Jon Gordon
Appearances
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
That's why teams who read them actually won championships because they became more connected, which then leads to more oneness, which leads to more commitment, which leads to more love, which leads to let's perform at a higher level together. So everything you're saying is so true. And Jimmy's that kind of guy. But it also starts with Pat Riley and it starts with Eric Spolster.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It's our state of mind that moment. So just understanding this allows you to move forward in a more positive way and And the key is you're on that roller coaster and you're going down the roller coaster in a low state. And so often you want to jump off, stay on the roller coaster.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I'll never forget years ago, Eric reached out to me and said, John, come work with our staff. Come speak to our staff. He goes, we want to be a stronger staff together. be more united, more connected, more committed together so we can better serve our players. I just love that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
He wanted to be stronger as a leadership team because the team that's not connected at the top will crumble at the bottom. We want to be a stronger leadership team so we can better serve our players. What a mindset. And now you have guys like Jimmy who become part of that culture. So that culture...
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
that you create determines the behaviors, the values, the habits, and the essence of what you're living every day as a team or as an organization. And now you find people that fit that culture. Jimmy does, their players do, and then they start working together. And you see guys who aren't drafted, but then rise up to perform at a higher level.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Guys who pick each other up when they're not playing well, supporting each other. And it's like poetry, right? It's like magic. It's like watching a flock of seagulls or a flock of birds flying together. And you start to see this motion happening. And it really is beautiful. It's like the Warriors when they were playing at their best together. They were like that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
You see it with teams talking to the baseball manager today. He's like, we have a group of guys that are all moving in the right direction. They're all supporting each other. We don't have anybody who's sabotaging our team. One person can't make a team, but one person could break a team. So you get that one person. who is actually creating disconnection.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
That one person could actually sabotage a team. So yeah, I love that you saw that. And I'm a huge Heat fan as well, having worked with the organization and knowing how they do things and knowing that it's always about the oneness they create. Working with Clemson football and Dabo Sweeney, he read the book and he said, you know, that's my mission as a coach is to create oneness of mission
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
oneness of purpose, oneness of execution, and getting the team to be one team who is working together. I love that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And then what happens is you ride it right back up and you'll experience a high state of mind and more success as a result.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Well, I remember that. And that was actually part of their culture and who they are. They're going to have confrontations at times, but that doesn't mean they weren't connected as a team. Here's the deal. When you have a low state of mind in that moment, And you're a coach and your player has a low state of mind and you both have low states of mind together. That's never a good thing.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It usually reaches and leads to a fight when you're in a low state of mind as a parent and your son's in a low state of mind. How does that go? It doesn't go so well. Right. But if you're in a high state and he's having a meltdown, you're like, Hey, calm down. I got this. Let's go. Let's figure this out. But when he's in a low state and you're in a low state, you're both crying.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And so, and I'm speaking from experience because I've been there with my kids. Right.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So think about that. You're in a low state. He was in a low state and it didn't go well, but it's never the circumstance. It's our state of mind. And that's a big part of the book. When you understand this, that is a game changer because in one moment you have a high state, you're fine. The circumstance happens and you rise above it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
When you're in a low state, same circumstance happens and you don't. handle it well, and you wind up fighting. So this happens all the time. And the key is to understand high state of mind, low state of mind, and understand it's never the circumstance. It's our state of mind that moment. So when Eric and Jimmy were going at it, they were just both in a low state at that time.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It didn't mean anything was really wrong. They had a little bit of an outburst. I'm sure they got together. You have an honest conversation. You have a transparent conversation. You have a meaningful conversation. And then from there, you find greater connection. And then you walk away as one team. I had a coach and a Super Bowl incredible player quarterback, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Struggling during the year a little bit. Got together, had a heart-to-heart about their fears, the expectations, what the world was looking for, what the world was expecting. Fear of not meeting those expectations, got together, talked it out. From that moment on, they were now one team working together. And then they wind up doing amazing things, win a Super Bowl as a coach and as a quarterback.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So that's the power of those kind of moments of coming together after maybe a fight. But I think what happens so often is you have a bad moment. You have a bad game. You have a bad sales call. What happens with a bad sales call? Okay, you have one bad sales call. You're in a low state of mind. It doesn't go well. You get rejected.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
