Johnny Cassell
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you're displaying yourself as this wild untamable sort of tiger and you get softer and softer and softer until you turn into like a tubby domestic house cat and that's when you lose attraction
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So I guess, you know, for the, when I'm not working with the guys that have already got that stuff sorted out, that's, that's also another conversation I'm having with, with guys just to make them aware of, of that kind of things, because otherwise you're just a short term hold.
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Absolutely. I mean... I think essentially in communication we're looking to break the expected pattern. When you go out, there is an obvious cliche pattern that exists socially, right? It's what do you do, where are you from, how old are you, you know, that kind of, like the yawn zone, I call that. Like, come on, man, we can do better than that.
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You know, if we've said to ourselves, I am getting better at this area, I want to improve my communication, you are not going out saying that stuff. We can do better, okay? If you're bored of hearing yourself say the same thing, the chances are that will then be transmitted, right? It'll be received in that way, no matter what you say. If you're bored, she's going to be bored. Right, exactly.
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We've got to get back to the self-amusement. I found myself the other day speaking to a new set of girls. I was like, hi, are you enjoying the party? Yes, yes, cool. I go, oh my God, I'm looking after a cat at the moment. Like, what? Like, yeah, I got this. I just been dumped this bloody cat. I go, well, yeah. And I started getting pictures out, sort of videos. I go, oh, what's his name?
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I go, Bastard. He's like, what? I go, his name's Bastard. I go, what do you mean it's called Bastard? Well, I go, it's called Dee Dee, but it's called Bastard because he's a bastard. Like, he's running around. He's a jungle cat. You know? He's hissing. He's clawing me. I just want to hug the poor guy. You know, so... That is an amazing experience for just meeting someone.
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They're going to remember that. But when does that work?
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It works straight away because, like I said, you're breaking an expected pattern, right? She's going to have interactions that lack imagination that whole evening or whatever that social playground is. And if you're the sixth guy that says pretty much the same thing, it's just not enough to carry it over the line. You know, it's not enough to make impact.
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So in every social scenario, you've got to think, what's the pattern here I need to break? Like this is one we can all relate to. Like maybe we go to the Starbucks or Costa or whatever it is and we order a coffee. Your goal is to get a free coffee, right? And you do that just by choosing to put a smile on the server's face. We've all got the ability to give ourselves a silly name on that cup.
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When she says, oh, what's your name? You put Spider-Man or Snoop Dogg or silly bollocks or whatever it is. And then she's going to shout that out. Yeah. and then you've made her laugh right you've made others around you laugh right it's so easy to then open up whoever's around you because you're the funny guy
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Yeah, and that comes from where? It comes from deciding that today I'm going to go out and I'm going to be playful. Or I'm going to go out and fuck with people. I saw a guy the other day, and he was riding a Penny Farvan. You know those Victorian big wheel front, a small little frame and a small wheel on the back?
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Yeah.
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3 Hidden Reasons Why Women Lose Interest in You—and How to Keep Them Attracted Long-Term! with Johnny Cassell
did he wake up and think this is the plan today like that was his commute you mean i don't know i don't think so i thought yeah he goes oh he's obviously just started his day and thought you know what i'm gonna take the bike out today and i'm gonna i'm gonna ride it through a busy district that's the plan today i mean as ridiculous as that is we've got to take something from that guy you know like we've got to go out and think you know what's the plan today how can i have a playful day
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before he finds the right girlfriend the right woman to have for his partner in a relationship can you elaborate on that why is it important to first be good with you before you attract a girlfriend well first of all i think it's completely unreasonable to be asking for the best of someone else if we haven't got to the best place for ourselves so what does that mean i mean if we've if we're in a bit of a hiatus right now we've come out of a long-term relationship
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Because I think a lot of pressure is put on ourselves when you realize that, okay, everything does come from the cold approach. Everything comes from your next interaction, your next business opportunity, your next romantic partner, your next useful friendship. You've got to break patterns and it starts by you choosing to go out there and be playful and giving people a different experience.
