John R. Miles

These are tools you can use starting now. Let's start with what's happening beneath the surface. Emotional self-awareness is knowing what you feel and being honest about it, at least with yourself. If you've ever walked into a meeting or a conversation carrying tension you didn't name, you know how fast that energy spreads.

These are tools you can use starting now. Let's start with what's happening beneath the surface. Emotional self-awareness is knowing what you feel and being honest about it, at least with yourself. If you've ever walked into a meeting or a conversation carrying tension you didn't name, you know how fast that energy spreads.

These are tools you can use starting now. Let's start with what's happening beneath the surface. Emotional self-awareness is knowing what you feel and being honest about it, at least with yourself. If you've ever walked into a meeting or a conversation carrying tension you didn't name, you know how fast that energy spreads.

And if you don't name it, you'll either shove it down or push it on to someone else. But when you can pause and say, I'm feeling anxious, or I'm a little closed off right now, even silently, you give yourself the chance to respond instead of reacting. And that makes you safer to be around because now you're not broadcasting static. You're tuned in. The second practice is about congruence.

And if you don't name it, you'll either shove it down or push it on to someone else. But when you can pause and say, I'm feeling anxious, or I'm a little closed off right now, even silently, you give yourself the chance to respond instead of reacting. And that makes you safer to be around because now you're not broadcasting static. You're tuned in. The second practice is about congruence.

And if you don't name it, you'll either shove it down or push it on to someone else. But when you can pause and say, I'm feeling anxious, or I'm a little closed off right now, even silently, you give yourself the chance to respond instead of reacting. And that makes you safer to be around because now you're not broadcasting static. You're tuned in. The second practice is about congruence.

Your internal alignment, that invisible click between what you believe, what you say, and what you do. When those three line up, people trust you even before you say a word. Why? Because they don't have to decode you. There's no dissonance. No subtle tension between your face and your voice, your promise and your presence. What you say is who you are, and people can feel that.

Your internal alignment, that invisible click between what you believe, what you say, and what you do. When those three line up, people trust you even before you say a word. Why? Because they don't have to decode you. There's no dissonance. No subtle tension between your face and your voice, your promise and your presence. What you say is who you are, and people can feel that.

Your internal alignment, that invisible click between what you believe, what you say, and what you do. When those three line up, people trust you even before you say a word. Why? Because they don't have to decode you. There's no dissonance. No subtle tension between your face and your voice, your promise and your presence. What you say is who you are, and people can feel that.

When I think about the most magnetic communicators I know, they're not always the most eloquent, but they are congruent. What they say matches how they live, and that congruence creates trust. Because let's be honest, we're all pretty good lie detectors. We may not know exactly what feels off, but when someone's words and energy don't match, we sense it.

When I think about the most magnetic communicators I know, they're not always the most eloquent, but they are congruent. What they say matches how they live, and that congruence creates trust. Because let's be honest, we're all pretty good lie detectors. We may not know exactly what feels off, but when someone's words and energy don't match, we sense it.

When I think about the most magnetic communicators I know, they're not always the most eloquent, but they are congruent. What they say matches how they live, and that congruence creates trust. Because let's be honest, we're all pretty good lie detectors. We may not know exactly what feels off, but when someone's words and energy don't match, we sense it.

Internal alignment is what fixes that, and it's built through reflection, honesty, and the courage to recalibrate when you're off track.

Internal alignment is what fixes that, and it's built through reflection, honesty, and the courage to recalibrate when you're off track.

Internal alignment is what fixes that, and it's built through reflection, honesty, and the courage to recalibrate when you're off track.

now number three it's home for a lot of us especially high achievers this one took me years to learn i used to think that being a good communicator meant being polished saying the right thing in the right tone at the right time but here's what i found you don't need to be impressive to be impactful you need to be real we're so used to being on to getting things right to being polished that we forget

now number three it's home for a lot of us especially high achievers this one took me years to learn i used to think that being a good communicator meant being polished saying the right thing in the right tone at the right time but here's what i found you don't need to be impressive to be impactful you need to be real we're so used to being on to getting things right to being polished that we forget

now number three it's home for a lot of us especially high achievers this one took me years to learn i used to think that being a good communicator meant being polished saying the right thing in the right tone at the right time but here's what i found you don't need to be impressive to be impactful you need to be real we're so used to being on to getting things right to being polished that we forget

People don't connect with polish. They connect with presence. Authenticity isn't about oversharing. It's about not hiding. It's the courage to be a little more human, even when the stakes are high. And ironically, that's what makes you magnetic. I've seen this on stage, in podcast interviews, even in tough feedback conversations.

People don't connect with polish. They connect with presence. Authenticity isn't about oversharing. It's about not hiding. It's the courage to be a little more human, even when the stakes are high. And ironically, that's what makes you magnetic. I've seen this on stage, in podcast interviews, even in tough feedback conversations.