If you're in a low state, now you start going, what's wrong with me? What's happening here? Oh man, my future is gone. I'm going to lose all this business. I'm not going to reach my targets. I'm not going to reach my goals. And all of a sudden you get lower and lower
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
in your state of mind because you have more clutter, more thought, more revved up thinking, which lowers your state of mind and causes separation. Now let's look at a mind that has a lot of clarity. Let's look at a mind that is a high state of mind. There's less thought. There's less clutter. There's more focus. There's more positivity.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I always draw two circles for people and I do this in the book. Three circles, a thousand dots in one circle, a circle with three dots in the other, which mind will perform at a higher level. The one with the three dots, not the thousand. So that salesperson who made, the call and it didn't go well, who's rejected now has a thousand dots and they're reeling and they think something's wrong.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So now they move into a slump, more fear, more insecurity. The person who that has, that has it happen when they're in a high state and something happens where they get rejected, like, ah, whatever. I'll make the next sale, let's go. Because they're in a high state and they move forward. So it wasn't the rejection, it was their state of mind.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So just understanding this allows you to move forward in a more positive way. And the key is you're on that rollercoaster and you're going down the rollercoaster in a low state. And so often you want to jump off and you want to escape when it's not going well. Or you have revved up thinking and that makes you want to jump off even more. Key is, no, just realize what's happening.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
We just got into a fight, not a big deal. The sales call didn't go well. Okay, what can I learn from it? The next one will go great. Stay on the roller coaster. And then what happens is you ride it right back up and you'll experience a high state of mind and more success as a result. It's like the baseball batter goes 0 for 4, 0 for 3, and 0 for 4. Now they're thinking a lot.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Now they have revved up thinking, as I wrote about in the book, and now they think something's wrong, something's broken. Now they're in a slump and it leads to worse and worse in terms of their performance. Same thing with that teenager who has a lot of negative thoughts coming in. All of a sudden they have all these negative thoughts. They think something's wrong with them. something's broken.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And as they learn in the book, there's nothing wrong with them. There's nothing that's broken. They're just in a low state. They have a lot of thoughts. The key is to understand what's going on, to get yourself to a higher state. And the more you do this and understand this, then you're able to overcome it a whole lot faster. And, you know, Heather is someone who you have a, you know, a teenager.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I have, Kids are now 23 and 25 and my son struggled over the years and so did I in the past with depression, anxiety. This is a must read for people who have kids who are struggling because all these kids are having these same experiences and they think something's wrong with them. And this is going to help them realize nothing is wrong.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And having worked with a bunch of kids who are depressed and even suicidal, I shared this with them. All these kids have literally, have literally after just even one teaching have transformed and turned around like a 180 immediately, which has been really powerful to see.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
When two people are connected and they're having a conversation, a meaningful conversation, and there's a oneness there, what happens is research shows from heart math, there's actually a synchronization of the hearts. They actually start to synchronize together and two hearts become one. When there's a loving relationship, that's happening as well.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
There's a oneness that flows, that you feel when you feel connected to that person. So I would say relational psychology says that we heal in a loving relationship. So we heal in a loving relationship. But if that relationship is not loving, if that relationship is draining, if that relationship is hurting you, if that relationship is sabotaging you, guess what?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
You can't heal in that relationship. And then you shouldn't be in that relationship. So I would say to people, if this relationship is helping you heal, if you're able to grow in this relationship, and sometimes... Fights along the way are going to be part of that growth process. So we might have a fight today, but overall, we're moving towards growth. We're talking about our issues.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