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Wow, that's cute.
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Absolutely. And I think as well, it's something that I've done a lot with my guys is, you know, it's just like if you imagine yourself back in that scenario there, you know, where you sort of are friends, there was something you told yourself, right? There was some self-talk that was going on. Right. And a lot of time when you get back to that place, it may be something like she's mine. Right.
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Or, oh, I got to give it a go. I'm going to take my shot. Right. Or it's on. And I think what's really helpful is just to come up with that little buzz phrase so we can.
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press go on that every time we see an opportunity because if we don't have that positive reinforcement we're going to listen to the other side which is off yeah you know what's the point she probably goes for this type of guy or that guy like oh no you know she she's not going to like you and you'll listen to that right rather than bring up Armando right turn it over to Armando yeah
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all the time i mean you know we did a workshop last last month we got one coming up this week but um this this guy uh you know i was speaking to him priya he's part of my online community but he's he hadn't done we hadn't worked together in person before and i thought that
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we may have lost parts of ourselves that gave us joy, right? We dedicated our whole life to the relationship. If there's kids involved, you know, there's that too. Work, you know, has took its toll on us. We forgot about the things that give us joy. So a great hack would be to think, okay, what are those things that actually lift me up?
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he would need a lot of handholding because he was telling him it was, he was caught up in this, this dark in a game place where he wasn't filled with positivity. And as you know, it looked like we'd be pushing for a lot of resistance, but in actual fact, like, uh, he smashed it. He, he, he really threw himself at it. Um,
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And this isn't like, wow, but this is something that can be done, which I think is often overlooked. We did some daytime interactions, some daytime approaching. And he approached this girl and he... It went well. I think he was surprised how well it was received. She was receiving him. And I was sitting there watching it go down and just taking some notes on what was happening.
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And he comes back and he relays back to me what was said and all this kind of stuff. And I go, great, man. You got the number, right? He goes, no. Oh, no. I go, okay, all right. And I see that she's still in the distance. I go, look, you're going to run back there and you're going to get the number. I say, listen to me. Nine times out of ten, she will give you the number.
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right think about it it doesn't make sense that you just you approached her you had this amazing interaction and you left with nothing it's like what they've left they've let the village idiot out for the day you know you just go around approaching people like no she can't be left thinking that was what just happened right at least give her the reassurance of like oh no i was actually hitting on you you know so he went and did that and uh he was overjoyed he got the number and
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I think that really sort of gave him a breakthrough. And there was another guy really wanted to push it that day. And out in the evening, we was doing some approaching. And we've got comfortable approaching the groups, single ladies and all this kind of stuff. And he was like, give me a bit more of a challenge. I go, all right, well, there's a guy there with two ladies.
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I mean, I wouldn't imagine he's sleeping with both of them. One's got to be available, surely, right? But we need to find out. So I kind of gave him something to say to go and speak to the guy. And the guy turned around. He was like, oh, no, this is my girlfriend. And this is my cousin. So we didn't want to kind of break up the family on that one.
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But I really gave the guy kudos for really pushing through. Yeah. Yeah.
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Yeah, it can be. It was definitely a breakthrough for me. And it's an interesting one because I've also been in a position where I've been that guy, right? Where I've been the guy with a girlfriend of mine at the time and a few of her friends. And then the guy has seen an opportunity. So the guy's gone straight to one of the girls and approached her.
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Now, I've got no reason to have my backup about it, but I observed what I was feeling at the time. I was kind of pissed. It was like, you know, you're not, yes, part of it being ego, absolutely, but it was like, When you look at those dynamics, it's like a lion and it's pride. And you can't just go and jump on one of the lionesses. You've got to go and speak to the lion first.
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make me feel good, give me that euphoric moment in my life, whether it be music, sports, hanging out with friends. It could be simply just sitting down watching a film that you used to watch for nostalgia. Whatever those things are, take the time to reconnect with them. I mean, the other day, you know, I went out for a walk by myself, right?
