white youth, today even. If they can go around making other people afraid, they can disguise their own fears.
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Es braucht zu viel Energie, um Leute zu hassen. Ich habe das immer so angenehm gefunden. Als Kind fand ich das angenehm. Und so investieren so viel Zeit und Aufmerksamkeit in jemanden, den ich einfach ignorieren kann, macht einfach mehr Sinn für mich. Ich meine, wenn ich ihm die Aufmerksamkeit bezahlen würde, würde ich ihn zu einem Crisps frieren.
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Und ich würde meinen Power in einem anderen Weg verwenden. I tell all my enemies, the worst thing you want me to do is pay attention to you. Really. You do not want this storm coming at you.