We're working through our issues. We're trying to get better individually and collectively. And we want to make this work. And we're not the black hole that's sucking up all the energy. And we're not the narcissist that's making the other person feel less than while we try to make ourselves feel better. If there's a give and take, then you stay in that relationship, of course.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And the goal is oneness. The thing is, as you said, we're trying to always seek connection. We are designed for oneness. As a result of that, we will often then stay in an unhealthy relationship because we're designed for oneness, just like in work. If you have a work environment that that might be some positive, but some negative. And you don't feel connected to the company.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
You then might start sharing and being negative with other people who are negative, and you find your little negative tribe, because you're looking to connect. But now you have a group of negative people that are still looking to connect, but it's done in an unhealthy way. So are we creating health? Are we creating dysfunction? Are we growing and healing?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Or is the wound getting deeper and greater in the relationship? I do believe that in relationships, you know, we all have wounds and you're meant to be in a relationship with someone where you have your wounds and you come together and the goal is to heal your wounds together. And that's not easy. That's why relationships are so hard because we all have wounds, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And we'll have separation because of the wound. What is a wound? But a separation of skin. In the soul, there's a wound of the soul. There's a separation. And the whole point of relationships is to heal the hole in our soul and become whole and become one. And it's that relationship spiritually also with God that we have this hole in our soul.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And we're meant to connect with our creator so that God can heal us so we can become one. Now, there might be people that say, okay, John, you know, this God thing, I was thinking about this a lot. How do I explain this to people? Well, in relational psychology, we know that, okay, you heal in a loving relationship. Can you heal with a stranger? No, you can't heal with a stranger.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It has to be a loving relationship. Well, if your higher power is a stranger, then you can't heal in that relationship. That higher power has to be a personal God. It has to be a God of love, a God of forgiveness, a God that loves you And you are here to receive that love. That's where real healing takes place.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And so I think it's great to believe in a higher power that moves you in the right direction away from separateness. It's why addiction programs are powerful because they believe in higher power, a higher power. But as you move from that separateness towards oneness through community, which is a big part of addiction programs too, and then you move towards that higher power, great.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Heather, it's great to be with you. And thanks for having me and agreeing to let me talk about this new book, The One Truth Ad. I really appreciate you having me on.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
But then real healing takes place. in the loving relationship between you and the higher power that actually is a God of love and here to love you, and we're here to receive that love. When we do, that's when we start to really heal. And I'm someone who needed love and forgiveness and had a lot of wounds, and I know personally this is what happened to me. I needed healing, and once I did,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
my life changed and I found more wholeness and that's allowed me to do this work. And it's why I want to help other people become whole. It's not about religion. God is not about religion. I'm a follower of Jesus. Jesus was not about religion. Jesus is all about healing and wholeness. If you actually study what he taught and what he came for.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And so for me, that changed my life, receiving that for the first time when I was 35 years old, a little older, and that changed everything for me.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Totally. And I wrote book one and book two. Book one is the higher state of mind, low state of mind. Book two within this one truth book is all about examples of oneness and separateness, real life examples. And then book three, which is basically section three of this book, is all about the solution to the separation. And how do we heal the hole in our soul? How do we
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
implement the solution so we don't feel so separate, so we can actually find healing. And looking at science, looking at neuroscience, looking at the brain being an antenna, tuning into the positive versus negative, fear and love, the two dominant forces, fear divides, love unites, looking at the scriptures as I did. And the wildest thing about this, Heather, is when I wrote this Thank you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I appreciate that. And the garden really was sort of the precursor to this new book because without the garden, there would be no One Truth book that I wrote. And even coffee bean, there are elements of the coffee bean that are also in the One Truth, as you probably saw, like we create from the inside out and the power is on the inside. And the garden, the five Ds from the garden,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
are actually in the one truth in terms of what divides us what separates us and understanding how these negative thoughts always separate us and divide us and how we have to overcome that to win the battle of our minds so i'm so glad that the garden impacted you and i wrote that you know wanting to help people that were dealing with fear stress and anxiety and i feel like this is like the next level up like it was the garden and then this is the next level up garden is a fable this one's more of a how-to book