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You've got to kind of have a chat and see if there's a bit of free zebra going around or something like that. And then maybe he's going to let you know what the story is with the situation.
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Well, absolutely. I mean, the key thing we need to get to is what's the story, right? Like your irrational thinking is thinking what I used to think was, you know, look in and go off. He's sleeping of all of them. What? Where's that come from? It's just nonsense. So I don't have to do it. Right.
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Yes.
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Yeah. But whenever we find ourself in that place of reaching for an excuse, it's to take note of that and go, OK, let's go find out. So your excuse actually is your opener. Yeah. You know, it could be like, dude, I had to come over because part of me was thinking you were sleeping with all of them. It's Johnny, by the way. You know, so your excuse is your opener.
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Just like, you know, the girl's wearing her headphones. Yeah, we've all had it. You know, you've walked around with your headphones in. Someone starts talking. You don't just stand there and carry on listening to your music. You know, you take them off and go, yeah, what's up? You know, but for some reason we go, oh, no, we can't because she's got her headphones in.
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I'm often walking around with my headphones in. I'm not even listening to anything. But anyway, but circle back around to that dynamic is we've got to find out who the girlfriend is, right? So you've got to acknowledge the guy. You've got to go, okay, what's the story? So he's going to go, oh, this is my girlfriend. You know, it's so-and-so's birthday. So then you know, you've got the information.
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You're obviously not going to step on his toes. That's just being an idiot. And if you've got a situation, I mean, one of my favorite stories, this is... It's actually going to feature in a book that's going to come out soon. I was working with this guy who's a bit of like a tech mogul. And he was a former Jehovah Witness, like such a contrast in life that he was moving himself into.
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And we worked together throughout this week and he was petrified of women, got him very comfortable. And we walked into this bar and we saw this couple and what appeared to be this beautiful like Columbia model, right? I'm looking at that and I'm going, okay, well, she's available. You know, she's available. Like she's not part of the, she might be part of the couple.
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I don't know what dynamic they got going on, but we don't know that, right? So I look around what's happened. I go, okay, they're there, they're drinking white wine. I'm thinking, how should we approach it? And she's already looked over a couple of times at him, right? So there's already been that nonverbal interest. And I come up with something. I go, okay, cool. here's what we're going to do.
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And I think there's a lot to be said on actually taking the time to take yourself out on a date. Right? There's a lot of peace that comes with that, especially if you live a busy lifestyle. So we all know the work that we need to do as well. A lot of us just kind of put it off. There was a great post-fight talk that I saw from Conor McGregor when he was, you know, having a lot of his fights.
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Go to the bar and get them out. Like we were already drinking Malbec, like red wine, right? So it's like, go to the bar and get a Malbec, then slowly move over to a hold eye contact.
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I didn't slowly remove her glass from her hand and replace it with the red and say something along the lines of a girl like you definitely looking like that definitely should be drinking a red and then slowly move your eyes off and then come walk back to me.
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oh god it was it was i mean she did look like a bond girl and that is exactly what she needed to experience in that moment you just painted that picture and i could see the james bond movie happening in front of me yeah well i i i've just had a writer write that and i'm i do hope it is read in the way that i'm able to tell it because it's okay it's a beautiful moment So that then happened. Right.
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And then what we needed from her is to show some availability. Right. So she had to then splinter off the interaction in order for him to make this a verbal interaction now. And I said to him, I like, look, that's what's going to happen next. She's going to move her over here and she's going to make, give us an opening and interaction will be able to happen. And that's what happened.
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You know, he was looking over my shoulder. I was looking over his. I was like, yeah, here she comes, buddy. And he slowly moved over. And then I think the first words that came out of his mouth, he goes, I don't believe I've met you properly yet. you know, or I don't believe we've done names yet or something like that. I mean, it was just smooth dialogue. I mean, those are the moments we live for.
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I mean, yes, there's been amazing stories of marriage and, um, picking people up from when they've fallen down and all this kind of stuff. But I really like those movie moments that come with this line of work. You feel like you've got enough to write a good script.
