John R. Miles

your clarity your coherence and the only way to offer that is to build it within let's stay with the momentum if the four foundations give you the why of interled connection these next rituals give you the how but i want you to hear this clearly this isn't about adding more to your day it's about meeting yourself inside it because knowing what to do is one thing

your clarity your coherence and the only way to offer that is to build it within let's stay with the momentum if the four foundations give you the why of interled connection these next rituals give you the how but i want you to hear this clearly this isn't about adding more to your day it's about meeting yourself inside it because knowing what to do is one thing

Remembering to do it in the moments that count, that's something else entirely. That's where practice comes in, not in the performative sense, but in the quiet daily rhythm that helps you return to yourself so you can return to others more fully. These aren't grand rituals, they're grounding ones.

Remembering to do it in the moments that count, that's something else entirely. That's where practice comes in, not in the performative sense, but in the quiet daily rhythm that helps you return to yourself so you can return to others more fully. These aren't grand rituals, they're grounding ones.

Remembering to do it in the moments that count, that's something else entirely. That's where practice comes in, not in the performative sense, but in the quiet daily rhythm that helps you return to yourself so you can return to others more fully. These aren't grand rituals, they're grounding ones.

They're what keep you tethered when emotions spike, when stakes feel high, or when you're tempted to abandon your own clarity for the sake of control or comfort. Let me start with a conversation I had with Jon Kabat-Zinn. We were talking about the challenge of being present, really present, in a world that constantly pulls you out of yourself. Jon said something that stuck with me.

They're what keep you tethered when emotions spike, when stakes feel high, or when you're tempted to abandon your own clarity for the sake of control or comfort. Let me start with a conversation I had with Jon Kabat-Zinn. We were talking about the challenge of being present, really present, in a world that constantly pulls you out of yourself. Jon said something that stuck with me.

They're what keep you tethered when emotions spike, when stakes feel high, or when you're tempted to abandon your own clarity for the sake of control or comfort. Let me start with a conversation I had with Jon Kabat-Zinn. We were talking about the challenge of being present, really present, in a world that constantly pulls you out of yourself. Jon said something that stuck with me.

Most people think of mindfulness as a thing to do, but it's really a way of being. It's a difference between acting like you're listening and actually listening with your whole body, your whole attention, your whole presence. That right there is the shift. You don't just build presence by deciding to be present.

Most people think of mindfulness as a thing to do, but it's really a way of being. It's a difference between acting like you're listening and actually listening with your whole body, your whole attention, your whole presence. That right there is the shift. You don't just build presence by deciding to be present.

Most people think of mindfulness as a thing to do, but it's really a way of being. It's a difference between acting like you're listening and actually listening with your whole body, your whole attention, your whole presence. That right there is the shift. You don't just build presence by deciding to be present.

You build it by making space to notice what's true inside you before you step into the conversation. So what does that look like in practice? I'll walk you through three simple, powerful rituals that have helped me reconnect with myself so I can connect more deeply with others. Think of them as tuning forks.

You build it by making space to notice what's true inside you before you step into the conversation. So what does that look like in practice? I'll walk you through three simple, powerful rituals that have helped me reconnect with myself so I can connect more deeply with others. Think of them as tuning forks.

You build it by making space to notice what's true inside you before you step into the conversation. So what does that look like in practice? I'll walk you through three simple, powerful rituals that have helped me reconnect with myself so I can connect more deeply with others. Think of them as tuning forks.

Each one helps you check your internal signal so you're not just reacting, but responding from a place that's grounded, true, and intact. The first one I'm going to talk about is the check-in ritual, naming before engaging. Let me be real with you. I don't always get this one right. There are days I walk into conversations half distracted, half defensive, already wound up from something else.

Each one helps you check your internal signal so you're not just reacting, but responding from a place that's grounded, true, and intact. The first one I'm going to talk about is the check-in ritual, naming before engaging. Let me be real with you. I don't always get this one right. There are days I walk into conversations half distracted, half defensive, already wound up from something else.

Each one helps you check your internal signal so you're not just reacting, but responding from a place that's grounded, true, and intact. The first one I'm going to talk about is the check-in ritual, naming before engaging. Let me be real with you. I don't always get this one right. There are days I walk into conversations half distracted, half defensive, already wound up from something else.

I nod. I respond. But if I'm honest, I'm not really there. My presence is thin. My energy's scattered. That's why this practice matters. Not because I've mastered it, but because I need it. Before any meaningful interaction, whether it's a work meeting, I check in with my wife or dinner with friends. I try to pause just for 60 seconds. And I ask myself, what's actually going on in me right now?

I nod. I respond. But if I'm honest, I'm not really there. My presence is thin. My energy's scattered. That's why this practice matters. Not because I've mastered it, but because I need it. Before any meaningful interaction, whether it's a work meeting, I check in with my wife or dinner with friends. I try to pause just for 60 seconds. And I ask myself, what's actually going on in me right now?

I nod. I respond. But if I'm honest, I'm not really there. My presence is thin. My energy's scattered. That's why this practice matters. Not because I've mastered it, but because I need it. Before any meaningful interaction, whether it's a work meeting, I check in with my wife or dinner with friends. I try to pause just for 60 seconds. And I ask myself, what's actually going on in me right now?