Julie Dorschlag

I've had a lot of uncomfortable situations, forgetting people and have been accused of being a snob or racist or, I mean, everything.

I've had a lot of uncomfortable situations, forgetting people and have been accused of being a snob or racist or, I mean, everything.

When I was in college, you know, you're on a campus, you meet a lot of people all the time. And there were people I met for a few minutes at a party or something, a meeting, I don't know. And I'd be on campus, small campus, walking, and I'd walk past them. Didn't think anything of it. Just smile and keep going. And they were offended. I've heard over time people were offended.

When I was in college, you know, you're on a campus, you meet a lot of people all the time. And there were people I met for a few minutes at a party or something, a meeting, I don't know. And I'd be on campus, small campus, walking, and I'd walk past them. Didn't think anything of it. Just smile and keep going. And they were offended. I've heard over time people were offended.

I got this little reputation of being this snobby person because I didn't greet everybody that I met or how are you doing? And I normally would if I knew them or I thought I knew them.

I got this little reputation of being this snobby person because I didn't greet everybody that I met or how are you doing? And I normally would if I knew them or I thought I knew them.

I worked for an architecture firm in Philadelphia and we had to go to a meeting and I swore after going into the meeting and then coming back, going back into the meeting room, I talked to this guy as if I knew him. He happened to be African-American and I was talking to him. He's like, I'm not that man. I said, oh, I'm sorry. I could have sworn. He's like, oh, okay. So it became that.

I worked for an architecture firm in Philadelphia and we had to go to a meeting and I swore after going into the meeting and then coming back, going back into the meeting room, I talked to this guy as if I knew him. He happened to be African-American and I was talking to him. He's like, I'm not that man. I said, oh, I'm sorry. I could have sworn. He's like, oh, okay. So it became that.

And it's not people of just color or different ethnicity.

And it's not people of just color or different ethnicity.

I apologize profusely, and usually the people just walk away from me. So I just stop. I just feel embarrassed. I'm just used to being embarrassed.

I apologize profusely, and usually the people just walk away from me. So I just stop. I just feel embarrassed. I'm just used to being embarrassed.

He's like, oh, you waited on me in Columbus, Ohio, and X year, the guy just froze. And then he's like, oh, yeah, and I don't know how you put it together. You named the restaurant, the time, the place. And it was probably 15 years before. And he said, yeah, you're right. And so he does it a lot with servers.

He's like, oh, you waited on me in Columbus, Ohio, and X year, the guy just froze. And then he's like, oh, yeah, and I don't know how you put it together. You named the restaurant, the time, the place. And it was probably 15 years before. And he said, yeah, you're right. And so he does it a lot with servers.

And I think people in restaurant industry travel, and he remembers them because they're servers. You see their face.

And I think people in restaurant industry travel, and he remembers them because they're servers. You see their face.

Well, sometimes he doesn't catch me in time. I think we were at one of your friend's apartments. A guy came in and I went up and hugged him and said, oh, it's so good to see you again. And Marty's friend leaned over and said, why is Julie hugging the caterer?

Well, sometimes he doesn't catch me in time. I think we were at one of your friend's apartments. A guy came in and I went up and hugged him and said, oh, it's so good to see you again. And Marty's friend leaned over and said, why is Julie hugging the caterer?

And I thought that was funny.

And I thought that was funny.

But I touched him. I hugged him. So that goes into another. You have to be careful.

But I touched him. I hugged him. So that goes into another. You have to be careful.

I don't approach people with as much joie de vivre. I don't touch them until I'm sure they want to be touched or that I know them. And also, I sort of create this verbal cue for them to tell me why I know them. So if I shake their hand, I'll say, oh, right, do I know you from somewhere? And they're like, If they say, I don't think so, I said, okay, you just looked a little familiar.

I don't approach people with as much joie de vivre. I don't touch them until I'm sure they want to be touched or that I know them. And also, I sort of create this verbal cue for them to tell me why I know them. So if I shake their hand, I'll say, oh, right, do I know you from somewhere? And they're like, If they say, I don't think so, I said, okay, you just looked a little familiar.

I'd rather err on that side than not knowing them. And if they finish the sentence, I said, yes, that's right. Good to see you again. But I don't use again until I know that they've filled in the blank.

I'd rather err on that side than not knowing them. And if they finish the sentence, I said, yes, that's right. Good to see you again. But I don't use again until I know that they've filled in the blank.

I've had a lot of uncomfortable situations, forgetting people and have been accused of being a snob or racist or, I mean, everything.

When I was in college, you know, you're on a campus, you meet a lot of people all the time. And there were people I met for a few minutes at a party or something, a meeting, I don't know. And I'd be on campus, small campus, walking, and I'd walk past them. Didn't think anything of it. Just smile and keep going. And they were offended. I've heard over time people were offended.

I got this little reputation of being this snobby person because I didn't greet everybody that I met or how are you doing? And I normally would if I knew them or I thought I knew them.

I worked for an architecture firm in Philadelphia and we had to go to a meeting and I swore after going into the meeting and then coming back, going back into the meeting room, I talked to this guy as if I knew him. He happened to be African-American and I was talking to him. He's like, I'm not that man. I said, oh, I'm sorry. I could have sworn. He's like, oh, okay. So it became that.

And it's not people of just color or different ethnicity.

I apologize profusely, and usually the people just walk away from me. So I just stop. I just feel embarrassed. I'm just used to being embarrassed.

He's like, oh, you waited on me in Columbus, Ohio, and X year, the guy just froze. And then he's like, oh, yeah, and I don't know how you put it together. You named the restaurant, the time, the place. And it was probably 15 years before. And he said, yeah, you're right. And so he does it a lot with servers.

And I think people in restaurant industry travel, and he remembers them because they're servers. You see their face.

Well, sometimes he doesn't catch me in time. I think we were at one of your friend's apartments. A guy came in and I went up and hugged him and said, oh, it's so good to see you again. And Marty's friend leaned over and said, why is Julie hugging the caterer?

And I thought that was funny.

But I touched him. I hugged him. So that goes into another. You have to be careful.

I don't approach people with as much joie de vivre. I don't touch them until I'm sure they want to be touched or that I know them. And also, I sort of create this verbal cue for them to tell me why I know them. So if I shake their hand, I'll say, oh, right, do I know you from somewhere? And they're like, If they say, I don't think so, I said, okay, you just looked a little familiar.

I'd rather err on that side than not knowing them. And if they finish the sentence, I said, yes, that's right. Good to see you again. But I don't use again until I know that they've filled in the blank.