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Absolutely. I mean, there's the conscious level and there's the unconscious level. And the unconscious level of realizing why you're on the path that you're on, I think, comes to the surface a bit later in life.
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And that came through certain books that I read about understanding a bit more about psychology on a deeper level and, you know, what sort of things we inherit from our parents and all this kind of stuff. But
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you know my my early school life you know if we go all the way back to like the sexes right of boy and girl like mixing my early school life was unpleasant and i so unpleasant that i actually forgot about it i don't know if it was just pushed down because it was so bad like like it wasn't sort of on a conscious level for me but i used to go to school at like i know five six years old and
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I was getting kicked to shit by girls. Like I was coming home with bruises all over my legs. My mom had to go to the school and report it to the head teacher. It was a serious thing. Definitely something that you'd be worried about as a parent, you know? And it kind of just like that just went away. And then I went to, you know, high school was like an all-boys school.
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So I did five years there and I did another five years. Did time in the all-boys school. Great, great time, man. Great time. I mean, I think a lot I learned about the social sciences. you know, on the playground more than anything, you know. And then I did five years study in motorsport engineering.
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Okay, so those are kind of also important elements because I did learn a lot on the playground on a social level about all the different tribe leaders. And, you know, I guess I was... I was always satellite in around the playground every lunchtime, like mixing of all the different tribe leaders. And, um, yeah, kind of, I'll take responsibility for it.
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And it was one of the fights that he lost. And, you know, you know what he's like. You know, he plays the role. He plays the character. You know, he's a cocky, arrogant guy. It sells tickets, right? And he said, his quote was, yeah, we all know what the work is we need to do. We just need to get on and do it. And he himself said, you know, I didn't put the work in and I let myself down.
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I feel like our year group was quite strong because I behaved that way. I was able to kind of pull people together a lot. Um, but motorsport engineering. It taught me about being more of a solution-based thinker. Because you have to have an answer. There has to be a reason why that thing is making that noise. You've put something back together wrong.
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So, so, so how, or how do we improve something? How do we make something more efficient? So I never went to do motorsport engineering. I loved messing around on fast things, but I just kind of took that way of thinking into what was a newfound passion of mine. You know, the social scientists sciences and. I think, why was I really interested and passionate about it?
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Wasn't really aware of it at the time as to why. But there was a certain feeling inside when I started going to the bookshelf in the Waterstones and Barnes & Noble and stuff like this that I was getting when I was picking up these books. It was something inside me that was igniting. And I can only really put it down to now as to, well, this is a solution.
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This is a solution for me to overcome what I'd experienced. Because every time I was around girls... I was at that age, I was experiencing resistance and I couldn't wonder why, why was this happening to me? And of course it was the early things and mum and dad, I think it's important, we must look at mum and dad.
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If we're having problems in this era of life, we must look at the relationship that we've had with mum and dad or what they've gone through. And what I'd experienced at an early age is my mum had always struggled with being a social person. And I think, why? Why does she suffer from this? Never really had proper friends and all that kind of stuff. And she lost her mum at a young age.
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You know, she lost her mum when she was 11 years old. You know, her mum was 30. And she died on her honeymoon from taking the birth control pill. It was tragic. She was getting married to her second husband. And then her father, my granddad, lost interest in the whole family, basically, because he got interested in his new love interest.
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So essentially my mum grew up without any sort of support, you know, with, through the parents would give you, and it really meddled with her self-confidence and self-esteem. So I've seen how limiting life can be when you don't have social skills and confidence and didn't realize that, didn't realize that was an influence for me on my path until later on. My dad's, um,
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My dad's always been more of a, you know, my dad runs his own business. And he's always been fanatical about fitness. And, you know, run marathons, coach down the boxing gym, all the fitness classes and stuff. So, again, that's something else later in life that I realized where I get the coaching element from. So, that's the origins. It's crazy how...
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I let my team down. I let everyone around. I let the fans down. So... Take stock of where you are and work out what those things are to be the 2.0 version of yourself. I love that idea.