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So that's so great because, you know, we all have those moments of in and out. We all have those moments of up and down. We all have those highs and lows. We're living in a world of duality. And so we're never going to be fully, fully high state of mind all the time. There are people always trying to achieve it, but there are moments when you experience it. Like the zone state, man, it's awesome.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I bet when you're speaking on stage, you feel the oneness of that moment. That's probably when you feel most alive as a speaker.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It's so great. And there's a feeling on stage of oneness because you're not thinking of anything else. And there's this power moving through. You feel the connection to the spirit and you're like, boom. And then all of a sudden you come off the stage and there are moments now thought rushes back in.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And then all of a sudden at times you might feel even a little down because you just had this peak high experience and now you feel a little down. And then it's gone. And you're seeking back that moment. And as a speaker, it's the speaker high. And there's constant moments in our life that we can remember and realize when we're in that oneness state. So you're going to have the highs and the lows.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So what do I do to stay there or try to get there? Can't do it all the time. That's what I share in the book. That's the TUNE acronym, T-U-N-E, trust in truth, unite with love, neutralize negativity, elevate your thinking. We talk about that. Also, the other action plan is the WHOLE acronym and the PRAYER acronym. We don't have to go through it now, but... Read the book for those acronyms.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And for me, a big part of getting to that oneness state is really prayer. Like we are meant to practice gratitude and prayer. And what I realized was years ago when I suffered from depression, anxiety, and I finally knew I needed to change because, you know, Catherine was going to leave me if I didn't change. I started taking walks of gratitude and prayer every day.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And then I'm going to write probably one more book that sort of brings the one truth message from a fable standpoint and tell that story through a fable. I've had this idea for years to write this book, but I haven't been able to write it. And now I know why I had to write the one truth first, and then I'll write that next fable.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And then by doing that, what I was doing is I was now tuning into the higher frequency. I was tuning into the oneness. The ego is being dissolved and now I'm tuning into and experiencing more of a oneness with my creator, with God. And as I'm walking, I'm finding renewing and healing. So literally my mind starts to change. My soul starts to change. I start to feel different.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Eventually my brain is now being changed because your brain is nothing more than the hardware, but it's an energetic hardware. And the more you're tuning into an experience in the oneness, that actually heals your body and brain. And so I want scientists to start studying this because I truly believe this is the direction of healing and the answer to our epidemic of mental health.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I'm not a scientist. I have this theory, I have these beliefs. I put it out there in the book. I may even not be right. I'm not going to say I'm perfectly right. I think that I'm pointing people in the right direction of where we should be going and what scientists should be doing and testing and creating.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Because I believe the more we can help people experience the oneness, experience this modality of prayer and doing it every day, meditation and prayer, they'll start to find more healing in their life. And I think we'll find a lot of solutions for that. So the answer, the long answer to your short question was, I think take more time in prayer. Whenever I feel anxious, you know what I do?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I say, I trust in you, God. I don't have all the answers, but I know you do. I trust in your plan for me and I just trust and I surrender. And we've all heard the surrendering prayer. We've heard all sorts of prayers like that. Surrender is really powerful because what do you do? You're letting go of your ego. of your separateness, and now you're experiencing oneness.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And of oneness, what happens? Love flows through you and to others through your oneness. When I meet people, I can always tell, you can tell their heart just by how they make you feel and the oneness that's flowing through them. Unless someone's having a bad day and they're in a low state. And sometimes we might judge someone based on their low state.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Please, if you see me in an airplane and I'm a little stressed, don't judge me, my low state. Although I've gotten a ton better. But there are moments I'm in a low state. You don't want to be judged by that. But we all go there. But the more we take time for prayer and that connection time, the more we'll actually be able to stay and experience the higher state.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I love that language. Yeah. You talked about language just now. That's a great way to put it because language creates meaning. And so basically what works for you and what's the meaning behind what you're saying. So you're basically saying, instead of surrendering, you're saying, I give you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Or I release to you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
