Lisa Bilyeu
Appearances
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
what you're gonna hear start learning and growing inevitably something will happen no one succeeds alone you don't stop and look around once in a while you could miss it i'm on this journey with me
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
Yeah, it's so true. I go to like, is it still moving me towards your goal? Yes or no. So actually there's two parts. Is it still moving you towards your goal? And is this still fulfilling? Because those things sometimes, right? It's like, well, no, we get a, you know, especially in entrepreneurial world these days, it's like, you know, be on your grind, hustle, hustle, work hard, move forward.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
And so the question is, yes, work hard, but are you working smart? And are you working in the right direction? It's like, think of, you know, I love analogies. So just thinking about going in the car and it's like, you want to drive to New York, right? But you actually take the wrong freeway and you keep going and you're just like, But I'm on this freeway now.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
It will eventually get me to New York. But do you want it to take 10 times longer? What if you now realize, actually, I don't want to go to New York anyway? We're like having these assessments of, am I still on the right path? Do I still want to go to New York? All these assessments, just because you're one year in, doesn't mean that you shouldn't. In fact, that's when you should.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
I wish I did that. In eight years, I didn't do that even once. Me and my husband, we play this game called no bullshit. What would it take? And so the no bullshit, what would it take to X, Y, and Z? So let's say your goal is to build a company and you're like, okay, no bullshit. What would it take? It would take me. seven years to make a hundred thousand dollars.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
And in that path, I will have to give up on spending Saturdays with my partner and I can no longer get my hair done. Like that's what no bullshit. What would it take me to get to your goal? Actually refine, where are you going? No bullshit. What is it going to take to get you there? And then are you willing to do it? Because that's the thing, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
Like for you with your C-suite, if you're just like, I want to run this company, Great. Now you've got the goal. You know what you want to do. How do you get that? Okay. Well, I need to fill this position. I need to work my way up the ladder. Okay, great. What skill sets are you going to build to work your way up the ladder?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
Now, when you're in the process each year, you need to assess, are you having fun? Is it a life you still want? You have to replay the no bullshit. What would it take? Because now your goal still may be, I want to be to the top, but you know what? I actually really want to have a partner. And I've given up dating for four years. And the truth is, this may not be the life I want anymore.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
I want to date. I want to go out there. Okay, so now maybe you've assessed your goal of running the company may not align with your day-to-day. And now you better reassess, does your goal still match the life you want? And I think that to your point of how do you make sure you're not wasting your years is the reassessment of is your goal still your goal?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania Lester
And are your acts on a day to day filling your heart? Because if it's not, do you actually want to get to your goal in the first place?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: 7 Transformative Lessons to Build Confidence And Real Self Worth (Ft. Kobe Bryant & Kendall Jenner)
Yeah, I think most people actually have the misinterpretation of what confidence actually is. Because they usually, and I was culprit of this when I was a stay-at-home wife for eight years, I thought I needed it to get started. And I thought I needed the confidence to live out my dreams, to actually go towards my goals, and I was waiting to have the confidence.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: 7 Transformative Lessons to Build Confidence And Real Self Worth (Ft. Kobe Bryant & Kendall Jenner)
And that I think is a complete misconception is what actually is holding so many of us back from trying anything. And what I realized was in my own journey, I actually just need to take action. I needed to go into something very insecure, not knowing what I was doing, practicing, practicing, practicing, you know, wax on wax off my favorite movie, Karate Kid.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: 7 Transformative Lessons to Build Confidence And Real Self Worth (Ft. Kobe Bryant & Kendall Jenner)
and get so damn good that I build the competence to then lead to confidence. So the truth is the confidence is the byproduct of taking action. And a lot of us don't think of it like that. We think it's going to be the magic bullet that's going to get us to actually take that action at the beginning. And so that's where I actually reshaped and how I rethought of the word confidence.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: 7 Transformative Lessons to Build Confidence And Real Self Worth (Ft. Kobe Bryant & Kendall Jenner)
And then also for me, confidence is like a muscle. Thank you. Thank you.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay’s Must-Listens: 7 Transformative Lessons to Build Confidence And Real Self Worth (Ft. Kobe Bryant & Kendall Jenner)
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.