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Exactly. It's... It's seeing what we experience from them and building awareness around it and go, oh, okay, that's why I'm like this.
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doesn't mean i have to be like this it's just why i am like this the same thing why you might be drawn into dysfunctional relationships or you know people that are emotionally distant yeah probably because one of your parents was absent right or you've been let down from your earliest reference points of who was supposed to give you love your parents.
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So you find it incredibly difficult to give your everything to someone because you feel that this might be the second time someone lets you down through a love dynamic relationship. So there's a lot of stuff like that. But yeah, like that's kind of like the roots of it all. I found all this stuff and I started teaching my friends, you know, started teaching my friends.
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Didn't want to, to begin with, to be honest, because I thought I found something. I was like, wow, I'm going to get all the girls. I realized I hit a ceiling by sort of keeping it to myself at the beginning. You know, I was going out and I was trying different things that I wouldn't normally be doing in social situations. Do you have a...
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some of the earliest breakthroughs, like I remember there being like going to this club and it would be like this place we'd go every Tuesday. It was marked like an every Tuesday sort of uni sort of people and, you know, very sort of young place. And it was always these two girls that were like the girls that everyone sort of had a crush on, you know?
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And it might've been that they were more attracted to the guys that were maybe like a year older than you. you know, like, and worked out a little bit more, you know, wore a tighter t-shirt, you know, I wasn't part of the tight t-shirt crew, you know, so I had to work it a different way.
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But I remember, like, we went out, and we went to a friend's gig, first of all, it was at a different place around the corner, and, you know, always supporting my friend, I've got a big passion for music, always have done, so we were supporting our friends, and they played, and then
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what the guys wanted to do after the gig was just sort of sit around and just sort of drink and sort of bum around with the band. And I knew next door the place was heaving with girls. And I was just like, I was getting anxiety. I was like, guys, like, what are we doing here? And I said to my friends, like, look, let's get out of here. And we went next door. A few of us came.
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But then we had a little place and everyone was sort of drinking and no one was really making any moves, approaching or interacting. I'd always use these sort of social events to get myself out there and practice. And I'd splinter off. I'd go right into the bathroom. But what I would do is I'd approach two women or a group or something. Something would happen. It'd have to happen.
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I'd need to walk away of something every night, a new experience. So I approached these two girls. They were the most attractive girls in there. And I can't remember exactly what I said, but I just remember that night being a huge breakthrough for me because I had the courage to approach those two beautiful girls in the place. And... They were together or separately? They were together.
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Oh, it certainly was. It certainly was. And that's why it took me such a long time to have the courage to approach girls of that beauty at the time. I just remember walking away thinking, wow, it wasn't as bad as what I thought it would, as how it would go. Like, wow. And then I started thinking, what else is possible? Like, this is crazy. Right.
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A hundred percent. Well, the reality is, I mean, you're absolutely right, you know, because it's given off clues like, wow, this guy goes through life and gets what he wants. I feel I'm going to feel safe around this guy, you know, like he's just going to be handling shit. But the reality is of the groups.
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they're easier a lot of think a lot of people think well the groups oh god there's so many of them it says it's not difficult it's just different and think of it they can afford to lose one you know if you hit it off with one they can afford to lose one if it's just two girls you know you've got a bit of a situation there like you they're they're with each other you know you can't splinter one off
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Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you know, there's a lot that comes from it. I mean, if I was to think about that day where I took myself out for a walk, you know, I'm being more observational. I'm enjoying the small things like grabbing a coffee, walking through the markets, having a bit of a back and forth with the shopkeepers, the charity workers or the people at the food stall.
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But I will tell you, because I've been writing a little bit recently about breakthroughs, and another one was one of my first daytime approaches. I'd never done it. I never really did it. It was such a taboo. How mad is that? I think it's because conventionally like you, that's where we meet people in evening, right?
