Jay Shetty

I think the first thing you have to understand is you can't fix anyone, right? You can't fix someone else, but you can break yourself in the process. You can't fix someone else, but you can waste a lot of years believing that you can. And you can't fix anyone, but you can convince yourself that it's your responsibility. So I think those are the three things we do.

I think the first thing you have to understand is you can't fix anyone, right? You can't fix someone else, but you can break yourself in the process. You can't fix someone else, but you can waste a lot of years believing that you can. And you can't fix anyone, but you can convince yourself that it's your responsibility. So I think those are the three things we do.

We convince ourself it's our responsibility, we convince ourself it's only a matter of time, and we convince ourself I'm ready to do anything it takes to fix them. Because guess what, we believe if we fight hard enough, I can make the wrong person the right person. Why do we do it? Number one, it validates us. It gives our life meaning and value.

We convince ourself it's our responsibility, we convince ourself it's only a matter of time, and we convince ourself I'm ready to do anything it takes to fix them. Because guess what, we believe if we fight hard enough, I can make the wrong person the right person. Why do we do it? Number one, it validates us. It gives our life meaning and value.

We have a role to play and we believe we have a target to hit. If we can successfully make this person fixed, we did something amazing. It's actually about us. The second reason is we don't want to be with a loser. by what we think is a loser. We don't want to be with someone because that now brings down our value.

We have a role to play and we believe we have a target to hit. If we can successfully make this person fixed, we did something amazing. It's actually about us. The second reason is we don't want to be with a loser. by what we think is a loser. We don't want to be with someone because that now brings down our value.

We now feel, well, if I'm with someone who doesn't sort themselves out, then everyone else is going to think that I have no value. So now again, thinking about our value again, we're actually not thinking about them. And third, if we're truly compassionate and altruistic and really caring about them, we genuinely see their potential.

We now feel, well, if I'm with someone who doesn't sort themselves out, then everyone else is going to think that I have no value. So now again, thinking about our value again, we're actually not thinking about them. And third, if we're truly compassionate and altruistic and really caring about them, we genuinely see their potential.

You see their potential and you're thinking they could just be amazing. They could be phenomenal. And maybe there is a part of you that does it from a deep sense of care because you can see how amazing they are. But the reason you can't fix them is because maybe that's not what they want to fix. Maybe that's not how they see they're broken.

You see their potential and you're thinking they could just be amazing. They could be phenomenal. And maybe there is a part of you that does it from a deep sense of care because you can see how amazing they are. But the reason you can't fix them is because maybe that's not what they want to fix. Maybe that's not how they see they're broken.

Maybe that's not the part of themselves they want to mend. The potential you see isn't the potential they see. They maybe don't even want that life. I remember saying that to Radhi for so long where it was like, I didn't want her to mirror her life off of anything I wanted to do. I was like, I want you to do exactly what you want to do. And Radley loved learning.

Maybe that's not the part of themselves they want to mend. The potential you see isn't the potential they see. They maybe don't even want that life. I remember saying that to Radhi for so long where it was like, I didn't want her to mirror her life off of anything I wanted to do. I was like, I want you to do exactly what you want to do. And Radley loved learning.

So she did courses and she did Ayurveda and she did yoga teacher training. She was doing all this education because she was so happy and excited about it. She did a book because she was excited about it. She launched a podcast because she was excited about learning. And I've had so many people say to me, like, I wish he was more ambitious.

So she did courses and she did Ayurveda and she did yoga teacher training. She was doing all this education because she was so happy and excited about it. She did a book because she was excited about it. She launched a podcast because she was excited about learning. And I've had so many people say to me, like, I wish he was more ambitious.

And I'm like, well, then go and find someone more ambitious. Because chances are he doesn't want to be ambitious. He's showing you every day that he doesn't want to be ambitious. And you think because you're ambitious, you can make him ambitious. No, you can't. You can make him try harder for a month, but he's going to go back to being that same person.

And I'm like, well, then go and find someone more ambitious. Because chances are he doesn't want to be ambitious. He's showing you every day that he doesn't want to be ambitious. And you think because you're ambitious, you can make him ambitious. No, you can't. You can make him try harder for a month, but he's going to go back to being that same person.

Exactly. He's now carrying the guilt. And now he's insecure, wondering if you're going to leave him because he actually thinks that you might because you're not satisfied with him. Every time he meets an ambitious man, he's now judging himself and measuring himself up against that person. But he doesn't want to be that. He has different values.

Exactly. He's now carrying the guilt. And now he's insecure, wondering if you're going to leave him because he actually thinks that you might because you're not satisfied with him. Every time he meets an ambitious man, he's now judging himself and measuring himself up against that person. But he doesn't want to be that. He has different values.

And so going back to a point we made earlier, getting someone to value what you value isn't love. If I convince you to value what I value, that isn't love. Love is I love what you value because it makes you who you are. I've always said that Radhi's number one value in life is family. It's always her number one value. My number one value in life is purpose.

And so going back to a point we made earlier, getting someone to value what you value isn't love. If I convince you to value what I value, that isn't love. Love is I love what you value because it makes you who you are. I've always said that Radhi's number one value in life is family. It's always her number one value. My number one value in life is purpose.