No, I love it, but it's whatever works for you. You know, like I think religion is always like, you must do it this way. And guess what? The creator of the universe. has a way to communicate to you individually. And the more you're open to that and you create that connection,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Oh, totally. Like it was inspired by the idea that there's oneness and there's separateness and everything comes down to that. So when you feel one, you feel connected, you feel love, you feel power, joy, peace. A team that is united and connected is a powerful team. And then we have separateness, a team that feels divided, disconnected. There's a lot of jealousy. There's egos.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I challenge people, if you don't believe in God, I challenge you just to start surrendering and start to pray and just say, I'm open, I'm willing. If you're real, show me the signs and just start to speak to me. And I guarantee the more you listen, you're open. As you start to experience the oneness of that relationship, because it's an intimate walk with God.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
God wants to create a oneness with you and have an intimate relationship. I have no doubt we are meant to be connected with our creator. So as you have that oneness, God will start to actually speak to you and through you and give you ideas. Like God wants to speak to you and through you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Like I've written 28 books now and these books come to me and through me and I write them in three and a half weeks and I'm not any special. I'm not more special than anyone else. It's because one, this is my purpose and calling, no doubt. you may not get these downloads of books because you're not meant to be a writer. You might get different downloads.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
But for me, I get them and it's only when I'm silent and still and practicing gratitude that they come in. And the more I surrender, guess what? The ideas come when I'm in that mode because I'm now receiving. And I don't think a lot of people receive
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
because they don't believe they deserve to receive, they don't trust they're gonna receive, or they've got the blockages and the lack of faith that keep them from receiving. So you can cry out, you can ask, God, help me, and you ask.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
You can trust, but you also have to allow yourself to receive the blessing that God wants to give you and the words he wants to give you and the voice he wants to share to you. I've experienced this firsthand as someone who never wrote books, never received much.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And then as I started doing a lot of this and really trusting and surrendering, things started to flow and unbelievable, like the ideas that I get. And this book is the result of the connection to oneness, which is then ironic. I would write a book about oneness. And I know you're big on making a difference too. As you become more one, you then want to go help the one.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And I find that the more you are experiencing oneness, you experience love, that makes you want to help others. Because why? You now see that other person as part of you. They're not separate from you. So now you want to help them. And that's what I love to do. That's why any teenager that's struggling, I will talk to that teenager because I want to help them.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Totally, totally. And again, we don't receive. So your job is to ask, your job is to trust, and then be open to receiving. Don't cut off the flow of abundant and positive energy and love and blessings that are meant for you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
They can go to getonetruth.com. That's getonetruth.com because One Truth was already taken. So we had to get getonetruth.com and they can go there and get the book. They can actually read it before it comes out if this airs before June 27th. So they can actually read the book before it. It comes out June 27th though. And then they get a bunch of action plans and resources free.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So they get the tune action plan, the prayer acronym, the whole action plan. They get all of that. And then also johngordon.com is my website. So j-o-n-gordon.com. They can find all my books and a lot of my resources and free resources there. there as well. And then Twitter and Instagram at J-O-N Gordon 11. And I'm on Instagram. Oh no, LinkedIn, LinkedIn, which I know you love.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
They have bitterness. That becomes a very weak team. And so individually, when you feel separate, you actually feel weak. When you feel one, you feel powerful. And once you see the world through this lens, everything makes so much more sense. And then really from there, you can actually become a Jedi in this world.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I love LinkedIn as well. I'm on there as well.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Hey, thanks, Heather. Really appreciate it so much.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I was just talking to a major league baseball manager just now for an hour, sharing this with him. And as I'm sharing, he goes... God's amazing. He's like, you're sharing it at the individual level, the psychological level, you're sharing it at the team level. You're sharing at the organizational level. It applies to relationships.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Like you and your son, when you, when you're feeling connected and you're on the same page, you're powerful when you're arguing and not connected, man, it doesn't feel like you'd want to be together. And there's a lot of powerless feeling, you know, Having been a parent with my kids, we're on the same page and connected. It's awesome. When we're disconnected, it really stinks.