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Normally it's not frowned upon to maybe sort of meet someone at a bar, but like to interrupt someone's day. I'd be like, hey, you know, I just saw you over there. Like that was so taboo for me. I remember fantasizing about doing it. I remember I was on a bus. I was on the top layer. And I saw these two girls. I didn't see them on the bus, but I saw these two ladies get off the bus.
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And I looked out the window and I thought, I've got to do it. I've got to do it. I've got to go down there. I've got to go and say something. You know what? And I didn't do it. And I didn't do it.
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But when we were talking earlier about the pain that you have to be experienced to be motivated to do or not do, that was such an important emotion and experience I needed to fill because the next time I did do it, I was in a shopping mall. It did help I was a bit hungover at the time, right? I had that moment that we've all experienced, that exchange of eye contact.
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And I said to myself, you know, then we've got to create that buzz phrase of do it. I said, Johnny, just do it. I went over there and I opened up the interaction and nothing amazing was really exchanged, to be honest. It was just the impact of doing. I got her number. She became my girlfriend for two years. Wow. And I was, again, I was just like, whoa, another ceiling.
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I've just broke through here.
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Yeah. Don't get me wrong. I had a lot to learn. I was very young about girls. I mean, that was, you know, I was an absolute doormat in that relationship. There's a lot of things that I learned not to do and how to behave in that one. But yeah. Those lessons were what would have come for me later on down the line, you know.
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Just just seeing if I can have find opportunities to have humor between individuals. And I'm just having a good time by myself. If we look at our interactions and you have this problem of seeking for approval, then this is a good exercise for you because it proves to yourself that you can go out and just have a good time. You're amusing yourself and inviting other people into that amusement.
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Absolutely.
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Oh, wow. I mean, that's the thing. I mean, like, if you look at it, People are fatigued with the apps. Okay. The, the, the, the online landscape that swipe right, left mechanism, like we're just seeing it. And let's just say. There's a group of girls and they're talking about how they met their partners, right? They go around the table. Oh, how did you meet your partner? Oh, he was my boss.
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Okay, you shagged your boss at work. What about you? Oh, we met on Tinder. Oh, okay, cool. What about you? Oh, you know, I was walking down the street. This guy tried to hit on me. I blew him off. Then this other guy told me it was his dad. Anyway, long story short, we've been going out ever since. This is my bloody husband now.
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You know, like it's the story that they're gonna be telling again and again and again. So however ridiculous it is, that's the motivator. It's the story.
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it's a good question i think my mind goes well we just spoke about it a little bit now but the the apps and the online space like i'm very anti-app to be honest at the moment i acknowledge it is a path right and i definitely have immediate reference of it working for people um But the statistics show that, you know, it's 20% of people are getting success on there, right?
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So unless you are doing an extraordinary job of marketing yourself, right? Which a lot of us that find ourselves here getting help in this space are not good at. it's best to save yourself the frustration because it's not a substitute for going out there and living a more social life. Yeah.
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And I think I was working with one particular person that's come to mind and the pattern that that person was experiencing was to come out long-term relationship, built themselves back up, uh, you know, become more market friendly, so to speak. And, um, It wasn't working out with the guys. This is a lady that I was working with. It wasn't working out every time that she was meeting these guys.
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One guy was married on the sly, sort of seeing her. Another guy just wanted something casual. There was no accountability. And I said, you've got to get back to work on your social life. That's where you meet people. That is where it happens. And I think we get caught in that trap of just using online as a substitute for living a social life. Great advice.
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That's attractive.
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Yeah, absolutely. Well, you know, as I said, like one of the first things we spoke about was reconnecting with yourself. Maybe write down five of those things that you enjoy. I think go find communities around that.
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Yeah, it's off the back of what I just said, really. I mean, if I was to think about something that I lost touch with, it was music. I used to be very passionate about music, particularly dance music, supporting friends in bands and stuff, even making music. And I got so work focused over a certain period of years that that kind of fell to the wayside.
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And it wasn't until a friend of mine invited me to an event where the music that was being played had certain aspects to stuff that I used to listen to. And I was so thankful for him taking me there.
