John R. Miles

Aligned communication equals self-awareness plus emotional presence plus psychological safety. It breaks down like this. Self-awareness means you actually know what's going on inside. You can name it. I'm feeling tense. I'm feeling open. I'm afraid this won't land. Emotional presence means you're not just aware of these feelings.

Aligned communication equals self-awareness plus emotional presence plus psychological safety. It breaks down like this. Self-awareness means you actually know what's going on inside. You can name it. I'm feeling tense. I'm feeling open. I'm afraid this won't land. Emotional presence means you're not just aware of these feelings.

You're willing to be with them instead of escaping them or pretending they're not there. You're staying in the pocket with what's real. And psychological safety is what happens when the people around you feel like they can do the same. No pretending, no posturing, just space for truth. So here's a quick self-check. I want you to ask yourself, Do I know what I feel right now?

You're willing to be with them instead of escaping them or pretending they're not there. You're staying in the pocket with what's real. And psychological safety is what happens when the people around you feel like they can do the same. No pretending, no posturing, just space for truth. So here's a quick self-check. I want you to ask yourself, Do I know what I feel right now?

You're willing to be with them instead of escaping them or pretending they're not there. You're staying in the pocket with what's real. And psychological safety is what happens when the people around you feel like they can do the same. No pretending, no posturing, just space for truth. So here's a quick self-check. I want you to ask yourself, Do I know what I feel right now?

Am I listening to understand or just waiting for my turn? Is the response coming from calm or from a need to control? Even one pause to ask these questions can change the entire tone of a conversation. And that brings us to something crucial, because intercongruence doesn't just happen. It's not a gift. It's a practice. It's the result of

Am I listening to understand or just waiting for my turn? Is the response coming from calm or from a need to control? Even one pause to ask these questions can change the entire tone of a conversation. And that brings us to something crucial, because intercongruence doesn't just happen. It's not a gift. It's a practice. It's the result of

Am I listening to understand or just waiting for my turn? Is the response coming from calm or from a need to control? Even one pause to ask these questions can change the entire tone of a conversation. And that brings us to something crucial, because intercongruence doesn't just happen. It's not a gift. It's a practice. It's the result of

of tiny, invisible habits you build long before the hard conversations show up. It's the inner work that shapes your tone, your timing, your truth. And when you start paying attention to those cues, you start to realize something. Connection doesn't come from charisma. It comes from congruence. Now, a quick pause before we go further.

of tiny, invisible habits you build long before the hard conversations show up. It's the inner work that shapes your tone, your timing, your truth. And when you start paying attention to those cues, you start to realize something. Connection doesn't come from charisma. It comes from congruence. Now, a quick pause before we go further.

of tiny, invisible habits you build long before the hard conversations show up. It's the inner work that shapes your tone, your timing, your truth. And when you start paying attention to those cues, you start to realize something. Connection doesn't come from charisma. It comes from congruence. Now, a quick pause before we go further.

If this is landing, stay with me, because up next, I'm going to walk you through four powerful practices that change how connection feels, not just for others, but for you. But first, a quick break. Welcome back.

If this is landing, stay with me, because up next, I'm going to walk you through four powerful practices that change how connection feels, not just for others, but for you. But first, a quick break. Welcome back.

If this is landing, stay with me, because up next, I'm going to walk you through four powerful practices that change how connection feels, not just for others, but for you. But first, a quick break. Welcome back.

If you've been nodding along so far, maybe seeing your own patterns of disconnection or recognizing where your communication sometimes feels just a little off, this next part is where we turn insight into practice. Because inner awareness isn't just something you have, it's something you build. And the way you build it, it's through rhythm, through small, repeatable habits.

If you've been nodding along so far, maybe seeing your own patterns of disconnection or recognizing where your communication sometimes feels just a little off, this next part is where we turn insight into practice. Because inner awareness isn't just something you have, it's something you build. And the way you build it, it's through rhythm, through small, repeatable habits.

If you've been nodding along so far, maybe seeing your own patterns of disconnection or recognizing where your communication sometimes feels just a little off, this next part is where we turn insight into practice. Because inner awareness isn't just something you have, it's something you build. And the way you build it, it's through rhythm, through small, repeatable habits.

that keep you rooted when it would be easier to react. I call these the four practices of interled connection. They've changed the way I lead, the way I parent, the way I show up in hard conversations. And I've seen them do the same for people across all kinds of roles and relationships. So let's talk through each one, not just as ideas, but as invitations.

that keep you rooted when it would be easier to react. I call these the four practices of interled connection. They've changed the way I lead, the way I parent, the way I show up in hard conversations. And I've seen them do the same for people across all kinds of roles and relationships. So let's talk through each one, not just as ideas, but as invitations.

that keep you rooted when it would be easier to react. I call these the four practices of interled connection. They've changed the way I lead, the way I parent, the way I show up in hard conversations. And I've seen them do the same for people across all kinds of roles and relationships. So let's talk through each one, not just as ideas, but as invitations.