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And so these were inspired thoughts that were coming to me all last summer. And I had the understanding of high state of mind, low state of mind, which is the first part of the book. There's actually three books in one, as you know, because you read it and thank you for reading it. There's book one, book two, book three, but it's all in one book.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So you could really say section one, but in book one, it's high state of mind. Low state of mind. This is the teaching that I shared all last summer with all the pro teams and college teams I was working with. Sharing this teaching. I didn't write the book yet, but I was teaching it. High state of mind, low state of mind, good friend of mine, Garrett Kramer, taught me that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So I want to give him credit for that. But then I started to see how high state of mind and low state of mind had a lot to do with oneness and separateness. When you're one, you have a high state of mind and you're separate, you have a low state. I also started to realize how from the garden, the negative thoughts cause you to have a low state and bring you down. Think about negative thoughts.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Think about fear dividing. The root for the Greek word for anxious means to separate and divide. And so when you feel anxious, you feel separate. You feel divided. You feel weak. You feel powerless. So when I wrote The Garden, that was really a good understanding of how thoughts separate you. So I understood that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Then it started to become clear each day I'm walking, Heather, and I'm getting these ideas and insights that are coming to me. And I'm going, oh my God, everything can be explained like this. What's integrity? I know you're big on integrity and that's a big word from a leadership perspective. It's essential for teamwork.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
We did a podcast on that with myself and my coauthor, Alex, who we wrote the sale, which is all about integrity. It comes from the word integer, which means whole and complete. So a leader with integrity has wholeness and completeness. They have oneness. There's no gaps in their character. There's no gaps between who they are. and what they say and what they do.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
There's alignment and that's integrity. So there's a lot of power in integrity, but there's a lot of weakness with a leader who has a big ego. You know any leaders with big egos out there, Heather? I know you probably know a ton and we know a ton.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
The cool thing is as you're talking about this, it's like you read it and then right away you were able to actually come up with examples and think about leaders, examples from your own experience and knowing your past, knowing your experience, who your leader was, definitely narcissistic, definitely someone who was separate and then made you feel separate. So that's what I love about this book.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
As people read it, they're going to be like a Jedi where they're going to be able to like see the world through a lens that actually makes sense. so much more sense. And they're going to be able to understand the world, understand situations, understand people. They're going to have clarity.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It's going to help them navigate what to do in those situations or what the other person is doing and why they're doing it. And this will give you a clear sense and also have so much more power in doing it. So that's what I love about I loved about writing it. I love when people are reading it and getting that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
Catherine, the other day, we were meeting with a college coach and the college coach was talking and Catherine had read the manuscript to help me out a little bit, to give me some thoughts. And she goes, oh, that's because you're looking outside instead of inside. She started giving some of the teachings to the college coach over dinner. of what she read. I go, oh, you read the book?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
She goes, oh yeah, it's so clear. I'm like, yes, once you see it, it's so clear. And once you have that clarity, everything makes so much more sense. And so your narcissistic leader, a narcissist actually feels separate. And because they feel separate, they act alone. They go into self-preservation mode because they don't feel like they're part of anybody or any bigger connection.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And so they don't care about anyone else. Because they feel separate. They only care about themselves. And that's what makes them a narcissist. And they wind up separating themselves from others and making people feel less than as a result of that. But here's what's cool.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
I wrote about in the book, as you know, at the neurological level, narcissists, because of their trauma, their painful experiences, what they've gone through, which makes them a narcissist, there's actually a a part of the brain where they cut off certain parts of the brain from others and they create separation even at the neurological level.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
So the physical manifestation, the neurological manifestation is a result of the separateness that they actually feel. And because they feel powerless, they now have to have this sense of power, but it's actually very weak power. It seems powerful. It arises, so it seems powerful, but it's actually very weak because it's connected to self.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It's like that barking dog that seems powerful that's not powerful at all. So it seems like it is, but it's not connected to self. Instead, real power is connected to oneness, a greater power, connected to others, community, connected spiritually to God. We are meant to be connected to our creator, but the narcissist doesn't feel connected to a God or anything.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