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because it opened up a whole new community and group of friends for me and what that then did it put me in landscapes where i could you know i was meeting women off the byproduct of doing something i was already enjoying yeah you know and it just kept on snowballing it just did but if you don't have that, then it's going to be hard.
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You know, I'm speaking a lot about that with the guys I've got my online community and we, and one guy, he's a, he, he, he wants to be in a band. And I said, well, and he's struggling to find people to be unreliable people. You know, they're waking up and they're supposed to do a band practice. One's got drunk the night before or got high or waking up in some bird's bed or something. So unreliable.
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I go, listen, what you want to do is go to the, um,
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the open mic nights and we I did a bit of scouting for him actually because I found that world quite interesting also and so now what he does he he goes around to these open mic nights and he's making friends there you know he's yep you know and again being in that world he's got confidence he's got wisdom so he's got status he's more attractive yep it's just the play
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on the apps, you can just go, you know, you can meet someone, they, they, they can decide, you know, I'm going to be a dick, you know, I'm going to be a dick and you know, I'm going to get away with it because there's no person, there's no mutuals between us, you know, and a lot of people encounter that.
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Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. We've got to be the value adder. We've got to be looking at ways to add value, where it's our energy, where we are on the hierarchy in our careers and in life.
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But when you're dating someone in like communities and stuff, you would have fought, you're not going to be seeing too much of the worst of someone because it's going to come back.
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Yeah. Say yes to your next invite, right? I think we get invitations every day. Like I've got an invite to something today and part of me inside is like, can I be bothered? Do I really want to go? You know, like, oh God, it'd be a bit of an effort, you know, but just give yourself a 10% bit of effort to beat the shitty person that you were yesterday.
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And I guarantee the best nights or the best social experiences often come from those things that you push yourself to do.
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Yeah.
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That's what the whole movie is.
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Yeah. Well, there's another go away and do. Watch Jim Carrey, Yes Man.
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Yeah, it's johnnycassell.com. So you've got all our offerings on there, like programs, online community, stuff like that. At London Dating Coach, I'm mostly active on that social channel more than anything. And if you punch my name... Yes, Instagram. And if you punch my name into YouTube, you'll find content on there. I mean, we got over like, I don't know, was it like over 200 videos now?
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So there's lots of stuff you can learn for free.
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It is, it is. And of course, like if we are doing all those things, you know, like going out,
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making the money you know taking care of the home you know take make doing as much as we can so she doesn't have to adopt masculine traits then you are going to experience a woman that is truly in her feminine the the more strain you have on yourself and then you you kind of have to cooperate the household then she's going to adapt more masculine traits So it's just I mean, that obviously exists.
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Right. And it's a it's a polarity in all of us that we have, you know, the masculine and the feminine. But if you truly want a woman to be completely in a feminine, then you have to adopt the masculine traits.
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I think one thing we can all do, right, is a simple little task is when you, when you next go to a restaurant, it's, you know, taking the leadership of maybe ordering the food, right? Like ask, would you mind if, if, if I could, if I have, I have a few suggestions, would you mind if I take the, do the order? Cool. That's attractive. She's being led. You're leading her to the experience.
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When it comes to dates, we know this. We have this on day one. When we meet a woman, we get a number. We want to prove to them that we're the man. So you're saying, okay, meet me next Wednesday, 8 o'clock at this restaurant. So straight away, she's like, okay, this guy, he's taking care of things. That's attractive. That's cool. He's got it.
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But then what slowly seems to happen is, you know, we get softer and softer and softer in the relationship. So it's like you're displaying yourself as this wild, untameable sort of tiger and you get softer and softer and softer until you turn into like a tubby domestic house cat. And that's when you lose attraction. It happens to the best of us, man.
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It happens to the best of us because things are nice, right? Things are nice. Things are good. Things are going well. I don't necessarily need to go out and be the planner. Once you've got the goal, the game doesn't stop. It's just a different game.
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Exactly.
