John R. Miles

What am I bringing into this moment? Am I grounded or am I already performing? Most of the time, I'm surprised by what I find. Maybe I'm more anxious than I realized. Maybe I'm distracted. Maybe I'm holding tension I haven't named. And yeah, sometimes I skip this. I forget. I rush in and miss the moment. But when I do remember to pause, everything shifts. It doesn't make me perfect.

What am I bringing into this moment? Am I grounded or am I already performing? Most of the time, I'm surprised by what I find. Maybe I'm more anxious than I realized. Maybe I'm distracted. Maybe I'm holding tension I haven't named. And yeah, sometimes I skip this. I forget. I rush in and miss the moment. But when I do remember to pause, everything shifts. It doesn't make me perfect.

What am I bringing into this moment? Am I grounded or am I already performing? Most of the time, I'm surprised by what I find. Maybe I'm more anxious than I realized. Maybe I'm distracted. Maybe I'm holding tension I haven't named. And yeah, sometimes I skip this. I forget. I rush in and miss the moment. But when I do remember to pause, everything shifts. It doesn't make me perfect.

It just makes me present. And that's the goal. Not to nail the interaction, but to show up real. If you try this even once today, you'll notice the difference. Not just in how others respond, but in how you feel being there.

It just makes me present. And that's the goal. Not to nail the interaction, but to show up real. If you try this even once today, you'll notice the difference. Not just in how others respond, but in how you feel being there.

It just makes me present. And that's the goal. Not to nail the interaction, but to show up real. If you try this even once today, you'll notice the difference. Not just in how others respond, but in how you feel being there.

now the next one is more reflective every friday afternoon or sunday evening depending how the week went i asked myself three questions where did i feel off this week where did i fake it a little and what could coming back to center look like it's not about shame it's not about over analyzing It's about course correction, a quiet moment to notice the drift.

now the next one is more reflective every friday afternoon or sunday evening depending how the week went i asked myself three questions where did i feel off this week where did i fake it a little and what could coming back to center look like it's not about shame it's not about over analyzing It's about course correction, a quiet moment to notice the drift.

now the next one is more reflective every friday afternoon or sunday evening depending how the week went i asked myself three questions where did i feel off this week where did i fake it a little and what could coming back to center look like it's not about shame it's not about over analyzing It's about course correction, a quiet moment to notice the drift.

Mike Lazaro talked about this in our interview from yesterday. He said that when things got hard, whether at work or home, the thing that kept his relationship with his wife Cass strong was that he didn't pretend it wasn't messy. They called it out. They named it early, not because they had it all figured out, but because they were committed to returning to center. And that's what this audit is.

Mike Lazaro talked about this in our interview from yesterday. He said that when things got hard, whether at work or home, the thing that kept his relationship with his wife Cass strong was that he didn't pretend it wasn't messy. They called it out. They named it early, not because they had it all figured out, but because they were committed to returning to center. And that's what this audit is.

Mike Lazaro talked about this in our interview from yesterday. He said that when things got hard, whether at work or home, the thing that kept his relationship with his wife Cass strong was that he didn't pretend it wasn't messy. They called it out. They named it early, not because they had it all figured out, but because they were committed to returning to center. And that's what this audit is.

It's how you build internal alignment, one honest check-in at a time. And this brings us to the third practice, the worth ritual, mattering without performance. And this ritual is often overlooked, not because it's simple, but because it's the hardest. Every day, just once, I give myself five minutes where I don't do anything to earn my place in the world. No email, no agenda, no metric to hit.

It's how you build internal alignment, one honest check-in at a time. And this brings us to the third practice, the worth ritual, mattering without performance. And this ritual is often overlooked, not because it's simple, but because it's the hardest. Every day, just once, I give myself five minutes where I don't do anything to earn my place in the world. No email, no agenda, no metric to hit.

It's how you build internal alignment, one honest check-in at a time. And this brings us to the third practice, the worth ritual, mattering without performance. And this ritual is often overlooked, not because it's simple, but because it's the hardest. Every day, just once, I give myself five minutes where I don't do anything to earn my place in the world. No email, no agenda, no metric to hit.

Sometimes it's just a breath before I open my laptop. Sometimes it's standing in the kitchen, coffee in hand, just whispering something simple, like, I matter, before I speak, before I prove anything. I matter. And this sounds small, but when you've spent your life tying your worth to your performance, it's radical.

Sometimes it's just a breath before I open my laptop. Sometimes it's standing in the kitchen, coffee in hand, just whispering something simple, like, I matter, before I speak, before I prove anything. I matter. And this sounds small, but when you've spent your life tying your worth to your performance, it's radical.

Sometimes it's just a breath before I open my laptop. Sometimes it's standing in the kitchen, coffee in hand, just whispering something simple, like, I matter, before I speak, before I prove anything. I matter. And this sounds small, but when you've spent your life tying your worth to your performance, it's radical.

It rewires something because when you believe you matter, you stop asking every conversation to give you that feeling. You start offering your presence from fullness, not emptiness, and people feel the difference instantly. So these are the three practices we discussed. The check-in for emotional presence, the audit for inner alignment, and the worth ritual for grounded authenticity.

It rewires something because when you believe you matter, you stop asking every conversation to give you that feeling. You start offering your presence from fullness, not emptiness, and people feel the difference instantly. So these are the three practices we discussed. The check-in for emotional presence, the audit for inner alignment, and the worth ritual for grounded authenticity.