That's why the narcissist believes... He or she is God or has to be God because they actually don't feel connected to a greater power as a result of that. Same thing with ego. You know, ego is the result of feeling separate. And because you feel separate, the ego arises to give you a sense of power and the same thing happens. Now, here's what's wild about narcissists.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
They also suffer in most cases from depression and all the symptoms of people who have mental health disorders. And so when someone has depression or bipolar, they have issues where they feel disconnected, alone, and isolated, and they get depressed. And most narcissists actually suffer from the same symptoms, which proves my theory.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
It's our state of mind. You understand this. That is a game changer because in one moment you have a high state, you're fine. The circumstance happens and you rise above it. When you're in a low state, same circumstance happens and you don't handle it well and you wind up fighting. Key is to understand high state of mind, low state of mind, and understand it's never the circumstance.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
When you go from oneness to separateness, you go from positive to negative. And as you move from positive to negative, you experience more negative thoughts and more feelings of aloneness and isolation and disconnection. It's amazing. If that person could be vulnerable, could share what they're going through, could be made feel like they're part of something greater, something bigger.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
If they can find healing and wholeness, which is what the book's all about, they would be completely different. They would act different and they would respond to the world in a different way. And they would actually get people to want to work with them and they wouldn't be such a jerk to people who are working for them.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
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Oh, you nailed it. I mean, watching the interviews, it was, I failed and I didn't live up to what I was capable of. I was injured and man, it was so frustrating. It wasn't a team rallying around each other and saying, hey, let's do this together. The Miami clearly had cohesiveness. They had togetherness. They had unity. They had oneness. And that's why they had power.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader
And I talk about that a lot in the book, like a team that is one and connected will outperform a team with more talent that is not connected, that is not one. That's why all my books over the years, power of a positive team, you win in the locker room first. I look back now, I go, oh, that's why they worked.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
If you're complaining, you're not leading. Complainers focus on problems. Positive leaders focus on solutions. So we have to understand too that it's all about, you know, it's subjective. It's never objective. You talk about realism. You know, people say, I'm just being a realist. You know, I'm just being a realist. Well, yeah, you're being a realist. But guess what?
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
In his mind, like, no, you focus on your restaurant. At the time I owned a restaurant, that's something that's real. That's something you can make money at. Writing and speaking, doing that for a living. For him, he was being a realist. He wasn't even trying to be negative. He was just being a realist of how he saw the world. But I didn't see the world as he saw it.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
I saw it through an optimistic lens. and I pursued my passion with a vision.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
Time and time again, Steve Jobs' team would say it was impossible to create the software, the hardware that he wanted created. They talked about this in his biography. They called it his reality distortion field. And time and time again, he would actually convince them they could do it. They said he distorted their reality from pessimism, or some would say realism, to optimism.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
And then time and time again, they accomplished the very thing that they thought was impossible because of his optimism. So leaders lead with this faith. They lead with belief. They lead with what's possible. So I think it's often dangerous to say, I'm just being a realist. I think it's okay to confront the reality, but why not say we could find a way to make it happen?
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
You know, when you looked at Ford, for instance, during the great recession, they had done everything right. They had done the restructuring. They were making great products. Now they had a great platform for the Ford vehicles. Allen did everything right. And yet the great recession hit and it looked like it was all for naught. But did they wallow? Did they complain?
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
Allen said, wallowing is not an option. Complaining is not a plan. We have a plan. And we'll continue to work towards it. If we have to adjust, we will. But positive leaders find a way forward. And without him, Ford doesn't turn it around. Without him, Ford doesn't save hundreds of thousands of jobs. Ford doesn't make it back.
The Action Catalyst
CLIP: Steve Jobs' Reality Distortion Field
So it's incredible of what they're doing and how they're accomplishing great things. What happens if a realist was in his role? What happened if that was the case? Uh-huh. I told my dad I want to be a writer and speaker. His response was, what the heck you want to do that for? That's a load of junk. That wouldn't amount to anything. My dad was a New York City police officer.