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It's true. I got a client and he had a bit of a hiatus coming out of a relationship. And then I picked him back up and... We literally just had one session. I gave him some suggestions and he went onto the social activity, met a girl and he was just getting back into his fitness, right? Because he wanted to be more masculine looking. He wanted to look more attractive.
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And I'm keeping my eye on this relationship and I'm starting to see Garfield sort of rear his head out a little bit again. So it's like, come on guys.
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Well, it's obviously just being a bit sloppy with the diet, being a bit sloppy with working out. Lasagna, coffee. Yes. Yes. Get a bit too comfortable at home. Right. Forgetting about the things that made you attractive in the first place. Right. And also as well, which I think is a is a big attraction killer, is not having your own life. Right.
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So we have we've we got back in touch with ourself whilst we're single. We got the relationship and then we ditch that part of ourselves again. So again, it goes back to the first point about reconnecting with the person that you were, you lost touch of. Keep it. Keep it there because the only source of joy, if the only source of joy is coming from your relationship, you're doomed.
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You really are, because all it takes is one hiccup there, one argument, and it feels like your whole world's falling apart. But if you've got solace in community and activities, events, you've got access to these things, then it's going to feel less hard on you.
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Yeah, yeah. But we need to feel the pain, you know, in order to us to, to make the change and for it to really be embedded inside us as a solid lesson.
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Yeah, a lot of us do. I mean, you know, it's like you're at school and it's like, you know, you've got the Bunsen burner burning, you know, you know not to put your hand on the Bunsen burner, but you know there's that daft kid that is going to put his hand on the Bunsen burner and go, ow, what did you do that for? Like, but he's not going to do that again. He's not going to do that again.
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You know, when I was younger, we had like a rescue dog. and never got onto this dog, hated all of my friends. My friends used to have to come and, my mum used to have to hold the dog back and they used to run up the stairs and secretly try to get in my room without the dog seeing. It was vicious. And I was young, I was naive, and I was squirting this dog with a water pistol.
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My dad goes, don't do that, it's gonna bite you, it's gonna bite you. Carry on squirting, squirting, squirting. My hand's in the dog's mouth. I never did it again. Yeah. So it's that, isn't it? You know, even like you and I, you know, we're in a position where we can help many. And, you know, sometimes we don't listen to our own lessons, you know, our own teachings.
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It's hard, isn't it? Yeah. I also had a friend that he was such a charmer. He had landed this beautiful model Russian blonde girlfriend. And they had a few years between them. And then one day... She just turned around and she goes, you know what, it's not going to work between you and I. And he's like, well, where's this all come from? You have no assets.
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So how are you able to look after us if there becomes a problem between us? You know, that... When I heard that story, I was like, wow. I mean, that's hard, but that's a very good lesson, right? And I remember just on the same sort of realm of that... I remember being at a pre-Bafta party here in London. This was like going back 10 years ago. And it was the who's who of the scene.
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I mean, I knew a few actors there, but I didn't know all the big wigs, the directors and producers, all this stuff. And I was at the bar and I was chatting to this...
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bit of an older lady and had been in that scene for a while and um we got talking about how much money a man should make you know and she goes well you know i i tried dating a guy that was earning under 100 grand before it didn't really work and i was just like whoa i was a young guy at the time you know i was like Well, I mean, 100 grand is quite a lot of money for me.
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That's quite a lot of money. But it was an eye-opener back then because she had a point. I think a lot of us haven't thought about the money. We learned all the dating stuff, like how to attract a woman, how to be more charismatic, have the right mindset. But we haven't looked at about getting our money right.
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And what happens is you can build yourself to be the most charismatic, charming guy, speak like James Bond and the rest of it. But if you haven't worked on the core stuff, you're just a placeholder.
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for someone else when they come along just like my friend right as he was called out by his girlfriend and just like this woman rightfully said i mean a hundred grand a year it's a lot of money in some districts but depending on where you are
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It's probably treble that, that you need to make because you're thinking about, well, that's my money, you know, I need another hundred to maybe retire my partner, you know, or, or. You know, looking after the parents or whatever, and investments and stuff like that.